Uqikelelo lwezengqondo nguindlela yokuzikhuselaentsonkothileyo enokuba neziphumo ezibi kwabo bajolise kuyo. Ukuba lixhoba lokuqikelelwa ngokwasemoyeni kunokuba yinto ephazamisa kakhulu kwaye iyabhidisa. Eli nqaku liphonononga ngokweenkcukacha le nto, imvelaphi yayo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo kunye neempembelelo zayo kubantu abajongene nayo.
Yintoni uqikelelo ngokwasengqondweni?
Uqikelelo lwengqondo yindlela yokuzikhusela engekho zingqondweni apho umntu athi iingcinga, iimvakalelo, okanye indlela yokuziphatha engamkelekanga komnye umntu. Le nkqubo ivumela umntu ukuba azikhusele kwiimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo okanye ezoyikisayo ngokuzijolisa kwabanye.
Kumxholo wobudlelwane be-narcissistic, uqikelelo luxhaphake ngakumbi. Abantu be-Narcissistic, abane-ego e-ego, bahlala besebenzisa le ndlela yokugcina ukuzithemba kwe- kwaye baphephe ukujongana neziphoso zabo okanye iingxabano zangaphakathi.
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Imvelaphi yentelekelelo yengqondo
Uqikelelo lufumana iingcambu zalo kwiithiyori ze-psychoanalytic zikaFreud kunye nabalandelayo. Ithathwa njengenye yeendlela zokuzikhusela ze-ego, ezisebenza ukukhusela umntu kwiingcinga ezinganyamezelekiyo okanye iimvakalelo.
Kubantu be-narcissistic, uqikelelo luba sisixhobo esibalulekileyo sokugcina umfanekiso wabo wobuqu. Bengakwazi ukububona ubuthathaka babo okanye indlela yokuziphatha eyingxaki, bazifaka kwabanye, bedala inyani egqwethiweyo ehambelana nendlela abazijonga ngayo.
Ukubonakaliswa kwentelekelelo yengqondo
Uqikelelo lungathatha iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunxibelelwano lwemihla ngemihla. Nantsi imizekelo eqhelekileyo:
- Ukutyhola omnye ngokuxoka okanye ukukhohlisa xa iprojektha ethatha ezi ndlela zokuziphatha
- Ukunika omnye umntu iimvakalelo (umsindo, ikhwele) iprojekti aziva ngayo ngokwakhe
- Xoxa iimpawu zomlinganiswa kwabanye ezingenakuzamkela iprojektha kuye ngokwakhe
Ezi zityholo zihlala zimangalisa kwaye zididekile kwixhoba, kuba azihambelani nobunyani bazo obuphilayo.
Impembelelo kumaxhoba entelekelelo yengqondo
Ukuhlala kujoliswe kuko kuqikelelo kunokuba neziphumo ezibalulekileyo kwintlalontle yomntu ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo.
- Ukubhideka kunye nokuzithandabuza
Amaxhoba oqikelelo adla ngokuzifumana ekwimo yokubhideka okukhulu. Bejamelene nezityholo ezingenasihlahla kodwa zichazwa njengeziyinyaniso, basenokuqalisa ukuthandabuza indlela abazijonga ngayo izinto. Oku kubhideka kunokukhupha ukuzithemba kwabo kunye nokukwazi kwabo ukuthembela kwisigqibo sabo.
- Uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo
Ukusoloko utyholwa ngeengcinga, iimvakalelo, okanye izenzo ezingakhiyo kunokuba luxinezeleko. Amaxhoba asenokuziva exhalabile, edane, nomsindo ngenxa yezi zityholo zingekho sikweni. Olu xinzelelo lweemvakalelo lunokuchaphazela impilo yabo yexesha elide yengqondo kunye nomzimba.
