Ukugqwethwa nguMbhexeshi weNarcissistic: Ukufumana amandla akho angaphakathi

Ukuphefumlelwa ngumntu osebenzisa i-narcissistic manipulator yingxaki ephazamisa kakhulu. THE isiporho, oku kunyamalala ngesiquphe nangokungachazwanga komntu ebomini bakho, ngamava abuhlungu. Ngequbuliso uzibhaqe uqhawulwe nomntu obucinga ukuba unobudlelwane naye, kungekho ngcaciso okanye ithuba lokuvalwa. Kodwa yazi ukuba akuwedwa yaye kunokwenzeka ukoyisa le ngxaki.

Ukuqonda iNarcissistic Ghosting

I-Ghosting liqhinga elidla ngokusetyenziswa ngabantu abasebenzisa ubuqhophololo ukuze baphinde balawule kwaye bohlwaye amaxhoba abo. Emva kokunisela ingqalelo, ukukhohlisa kunye nezithembiso ezilingayo, ziyanyamalala ngokukhawuleza ebomini bakho, zikushiye ukwimeko yokudideka kunye neentlungu ezinzulu. Le ndlela yokuziphatha ikhohlakeleyo yenzelwe ukukudodobalisa, ikwenze uzive ungabalulekanga, kwaye ikukhumbuze ngamandla abo phezu kwakho.

Nakana iimpawu ezilumkisayo zesiporho

Nangona i-ghosting ingenzeka ngequbuliso kwaye ngokungalindelekanga, ngamanye amaxesha kunokubakho iimpawu ezilumkisayo ezikulumkisayo ukuba kukho undonakele. Lumkela naluphi na utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwindlela iqabane lakho eliziphethe ngayo, elifana nomgama ngokweemvakalelo, ukuncipha konxibelelwano, okanye ukungazibophelelanga okwahlukileyo.

Xa uvakalelwa kukuba into “ayisafani nakuqala” kulwalamano lwenu, themba ithuku lakho. Nyaniseka kwaye uzilungiselele ngokwasemoyeni ukuze ube nesiporho. Oku kuya kukunceda umelane ngcono ukuba le meko ngelishwa ivela.

Zilumkele izithembiso ezingekho ngqiqweni, ukuncoma okugqithisileyo kunye nezibhengezo ezikhawulezayo zothando ezivela kwiqabane lakho. Ezi zidla ngokuba ziindlela zokulukuhla ezisetyenziswa ngabaqhubi be-narcissistic ukukuhendela emgibeni wabo, ngaphambi kokuba bakushiye ngaphandle kokuzisola.

Ukoyisa Intlungu Yokuphefumla

I-Ghosting ingaba yinto ephazamisayo, ekhokelela kwimvakalelo yokulahlwa, i-abandonment syndrome kunye nokungoneli. Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuva iintlungu ezinzulu, ukubhideka, nokuba nomsindo ngale meko. Nazi iindlela zokuphumelela kolu bunzima:

• Ubuhlungu ubudlelwane

Thatha ixesha lokuba buhlungu obu budlelwane, kunye nawo onke amathemba kunye namaphupha obubambe. Lila, khwaza, bhala kwijenali, kwaye uvumele iimvakalelo zakho zihambe. Yinkqubo efunekayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubela phambili.

• Gxila kuwe

Gxininisa kwimpilo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo neyomzimba. Zinyamekele, yenza umthambo, camngca, zingqonge abantu abanenkathalo. Kuphephe ukuzama ukunxibelelana ne-narcissistic manipulator okanye ukufuna iimpendulo- oku kuya kwandisa ukubandezeleka kwakho.

• Yiqonde imilinganiselo yakho

Khumbula ukuba isiporho asinanto yakwenza nokubaluleka kwakho njengomntu. Oku kubonisa iintsilelo ze-narcissistic manipulator, hayi eyakho. Chonga iimpawu zakho, amandla akho kunye neenjongo zakho zokuzakha kwakhona.

• Zixolele

Musa ukuzibeka ityala ngokuqhathwa okanye ukulahlwa. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uthwale ubunzima bale meko. Zixolele kwaye ube nobubele kuwe kule nkqubo yokuphilisa.

