Wenze isinqumo sesibindi sokunqamula ubudlelwano nozakwenu othanda i-narcissistic. Siyakuhalalisela ngalesi sinyathelo esibalulekile esiya ekuphulukisweni kwakho nasekukhululekeni ngokomzwelo! Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi i-narcissist ngeke isamukele isinqumo sakho ngaphandle kokusabela. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola ngokujulile izinto ezi-3 i-narcissist ezenzayo lapho unqamula ukuxhumana. Ngokulungiselelwa la maqhinga, uzohlonyiswa kangcono ukugcina imikhawulo yakho futhi uqhubeke nendlela yakho eya ekuphileni okugcwele.
Umkhankaso we-smear: lapho i-narcissist izama ukungcolisa isithunzi sakho
Enye yezindlela zokuqala umuntu othanda ukuzikhukhumeza asabela ngazo lapho ehlukana nokuxhumana ngokuvamile ukuqala umkhankaso ukuphika ngokumelene nawe. Leli qhinga lihlose ukukuhlambalaza emehlweni abantu abakuzungezile nokuvikela isithombe sakhe.
Kungani umgadli esebenzisa leli qhinga?
I-narcissist ifuna:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ukulawula ukulandisa kobudlelwane bakho nokuhlukana
- Ziveze njengesisulu sesimo
- Ukunyakazisa ukuzethemba kwakho kanye nenethiwekhi yakho yosekelo
Ubonakala kanjani umkhankaso we-smear?
I-narcissist ingakwazi:
- Ukusabalalisa amahlebezi namanga ngawe
- Ukuxhumana nabangani bakho, umndeni noma ozakwenu ukuze ubanikeze inguqulo ehlanekezelwe yamaqiniso
- Ukusebenzisa inkundla yezokuxhumana ukuze uzingcolise esidlangalaleni
Ungabhekana kanjani nakho?
- Hlala uhloniphekile futhi ungaphenduli lapho ucasulwa
- Xwayisa osondelene nawe ngalesi simo ukuze bangathonywa
- Gxila ekulapheni wena kunokuvikela isithunzi sakho
Imizamo yokukuxhuma kabusha: “ukugxumagxuma” noma ubuciko bokukuncela futhi
the ” ukuhova“Isu ‘lokusunduza’, eliqanjwe ngegama lomkhiqizo wokuhlanza i-vacuum, liyindlela esetshenziswa abantu abathanda ukuzikhukhumeza ukuzama ukukubuyisela ebuhlotsheni. Leli qhinga lingathatha izinhlobo eziningi, kusukela ku- ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo ezithembisweni zoshintsho.
Izinhlobo ezahlukene ze-hoovering
I-narcissist ingakwazi:
- Ikuthumelele imilayezo engalindelekile mayelana nezikhathi ezimnandi
- Ukwenza sengathi ushintshile futhi uvuma amaphutha akho
- Ukusebenzisa izimo eziphuthumayo (zangempela noma eziqanjiwe) ukuxhumana nawe
- Ukukuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo ngokukusabisa ngokuzilimaza
Kungani umgadli esebenzisa leli qhinga?
- Ukuze uphinde ukwazi ukulawula wena
- Ukuze anelise isidingo sakhe sokunakwa nokuqinisekiswa
- Ukuze ugweme ukubhekana nezinkinga zakho kanye nokungazethembi
Indlela yokugwema “ukukhuphuka”?
- Bambelela ngokuqinile esinqumweni sakho sokunqamula othintana naye
- Vimba zonke izindlela zokuxhumana ezingaba khona
- Khumbula ukuthi kungani unqume ukuhamba
- Zizungeze ngabantu abakhathalelayo abakwesekayo
Ukwenyuka: lapho i-narcissist iqhubeka nokuhlasela
Uma amaqhinga amabili okuqala engasebenzi, i-narcissist ingase iqhubekele esigabeni esinolaka. Lokhu kukhuphuka kungathatha izinhlobo ezahlukahlukene futhi kuhloswe ukukuthuntubeza ukuze kukwenze uphuke.
Izinhlobo ezingenzeka zokukhuphuka
I-narcissist ingakwazi:
- Qinisa ukuhlukumeza (izingcingo, imilayezo, ukuba khona ngokomzimba)
- Sabisa ngokudalula ulwazi lomuntu siqu noma olufaka engozini
- Ukumangalela ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene
- Ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okusabisayo noma okunodlame
Kungani i-narcissist ifinyelela kuleli phuzu?
- Ngokudinwa engakutholi lokho akufunayo
- Ukuzama ukwenza usabele futhi aphule ukuthula
- Ukuze anelise isidingo sakhe sokulawula namandla
Ungazivikela kanjani lapho ukhuphuka?
Ukuze uzivikele:
- Bhala phansi zonke izigameko (imiyalezo, izingcingo, izinsongo)
- Ungangabazi ukufaka isikhalazo uma uzizwa usengozini
- Qinisa ukuphepha kwakho (ukushintsha izingidi, amakhamera)
- Thola usizo kummeli uma kunesidingo
Isiphetho: hlala uqinile lapho ubhekene nezinselele ze-narcissist
Ukunqamula ukuxhumana ne-narcissist kuyisinqumo esinesibindi, kodwa kumane kuyisiqalo sendlela eya kuwe. ukuzimela ngokomzwelo. Ngokuqonda izinto ezi-3 i-narcissist ezenzayo lapho unqamula ukuxhumana naye – umkhankaso we-smear, imizamo yokuxhuma kabusha, kanye nokwenyuka – uzobe ukulungele kangcono ukubhekana nalezi zinselele.
Khumbula ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha akukona ukuvezwa kokubaluleka kwakho, kodwa kunalokho imizamo ka-narcissist yokugcina ibambelele kuwe. Hlala uqinile esinqumweni sakho, uzungeze nabantu abakhathalelayo, futhi ugxile ekwelapheni kwakho nasekukhuleni kwakho.
Kuvamile ukuzwa izikhathi zokungabaza noma zobuthakathaka. Ukukhwabanisa kweNarcissistic kushiya amamaki ajulile futhi ukuphulukiswa kuthatha isikhathi. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe. Zonke izinsuku zokungathinteki ziwukunqoba nesinyathelo esisodwa sokusondela enkululekweni yakho. Khumbula ukuzinakekela phakathi nale nqubo. Ukwelapha, ukuzindla, ukuvivinya umzimba noma ubuciko kungaba amathuluzi amahle okuxhumana nawe futhi wakhe kabusha ukuzethemba kwakho.
Ufanelwe ukuphila okugcwele uthando lwangempela, inhlonipho nenjabulo. Ungavumeli izenzo ze-narcissist zikwenze ungabaze ukukhetha kwakho. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi nokusekelwa okufanele, uzonqoba lezi zithiyo futhi wakhe impilo eyanelisayo ekufanele.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.