Ubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator buhlala bubonakala bungenakulinganiswa, njengemeko yeengcungcu ezijongene noontanga bazo abanobudlova. Eli nqaku liphonononga ingxaki yengcungcu ebizwa ngokuba yinarcissistic hummingbird kwaye linika iimbono zendlela yokuzikhulula kuyo.
Uyibona njani i-“narcissistic hummingbird” ebomini bakho?
Kanye njenge-hummingbird uRufus owoyikisa oontanga bakhe, i-narcissistic manipulator yahlulwa yi-dominant yakhe kunye nokuziphatha kokuzingca. Uhlala efuna ukuhoya ingqalelo kunye nezixhobo, nto leyo eyenza kube yingozi kwabanye. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezinokukunceda ukuba uchonge:
- Ilawula ixesha namandla akho
- Uyijongela phantsi imizamo yakho kunye nezinto ozifezileyo
- Ikwahlukanisa nabantu obathandayo
- Uyatshintshana phakathi kwamaxesha okuthandeka kunye nenkohlakalo
- Uyala nawuphi na umbuzo ngokuziphatha kwakhe
Kanye njengengcungcu enengcwangu esukela ezinye iintaka kwiindawo ezitya iintaka, i-manipulative narcissist ifuna ukukwahlukanisa nemithombo yakho yenkxaso nokwaneliseka.
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Imigibe yovelwano olugqithisileyo xa ujongene ne-narcissism
Esinye sezona zifundo zibalulekileyo kwibali lengcungcu yingozi yovelwano olungafanelekanga. Kanye njengombhali wesicatshulwa oye waqhubeka egcwalisa i-feeders nangona ukuziphatha okukrakra kwee-hummingbirds, abafazi abaninzi baqhubeka “ekondleni” i-narcissist ngethemba lokutshintsha.
Olu velwano lugqithileyo lunokuthatha iindlela ezininzi:
- Rhoqo Ukuthethelela Isimilo Esixhaphazayo
- Ukuncama iimfuno zakho ukuze unelise ezo ze-narcissist
- Ukukholelwa ukuba uthando kunye nomonde ekugqibeleni kuya kutshintsha i-narcissist
- Ukuziva unoxanduva lolonwabo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kwe-narcissist
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba olu velwano, ngelixa luthandeka, lunokuzitshabalalisa xa lujongiswe kumbhexeshi we-narcissistic.
Umjikelo we-infernal wokuvumela: kutheni kunzima kangaka ukubaleka?
Ukuvumela, okanye ukunika amandla kunye nokuququzelela indlela yokuziphatha eyityhefu ye-narcissist, ngumgibe amaxhoba amaninzi awela kuwo. Njengombhali oye waqhubeka egcwalisa i-feeders nangona zingekho ezinye iintaka, amaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators ahlala eqhubeka nokuziphatha okugcina isimo se-quo.
Lo mjikelo kunzima ukuwuqhawula ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi:
- Ukoyika utshintsho kunye nokungaziwa
- Ithemba elingenangqondo le-narcissist lokutshintsha
- Ubutyala ngokulahla i-narcissist
- Ukoyika impindezelo okanye iziphumo
- Ukuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo, nakubudlelwane obuyityhefu
Ukuwuqonda lo mjikelo linyathelo lokuqala lokuphuma kuwo.
Iziphumo ezifihlakeleyo zokuhlalisana kunye ne “narcissistic hummingbird”
Njengamanye ama-hummingbirds ayengakwazi ukufikelela kwi-feeders, amaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators ahlala efumana iziphumo ezingabonakaliyo kodwa ezinzulu:
- Ukulahleka kwe- ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba
- Ukwahlukaniswa kwezentlalo nakwezobugcisa
- Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo kunye neengxaki zempilo
- Ubunzima bemali ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa
- Ukulahlekelwa yintsingiselo nolwalathiso ebomini
Ezi ziphumo zinokuqhubeka ixesha elide emva kokuphela kobudlelwane, ngoko ke ukubaluleka kokuthatha amanyathelo ngokukhawuleza.
