Ukuphulukiswa kwangaphakathi nokuvumela ukuhamba ngemva kobudlelwane ne-PN

Ukushiya ubuhlobo nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile kushiya amanxeba ajulile futhi ahlala njalo. Indlela eya ekwelapheni kwangaphakathi nokudedela ingase ibonakale iyinde futhi inzima, kodwa kubalulekile ukubuyisela ibhalansi futhi uchume futhi. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola izinyathelo ezibalulekile zokuqala le nqubo yokuphulukisa futhi sifunde ukuyeka, ukuze uzakhe kabusha futhi uqhubekele phambili ngokuthula ubheke empilweni entsha.

Qonda umthelela we-narcissistic pervert enhlalakahleni yakho

Isinyathelo sokuqala ekwelapheni siwukubona izinga lomonakalo odalwe ubuhlobo obunobuthi. Abahlanekezeli beNarcissistic bavame ukukhohlisa, ukunciphisa inani futhi basole izisulu zabo, okungaholela kulokhu:

• Ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba komuntu siqu namakhono akhe
• Umuzwa wecala nehlazo unomphela
• Ubunzima bokwethemba abanye
• a ukuqapha ngokweqile nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo
• Ukulahlekelwa ama-bearings kanye nobunikazi

Ukuqaphela le miphumela kubalulekile ukuze ukwazi unqobe futhi uqale umsebenzi wangempela wokuphulukisa kwangaphakathi.

Yamukela ubuqiniso besimo ukuze udedele kangcono

Obunye bobunzima obukhulu ngemva kobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ukwamukela iqiniso lalokho okwenzekile. Kuvamile ukufuna ukunciphisa noma ukuthethelela ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, noma ukuthemba ushintsho olungasoze lwenzeke. Ukuze uqhubekele phambili, kufanele:

• Vuma ukuthi lowo muntu ngeke ashintshe
• Yazi ukuthi awunasibopho ngezenzo zabo
• Yamukela ukuthi ubudlelwano bebusekelwe emangeni nasekukhohliseni
• Qonda ukuthi ufanelwe okungcono futhi akulona iphutha lakho

Lesi sigaba sokwamukelwa sibalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukuyeka futhi uqale inqubo yakho yokuphulukisa yangaphakathi.

Ukuzijwayeza ukuzizwela ukukhuthaza ukuphulukiswa

Ngemva kokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo, kuvamile ukuzisola nokuzizwa unamahloni. Ukuze ulwe nale mizwa emibi, kubalulekile ukuthuthukisa…ukuzihawukela :

• Ziphathe ngomusa ofana nawe obungenza ngawo umngane
• Vuma ukuthi wenze konke okusemandleni akho ngamathuluzi obunawo
• Zinike ilungelo lokwenza amaphutha futhi uxolele
• Bungaza ukunqoba kwakho okuncane nenqubekelaphambili, noma ngabe kuncane kangakanani

Ukuzizwela kuyithuluzi elinamandla lokuphulukisa elizokusiza ukuthi wakhe kabusha ukuzethemba kwakho futhi uzikhulule ekubeni necala.

Misa imingcele enempilo ukuze uzivikele

Abaphendukezeli be-Narcissistic bavame ukunganaki noma ukweqa imingcele yabanye. Ukufunda ukusungula kanye gcina imingcele enempilo kubalulekile ekwelapheni kwakho kwangaphakathi:

• Thola izidingo zakho siqu kanye nezindinganiso
• Veza ngokucacile imikhawulo yakho kwabanye
• Funda ukwenqaba ngaphandle kokuzizwa unecala
• Hlukana nabantu abanobuthi abangayihloniphi imingcele yakho

Ngokubeka imingcele ecacile, uphinda ulawule impilo yakho futhi uzivikele ekuhlukunyezweni esikhathini esizayo.

Prakthiza ukuhlukana kwemizwa ukuze uyeke

Ukuzihlukanisa kwemizwa kuyindlela enamandla yokuzikhulula nokuzikhulula ethonyeni le-narcissistic pervert:

• Qaphela imizwa yakho ngaphandle kokuyihlulela
• Thatha isinyathelo emuva ezimweni ezinzima
• Yeka ukuzizwa unesibopho ngemizwa nezenzo zabanye
• Gxila kulokho ongakwazi ukukulawula: imicabango nezenzo zakho siqu

Ukuhlukaniswa kwemizwelo kuzokuvumela ukuthi uthole ukuthula futhi uzikhulule kancane kancane ethonyeni elinobuthi le-narcissistic pervert.

