Umgibe we-narcissistic manipulator: Ubaleka njani kuyo?

Xa udibana nomntu onomtsalane nonenkathalo, kusenokuhenda ukuba uzivumele ungene kulwalamano. Ngelishwa, eli xesha le “honeymoon” lihlala lifihla ukuqala kokuziphatha okuyityhefu kwicala le-narcissistic manipulator. Eli nqaku lijolise ekukuncedeni ukuba uqaphele iimpawu ezilumkisayo zomgibe we-narcissistic, ukuqonda iindlela zokulawula kunye nokukukhokela kwizigaba zokwakhiwa kwakhona emva kobudlelwane obunjalo.

Ukuqaphela i-narcissistic trap: iimpawu zesilumkiso

Xa udibana nomntu onomtsalane, okhathalayo, nobonakala enothando olungagungqiyo kuwe, kusenokuhenda ukuba unikezele kulwalamano. Nangona kunjalo, eli xesha “le-honeymoon” lihlala lifihla ukuqala kokuziphatha okuyityhefu. I-narcissistic manipulator iyagqwesa kubugcisa bokuhenda, isebenzisa ubuchule obunje:

• “love bombing“: ukulangazelela kunye nengqalelo egqithisileyo, enokubonakala ngathi inothando ekuqaleni
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqwalaselwa kunye nokuqinisekiswa
• Utyekelo lokuzahlula iqabane lakho kubantu abakungqongileyo

Ezi ziphatha zinokubonakala zithandana ekuqaleni, kodwa ngokwenene zifihla umnqweno wokulawula kunye nokukhwabanisa.

Umjikelo we-infernal wokuthotywa kwexabiso

Nje ukuba “ubanjwe,” i-narcissistic manipulator iqala ukutshintsha ngokuthe ngcembe indlela yakhe yokuziphatha. Isigaba sokuhlalutya sifaka phakathi, esibonakala ngokugxekwa, ukugculelwa kunye nokungaqwalaseli rhoqo. Ngokuthe ngcembe uziva uphoxwa, de uthotywe isidima. Eli qhinga lijolise ekukwenzeni buthathaka kwaye likwenze uzithandabuze, likwenza kube nzima ukwenza isigqibo sokushiya obu budlelwane bunetyhefu. Gaslighting, ebandakanya ukubuza umbuzo ngembono yakho yokwenyani, iba sisixhobo esithandwayo se-narcissistic manipulator ukuze uqhubele phambili ukudodobalisa.

Ukwahlukaniswa, ubuchule bokulawula ngobuqhophololo

Ecaleni kokuthotywa kwexabiso, i-narcissistic manipulator ibeka iindlela zokuzihlukanisa kwintlalontle.

• I-denigration yabathandekayo bakho ukuba ikunqumle kwinkxaso yakho yentlalo
• Ukuncipha ngokuthe ngcembe kwesangqa sakho sentlalo

Esi sicwangciso sijolise ekwenzeni ukuba uxhomekeke kuye kwaye womeleze impembelelo yakhe. Emva koko uzifumana unqunyulwe emhlabeni, ngaphandle kwezixhobo zokufumana.

Impembelelo yezemali, uhlobo lokubanjwa

Ulawulo lwezemali sesinye isixhobo solawulo olusetyenziswa ngokubanzi yi-narcissistic manipulator. Usenokuqalisa ngokukuhlawulela iindleko zakho, akukhuthaze ukuba uwuyeke umsebenzi wakho okanye uyeke ukusebenza. Ngokuthe ngcembe, uyakuthintela ukufikelela kwakho emalini, ngaloo ndlela ekwenza uthinjwe kulwalamano. Ngaphandle kwezixhobo zakho, kuba nzima kakhulu ukucwangcisa ubomi obuzimeleyo. Umbhexeshi we-narcissistic usenokukugrogrisa ngokukuhlutha yonke inkxaso yemali ukuba uzama ukumshiya.

Ukwaphula umjikelo wolawulo: amanqanaba okwakha ngokutsha

Xa uzifumana ukwizandla zomxhaphazi we-narcissistic, inyathelo lokuqala kukwazi ubunyani bemeko. Ngaphandle kwamaqhinga akhohlisayo, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba awunaxanduva ngento eyenzekayo kuwe. Okulandelayo, kubalulekile ukuseka kwakhona unxibelelwano lwentlalo kwaye uphinde uqhagamshelane nabo bakungqongileyo, uchaze ngokuzolileyo oko utyhubela kuko.

Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane inkxaso exabisekileyo yangaphandle. Kwangaxeshanye, kubalulekile ukuba uzijikeleze ngeengcali (iingcali zonyango, imibutho yokuxhasa amaxhoba) abanokuxhasa kwinkqubo yakho yokwakha ngokutsha.

Buyisela ubomi bakho kwakhona: izicwangciso ezibambekayo

Ukuzikhulula kwimpembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator, kuya kufuneka ukuba ngokuthe ngcembe uphinde ufumane ukuzimela kwakho ngokwasemalini nangokweemvakalelo.

• Fumana umsebenzi okanye uzenzele ukonga
• Sukela kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, kude nempembelelo yeqabane lakho

Eli nyathelo linokuba buthathaka ngakumbi, kuba i-narcissistic manipulator inokoyikisa. Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukukhatshwa kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo ayimfuneko okhuseleko lwakho.

Zinyamekele ukuze uzakhe kwakhona ngcono

Emva kokufumana ubudlelwane obunjalo be-toxic, kubalulekile ukuba uzinike ixesha kunye nengqalelo ukuze uzakhe kwakhona. Zinike ixesha lekhefu, ukutshaja iibhetri zakho, kude noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo oluveliswa lubudlelwane.

Unakekele impilo yakho yomzimba kunye nengqondo, qhagamshelana neengcali ukuba kuyimfuneko. Funda ukuzithemba kwakhona, zibekele imida yakho kwaye uqiniseke. Eli nqanaba lokwakha kwakhona linokuba lide kwaye linzima, kodwa liya kukuvumela ukuba uphinde ufumane amandla kunye nokuzithemba.

Uthintelo lokuphilisa ngcono: phakamisa ulwazi phakathi kwabo bakungqongileyo

Xa ubunobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator, kubalulekile ukwabelana ngamava akho kwaye wenze abo bakungqongileyo bazi ezi dynamics zinetyhefu. Oku kunokunceda abanye babone iimpawu ezilumkisayo baze bakuphephe ukuwela kumgibe ofanayo. Ukongeza, ukuthetha ngokuphandle malunga nento oye wadlula kuyo kunokuba yinxalenye ephambili yokuphilisa, ukwaphula ukuthula kunye neentloni ezihlala zinxulunyaniswa nezi meko.

Ukuqukumbela

Ekugqibeleni, umgibe we-narcissistic yinyani enzima, efuna umsebenzi wokwazisa, ukwakhiwa kwakhona kunye nokuthintela kwicala lamaxhoba. Ngesikhokelo kunye nenkxaso, kuyenzeka ukuba uzikhulule kule mpembelelo kwaye ube yinkosi yobomi bakho kwakhona. Ungalibazisi ukufuna uncedo kwiingcali kunye nabo bakungqongileyo ukuqalisa le nkqubo yokuphilisa.

👇 Ukuya phambili:

• UNgaphantsi kwempembelelo ye-narcissistic manipulator-Ubaleka njani?
• Baleka kumgibe wonxantathu kunye ne-narcissistic pervert
• Ukusuka kokungahoywa ngokweemvakalelo ukuya kumgibe we-narcissistic pervert