Ubudlelwano nozakwenu obhuqabhuqayo bungakhokhisa kakhulu futhi bulimaze impilo yengqondo nengokomzwelo. Ukuthi ulaka luyisenzo noma lusobala ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic, imiphumela ivame ukulimaza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lesi sihloko sihlose ukusiza izisulu zesifazane ziqonde kangcono lezi zinguquko ezinobuthi futhi bathole izindlela zokuzivikela.
Ubuso obubili bentukuthelo ye-narcissistic
Ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic, intukuthelo nobudlova kungathatha izinhlobo ezimbili eziyinhloko:
- Ulaka olugqamile: ukuqhuma kwentukuthelo, ukumemeza, ukuthuka, ukwesatshiswa ngokomzimba
- Ulaka oluqhubekayo: ukuthula okubandayo, ukuhoxa ngokomzwelo, ukukhohlisa okucashile
Nakuba zihlukile ekukhulumeni kwazo, lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobudlova zinenhloso efanayo: ukulawula uzakwethu nokugcina ukuzicabangela okubuthakathaka kwe-narcissist.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Bona izimpawu zolaka olugqamile
Ulaka olusobala ngokuvamile kulula ukulubona, kodwa alubi kangako. Nazi ezinye izimpawu okufanele uzibheke:
- Ukucasuka okungalindelekile nokungalingani
- Ukuklabalasa, ukuthuka nokululazwa ngamazwi
- Ukwesatshiswa ngokomzimba (ukushaya izinto, ukusondela ngendlela esongelayo)
- Ukucekelwa phansi kwempahla yomuntu
- Izinsongo ezisobala
Lokhu kuziphatha kudala isimo sokwesaba nokungazethembi unomphela. Isisulu sizithola sihlala siqaphile, sisaba ukuqhuma okulandelayo. Kufanele lawula imizwa yakho.
Ukudalula ulaka lokwenziwa
Ulaka olucashile, nolwenziwayo kungase kube nzima ukukubona ekuqaleni. Ibonakala ngokuthi:
- Ukuthula okujezisayo nokuhoxa ngokomzwelo
- Amazwi abhuqayo noma ukugxeka okufihlekile
- Ukuzindela ngokuzithandela emisebenzini ebalulekile
- Ukucekelwa phansi okucashile kwamaphrojekthi ozakwethu
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kanye nokwenqaba ukuxhumana
Lolu hlobo lolaka luhlose ukuqeda isisulu ngokomzwelo futhi lumenze azingabaze.
Umthelela omubi empilweni yengqondo nengokomzimba
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenziwa noma kusobala, ulaka lwe-narcissistic lunemiphumela emibi enhlalakahleni:
- Ukukhathazeka okungamahlalakhona kanye nesimo sokugulaukuqapha ngokweqile
- Ukucindezeleka nokulahlekelwa ukuzethemba
- Izinkinga zokulala namaphupho amabi
- Izimpawu ezingokomzimba: ubuhlungu bekhanda, izinkinga zokugaya ukudla, ukukhathala
- Ukuzihlukanisa komphakathi nomsebenzi
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, le miphumela ingaba buthakathaka futhi ithinte zonke izici zempilo yomuntu ohlukunyeziwe.
Ukuqonda Izindlela Ezisemuva Kwe-Narcissistic Aggression
Ukuze uzivikele kangcono, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela lokhu kuziphatha okunolaka:
- Ukulimala kwe-Narcissistic: noma yikuphi ukuhlasela kwangempela noma okucatshangwayo kumuntu ozicabangela yena yedwa
- Isidingo sokulawula nokubusa
- Beveza okwabo ukungavikeleki kumlingani wabo
- Ukungakwazi ukulawula ukukhungatheka kanye nemizwa engemihle
Ngokuhlonza lezi zimbangela, ngezinye izikhathi singase silindele futhi sidambisa izimo ezithile, ngaphandle kokuthethelela lokhu kuziphatha okuhlukumezayo.
Amasu okuzivikela odlameni olwedlulele
Uma ubhekene nozakwethu onolaka obala, ukuphepha kubaluleke kakhulu:
- Misa uhlelo lokuphepha oluphuthumayo
- Idokhumenti yezigameko zobudlova (izinsuku, amaqiniso, okungenzeka kube ofakazi)
- Yazisa obathandayo ngalesi simo
- Ungangabazi ukuxhumana neziphathimandla uma kwenzeka usongo ngokomzimba
- Cabangela ukuhamba ekhaya uma kunesidingo, ngisho okwesikhashana
Umgomo uwukudala ibanga elingokomzimba nelomzwelo ukuze uhlale uphephile.