Funda kula mava omoya

Nangona ukuphefumla ngamava abuhlungu, kunokukunika ithuba lokuzomeleza nokuziguqula.

Ukuqonda iNarcissistic Dynamics

Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu ze-narcissistic manipulators kunye neendlela zabo zokukhohlisa. Olu lwazi luya kukunceda uqonde ngcono okwenzekileyo kwaye ungaziva unetyala. Kwakhona uya kukwazi ukuchonga ngcono ukuziphatha kwe-toxic kwixesha elizayo.

Yenza uphando, funda ubungqina kwaye uzifundise nge-narcissistic dynamics. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uthathe inyathelo emva kwaye ungaphindi uzive unoxanduva kwimeko.

Phuhlisa ukomelela kwakho

Ukutyhubela le ngxaki kuya kukuvumela ukuba ukhulise amandla angaphakathi kunye nokomelela. Uya kufunda ukuzazi ngcono, ukuseka imida enempilo kwaye uzithembe. La mava aya kuba lithuba lokuhlakulela ukuzimela kwakho kunye nokuzimela ngokweemvakalelo.

Zingce ngawe ngokoyisa le ngxaki. Inyathelo ngalinye eliya phambili kwimpiliso yakho luloyiso lokubhiyozela.

Fumana intsingiselo kula mava

Ngokuhamba kwexesha, zama ukuqonda la mava abuhlungu. Yintoni onokuyifumana kuyo malunga nokukhula komntu? Unokusisebenzisa njani esi sifundo ukuze ukhule ngakumbi?

Jonga le ngxaki njengethuba lokuzichaza kwakhona, ukuqinisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye uzakhe kwakhona ngokweenqobo zakho, kwaye ungabi sazi ukuba iqabane lakho langaphambili lizama ukukunyanzelela kuwe.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic kwi-narcissistic ghosting

Nalu uluhlu lweereferensi ezisi-7 zebhayografi:

1. I- “Ukuguqulwa kwe-Narcissistic kunye neprofayili yengqondo: ukuqinisekiswa kwesayensi” nguDkt. Calonne.
2. “Ii-manipulators ze-Narcissistic: inyani yombutho? Uphononongo lwe-Semantic kunye nethiyori” ngu-J. Bernateau.
3. “IiNgcaciso zeNarcissistic” ngu-Alberto Eiguer.
4. “Ukujikeleza komzobo ‘we-narcissistic manipulator’: ifomyula, imifanekiso, i-motifs” nguClaire Burlat, uDelphine Saurier noGustavo Gomez-Mejia.
5. “Ugqweso lweNarcissistic, ingcamango eguqukayo” ngu-Alberto Eiguer.
6. I- “Izicwangciso ezigwenxa kunye ne-narcissistic yezinto zokudibanisa” nguJ. Bernateau.
7. “ii-manipulators ze-narcissistic: ukuqonda, ukuphazamisa, ukoyisa” ngu-André Sirota.

Ezi zalathisi kufuneka zikunike isiseko esiluqilima sokwenza nzulu ukuqonda kwakho indlela yokuziphatha yabenzi bobuqhetseba be-narcissistic, ngakumbi ngokunxulumene “nesiporho” kunye nezicwangciso zokukhohlisa kubudlelwane.

Isiphelo: Wazalwa ngokutsha eluthuthwini

Ukuphefumla nge-narcissistic manipulator yingxaki ebuhlungu, kodwa ikwalithuba lokuphinda uzibone kwaye uzakhe womelele kunangaphambili. Thatha ixesha lokuhamba kule nkqubo yokuphilisa ngobubele kuwe. Uya kuvela ukhulile, ulungele ukwamkela amathuba amatsha kunye nobudlelwane obutsha obunempilo.

Gcina ukhumbule ukuba ingxaki ayikho kuwe, kodwa kunye neqabane lakho langaphambili kunye nokungakwazi kwabo ukuseka ubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Ufanelwe ngcono. Themba intuition yakho, seta imida eyomeleleyo, kwaye ujikeleze abantu abanenkathalo. Ngomonde kunye nomgudu, uya kukwazi ukunqoba le ngxaki kwaye uvuke eluthuthwini, uzaliseke ngakumbi kwaye unamandla kunanini ngaphambili.