Ubudlelwano obunobuthi nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile bungabonakala bungenakuhlukaniswa, njengesimo sama-hummingbird abhekene nontanga bawo abanolaka. Lesi sihloko sihlola inkinga ye-narcissistic hummingbird futhi sinikeza imibono yokuthi singazikhulula kanjani kuyo.
Ungayibona kanjani i-“narcissistic hummingbird” empilweni yakho?
Njengomzwilili uRufus owesabisa ontanga yakhe, umgulukudu we-narcissistic uhlukaniswa ngokuziphatha kwakhe. ukubusa kanye nobugovu. Uhlale efuna ukuphatha ukunakwa nezinsiza, okulimaza abanye. Nazi ezinye zezimpawu ezingakusiza ukuthi uyikhombe:
- Ilawula isikhathi namandla akho
- Ubukela phansi imizamo yakho nezinto ozifezile
- Ikwehlukanisa nabantu obathandayo
- Ushintshana phakathi kwezikhathi zobumnandi nonya
- Uyenqaba noma yikuphi ukubuzwa ngokuziphatha kwakhe
Njengenyoni yomzwilili enolaka exosha ezinye izinyoni eziphakeleni izinyoni, i-narcissistic pervert ifuna ukukudedisela kude nemithombo yakho yokusekela nokwaneliseka.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izingibe zozwelo oludlulele lapho ubhekene ne-narcissism
Esinye sezifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu endabeni ye-hummingbird ingozi yokuzwelana okungafanele. Njengombhali wombhalo owaqhubeka nokugcwalisa ama-feeders naphezu kokuziphatha okunolaka kwama-hummingbirds, abesifazane abaningi baphikelela “ekondleni” i-narcissist ngethemba loshintsho.
Lokhu kuzwela okweqile kungathatha izinhlobo eziningana:
- Ukuthethelela Ukuziphatha Okuhlukumezayo Njalo
- Ukudela izidingo zakho ukuze unelise lezo zomgadli
- Ukukholelwa ukuthi uthando nokubekezela kuzogcina kuguqule umnakekeli
- Ukuzizwa unomthwalo wemfanelo ngenjabulo nokuphila kahle kwe-narcissist
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lolu zwelo, nakuba luncomeka, lungase luzibhubhise uma luqondiswe kumuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic.
Umjikelezo we-infernal wokunika amandla: kungani kunzima kangaka ukuphunyuka?
Ukunika amandla, noma ukunika amandla kanye nokwenza lula ukuziphatha okunobuthi kwe-narcissist, kuwugibe izisulu eziningi eziwela kulo. Njengombhali oqhubekile nokugcwalisa okuphakelayo naphezu kokungabikho kwezinye izinyoni, izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts ngokuvamile ziphikelela ekuziphatheni okugcina isimo sikhona.
Lo mjikelezo kunzima ukuwunqamula ngenxa yezizathu ezimbalwa:
- Ukwesaba ushintsho nokungaziwa
- Ithemba elingenangqondo le-narcissist loshintsho
- Icala ngokulahla i-narcissist
- Ukwesaba impindiselo noma imiphumela
- Ukunamathela ngokomzwelo, ngisho noma ubuhlobo obunobuthi
Ukuqonda lo mjikelezo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokugqashula kuwo.
Imiphumela efihliwe yokuhlalisana “ne-narcissistic hummingbird”
Njengamanye ama-hummingbird angasakwazi ukufinyelela okuphakelayo, izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts ngokuvamile zibhekana nemiphumela engabonakali kodwa ejulile:
- Ukulahlekelwaukuzihlonipha nokuzethemba
- Ukuzihlukanisa komphakathi nomsebenzi
- Ukucindezeleka okungapheli kanye nezinkinga zempilo
- Ubunzima bezezimali ngenxa yokuxhashazwa
- Ukulahlekelwa injongo nesiqondiso ekuphileni
Le miphumela ingaqhubeka isikhathi eside ngemva kokuphela kobudlelwane, ngakho-ke ukubaluleka kokuthatha isinyathelo ngokushesha.
Isixazululo esiqinile: nqamula izinto ezisetshenziswa yi-narcissist
Isinqumo sombhali sokususa bonke abaphakeli, nakuba kunzima, sibonisa kahle isixazululo esidingekayo lapho sisebenzelana ne-narcissistic pervert: ukunqamula konke “ukunikezwa.” Esimweni sobudlelwano, lokhu kusho:
- Buqede ubudlelwano unomphela
- Nquma konke ukuxhumana nokuxhumana
- Vimba i-narcissist kuwo wonke amanethiwekhi omphakathi nezindlela zokuxhumana
- Yenqaba noma yimuphi umzamo wokubuyisana noma ukukhohlisa
- Gxila ekwelapheni kwakho kanye nenhlalakahle yakho
Lesi sinqumo, nakuba sibuhlungu, ngokuvamile siwukuphela kwendlela yokuqeda umjikelezo onobuthi futhi sivumele ukuphulukiswa kwangempela.
