Ukuba ubukhe wathandana nomntu ophethwe yi-pathological narcissism, uyazi ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho. Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators banobunzima obukhulu bokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela enempilo. Ukufumana amandla kwakhona kubomi bakho beemvakalelo, kubalulekile ukucacisa kwakhona ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo okunempilo kunye nokulungelelana. Eli linyathelo lokuqala lokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zolu phindaphindo lwesiqu sakho, inyathelo ngenyathelo.
Ukuqonda ingxaki yolawulo lweemvakalelo kwi-narcissistic manipulators
Abantu abane-pathological narcissism banobunzima obukhulu bokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngendlela enempilo nelungeleleneyo. Lo ngomnye wemithombo ephambili yongquzulwano kunye nokungavisisani kubudlelwane babo. Abakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo kunye nokugqabhuka komsindo, bawela nokuba kukugqabhuka kweemvakalelo okukhatshwa zizikhalo kunye nezisongelo, okanye ekuthuleni komkhenkce kunye nokurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo. Oku kuguquguqukayo kudala imeko yokulinganisela okuqinisekileyo, apho ixhoba kufuneka lihlale li-walk kumaqokobhe amaqanda ukuphepha izinto ezibangela iimvakalelo ze-narcissistic manipulator.
Ngelishwa, ukuba ukhule nomzali we-narcissistic okanye uhlala kubudlelwane obunetyhefu nomntu onama-narcissistic ixesha elide, awuzange ube nethuba lokufunda iipateni eziphilileyo zokulawula iimvakalelo. Endaweni yoko, uye wachanabeka ekuziphatheni okugqithisileyo, ukusuka kowona msindo undlongondlongo ukuya kwezona nzolo zibandayo zicinezelayo. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuphuhliseni izicwangciso zokulawula ngaphezulu, apho uzingcwaba ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho, ngenxa yokoyika iziphumo ezibuhlungu zokuzibonakalisa okuzenzekelayo.
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Ukuchaza ngokutsha umgaqo ophilileyo weemvakalelo
Kodwa yintoni esempilweni ngokwenene nelungeleleneyo yokulawula ngokweemvakalelo? Nazi izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni:
- Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ngokufanelekileyo
Kubudlelwane obulungeleleneyo, unokwazi ukubona ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakho, ubize amagama, kwaye uphendule ngokufanelekileyo. Uyalila xa ukhathazekile, uhleke xa wonwabile, kwaye uzinike ixesha lokulungisa umsindo wakho ngaphandle kokumoyikisa okanye ukumoyikisa umntu othetha naye.
- Yazi ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zezakho
Iimvakalelo zakho zezakho, kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzinyanzelise kwabanye. Unokuzivakalisa ngaphandle kokulindela ukuba abanye bazive ngendlela efanayo nawe okanye basabele ngendlela ethile.
- Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ngendlela eyakhayo
Akukho mkhwazo, izoyikiso okanye intshabalalo. Ukongeza, ufunda ukunxibelelana neemvakalelo zakho ngokuzola nangokuzola, ngaphandle kokuhlasela okanye ukulimaza i-interlocutor yakho.
- Ukulungelelanisa umxholo
Uyazi kwakhona ukuba imixholo ethile ayiboleki ekubonakalisweni kweemvakalelo ngokungalawulekiyo. Uhlala usazi okusingqongileyo kunye nabantu abakhoyo ukuze bahlengahlengise intetho yakho ngokufanelekileyo.
- Phuhlisa iindlela zokulawula iimvakalelo
Ukucamngca, ukuphefumla, ukuzivocavoca umzimba … Uchonga izixhobo ezikunceda ukuba usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho ngendlela ephilileyo neyakhayo.
- Buyela emva kwaye ucinge ngazo zombini ezi mbono
Uyakwazi ukuziva ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo zakho ngelixa ukhumbula ukuba abanye banamava abo okuziphendulela. Ukongeza, awuzijongi njengombindi wendalo iphela.
- Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, ungazicinezeli
Ukugcina yonke into kuwe ayingommiselo. Yindlela yokuzikhwebula kwiimvakalelo zakho, ezinokuba neziphumo eziyingozi kwimpilo yakho yomzimba nengqondo. Injongo kukufumana ulungelelwano olufanelekileyo phakathi kokuvakalisa nokulawula iimvakalelo zakho.
Ukwakha kwakhona ukuzimela kwakho ngokweemvakalelo
Emva kokuhlala kwindawo enetyhefu apho iimvakalelo zakho zingaqinisekiswanga, okanye zikhatywe okanye zohlwaywe, kubalulekile ukuba uphinde ukwazi ukulawula ubomi bakho beemvakalelo. Nazi ezinye iindlela zokuphumeza oku:
- Chonga kwaye uveze iimvakalelo zakho
Qala ngokuqaphela indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngokwenene. Xela iimvakalelo zakho, ngaphandle kokuzigweba. Fumana iindlela eziphilileyo zokuzivakalisa, nokuba kukwiphephancwadi, nabantu obathandayo obathandayo, okanye kwindawo yonyango.
- Ukuba nobubele kuwe
Yeka ukuzibeka ityala ngeemvakalelo zakho. Zisemthethweni kwaye zendalo. fundani ukuthetha omnye komnye ngobulali nokuqonda, njengokwenza nomhlobo.
- Ukuseka imida esempilweni
Unesibindi sokuthi hayi, zihlukanise xa kuyimfuneko. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unyamezele yonke into ukuze ugcine uxolo. Impilontle yakho kunye nokhuseleko lweemvakalelo iza kuqala.
Gxininisa kwiimpawu zakho, impumelelo yakho, imilinganiselo yakho. Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe yintlonipho kunye nengqalelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic manipulator.
- Zingqonge nabantu abanenkathalo
Yakha inethiwekhi yenkxaso enempilo kunye nabantu abaxabisa ukungafani kwakho kunye nobuntu. Kancinci ukushenxa kwizinto eziyityhefu kunye nobudlelwane obungenampilo.
- Yiba nomonde kwaye uzingise
Ukwakha kwakhona ukuzimela kwakho ngokweemvakalelo yinkqubo ende kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ibuhlungu. Yiba nobubele kuwe. Inyathelo ngalinye elincinci libala, kwaye unokuzingca ngalo lonke uloyiso, nokuba luncinci kangakanani na.
Ngokusebenza ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zakho, ngokuthe ngcembe uya kukwazi ukulawula ubomi bakho. Awusekho kwinceba yemoods kunye ne-whims ye-narcissistic manipulator. Uba yingcali kwiimvakalelo zakho, ukwazi ukuzamkela ngobubele kwaye uzivakalise ngendlela eyakhayo. Sisiqalo sexesha elitsha lokukhula komntu kunye nenkululeko yeemvakalelo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.