Incazelo: Ukuvuselelwa kabusha inqubo yengqondo lapho umuntu evuselela khona ukuzikhukhumeza kwakhe—umuzwa wakhe wokubaluleka, amandla, kanye nokuba khona—ngokulimaza abanye. Ngenkathi umuntu omdala ophilile ethola udumo ezintweni azifezile kanye nobudlelwano bakhe, umuntu ophambukile oziqhenyayo usebenza njengomshini okumele uhlale ukhuthazwa: ukuncoma, ukuzithoba, ukuncoma, ukwesaba, ngisho nokuhlupheka kwabanye kusebenza njengamandla abo.
Ithangi elivuzayo
I-PN ivame ukuba nokulimala kusenesikhathi — lokho okushiwo yizincwadi amaphutha okuzikhukhumeza — okumvimbela ukuthi alondoloze isithombe esihle ngokwakhe. Ngakho-ke kuphendukela emithonjeni yangaphandle: umlingani othandekayo, ozakwabo abesatshiswayo, izingane ezithobekile, abathandi abadlula ngokushesha. Umthombo ngamunye “uyisipho sokuzikhukhumeza.” Uma umthombo ukhathala noma uvukela, umuntu ozikhukhumezayo kumele awubuyise (lokhu kuyi ukuhova), noma uthole enye — ngokushesha.
Lokho okushintshayo ngokwemibandela eqondile ebudlelwaneni
- Awuthandwa, ususetshenzisiwe Umsebenzi wakho ukuwubonakalisa ngezinga elikhulu — okuyinto eyenzeka ngenxa…umphumela wesibuko kusukela ekuqaleni.
- Impumelelo yakho iyamsongela Noma yiluphi udumo olungeyona eyakhe luphambukisa ukunaka futhi lubeka engcupheni ikhono lakhe lokugcwalisa isitoko sakhe. Ngakho-ke ukwehla kwenani lempahla okuhlelekile, i-microtrauma ngokulandelana.
- Imizwa yakho iyondla Umona, intukuthelo, noma ukuphelelwa yithemba okubonisayo kuqinisekisa amandla alo. Ukunganaki kokuzenzisa = ukuntuleka.
- Imijikelezo yayo ilandela isizinda sayo Kushubile uma kugcwele, kunesihluku uma kungenalutho. Akuyona indaba yesimo sengqondo, kumayelana nokuphathwa kwempahla.
Kungani lokhu kuqonda kusikhulula
Izisulu eziningi ziyakhathala zibuze, “Ngenzeni kabi?” Impendulo, ngokucabanga ngokuzikhukhumeza, iba sobala: akukho lutho. Awuzange ubabangele ulaka lwabo—umane wama, okwesikhashana, ukunikeza umthamo. Akuyona inkinga yothando; kuyinkinga yokuhlinzeka. Ukuqonda le ndlela, njenge ukuqinisa ngezikhathi ezithile okuhambisana naye, oqeda umuzwa wecala futhi olungiselela indlela yokuphuma — Uhlelo lwezinyathelo ezi-6 lokushiya i-PN Qala lapho.
Incazelo evela ku- isichazamazwi sokuhlanekezelwa kokuzikhukhumeza.
Ufuna ukwesekwa komuntu ngamunye?
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