Ukuphatha umuzwa wecala wangemva kokuhlukana kanye nemizwa engemihle
Njengombhali owazizwa enecala ngokuncisha zonke izinyoni ukudla, abesifazane abaningi baba nemizwa yecala nokungabaza ngemva kokushiya imbuka le-narcissistic. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela le mizwa njengejwayelekile, kodwa ungayivumeli ukuthi ikuqede amandla.
Nawa amanye amasu okulawula le mizwa:
- Zijwayeze ukuzizwela nokuziqinisekisa
- Gcina ijenali ukuveza imicabango nemizwa yakho
- Joyina iqembu elisekela izisulu zama-narcissists
- Xhumana nomelaphi onguchwepheshe bokuhlukumezeka ngokobudlelwane
- Hlala uzikhumbuze ukuthi awunasibopho ngokuziphatha kwe-narcissist
Ukwakha kabusha impilo yakho ngemuva kwenkinga “ye-narcissistic hummingbird”: izinyathelo ezibalulekile
Njengoba nje i-ecosystem ye-hummingbird idinga isikhathi sokulinganisela ngemva kokuhamba kwezinyoni ezinonya, impilo yakho izodinga isikhathi sokwakha kabusha. Nazi izinyathelo ezibalulekile kule nqubo:
- Thatha isikhathi sokuphulukisa futhi ugxile kuwena kabusha
- Ukwakha kabusha inethiwekhi yakho yezokuxhumana kanye nobudlelwano obunempilo
- Zitholele kabusha izinto ozithandayo nezintshisekelo zakho
- Sebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho nokuzethemba kwakho
- Misa imingcele enempilo kubo bonke ubudlelwano bakho
- Funda ukuqaphela izimpawu eziyisixwayiso ze-narcissism
- Zakhele esikhathini esizayo futhi uchaze imigomo yempilo emisha.
Ukubaluleka kokubekezela enqubweni yokwelapha
Njengombhali olinda ngesineke ama-hummingbirds anolaka ukuba ahambe ngaphambi kokufaka kabusha okuphakelayo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukuphulukiswa kuthatha isikhathi. Ungadikibali uma ungayiboni imiphumela esheshayo. Isinyathelo ngasinye esincane sibalulekile.
Khumbula ukuthi:
- Ukwelapha akukona okulandelanayo, kuzoba nokwehla nokwenyuka
- Umuntu ngamunye uphila ngendlela yakhe
- Ukubuyela emuva kwesikhashana kuyingxenye yenqubo
- Nsuku zonke ngaphandle kwe-narcissist kuwukunqoba ngokwakho.
Ibheke esikhathini esizayo esingenayo i-narcissism: ukwakha kabusha ezisekelweni ezinempilo
Okokugcina, njengoba nje umbhali ethemba ukuthi ngelinye ilanga uzofaka kabusha iziphakeli zama-hummingbirds anokuthula, ungafisa ikusasa eligcwele ubudlelwano obunempilo, nokwanelisayo. Leli ikusasa lingenzeka, kodwa lidinga umsebenzi oqaphelayo ngawe.
Nazi ezinye izindlela zokufeza lokhu:
- Funda ukuzithanda nokuzihlonipha ngaphandle kwemibandela
- Thuthukisa ukuqina kwakho kanye nekhono lakho lokubeka imingcele
- Khetha ngokucophelela ubudlelwano bakho nokuthi ubani ojwayele ukujwayele
- Hlakulela ukuzimela kwakho ngokomzwelo nangokwezimali
- Hlala uqaphile ngokumelene nezimpawu ze-narcissism, ngaphandle kokuba i-paranoid.
Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, indaba yama-hummingbird isikhumbuza ukuthi lapho sibhekene ne-narcissism, ikhambi eliphumelela kakhulu ngokuvamile liyi-radical kakhulu. Nakuba kubuhlungu okwamanje, kuvula indlela yekusasa elizolile neligculisayo. Khumbula njalo ukuthi ufanelwe uthando, inhlonipho kanye nomusa. Njengama-hummingbird anokuthula azogcina eyitholile indawo yawo eduze kwalabo abaphakelayo, nawe uzothola indawo yakho endaweni enempilo nenomsoco.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.