Abazali abasebenzisa ubuqhophololo banokuba nefuthe elibi ebantwaneni babo, ngakumbi kwiintombi zabo. Eli nqaku liphonononga iziphumo ezinzulu aba bazali banetyhefu abanokuba nazo, kwaye linika iingcebiso zokoyisa le ntlungu. Nokuba ukhule notata okanye umama we-narcissistic, kubalulekile ukuqonda olu tshintsho lungenampilo losapho ukuze ukwazi ukuzikhulula kulo kwaye uzakhe kwakhona.
Ukuqaphela iimpawu zoMzali oLawula iNarcissistic
Abazali be-Narcissistic babonisa iimpawu ezininzi ezahlukileyo:
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuhoywa kunye nokuncoma
- Ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo kovelwano kubantwana babo
- Utyekelo lokulawula ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokuxhaphaza
- Ukulawula ngokugqithisileyo ukuziphatha
- Ukungakwazi ukwamkela ukugxekwa okuncinci
- Umbono omkhulu ngabo
- Ukuthambekela kokujongela phantsi kunye nokuhlazisa abantwana babo
Ukuba uyazazi ezi mpawu komnye wabazali bakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhule nomzali othanda ukunyathela, nonobuqhophololo. Ukuqonda le nyaniso linyathelo lokuqala elikhokelela ekunyangeni.
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Impembelelo embi ekukhuleni komntwana
Ukukhula nomzali we-narcissistic kunokuba neziphumo zexesha elide kuphuhliso lwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo:
- Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kunye ne-ukungakwazi ukuzithemba
- Ubunzima bokuseka imida enempilo kubudlelwane
- Utyekelo lokuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba
- Iingxaki zesazisi kunye nobunzima bokwazi iimfuno zomntu
- Iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo zokuziva unetyala kunye neentloni
- Iipateni zobudlelwane obuyityhefu ebudaleni
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ezi ziphumo zasemva azikho iphoso lakho, kodwa umphumo wobuntwaneni obuchithwe phantsi kweempembelelo zomzali onetyhefu.
Imingeni ethile enxulumene noyise narcissistic
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe kwividiyo, ootata narcissistic banokuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu kwiintombi zabo:
- Basebenza njengomzekelo ongasebenziyo oyindoda, enokuthi ichaphazele ubudlelwane bezothando kwixesha elizayo
- Ukunganyaniseki kwabo rhoqo kunokujongela phantsi ngokunzulu ukuzithemba
- Ukungabikho kwenkxaso katata kunokuthintela uphuhliso lobungcali
- Amantombazana anokuyifaka ngaphakathi ingcamango yokuba akakufanelekeli ukuthandwa nokuhlonelwa
Ukuziqonda ezi patheni kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuzokwakha kwaye uzikhulule kuzo njengomntu omdala.
Ukophula uMjikelo wokuGwatywa kweNarcissistic
Kuyenzeka ukuba woyise iziphumo zobuntwana obuphawulwe ngumzali we-narcissistic:
- Zazi kwaye uchonge iimfuno neminqweno yakho
- Sebenza ngokuzithemba kwakho ngonyango kunye nophuhliso lomntu
- Beka imida ecacileyo kubudlelwane bakho bangoku
- Zingqonge ngabantu abakhathalayo nabakuxhasayo
- Ziqhelanise ne-self-mfesane kunye nokuzinyamekela
Ukuqhawula lo mjikelo kuthatha ixesha kunye nomgudu, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Ufanele ubudlelwane obunempilo, obunelisayo.
Zikhulule kubutyala nakwizibophelelo zosapho eziyityhefu
Amaxhoba amaninzi abazali abakhohlakeleyo aziva enetyala ngokuzibekela kude. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba:
- Awunaxanduva ngolonwabo lomzali wakho
- Unelungelo lokuzikhusela kwaye unqande ukudibana
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale kubudlelwane obukukhathazayo
- Ukuzinyamekela akuzicingeli, kuyimfuneko
Zikhulule kubunzima betyala kunye nolindelo oluyityhefu. Ukuphila kakuhle kwakho kufuneka kube yeyona nto iphambili kuwe.
