Emva kobudlelwane be-toxic kunye ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic, kuqhelekile ukuziva ulahlekile, ukhathazekile, kwaye uzaliswe ngamathandabuzo. Ukuzicingela kunokuba sisixhobo esinamandla sokukunceda uphilise kwaye uphinde wakhe ukuzithemba kwakho. Eli nqaku liphonononga indlela yokuhlakulela imfesane kwaye uyisebenzise ukoyisa iziphumo zasemva kobudlelwane be-narcissistic.
Qonda impembelelo yobudlelwane be-narcissistic kwintlalontle yakho
Ubudlelwane ne-narcissistic manipulator bunokuba neziphumo ezibi kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba:
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- Olu lwalamano ngokwemvelo luyabhida kwaye luyazinzisa
- Mhlawumbi ubusoloko uphazamiseka kwaye udiniwe
- Amandla akho athotywe yimigudu engenakwenzeka yokukholisa i-narcissist
- Awukwazanga ukuba nguwe ngokupheleleyo kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho
Ukuqonda le mpembelelo linyathelo lokuqala lokuphuhlisa imfesane.
Kutheni le nto ukuzicingela kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho?
Ukuba novelwano kuquka ukuziphatha ngendlela obuya kumphatha ngayo umhlobo wakho wokwenene. Kuyimfuneko kuba:
- Ikunceda ukuba woyise iimvakalelo zokuziva unetyala kunye neentloni
- Ikhuthaza imbono elungeleleneyo ngakumbi kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo
- Ikunika amandla eemvakalelo owadingayo ukuze uqhubele phambili
- Ichasene nemiyalezo engalunganga efakwe ngaphakathi ngexesha lobudlelwane
Ukuhlakulela uvelwano sisenzo sovukelo ngokuchasene nonyango olufumene kwi-narcissist.
Qonda ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho phantsi kweemeko ezinzima
Inxalenye ephambili yovelwano kukuqonda ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni akho ngolwazi kunye nezibonelelo ozifumanayo ngelo xesha. Khumbula ukuba:
- Ubujonga imeko entsokothileyo kwaye ebhidayo
- Akukho mntu wakucacisela amandla obudlelwane be-narcissistic
- Ubuzama ukusombulula iphazili enamaqhekeza angekhoyo
- Imithombo yakho yeemvakalelo ibihlala iphelelwa
Ufanelwe yimfesane ngenxa yokudlula koku, hayi ukugwetywa.
Ukudideka ngokweemvakalelo kuyichaphazela njani indlela oziphethe ngayo?
Ubume obudidayo bobudlelwane be-narcissistic bunokubangela ukuba wenze ngeendlela ongaziboniyo xa ubuyela emva. Qonda ukuba:
- Ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo kwenza kube nzima ukwenza izigqibo ezicacileyo
- Ubusoloko uphazanyiswa ziimfuno ze-narcissist kunye nokukhohlisa
- Amandla akho achithwa uzama “ukwenza okulungileyo” kubudlelwane
- Kulungile ukuba awuzange ube ngcono kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho
Oku kuqonda kunokukunceda ukuba uzixolele ngakumbi.
Ukoyisa ukuzisola nokuzigxeka ngokugqithiseleyo
Kuqhelekile ukujonga ngasemva kwaye uzibuze, “Ndenze njani loo nto?” okanye “Kutheni ndingenzanga ngcono?” Ukoyisa ezi mvakalelo:
- Yazi ukuba ukuzigxeka kakhulu kudla ngokuba sisiphumo Narcissistic abuse
- Khumbula ukuba ubujongene nemeko engenakwenzeka
- Gxininisa kwizinto ozifundileyo kunye nendlela okhule ngayo
- Bhiyozela amandla akho okusinda kunye nokuphuma kobo budlelwane
Ukuba novelwano kuquka ukuphatha ezi ntlungu ngobubele nangokuqonda.
