Abazali abakhohlakele beNarcissistic bangaba nomthelela omubi ezinganeni zabo, ikakhulukazi amadodakazi abo. Lesi sihloko sihlola imiphumela ejulile laba bazali abanobuthi abangaba nayo, futhi sinikeza amathiphu okunqoba lokhu kuhlukumezeka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhule nobaba noma umama oyisicefe, kubalulekile ukuqonda lo mkhuba ongenampilo womndeni ukuze ukwazi ukuzikhulula kuwo futhi uzakhe kabusha.
Ukubona Izimpawu Zomzali Ophendukezelwe Oyi-Narcissistic
Abazali be-Narcissistic ngokuvamile babonisa izici ezimbalwa ezihlukanisayo:
- Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokunakwa nokutuswa
- Ukuntula uzwela okuphelele ezinganeni zabo
- Ukuthambekela kokulawula nokuxhaphaza ngokomzwelo
- Ukuziphatha kokulawula ngokweqile
- Ukungakwazi ukwamukela ukugxekwa okuncane
- Umbono omkhulu ngabo
- Ukuthambekela kokululaza nokululaza izingane zabo
Uma uqaphela lezi zici komunye wabazali bakho, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhule nomzali omubi othanda i-narcissistic. Ukuqaphela leli qiniso kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokwelapha.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Umthelela omubi ekukhuleni kwengane
Ukukhula nomzali ongenangqondo kungaba nemiphumela yesikhathi eside ekukhuleni kwengqondo nangokomzwelo:
- Ukuzethemba okuphansi futhi ukungazethembi
- Ubunzima bokusungula imingcele enempilo ebuhlotsheni
- Ukuthambekela kokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka
- Izinkinga zobunikazi nobunzima bokwazi izidingo zomuntu
- Imizwa engapheli yokuba necala namahloni
- Amaphethini obudlelwano obunobuthi ebudaleni
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi le miphumela engemihle ayilona iphutha lakho, kodwa umphumela wobuntwana obuchitha ngaphansi kwethonya lomzali onobuthi.
Izinselele ezithile ezihlobene nobaba othanda ukubhuqa
Njengoba kushiwo kuvidiyo, i- obaba benarcissistic ingaba nomthelela olimazayo ikakhulukazi emadodakazini abo:
- Basebenza njengesibonelo esingasebenzi kahle sowesilisa, esingathinta ubudlelwano bothando besikhathi esizayo
- Ukungasebenzi kwabo njalo kungathunaza kakhulu ukuzethemba
- Ukuntuleka kokusekelwa kobaba kungakhinyabeza ukuthuthukiswa kochwepheshe
- Amantombazane angase afake ngaphakathi umqondo wokuthi awakufanelekeli ukuthandwa nokuhlonishwa
Ukubona lawa maphethini kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuwakha kabusha futhi uzikhulule kuwo njengomuntu omdala.
Ukuphula Umjikelezo Wokuhlukumeza I-Narcissistic
Kuyenzeka unqobe imiphumela yobuntwana ephawulwe umzali one-narcissistic:
- Zazi wena futhi uhlonze izidingo nezifiso zakho
- Sebenzela ukuzethemba kwakho ngokwelashwa nokuzithuthukisa komuntu siqu
- Beka imingcele ecacile ebudlelwaneni bakho bamanje
- Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo nabasekelayo
- Prakthiza iukuzihawukela kanye nokuzinakekela
Ukuqeda lo mjikelezo kuthatha isikhathi nomzamo, kodwa kungenzeka. Ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo, obugculisayo.
Zikhulule ekubeni necala nezibopho zomndeni ezinobuthi
Izisulu eziningi zabazali abakhuluma kabi zizizwa zinecala ngokuziqhelelanisa. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi:
- Awunacala ngenjabulo yomzali wakho onolaka
- Unelungelo lokuzivikela kanye nokukhawulela ukuthintana
- Akumele uhlale ebudlelwaneni obukuzwisa ubuhlungu
- Ukuzinakekela akubona ubugovu, kuyadingeka
Zikhulule esisindweni secala kanye nokulindelwe okunobuthi. Inhlalakahle yakho kufanele ibe yinto eza kuqala kuwe.