Isisombululo esinamandla: kunqumle izixhobo ze-narcissist
Isigqibo sombhali sokususa zonke i-feeders, nangona kunzima, sibonisa ngokugqibeleleyo isisombululo esiyimfuneko xa ujongene ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic: ukunqumla yonke “ukubonelela.” Kumxholo wobudlelwane, oku kuthetha:
- Luphelise ubuhlobo ngokusisigxina
- Luqhawule lonke unxibelelwano kunye nonxibelelwano
- Vimba i-narcissist kuzo zonke iinethiwekhi zentlalo kunye neendlela zonxibelelwano
- Yala naliphi na ilinge lokuxolelanisa okanye ukuqhatha
- Gxila kwimpilo yakho kunye nokuba sempilweni
Esi sigqibo, nangona sibuhlungu, sisoloko sikuphela kwendlela yokuqhawula umjikelo onetyhefu nokuvumela ukuphiliswa kokwenene.
Ukulawula ubutyala emva kokwahlukana kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi
Njengombhali owaziva enetyala ngokuvimba zonke iintaka ukutya, abafazi abaninzi baba neemvakalelo zokuziva benetyala kunye namathandabuzo emva kokushiya i-manipulator ye-narcissistic. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ezi mvakalelo njengesiqhelo, kodwa ungazivumeli ukuba zikoyise.
Nazi ezinye izicwangciso-qhinga zokulawula ezi mvakalelo:
- Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano kunye nokuqinisekisa
- Gcina ijenali ukuchaza iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho
- Joyina iqela lenkxaso kumaxhoba ama-narcisists
- Qhagamshelana nengcali yezonyango eyincutshe kumonzakalo wobudlelwane
- Hlala uzikhumbuze ukuba awunaxanduva lokuziphatha kwe-narcissist
Ukwakha kwakhona ubomi bakho emva kwengxaki ye “narcissistic hummingbird”: amanyathelo aphambili
Kanye njengokuba i-ecosystem ye-hummingbird idinga ixesha lokuhlaziya emva kokuba iintaka ezinobudlova zihambe, ubomi bakho buya kufuna ixesha lokwakha kwakhona. Nanga amanyathelo angundoqo kule nkqubo:
- Thatha ixesha lokuziphilisa kwaye ujonge kwakhona kuwe
- Ukwakha kwakhona inethiwekhi yakho yentlalo kunye nobudlelwane obunempilo
- Fumana kwakhona izinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onomdla kuzo
- Sebenzela ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuzithemba
- Misela imida enempilo kubo bonke ubudlelwane bakho
- Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu ezilumkisayo ze-narcissism
- Ziprojekthi kwikamva kwaye uchaze iinjongo zobomi obutsha.
Ukubaluleka komonde kwinkqubo yokuphilisa
Kanye njengombhali elinde ngomonde ukuba i-hummingbirds ihambe ngaphambi kokuba iphinde ifake i-feeders, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukuphilisa kuthatha ixesha. Musa ukudimazeka ukuba awuboni iziphumo zangoko. Inyathelo ngalinye elincinane libalulekile.
Khumbula ukuba:
- Ukuphilisa akukho mgca, kuya kubakho ukunyuka nokuhla
- Umntu ngamnye uphilisa ngesantya sakhe
- Ukubuyela umva okwethutyana yinxalenye yenkqubo
- Yonke imihla ngaphandle narcissist luloyiso ngokwayo.
Ukuya kwikamva elingena-narcissism: ukwakha kwakhona kwiziseko eziphilileyo
Okokugqibela, kanye njengokuba umbhali enethemba lokuba ngenye imini uya kuphinda afakele izixhasi ze-hummingbirds ezinoxolo, unokunqwenela ikamva elizaliswe bubudlelwane obunempilo nobanelisayo. Elikamva linokwenzeka, kodwa lifuna umsebenzi oqinisekileyo kuwe.
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuphumeza oku:
- Funda ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha ngaphandle kwemiqathango
- Phuhlisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukubeka imida
- Khetha ngononophelo ubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuba ngubani na rhoqo
- Hlakulela ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo nakwezemali
- Hlala uziphaphele iimpawu ze-narcissism, ngaphandle kokuba ngu-paranoid.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, ibali lengcungcu lisikhumbuza ukuba xa ujongene ne-narcissism, esona sisombululo sisebenzayo sisoloko sisona singqongqo. Nangona kubuhlungu okwangoku, kuvula indlela eya kwikamva elizolileyo nelizalisekileyo. Hlala ukhumbula ukuba ufanelwe uthando, intlonipho kunye nobubele. Kanye njengeengcungcu ezinoxolo eziya kuthi ekugqibeleni ziyifumane indawo yazo ejikeleze abondlayo, nawe uya kufumana indawo yakho kwindawo esempilweni neyondlayo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.