Yakha kwakhona imbonakalo entle yesiqu sakho
Umzali othanda i-narcissistic mhlawumbi uye wajongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ukuzakha kwakhona:
- Chonga amandla kunye neempawu zakho
- Bhiyozela impumelelo yakho, kwanezona zincinci
- Zijikeleze ngabantu abakuxabisayo
- Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano xa ujongene neempazamo zakho
- Zibekele iinjongo zakho kwaye ulandele iminqweno yakho
Kancinci kancinci, ungayicwangcisa kwakhona incoko yakho yangaphakathi ukuze ibe yinkathalo kwaye ikhuthaze.
Ukuphilisa amanxeba eemvakalelo kwixesha elidlulileyo
Indlela yokubuyisela inokuba yinde, kodwa kufanelekile:
- Jonga ixesha lakho elidlulileyo kwi-therapy ukuqonda ifuthe layo
- Veza iimvakalelo zakho ezivalelekileyo ngeendlela ezisempilweni (unyango lobugcisa, ukubhala, njl.njl.)
- Zinike ilungelo lokuba nomsindo kumzali wakho oyityhefu
- Ubuhlungu ubuntwana nomzali ongenaye
- Zixolele ngenxa yeendlela zokuziphatha oye waziphuhlisa
Ukuphilisa yinkqubo, yiba nomonde kwaye ube nobubele kuwe.
Ukudala ubudlelwane obunempilo njengomntu omdala
Ukuba nomzali we-narcissistic kunokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho bangoku. Ukwenza unxibelelwano olunempilo:
- Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu zokuphatha kunye netyhefu
- Zichaze ngokucacileyo iimfuno kunye nemida yakho
- Khetha amaqabane kunye nabahlobo abahlonela ubuntu bakho
- Sebenza kuloyiko lwakho lokulahlwa okanye ukuzinikela
- Ungalibazisi ukucela uncedo kunye nenkxaso xa uyifuna
Ufanele ubudlelwane obulungeleleneyo nobanelisayo.
Yiba ngumzali wakho onenkathalo
Njengoko kucetyisiwe kwividiyo, unokufunda indlela yokwenza “umama” okanye “utata” ngokwakho:
- Ziphathe ngobubele obufana nobuya kumphatha umntwana omthandayo
- Qinisekisa iimvakalelo zakho kunye namava
- Zikhuthaze kwiiprojekthi kunye namaphupha akho
- Zinyamekele iimfuno zakho zokwenyama nezeemvakalelo
- Yiba khona ngokwakho ngamaxesha anzima
Ngokuba ngumzali wakho onenkathalo, unokupholisa amanxeba obomi obudluleyo.
Sebenzisa “imibhiyozo yosapho” njengamathuba okukhula
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe kwividiyo yoSuku lukaBawo, imicimbi yosapho inokuba nzima. Bajike babe ngamathuba okuzikhathalela:
- Cima imidiya yoluntu ukuphepha ukuthelekisa okubuhlungu
- Dala amasiko akho akhuthazayo kwezi ntsuku
- Zijikeleze ngabantu abakuxhasayo
- Zenzele into enobubele
- Cinga ngenkqubela yakho kunye nokukhula kwakho
Ezi ntsuku zinokuba ngamaxesha okubhiyozela i-resilience yakho kunye namandla akho.
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Ukuqukumbela, ukukhula nomzali okhohlisayo kushiya amanxeba anzulu, kodwa ukuphiliswa kuyenzeka. Ngokuqaphela amandla anetyhefu, ukuzikhulula kutyala, nokufunda ukuzikhathalela, ungaloyisa eli xesha libuhlungu langaphambili. Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe uthando, intlonipho kunye nolonwabo. Ibali lakho alikuchazi, kukomelela kwakho kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukuzakha kwakhona okwenza ube ngowasetyhini owomeleleyo namhlanje.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.