- Ubudlelwane bobudlelwane
Uqikelelo lunokonakalisa kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu. Amaxhoba asenokuziva engaqondwanga yaye ephathwa ngokungekho sikweni, nto leyo enokukhokelela kwiingxabano eziqhubekayo nokuqhawuka konxibelelwano. Kwiimeko ezigqithisileyo, oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni ixhoba libe likheswa ekuhlaleni.
- Ilahleko yesazisi
Ngokusoloko bejongana nomfanekiso ogqwethekileyo wabo, amaxhoba oqikelelo anokuqalisa ukuphulukana nombono wokuba angoobani kanye. Bangakwazi ukwenza uqikelelo lwangaphakathi kwaye baqale ukuzibona ngeprism egqwethekileyo yeprojekti.
Uqikelelo njengendlela yokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Kumxholo wobudlelwane obuxhaphazayo, ngakumbi nabantu be-narcissistic, uqikelelo lunokuba luhlobo lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni. Isebenza ukugcina ulawulo phezu kwexhoba ngokusoloko liphazamisana kwaye libathintele ekubuzeni ukuziphatha komxhaphazi.
gaslighting kunye noqikelelo
Ukuqikelela kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa ne-gaslighting, olunye uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni. gaslighting kubandakanya ukwenza ixhoba lithandabuze imbono yalo yobunyani. Xa uqikelelo lusetyenziswa kunye nokukhanyiswa kwegesi, ixhoba lisenokuzifumana likwimeko yokubhideka ngokugqithiseleyo, lingakwazi ukuzithemba iingcamango neemvakalelo zalo.
Umjikelo wokuxhatshazwa
Uqikelelo lunokuba yinxalenye yomjikelo omkhulu wokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo. Umxhaphazi uveza iziphoso zakhe kwixhoba, aze ke asebenzise ezi zityholo njengesizathu sokuziphatha kakubi. Lo mjikelo unokuba nzima kakhulu ukuba ixhoba liwuqhawule.
Imiceli mngeni yokuqatshelwa kwentelekelelo
Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu kumaxhoba oqikelelo kukuqonda okwenzekayo. Ekubeni iprojektha iyinkqubo engekho zingqondweni yeprojektha, unokuqiniseka ngobunyaniso bezityholo zakhe. Le nkolelo inokwenza kube nzima kwixhoba ukuba libuze olu qikelelo, ngakumbi ukuba luthanda ukuthandabuza.
Ukongeza, ngenxa yokuba wonke umntu usebenzisa uqikelelo ukuya kwinqanaba elithile ngamanye amaxesha, kunokuba nzima ukwahlula uqikelelo lwamaxesha athile ukusuka kwipateni engaguqukiyo neyonakalisayo yokuqikelela.
Impembelelo yexesha elide lokuqikelelwa kwengqondo
Ukuvezwa ixesha elide kwingqikelelo yengqondo kunokuba neziphumo ezihlala zihleli kwixhoba, nasemva kokuba ubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo buphelile. Ezi ziphumo zinokubandakanya:
- Ubunzima obuzingisileyo bokuthembela kwisigqibo somntu
- Iingxaki zokuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba
- Utyekelo lokuthandabuza iimbono kunye neemvakalelo zikabani
- Ubunzima bokuseka kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo
- Iimpawu zoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo
Ukuphiliswa kwezi zilonda zengqondo kunokuba yinkqubo ende kwaye inzima, ehlala ifuna uncedo lwengcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, ukuba lixhoba lokuqikelelwa ngokwasengqondweni kunokuba ngamava aphazamisayo kunye nawonzakalisa kakhulu. Ukuqonda le ndlela yokukhusela kunye nemiphumo yayo linyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo kumaxhoba kwinkqubo yawo ye-healing kunye nokubuyisela ukulawula ubomi babo. Ukuqonda uqikelelo lwento eyiyo-umboniso wemiba yangaphakathi yeprojektha endaweni yenyani malunga nesiqu sakho-kunokunceda amaxhoba aqalise ukuphinda azakhe imvakalelo yawo yobuqu kunye nokuzithemba kwimbono yawo yokwenyani.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.