Ukubhekana Ne-Passive Aggression
Ubudlova obungahleliwe bunobuthi obufanayo, kodwa budinga amasu ahlukene:
- Funda ukuhlonza imikhuba yokungenzi lutho
- Phendula ngomoya ophansi kodwa ngokuqinile, ngaphandle kokudlala umdlalo wabo
- Misa imingcele ecacile futhi uyisebenzise
- Hlakulela ukuzimela ngokomzwelo
- Gxila enhlalakahleni yakho kunokuba uzame “ukulungisa” ubuhlobo
Okubalulekile wukungavumeli ukusetshenziswa kwakho noma ukwenziwa uzizwe unecala ngalawa maqhinga akhohlisayo.
Yakha kabusha ukuzethemba kwakho
Omunye wemiphumela elimaza kakhulu yokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba. Ukuze uyakhe kabusha:
- Zijwayeze ukuzizwela nokuzamukela
- Xhuma kabusha ngamavelu akho kanye nezifiso zakho
- Bungaza ukunqoba okuncane kwansuku zonke
- Zizungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo nabasekelayo
- Cabangela ukwelashwa ukuze usebenze emanxebeni angokomzwelo
Le nqubo ithatha isikhathi, kodwa kubalulekile ukuzikhulula ekulawuleni i-narcissistic.
Ukubaluleka kokusekelwa kwangaphandle
Ukuphuma ebuhlotsheni be-narcissistic kuyinselelo engeke ihlangatshezwe uwedwa. Kubalulekile ukuthi:
- Hlukana nokuzihlukanisa ngokuthulula isifuba kwabathandekayo bakho
- Joyina amaqembu osekelo ezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic
- Xhumana nomelaphi onguchwepheshe bokuhlukumezeka ngokobudlelwane
- Xhumana nezinhlangano ezisiza abesifazane abayizisulu zodlame
Ukwesekwa kwangaphandle kunikeza ukuqinisekiswa, iseluleko esisebenzayo namandla okuqhubekela phambili.
Ilungiselela ukuphuma ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi
Ukushiya ubudlelwano be-narcissistic kudinga isibindi nokuzilungiselela:
- Thola mayelana namalungelo akho (ikakhulukazi uma kwenzeka udivosa noma unelungelo lokugcina ingane)
- Beka imali eceleni uma kungenzeka
- Qoqa imibhalo ebalulekile endaweni ephephile
- Hlela indawo ozoya kuyo uma kwenzeka usuka ngokushesha
- Lindela kusengaphambili ukusabela okungaba khona kukazakwethu we-narcissistic
Ukulungiselela ngokucophelela kwandisa amathuba okuqeda ngempumelelo lolu shintsho olunzima.
Ukuzakha kabusha ngemva kokuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic
Indlela eya ekululameni yinde kodwa kungenzeka. Nazi izinyathelo ezibalulekile:
- Yamukela ukuthi ukuphulukiswa kuthatha isikhathi futhi kunokwehla nokwenyuka
- Sebenza emaphethini obudlelwano anobuthi ukuze ugweme ukuwakhiqiza kabusha
- Funda ukwethemba futhi, ngejubane lakho
- Hlola okuthandwa nguwe futhi uxhumane nawe kabusha
- Bheka ikusasa ngethemba, ugxile emigomweni yakho
Zonke izinyathelo eziya ekwakhiweni kabusha ziwukunqobaukuhlukunyezwa kwe-narcissistic wahlupheka.
Isiphetho: Buyisela amandla phezu kwempilo yakho
Noma ngabe kwenziwa noma kusobala, ulaka ebudlelwaneni be-narcissistic buhlala bulimaza. Ukubona lezi zenzo ezinobuthi kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuzikhulula kuzo. Nakuba indlela inzima, kuyenzeka ukuthi uzakhe kabusha futhi uthole ukuphila okwanelisayo, okukhululekile kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuthi ufanelwe inhlonipho, umusa nothando lwangempela. Inhlalakahle yakho nokuphepha kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokusekelwa nokubekezela, ungakwazi ukulawula impilo yakho futhi uzivulele ikusasa elinokuthula.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.