Ubudlelwane kunye neqabane le-narcissistic lunokuba lurhafisa kakhulu kwaye lonakalise impilo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Nokuba ubundlongondlongo buyinto yokwenziwa okanye bungaphaya kobudlelwane be-narcissistic, iziphumo zihlala zibi kakhulu kwixesha elide. Eli nqaku lijolise ekuncedeni amaxhoba abasetyhini aqonde ngcono la mandla anetyhefu kwaye afumane iindlela zokuzikhusela.
Ubuso obubini bomsindo we-narcissistic
Kubudlelwane be-narcissistic, umsindo kunye nobudlova kunokuthatha iindlela ezimbini eziphambili:
- Ukuhlasela ngokugqithisileyo: ukugqabhuka ngumsindo, ukukhwaza, izithuko, ukoyikiswa ngokwasemzimbeni
- Ubundlongondlongo obungenasiphelo: ukuthula okukhenkcezayo, ukurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo, ukuqhatha okuchuliweyo
Nangona zahlukile kwintetho yazo, ezi ntlobo zimbini zobundlobongela zinenjongo enye: ukusebenzisa ulawulo kwiqabane kunye nokugcina i-ego ebuthathaka ye-narcissist.
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Qonda iimpawu zobundlobongela obugqithisileyo
Ubundlobongela obugqithileyo kudla ngokuba lula ukububona, kodwa bungonakalisi kangako. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ekufuneka uziqwalasele:
- Umsindo ongalindelekanga kunye nokungalinganiyo
- Ukukhwaza, izithuko kunye nokuthotywa ngamazwi
- Ukoyikiswa ngokwasemzimbeni (ukubetha izinto, ukusondela ngendlela esongelayo)
- Ukutshatyalaliswa kwempahla yomntu
- Izigrogriso ezicacileyo
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zidala umoya woloyiko kunye nokungakhuseleki okusisigxina. Ixhoba lizifumana lihlala lilindile, lisoyika ukudubula okulandelayo. Kufuneka alawule iimvakalelo zakhe.
Ukutyhila ubundlongondlongo
Uburhalarhume obungakumbi, nobundlongondlongo bunokuba nzima ukububona ekuqaleni. Ibonakaliswa ngu:
- Ukuthula okohlwaya kunye nokurhoxa ngokweemvakalelo
- Iintetho eziphoxayo okanye ukugxeka okufihlakeleyo
- Ukuzibekela amangomso ukwenza izinto ezibalulekileyo
- Ukutshatyalaliswa okufihlakeleyo kweeprojekthi zeqabane
- Ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokwala ukunxibelelana
Olu hlobo lobundlobongela lujolise ekupheliseni ixhoba ngokweemvakalelo kwaye libenze bathandabuze.
Impembelelo eyingozi kwimpilo yengqondo kunye nomzimba
Nokuba kusenziwa okanye kucacile, ubundlongondlongo be-narcissistic buneziphumo ezibi kwimpilontle:
- Anxiety engapheliyo kunye nemeko ye-hypervigilance
- Ukudakumba kunye nokulahlekelwa ukuzithemba
- Iingxaki zokulala kunye namaphupha amabi
- Iimpawu zomzimba: intloko ebuhlungu, iingxaki zokugaya ukutya, ukukhathala
- Ukwahlukaniswa kwezentlalo nakwezobugcisa
Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ezi ziphumo zinokuba buthathaka kwaye zichaphazele zonke iinkalo zobomi bexhoba.
Ukuqonda iiMechanisms ezisemva koBundlongondlongo beNarcissistic
Ukuzikhusela ngcono, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ebangela ezi zenzo zindlongondlongo:
- Ukwenzakala kweNarcissistic: Naluphi na uhlaselo lokwenyani okanye olubonwayo kwi-ego ye-narcissist
- Isidingo solawulo kunye nokongamela
- Ukuqikelela ukhuseleko lwabo kwiqabane labo
- Ukungakwazi ukulawula ukukhungatheka kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi
Ngokuchonga ezi zixhokonxa, ngamanye amaxesha sinokulindela kwaye sithobe iimeko ezithile, ngaphandle kokuthethelela ezi ziphatha zixhaphazayo.
Amacebo okuzikhusela kuhlaselo olungaphaya
Xa ujongene neqabane elinobundlobongela ngokuphandle, ukhuseleko yeyona nto iphambili:
- Ukuseka isicwangciso sokhuseleko ngexesha likaxakeka
- Amaxwebhu eziganeko zobundlobongela (imihla, iinyani, amangqina anokubakho)
- Yazisa abo ubathandayo ngale meko
- Ungalibazisi ukuqhagamshelana nabasemagunyeni xa kukho isongelo lomzimba
- Cinga ngokushiya ikhaya ukuba kuyimfuneko, nokuba okomzuzwana
Injongo kukudala umgama womzimba kunye nomphefumlo ukuze uhlale ukhuselekile.