Ukubaluleka kokuziqonda izinto ozifezileyo phezu kwazo nje iinkxwaleko
Phezu kwazo nje iingxaki oye wajamelana nazo, mhlawumbi uye wafeza okungakumbi kunoko ucinga. Thatha ixesha lokuqonda ukuba:
- Uye waqhubeka nokusebenza kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakho
- Usenokuba ukwazile ukunyamekela abantwana bakho okanye umsebenzi
- Uye wasinda kwiimeko ezilingayo ngokweemvakalelo
- Ekugqibeleni ufumene amandla okushiya ubudlelwane okanye ukufuna uncedo
Ukubhiyozela ezi mpumezo luhlobo olubalulekileyo lokuzicingela.
Ukuzicingela kunokubuphucula njani ubudlelwane bakho be-Post-Narcissistic Relationship?
Ukuba ungumzali, unokuziva unetyala ngokungabikho ngokupheleleyo kubantwana bakho ngexesha lobudlelwane. Ukuzivela kunokukunceda:
- Ukuxolela iimpazamo zakho zangaphambili zobuzali
- Qaphela imiceli mngeni eyodwa oye wajamelana nayo
- Gxininisa ekuphuculeni ulwalamano lwakho nabantwana bakho ngoku
- Ukumisela isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sokuzinyamekela kubantwana bakho
Khumbula ukuba, ukuba ngumzali onovelwano ngakumbi kuwe kuya kukunceda ube ngumzali ongcono kubantwana bakho.
Iindlela ezisebenzayo zokuhlakulela imfesane yobuqu yonke imihla
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuzilolonga zokuphuhlisa imfesane yakho:
- Zigcinele ijenali yombulelo
- Ziqhelise iziqinisekiso ezilungileyo phambi kwesipili
- Zibhalele ileta ngokwembono yomhlobo onenkathalo
- Camngca ngovelwano ngokuzithumelela uthando nobubele
- Wunonophele umzimba wakho ngokutya okunempilo kunye nokuzilolonga
- Zingqonge ngabantu abakuxhasayo nabakuxabisayo
Ukuziqhelanisa rhoqo nobu buchule kunokutshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe ulwalamano lwakho nawe.
Ukoyisa Ityala lokuzicingela
Ngamanye amaxesha unokuziva unetyala ngenxa yokuba novelwano kuwe. Khumbula ukuba:
- Ukuba novelwano asikokuzingca
- Nawe ufanelwe lububele obufanayo obenzela abanye
- Ukuzinyamekela kukuvumela ukuba ubekho ngakumbi kwabanye
- Ukuba novelwano sisenzo sokuphilisa, kungekhona ukuyekelela
Yiba nenceba kuwe, ungabi natyala;
Ukuzivela: njengesixhobo sokubeka imida enempilo
Ukuhlakulela imfesane kunokukunceda ukuseka kunye nokugcina imida enempilo kubudlelwane bakho bexesha elizayo. Ikuvumela ukuba:
- Qaphela kwaye uhloniphe iimfuno kunye neminqweno yakho
- Ukuthi “hayi” ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala kakhulu
- Suka kubudlelwane obuyityhefu okanye iimeko
- Yixabise impilo-ntle yakho njengokwabanye
Ukuzicingela kukunika amandla angaphakathi okugcina le mida.
Ukusingise kwikamva lokuzithanda kunye nokuphiliswa
Ngokuhlakulela imfesane, ubeka isiseko sekamva eliqaqambileyo. Khumbula ukuba:
- Ukuphilisa yinkqubo, hayi indawo ekuyiwa kuyo
- Inyathelo ngalinye elincinane elikhokelela ekuziboneni ngobubele luloyiso
- Ufanelwe uthando, intlonipho kunye nobubele, ngakumbi obuvela kuwe
- Amava akho anokuba ngumthombo wamandla nobulumko
Ngomonde kunye nokuziqhelanisa, ukuzivela kunokuba ngumhlobo wakho onamandla kuhambo lwakho lwe-healing kuhambo lwakho.
Ukuqukumbela, ukuzivela sisixhobo esibalulekileyo kubafazi abalulama kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Ikuvumela ukuba ujonge ixesha lakho elidlulileyo ngokuqonda, ujonge ikamva lakho ngobubele, kwaye wakhe ikamva elisekelwe kuthando kunye nokuzihlonipha. Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe yimfesane ehlabathini, ngakumbi kuwe.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.