I-Narcissistic victimization syndrome: Uphuma njani kuyo?

I-Narcissistic victimization syndrome yinto enzima ehlala ibamba amaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators kumjikelo onetyhefu. Eli nqaku lijonge ukukunceda ukuba uqonde le ndlela kwaye ikunike izixhobo zokuzikhulula kuyo.

Yintoni narcissistic manipulator?

THE i-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu odibanisa zombini iimpawu ze-narcissistic kunye ne-manipulative. Ubonisa imbonakalo entle kakhulu yesiqu sakhe esidlangalaleni, kodwa ngasese ufihla indlela eyonakalisayo kwabo basondeleyo kuye.

THE i-narcissism kubonakala ngokuziphakamisa, ukufuna ukunconywa rhoqo, nokungakwazi ukuzazi iimfuno okanye iimvakalelo zabanye. Into eyahlula i-manipulator ye-narcissistic kumntu olula nje yinkalo ye-manipulative, apho efuna ukusebenzisa amandla kunye nokulawula abanye ukuze anelise iimfuno zakhe, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukulimaza iqabane lakhe.

Ukuqonda umdlalo wombulali-ixhoba le-narcissist

I-narcissistic manipulator yinkosi kubugcisa bokudlala indima yombulali kunye neyexhoba. Kwelinye icala, unokukhohlakala, ukukhohlisa nokuxhaphaza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokukhawuleza xa ejongene nezenzo zakhe, ngokukhawuleza uthatha indima yexhoba elingaqondwanga kunye nokuphathwa kakubi.

Olu tshintsho lukhawulezayo lwesimo senzelwe ukukudodobalisa kwaye lukwenze usithandabuze isigwebo sakho. Emva koko usuka kumsindo osemthethweni wokuxhatshazwa kwakhe uye kukuziva unetyala lokumonzakalisa. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-narcissistic victimization syndrome.

Chonga amaqhinga okukhohlisa umntu ophethwe lixhoba

I-narcissist isebenzisa iindlela ezininzi ukwenza ukuba ukholelwe ukuba lixhoba lokwenyani:

• Uzijongela phantsi izenzo zakhe ngokuthi ‘yayiyintlekisa nje’
• Ukutyhola ngokuba nobuntununtunu kakhulu kwaye awunabo uburharha
• Uthi akaqondwa kakuhle kwaye akafunwa ngumntu wonke
• Ugrogrisa ngokukushiya kuba “akukho mntu umthandayo”
• Uyalila kwaye uyazisola ngendlela yemidlalo yeqonga
• Ugxeka wena ngokungaqapheli yonke into akwenzela yona

Injongo ku-ukwenza uzive unetyala kwaye uphinde ufumane uvelwano lwakho, ngelixa uphepha ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zabo.

Ukuchonga ulwimi lwexhoba lombhexeshi we-narcissistic

Ezinye izivakalisi eziqhelekileyo zityhila imeko yexhoba le-narcissist:

• Bendizama nje ukunceda, kwaye le yindlela endibulelwa ngayo.
• “Wonke umntu uchasene nam, akukho mntu undiqondayo.”
• “Ukuba yile nto uyifunayo, ndiza kuhamba kuba akukho mntu undithandayo apha.”
• “Ubona iziphoso zam kuphela, ungaze wenze izinto ezilungileyo endikwenzela zona.”
• “Uyandikhathaza xa yonke into endiyenzayo kukukhathalela.”

Funda ukuqaphela la mabinzana akhohlisayo anenjongo yokukwenza uzithandabuze.

Imvelaphi yengqondo ye-narcissistic victimization syndrome

Le ndlela yokuziphatha ifumana umthombo wayo kwi-psyche ebuthathaka ye-narcissist. Engakwazi ukuzamkela iimpazamo zakhe okanye ubuthathaka bakhe, ubalekela kwindima yexhoba ngokukhawuleza xa eziva esongelwa okanye egxekwa.