Yakha kabusha ubuwena futhi uthole kabusha izinkanuko zakho

Ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kuvamile ukuzizwa ulahlekile futhi unqanyuliwe kuwe. Ukuze ululame, kubalulekile:

• Zitholele kabusha izinto ozithakaselayo nezithandayo
• Hlola imisebenzi emisha ekwenza uzizwe ujabule
• Xhuma kabusha ngamavelu akho kanye nezifiso zakho
• Zizungeze ngabantu abakhathalelayo abakwesekayo

Ngokuzihlanganisa kabusha nawe nalokho okukushayelayo, kancane kancane uzophinde uthole ukuzethemba namandla okuqhubekela phambili.

Ukuhlakulela ukucabangela ukuze unciphise ukukhathazeka

Ukucabangela kuwumkhuba ongaba nomthelela omkhulu ekwelapheni kwakho kwangaphakathi:

• Funda ukuziqinisa kulesi sikhathi samanje
• Qaphela imicabango yakho ngaphandle kokunamathela kuyo
• Prakthiza ukuphefumula okunengqondo ukuze wehlise ukukhathazeka
• Yakha isimo sengqondo sokwamukela nokungahluleli

Ukucabangela kuzokusiza ukuthulisa ingqondo yakho futhi uthole umuzwa wokuthula kwangaphakathi.

Guqula intukuthelo ibe amandla okushayela

Intukuthelo iwumuzwa ovamile ngemva kokuhlukunyezwa, kodwa ingaba yingozi uma ingasingathwa ngendlela efanele. Funda uku:

• Qaphela futhi wamukele intukuthelo yakho ngaphandle kokuyicindezela
• Ukuveza intukuthelo yakho ngendlela enempilo futhi eyakhayo
• Ukusebenzisa Amandla Entukuthelo Ukukugqugquzela Ukuqhubekela Phambili
• Guqula umuzwa wakho ongemuhle ube wukufunda namandla

Ngokuhambisa intukuthelo yakho ngendlela enhle, ungayiguqula ibe amandla anamandla oshintsho nokuphulukisa.

Zikhulule esidingweni sobulungiswa ukuze udedele ngempela

Kungokwemvelo ukufisa ukuthi umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic angajeziswa noma abone amaphutha akhe. Kodwa-ke, ukubambelela kulesi sidingo sobulungisa kungavimba ukuphulukiswa kwakho. Ukuyeka ngempela:

• Yamukela ukuthi awukwazi ukulawula izenzo zomunye noma ukuqwashisa
• Gxila ekulapheni wena kunokujezisa omunye
• Thola ezinye izindlela zokuzizwa uqinisekisiwe futhi uqashelwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho
• Themba ukuthi isikhathi sizoletha uhlobo lwaso lobulungisa

Ngokuzikhulula esidingweni sokulunga kwangaphandle, uzinika imvume yokuqhubekela phambili futhi ugxile ekukhuleni kwakho.

Bheka ikusasa ngethemba nangokuzethemba

Isinyathelo sokugcina ekwelapheni kwakho ingaphakathi ukubheka ikusasa ngethemba:

• Bona ngeso lengqondo impilo ofuna ukuyakha
• Zibekele imigomo engokoqobo nefinyelelekayo
• Bungaza Yonke Intuthuko, Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi Incane Kangakanani
• Zizungeze nabantu abaqondile abakholelwa kuwe

Ngokuba nombono omuhle wekusasa, uzinika amandla kanye nogqozi lokuqhubeka nohambo lwakho lokuphulukisa.

Isiphetho

Ukuphulukiswa kwangaphakathi kanye nokudedela ukuhamba ngemva kobudlelwane nomuntu onama-narcissist kuyinqubo edinga isikhathi, isineke kanye nozwelo. Isinyathelo ngasinye, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sincane kangakanani, sikusondeza enkululekweni engokomzwelo kanye nokuphila okugcwele. Khumbula ukuthi unamandla kunalokho okucabangayo, futhi ufanele ukujabula nokuthula. Ngokukhuthazela nomusa kuwena, unganqoba lobunzima futhi uphume unamandla futhi uhlakaniphe ngokwengeziwe.