Kwihlabathi elintsonkothileyo lobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, intlanganiso phakathi kwabantu ababini abanovelwano kakhulu inokubonakala, ekuqaleni, njengemvisiswano egqibeleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa abantu ababini abanovelwano kakhulu bedibana, imeko inokukhawuleza ibe nzima, ngakumbi ukuba omnye wamaqabane ubonisa iimpawu zokungafuni. Eli nqaku liphonononga amandla anzima anokukhula kubudlelwane obunjalo.
Umdaniso othambileyo we-hypersensitivity kunye ne-narcissism
hypersensitivity, njengoko kuchazwe nguDkt. Elaine Aron, luphawu oluchaphazela malunga ne-15-20% yabemi. Abantu abanobuntununtunu kakhulu (HSP) bayazamkela ngakumbi izivuseleli zokusingqongileyo nezeemvakalelo. Badla ngokucubungula ulwazi nzulu ngakumbi, babe novelwano ngakumbi, kwaye bazive iimvakalelo ngokugqithisileyo.
Kwelinye icala, i-pathological narcissism sisifo sobuntu esibonakaliswa sisidingo esigqithisileyo sokunconywa, ukungabi naluvelwano kunye notyekelo lokuxhaphaza abanye. Xa umntu onovelwano kakhulu engena kubudlelwane ne-narcissist, iziphumo zinokuba buhlungu.
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Iimpawu ezixelayo zobudlelwane obuyityhefu phakathi kwe-hypersensitive kunye ne-narcissist
Ukuqaphela iimpawu zobudlelwane be-Qtoxic kubalulekile kubasetyhini abane-hypersensitive. Nazi ezinye izikhombisi onokuzijonga:
- Ukunganyanzelwa rhoqo kweemvakalelo
- Ukuphathwa rhoqo ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukusebenzisa uvakalelo njengobuthathaka
- Imijikelo yokuthotywa kwexabiso kunye nokuqinisekisa
- Ukunqongophala kovelwano kwiimfuno zePHS
Impembelelo eyonakalisayo kwi-self-esteem yabasetyhini abane-hypersensitive
Abasetyhini abanovelwano kakhulu kubudlelwane kunye narcissists banokuchaphazeleka kumonakalo omkhulu kukuzithemba kwabo. I-narcissist idla ngokuxhaphaza ubuntu kunye novelwano lweqabane lakhe, ibangela ukuba athandabuze kunye nemibono yakhe. Oku kuguquguquka kunokukhokelela ku:
- Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba
- Ukwanda kokuxhalaba kunye nokudakumba
- Ukuziva ungoneli
- Ubunzima bokuseka imida enempilo
Umgibe wovelwano: Kutheni abantu abanovelwano kakhulu bengakhuselekanga kwi-narcisists?
Abantu abanovelwano kakhulu, ngenxa yesimo sabo sovelwano kunye nomnqweno wokukholisa, banokujoliswa lula kwii-narcisists. Umkhwa wabo woku:
- Zive ngokunzulu iimvakalelo zabanye
- Zama ukuphepha ungquzulwano
- Ukufuna “ukulungisa” okanye “ukugcina” iqabane labo
inokubenza babe sesichengeni ngakumbi kubuchule obukhohlisayo bama-narcissists.
Ukuqhawula uMjikelo: Amacebo okuQhawula kuBudlelwane obunobutyhefu
Kubafazi abanovelwano kakhulu ababanjwe kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist, ukwaphula umjikelo kunokubonakala kungenakugqithiswa. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokuqalisa ukukhululeka:
- Qaphela iipateni ezinetyhefu
- Misela imida eqinileyo kwaye uyigcine
- Hlakulela uThungelwano lweNkxaso olomeleleyo
- Ziqhelise ukuba novelwano nokuzikhathalela
- Funa uncedo kwingcali ejongene nokwenzakala kubudlelwane
Ukwakha kwakhona isazisi sakho: Indlela eya empilweni ye-hypersensitive
Emva kokuzikhulula kubudlelwane obuyityhefu, inkqubo yokuphilisa kunye nokuphinda ufumane kwakhona ingaqala. Olu hambo lubandakanya:
- Ukuhlangana kwakhona neemfuno zakho kunye neminqweno
- Ukufunda ukuziqinisekisa okunempilo
- Ukubhiyozelwa kobuntununtunu bomntu njengamandla
- Ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nokulinganisela
IiNzuzo ezifihlakeleyo ze-Hypersensitivity ekuBuyiseni
Nangona i-hypersensitivity inokuthi ibonakale ngathi sengozini, inokuba yinto ebalulekileyo kwinkqubo yokuphilisa. Abantu abane-Hypersensitive bahlala bene:
- Umthamo omkhulu wokuzihlola
- Intuition ebukhali
- Uvelwano olunzulu olunokuthi lujoliswe kuwe
- Ukudala okunokuthi kuhanjiswe kwintetho kunye nokuphilisa
Ukujonga uBudlelwane bexesha elizayo: Izifundo zokuBuyisa ngokuNtunukelayo
Kwabasetyhini abanovelwano kakhulu abaye basinda kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissist, ukusondela kubudlelwane obutsha kunokoyikisa. Nanga amanye amacebiso okuqhubela phambili:
- Thatha ixesha lokupholisa ngaphambi kokuba wenze kwakhona
- Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu ezilumkisa kwangaphambili
- Xela ngokucacileyo iimfuno zakho kunye nemida
- Khetha amaqabane axabisa kwaye ahloniphe ubuntununtunu
Ukubaluleka kwenkxaso yobungcali kwinkqubo yokuphilisa
Indlela eya ekuchacheni kubudlelwane obuyityhefu idla ngokuntsonkotha kwaye ihlawulwe ngokweemvakalelo. Yiloo nto inkxaso yobungcali ibalulekile. Ingcali yokunyanga inokunceda:
- Ukunyanga iimvakalelo trauma
- Phuhlisa iindlela zokuhlangabezana nezempilo
- Yomeleza ukuzithemba
- Funda ukwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo.
Isiphelo: Yamkela ubuntununtunu bakho ngelixa uzikhusela
Ukuba ngumntu obuthathaka kakhulu kwihlabathi elingasoloko uluqonda olu phawu kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi emva kokuba nobudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye ne-narcissist. Nangona kunjalo, ngenkxaso efanelekileyo, ukuqonda kunye nezixhobo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ungagcini nje ukubuyisela kumava anjalo, kodwa uphumelele.
Undoqo kukuqonda ukuba ubuntununtunu bakho bunamandla, hayi ubuthathaka. Ikuvumela ukuba uphile kwaye uthande ngokunzulu, ube nobuchule kwaye ube nengqondo. Ngokufunda ukumisela imida enempilo, ziqinisekise, kwaye ukhethe ubudlelwane obunondla umphefumlo wakho kunokuba buwukhuphe, unokudala ubomi obutyebi, obunelisayo.
Khumbula, xa abantu ababini abanovelwano kakhulu bedibana, inokuba yinto entle – okoko nje omabini amaqabane esempilweni ngokwasemoyeni kwaye ekwazi ukuvelana. Uhambo lwakho lokuphilisa alukulungiseleli kuphela ubudlelwane obungcono bexesha elizayo, kodwa kunye nobudlelwane obunzulu, obunothando kunye nawe.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.