Ukujongana noBundlavini
Ubundlongondlongo bububuthi obufanayo, kodwa bufuna iindlela ezahlukeneyo:
- Funda ukuchonga iindlela zokuziphatha ezinobundlobongela
- Phendula ngokuzolileyo kodwa ngokuqinileyo, ngaphandle kokudlala umdlalo wabo
- Misela imida ecacileyo kwaye uyinyanzelise
- Hlakulela ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo
- Gxininisa kwintlalontle yakho kunokuba uzame “ukulungisa” ubudlelwane
Undoqo kukungazivumeli ukuba ukhohliswe okanye uzenze uzive unetyala ngala maqhinga achuliweyo.
Yakha kwakhona ukuzithemba kwakho
Esinye seziphumo ezibi kakhulu zokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic kukulahlekelwa ukuzithemba. Ukuyakha kwakhona:
- Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano kunye nokuzamkela
- Qhagamshelana kwakhona neenqobo zakho kunye neminqweno yakho
- Bhiyozela uloyiso oluncinci lwemihla ngemihla
- Zingqonge ngabantu abakhathalayo nabakuxhasayo
- Cinga ngonyango ukuze usebenze kumanxeba angokweemvakalelo
Le nkqubo ithatha ixesha, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uzikhulule kulawulo lwe-narcissistic.
Ukubaluleka kwenkxaso yangaphandle
Ukuphuma kubudlelwane be-narcissistic ngumngeni ongenakuhlangatyezwana nawo wedwa. Kubalulekile uku:
- Yaphula ukuzenza ikheswa ngokuzityand’ igila kwabo ubathembileyo
- Joyina amaqela enkxaso kumaxhoba oxhatshazo lwe-narcissistic
- Qhagamshelana nengcali yezonyango eyincutshe kumonzakalo wobudlelwane
- Qhagamshelana nemibutho enceda abasetyhini abangamaxhoba obundlobongela
Inkxaso yangaphandle ibonelela ngokuqinisekiswa, iingcebiso ezisebenzayo kunye namandla okuqhubela phambili.
Ukulungiselela ukuphuma kubudlelwane obuyityhefu
Ukushiya ubudlelwane be-narcissistic kufuna isibindi kunye nolungiselelo:
- Fumanisa malunga namalungelo akho (ingakumbi xa kuqhawuke umtshato okanye kugcinwe umntwana)
- Beka imali ecaleni ukuba kunokwenzeka
- Qokelela amaxwebhu abalulekileyo kwindawo ekhuselekileyo
- Cwangcisa indawo oza kuya kuyo xa umka ngokukhawuleza
- Lindela ukusabela okunokwenzeka kweqabane le-narcissistic
Ukulungiselela ngononophelo kwandisa amathuba okugqiba ngempumelelo olu tshintsho lunzima.
Ukuzakha kwakhona emva kokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic
Indlela eya ekuchacheni inde kodwa inokwenzeka. Nanga amanyathelo angundoqo:
- Yamkela ukuba ukuphilisa kuthatha ixesha kwaye kunamahla ndinyuka
- Sebenza kwiipateni zobudlelwane obuyityhefu ukuphepha ukuphinda zivelise kwakhona
- Funda ukuthembela kwakhona, ngesantya sakho
- Jonga iminqweno emitsha kwaye uphinde uqhagamshelane nawe
- Jonga kwikamva ngethemba, ugxile kwiinjongo zakho
Inyathelo ngalinye eliya kulwakhiwo luloyiso phezu kokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic.
Isiphelo: Thatha kwakhona amandla phezu kobomi bakho
Nokuba i-passive okanye i-overt, ubundlongondlongo kubudlelwane be-narcissistic buhlala buwonakalisa. Ukuqonda ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziyityhefu linyathelo lokuqala lokuzikhulula kuzo. Nangona indlela inzima, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzakhe kwakhona kwaye ufumane ubomi obanelisayo, obukhululekile kuzo zonke iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa. Ungaze ulibale ukuba ufanelwe yintlonipho, ububele kunye nothando lokwenyani. Impilontle yakho kunye nokhuseleko zibalulekile. Ngenkxaso kunye nokunyamezela, unokuphinda ulawule ubomi bakho kwaye uzivulele kwikamva elinoxolo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.