Wenze isigqibo senkalipho sokuqhawula ubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakho le-narcissistic. Sivuyisana nawe ngeli nyathelo libalulekileyo lokuphiliswa kwakho kunye nenkululeko yeemvakalelo! Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba i-narcissist ayizukusamkela isigqibo sakho ngaphandle kokusabela. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga nzulu izinto ezi-3 ezenziwa ngunarcissist xa uqhawula unxibelelwano. Ngokuzilungiselela la maqhinga, uya kuxhotyiswa ngcono ukugcina imida yakho kwaye uqhubeke nendlela yakho eya kubomi obuzalisekileyo.
Iphulo le-smear: xa i-narcissist izama ukungcolisa igama lakho
Enye yeempendulo zokuqala ze-narcissist ekuqhawukeni koqhagamshelwano rhoqo kukusungula iphulo le-disparagement ngokuchasene nawe. Esi sicwangciso sijonge ukukugxeka phakathi kwabo bakungqongileyo kunye nokugcina umfanekiso wakho.
Kutheni i-narcissist isebenzisa eli qhinga?
I-narcissist ifuna:
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- Ukulawula ibali lobudlelwane bakho kunye nokwahlukana
- Zibonise njengexhoba lemeko
- Ukushukumisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nenethiwekhi yakho yenkxaso
Libonakala njani iphulo lokutyhaphaza?
I-narcissist inoku:
- Ukusasaza amarhe kunye nobuxoki ngawe
- Ukuqhagamshelana nabahlobo bakho, usapho okanye oogxa bakho ukubanika ingxelo egqwethekileyo yeenyani
- Ukusebenzisa imidiya yoluntu ukuze uzingcolise esidlangalaleni
Indlela yokujongana nayo?
- Hlala unesidima kwaye ungaphenduli xa ucatshukiswa
- Balumkise abo basondeleyo kuwe ngale meko ukuze bangaphenjelelwa
- Gxila ekuziphiliseni kunokukhusela igama lakho
Iinzame zokuphinda uqhagamshele: “ukuhovering” okanye ubugcisa bokukufunxa ubuyele phakathi
I”ukuhovha“, ethiywe ngophawu lwesicoci sevacuum, bubuchule obusetyenziswa ngabahlaseli ukuzama ukukubuyisela kubudlelwane bakho. Eli qhinga lingathatha iindlela ezininzi, ukusukelaukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelokwizithembiso zotshintsho.
Iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ze “hoovering”
I-narcissist inoku:
- Ndikuthumelele imiyalezo engathandekiyo malunga namaxesha amnandi
- Uzenza ngathi utshintshile kwaye uvuma iimpazamo zakho
- Ukusebenzisa iimeko zonxunguphalo (zokwenyani okanye ezenyani) ukuqhagamshelana nawe
- Ukukwenza umnyama ngokwasemphefumlweni ngokugrogrisa ukuzenzakalisa
Kutheni i-narcissist isebenzisa eli qhinga?
- Ukufumana kwakhona ulawulo phezu kwakho
- Ukwanelisa imfuno yakhe yokuqwalaselwa kunye nokuqinisekiswa
- Ukuphepha ukujongana neengxaki zakho kunye nokungaqiniseki
Indlela yokumelana ne “hoovering”?
- Bambelela ngokuqinileyo kwisigqibo sakho sokuqhawula unxibelelwano
- Vala zonke iindlela zonxibelelwano ezinokubakho
- Khumbula ukuba kutheni wenze isigqibo sokuhamba
- Zingqonge ngabantu abanenkathalo abakuxhasayo
Ukwandiswa: xa i-narcissist iqhubeka nokuhlasela
Ukuba amaqhinga amabini okuqala akasebenzi, i-narcissist inokuthi iqhubele phambili kwisigaba esinobundlobongela. Oku kunyuka kunokuthatha iindlela ezahlukeneyo kwaye kujonge ukukukhubaza ukuze ukwenze uqhekeke.
Iindlela ezinokwenzeka zokunyuka
I-narcissist inoku:
- Ukuqinisa ukuxhatshazwa (iminxeba, imiyalezo, ubukho bomzimba)
- Ukoyikisa ngokuveza ulwazi lomntu siqu okanye olubeka esichengeni
- Ukumangalela ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo
- Ukuzibandakanya kwizenzo ezisongelayo okanye ezinobundlobongela
Kutheni i-narcissist ifikelela kweli nqanaba?
- Ngenxa yodano lokungayifumani le ayifunayo
- Ukuzama ukwenza ukuba usabele kwaye ukwaphule ukuthula
- Ukuze anelise imfuno yakhe yolawulo namandla
Indlela yokuzikhusela xa ukhwela?
Ukuzikhusela:
- Bhala zonke iziganeko (imiyalezo, iminxeba, izoyikiso)
- Ungalibazisi ukufaka isikhalazo ukuba uziva usengozini
- Yomeleza ukhuseleko lwakho (ukutshintsha kwezitshixo, iikhamera)
- Fumana uncedo kwigqwetha ukuba kuyimfuneko
Ukuqukumbela: hlala womelele xa ujongene neentshukumo zenarcissist
Ukuqhawula unxibelelwano kunye ne-narcissist sisigqibo esinesibindi, kodwa sisiqalo sendlela eya kwi-emotional ukuzimela yakho. Ngokuqonda izinto ezi-3 ezenziwa ngumntu onama-narcissist xa uqhawula unxibelelwano-iphulo lokutyabeka, ukuzama ukudibanisa kwakhona, kunye nokunyuka – uya kukulungela ngcono ukujongana nale mingeni.
Khumbula ukuba ezi ndlela zokuziphatha aziyiyo imbonakalo yexabiso lakho, kodwa kunokuba iinzame ezifunayo ze-narcissist zokugcina zikubambe. Hlala uqinile kwisigqibo sakho, zingqonge ngabantu abanenkathalo, kwaye ugxile ekuphilisweni kwakho nasekukhuleni kwakho.
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva amaxesha okuthandabuza okanye ubuthathaka. Ukuguqulwa kweNarcissistic kushiya amanqaku anzulu kwaye ukuphiliswa kuthatha ixesha. Yiba nomonde kwaye ube nobubele kuwe. Yonke imini yokungaqhagamshelwana luloyiso kunye nenyathelo elinye elikufutshane nenkululeko yakho. Khumbula ukuba uzinakekele ngexesha le nkqubo. Unyango, ukucamngca, umthambo okanye ubuchule bokuyila kunokuba zizixhobo ezintle zokuphinda unxibelelane nawe kunye nokwakha ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ufanelwe bubomi obuzaliswe luthando lokwenyani, intlonipho kunye nolonwabo. Musa ukuvumela izenzo ze-narcissist zikwenze uthandabuze ukhetho lwakho. Ngexesha kunye nenkxaso efanelekileyo, uya kuyoyisa le miqobo kwaye wakhe ubomi obunelisayo obukufaneleyo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.