Yakha kabusha isithombe esihle sakho
Umzali onama-narcissistic cishe uye walulaza ukuzethemba kwakho kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ukuze uzakhe kabusha:
- Thola amandla nezimfanelo zakho
- Gubha impumelelo yakho, ngisho nezincane kakhulu
- Zizungeze nabantu abakwazisayo
- Zijwayeze ukuzizwela lapho ubhekene namaphutha akho
- Zibekele imigomo yomuntu siqu futhi uphishekele okuthandayo
Kancane kancane, ungahlela kabusha inkhulumomphendvulwano yakho yangaphakathi ukuze ibe nokunakekela futhi ikhuthaze.
Ukupholisa amanxeba angokomzwelo kusukela esikhathini esidlule
Indlela eya ekululameni ingaba yinde, kodwa kuyafaneleka:
- Hlola okwedlule nge Ukwelapha ukuqonda umthelela wayo
- Veza imizwa yakho evaliwe ngezindlela ezinempilo (ukwelapha ngobuciko, ukubhala, njll.)
- Zinike ilungelo lokuthukuthelela umzali wakho onobuthi
- Bhubhisa ubuntwana nomzali ongenabo
- Zithethelele ngokuziphatha okwenzile
Ukwelapha kuyinqubo, yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe.
Ukudala ubudlelwano obunempilo njengomuntu omdala
Ukuba nomzali ongenangqondo kungaba nomthelela ebudlelwaneni bakho bamanje. Ukwakha ukuxhumana okunempilo:
- Funda ukubona izimpawu zokuphatha kanye nobuthi
- Xhumana ngokucacile ngezidingo zakho kanye nemikhawulo yakho
- Khetha ozakwethu nabangane abahlonipha ubuntu bakho
- Sebenza ngokwesaba kwakho ukulahlwa noma ukuzibophezela
- Ungangabazi ukucela usizo nokwesekwa lapho uludinga
Ufanelwe ubudlelwano obulinganiselayo nobanelisayo.
Yiba umzali wakho okukhathalelayo
Njengoba kuphakanyiswe kuvidiyo, ungafunda ukuthi “umama” noma “ubaba” ngokwakho:
- Ziphathe ngomusa obungaphatha ngawo ingane oyithandayo
- Qinisekisa imizwa yakho nolwazi lwakho
- Zikhuthaze kumaphrojekthi akho nasemaphusheni
- Nakekela izidingo zakho ezingokwenyama nezingokomzwelo
- Yiba khona ngokwakho ezikhathini ezinzima
Ngokuba owakho umzali okukhathalelayo, ungapholisa amanxeba esikhathi esidlule.
Ukusebenzisa “amaholide omndeni” njengamathuba okukhula
Njengoba kushiwo kuvidiyo yoSuku Lobaba, imicimbi yomndeni ingaba nzima. Baguqule babe ngamathuba okuzinakekela:
- Vala inkundla yezokuxhumana ukuze ugweme ukuqhathanisa okubuhlungu
- Dala eyakho imikhuba emihle yalezi zinsuku
- Zizungeze nabantu abakwesekayo
- Zenzele okuthile okuhle
- Cabanga ngenqubekelaphambili yakho kanye nokukhula komuntu siqu
Lezi zinsuku zingaba izikhathi zokugubha kwakho nokuqinisela namandla akho.
Abazali be-narcissistic abahlanekezelwe: Isiphetho
Sengiphetha, ukukhula nomzali omubi onama-narcissistic kushiya izibazi ezijulile, kodwa ukuphulukiswa kuyenzeka. Ngokuqaphela ukuguquguquka okunobuthi, ukuzikhulula ekubeni necala, nokufunda ukuzinakekela, unganqoba lesi sihluku esidlule esibuhlungu. Khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe uthando, inhlonipho kanye nenjabulo. Indaba yakho ayikuchazi, wukuqina kwakho nekhono lakho lokuzakha kabusha okwenza ube ngowesifazane onamandla onguye namuhla.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.