Ukwakha kwakhona ukuzithemba kwakho emva kobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator

Ukuzithemba kudla ngokuchatshazelwa ngokunzulu kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Eli nqaku liphonononga indlela ukuzithemba okunokuthi kupheliswe ngayo kobu budlelwane buyityhefu kwaye libonelela ngeendlela zokulwakha kwakhona. Ukuba ungumfazi owakha wanamava anjalo, yazi ukuba ukuphilisa kunokwenzeka.

Ukuqonda impembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator ekuzithembeni

Ama-narcissists akhohlisayo angazinzanga kwaye agqwethekile ukuzithemba. Oku kungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo kuchaphazela ngokunzulu amaqabane abo.

Kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, ukuzithemba kwakho kuhlala kuvavanywa. Ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo ethandwayo, abafazi abaninzi bangena kobu budlelwane kunye nokuzithemba okunempilo ekuqaleni. Le nto kanye inokutsala i-narcissist, ekufuneni “ukubonelela” kunye nesimo.

Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, i-narcissistic manipulator’s manipulator enetyhefu ngokuqinisekileyo kuphelisa ukuzithemba kweqabane lakhe:

• Ukuhla kwexabiso rhoqo
• Ukungasebenzi kweemvakalelo kunye neemfuno
• gaslighting (ukuphathwa kakubi ngokwasengqondweni)
• Uqikelelo lwentloni
• Imfuno engafikelelekiyo yemfezeko.

Iindlela zokutshabalalisa ukuzithemba

Makhe sijonge ngokweenkcukacha iindlela ezahlukeneyo umginyi we-narcissistic anokuphelisa ukuzithemba kwakho:

• Ukulahleka kobunyani

Ukuze “uthandwe” kwaye ugweme ingxabano, mhlawumbi ufunde ukucima kwaye ube yiloo nto i-narcissist ilindele kuwe. Oku kulahlekelwa bubunyani kwenza buthathaka ngokunzulu ukuzithemba. Ngokulahla ubume bakho bokwenyani, ngokuthe ngcembe uphulukana nokunxibelelana neminqweno kunye neminqweno yakho.

• Internalization of criticism

Ngokuva amazwi agxekayo ngawe, usenokuba uye wawafaka ngaphakathi. La mazwi angaphakathi abaluleke kakhulu ahlala eqhubeka nangona emva kokuphela kweubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Baye baba yinto yesibini, ehlala bejongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho.

• Intandabuzo esisigxina

gaslighting kunye nokuphathwa rhoqo kubangele ukuba uthandabuze umgwebo kunye nemibono yakho. Oku kungazithembi kuthoba ukuzithemba. Ungazifumana uthandabuza kwezona zigqibo zilula, uhlala usoyika ukuba uya kwenza ukhetho olungalunganga.

• Guilt

I-narcissistic manipulator iyagqwesa ekubekeni ityala ngazo zonke iingxaki. Le mvakalelo yokuziva unetyala iphelisa ukuzithemba. Usenokugqiba ekubeni ukholelwe ekubeni awufanelanga ngcono, uzivalele kumjikelo wokuzincama.

Iziphumo zokutshabalalisa ukuzithemba

Ukutshatyalaliswa kokuzithemba kuneempembelelo ezinzulu ezichaphazela zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntu. Ezi ziphumo zizibonakalisa kumanqanaba amaninzi:

1. Impembelelo yengqondo

• Inkxalabo engapheliyo
  • Uloyiko oluhlala lukhona lwesigwebo kwabanye
  • Ukulindela ngokugqithiseleyo iimeko zentlalo
  • Ukuhlaselwa kwexhala rhoqo
• Depression
  • Imvakalelo esisigxina yokunganeli
  • Ukuphulukana nomdla kwizinto ebekade bezinandipha
  • Iingcinga ezimbi eziphindaphindiweyo
  • Ubunzima bokucwangcisa ikamva
• Ukuphazamiseka kwemifanekiso yomzimba
  • Imbono egqwethekileyo yesiqu sakho
  • Ukungoneliseki okungapheliyo yinkangeleko yomntu
  • Iindlela zokuziphatha ezingafanelekanga

2. Iimpembelelo zentlalo

• Isolation
  • Ukuphepha iimeko zentlalo
  • Ubunzima bokugcina ubudlelwane obuhlala buhleli
  • Ukurhoxa ngokuthe ngcembe kwisangqa sobuhlobo kunye nosapho
• Imibandela yobudlelwane
  • Emotional ukuxhomekeka
  • Ubunzima setting limits
  • Utyekelo lokwamkela ubudlelwane obuyityhefu
  • Ukoyika ukulahlwa

3. Impembelelo yobungcali

• Underperformance
  • Ubunzima bokukhuthaza izakhono zomntu
  • Imposter syndrome
  • Ukungakwazi ukusebenzisa amathuba
• Professional stagnation
  • Ukoyika ukufaka izicelo kwizikhundla eziphezulu
  • Ubunzima bokuxoxa ngomvuzo
  • Uzibhuqa ungekho zingqondweni