Oku kumvumela ukuba:

• Gcina umfanekiso wakhe omkhulu
• Kuphephe ukuhlazeka nokuziva uphantsi
• Ukugxeka abanye
• Fumana ingqalelo novelwano alufunayo

Ukuqonda ezi nkqubo kunokukunceda ubuye umva kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo.

Ukwakha kwakhona ukuzithemba emva kolawulo lwe-narcissistic

I-Narcissistic victimization syndrome inokonakalisa kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakho. Ukuyakha kwakhona:

• Funda ukuzithemba kwaye uqinisekise iimvakalelo zakho
• Zingqonge ngabantu abakhathalayo nabakuxhasayo
• Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano kunokuba uzigxeke
• Bhiyozela impumelelo yakho, kwanezona zincinci
• Zibekele iinjongo zakho kwaye usebenzele ukufikelela kuzo
• Jonga iminqweno yakho kunye nento ekwenza uzive uphila

Ukubaluleka kokumisela imida xa ujongene ne-narcissist exhobayo

Ukuseka kunye nokugcina imida esempilweni kubalulekile ekuzikhuseleni:

• Cacisa ngokucacileyo into ongasayivumiyo
• Hlala uqinile xa ujongene neenzame zakhe zokukhohlisa
• Musa ukuthandabuza ukuhamba ukuba akayihloneli imida yakho
• Funda ukuthi hayi ngaphandle kokuziva unetyala
• Beka phambili impilo-ntle yakho ngaphezu kweemfuno zabo

Khumbula ukuba unelungelo lokuzikhusela, nokuba kuyamcaphukisa oko.

Ukusingise kubomi obutsha obukhululekile kulawulo lwe-narcissistic

Nje ukuba ufunde ukuqaphela kunye nokuchasana neNarcissistic Victimization Syndrome, unokujonga phambili kwikamva elitsha:

• Chaza kwakhona amaxabiso akho kunye nezinto eziphambili
• Yakhani ubudlelwane obunempilo obusekelwe kwintlonipho
• Landela amaphupha akho kunye namabhongo akho
• Funda ukuzithanda nokuzinyamekela
• Yabelana ngamava akho ukunceda amanye amaxhoba

Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe bubomi obanelisayo, ngaphandle kwe-manipulation kunye nokuxhatshazwa.

I-Bibliographic reference kwi-narcissistic victimization syndrome

Nazi iimbekiselo ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo we-narcissistic victimization syndrome:

1. Leroux, L. (2015). La victimisation narcissique : entre manipulation et authenticité. Éditions L’Harmattan.
2. Friedman, R. (2018). Le narcissisme : une approche psychologique et sociale. Éditions Dunod.
3. Gollner, M. (2020). Psychopathologie du narcissisme. Presses Universitaires de France.
4. Cohen, A. (2017). Narcissisme et manipulation : comprendre le phénomène. Éditions Eyrolles.
5. Ménard, L. (2021). L’impact de la victimisation narcissique sur les relations interpersonnelles. Revue de psychologie sociale, 12(2), 45-63.
6. Delrue, M. (2019). Le narcissisme dans la culture contemporaine : entre ombre et lumière. Éditions La Découverte.
7. Martinez, J. (2016). Les mécanismes psychologiques du narcissisme. Psychiatrie et Santé Mentale, 10(3), 123-135.

Ezi mbekiselo ziya kukunika isishwankathelo esihle sophando kunye nokucinga ngalo mbandela.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuqukumbela, i-Narcissistic Victimization Syndrome liqhinga elinamandla elisetyenziswa ngabaqhubi be-narcissistic ukugcina ulawulo lwabo. Ngokuqonda iindlela zayo kunye nokufunda ukumelana nayo, unokuzikhulula kulo mjikelo unetyhefu kwaye uphinde ulawule ubomi bakho. Ungaze ulibale ukuba unamandla ngaphakathi kuwe okoyisa le ngxaki kwaye wakhe ikamva elingcono.