4. Iziphumo zokuziphatha

• Iindlela zembuyekezo
  • Ukufuna ukugqibelela ngokugqithisileyo
  • Ukusebenza ngokugqithisileyo ukubonisa ukubaluleka kwakho
  • Izimilo ezikhobokisayo
• Ingxaki ekuziphatheni
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  • Irritability
  • Uhlaselo lokuzikhusela
  • Ukuziphatha okuzitshabalalisayo

5. Impembelelo kwimpilo yomzimba

• Iimpawu zeSomatic
  • Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
  • Iingxaki zokwetyisa
  • Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo lwemisipha
  • Ukudinwa okuzingisileyo
• Ukungahoywa kwempilo yomntu
  • Ukutya okungalunganga
  • Ukunqongophala kokusebenza komzimba
  • Ukuhlehliswa kokhathalelo lwezonyango

Imingeni yokwakha ngokutsha

Indlela eya ekwakhiweni ngokutsha ayisoloko ingumtya. Nantsi eminye imingeni onokudibana nayo:

• Ukujongana nokuphinda ubuyele

Kuqhelekile ukuba amathandabuzo neengcinga ezingakhiyo ziphinde zivele ngamanye amaxesha. Wamkele la maxesha ngovelwano, ngaphandle kokuzigweba. Oku kubuyiselwa ngamathuba okwenza nzulu umsebenzi wakho wokuphilisa kunye nokomeleza ukomelela kwakho.

• Ukujongana netyala lexhoba

Njengoko uqhubela phambili ekunyangeni kwakho, unokuziva unetyala. Khumbula ukuba unelungelo lokukhula kwaye wonwabe. Eli tyala lidla ngokuba ngumqondiso wokuba uyasuka kwiipateni eziyityhefu, ezilungile.

• Ukuhlaziya iimbono zakho

Amazwi angakhiyo asenokuzingisa. Funda ukubaqonda uze ubabuze ngobubele. Le nkqubo yokuhlaziya ithatha ukuziqhelanisa, kodwa iba lula ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye yomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho okutsha.

Ukujonga ukuzithemba okunempilo kunye nokuzinza

Ukuzithemba okusempilweni akudibanisi nokuzikholelwa ukuba ugqibelele okanye ungowongamileyo. Kunoko, yile:

• Zibone ngokwenyani, ngamandla akho kunye nobuthathaka bakho
• Zamkele kwaye uzixabise njengomntu
• Thembela kwisigqibo sakho kunye nemibono
• Yazi indlela yokubeka imida enempilo kubudlelwane bakho.

Ireferensi yebhayibhilografi yokwakha kwakhona ukuzithemba kwakho

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo wokwakha kwakhona ukuzithemba:

1. Brisset, C. (2017). Estime de soi et développement personnel : Stratégies et outils pour renforcer sa confiance en soi. Paris : Éditions Eyrolles.
2. Morin, A. (2019). L’estime de soi : De l’importance de l’image de soi dans le développement personnel. Bruxelles : De Boeck Supérieur.
3. Meyer, M. (2018). Reconstruire son estime de soi : Thérapies et pratiques psychologiques. Paris : Éditions Dunod.
4. Lépine, M. (2015). Estime de soi : Comprendre et dépasser ses blocages. Paris : Éditions Leduc.s.
5. Perrin, C. (2016). L’estime de soi : Un enjeu thérapeutique. Toulouse : Éditions Erès.
6. Fuchs, C. (2020). L’impact de l’estime de soi sur la santé mentale : Approches psychologiques. Lyon : Éditions Chronique Sociale.
7. Leroy, S. (2014). Estime de soi et résilience : Un chemin vers l’épanouissement. Paris : Éditions Payot.

Le mi sebenzi inika ingqiqo yenzululwazi nesebenzayo kumxholo wokuzixabisa kunye neendlela zokuwomeleza.

Isiphelo: inkqubo eyodwa yokuphilisa

Uhambo ngalunye lwe-healing lukhethekile. Ubude kunye nobunzulu bobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, kunye nobudala bakho ngexesha leziganeko, zinefuthe kwinkqubo yokwakhiwa kwakhona.

Yiba nomonde kwaye ube nobubele kuwe. Ngexesha, inkxaso kunye nomsebenzi wobuqu, kunokwenzeka ukuba uphinde uzinze kwaye ufezekise ukuzithemba. Ufanelwe ukunxulumana kwakhona nexabiso lakho lokwenyani kwaye uphile ubomi obuyinyani nobunoxolo.

Khumbula: ixabiso lakho langaphakathi alizange litshintshe. Yayisithelwe nje lulwalamano oluyityhefu. Ngokuzikhathalela kwaye uzijikeleze ngabantu abanenkathalo, uya kuphinda ufumane ukukhanya kwakho kwangaphakathi.