Ukuphumelela enkundleni ngokuchasene nombhexeshi we-narcissistic? Ingenzeka?

Abo basenokuba ngamaxhoba olwalamano oluyityhefu bazifumana sele bebambisekile emtshatweni. Ngethuku lemvelo sifuna indlela yokusaba xa sijamelene nokuqhathwa okuqhubekayo. Kodwa kubonakala ngathi amanyathelo anzima xa ujongene ne-narcissist, ngaba iya kuphumelela? Uza kwenza ntoni? Ngokubanzi, kunokwenzeka ukufaka isikhalazo kuye nabani na owaphula ilungelo okanye umntu.

Ingaba kunokwenzeka ukufaka isikhalazo ngokuchasene nomxhaphazi we-narcissistic?

Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ujongene ne-manipulator, ekwaziyo ukujija iwotshi ngokuthanda kwakhe. Ukutshata nomntu okhohlisayo kubangela ezinye iintlobo zokuxhatshazwa. Pha ubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nezengqondo zezona zixhaphake, ubundlongondlongo kunye nenkohlakalo yamazwi.

Kufuneka ulungele ukuphoxeka, ukuba isikhalazo sakho sinokujika kwingozi yakho, kuba ngokukhawuleza, umgqwetheki uya kuba lula ukuthatha indawo yexhoba, elithambileyo kwaye alimele liqabane lakhe. 

Ukuba ke ngoko unokungqina obu bubi, uyakwazi ukufaka isikhalazo ngokuchasene neqabane elinochuku. Ukuba unabantwana, kuya kufuneka uqhelane nombono wokubabandakanya ekudalweni kwamatyala achasene neli qabane linetyhefu.

Amanyathelo omawulandele ngaphambi kokujongana ne-PN enkundleni.

Okokuqala, ukuze ungalahleki kule vortex ye-narcissistic kunye neenkqubo zayo zomthetho zexesha elide, la manyathelo aya kukunceda ukujongana ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic ukuba uceba ukuya enkundleni.

1. Misela eyona njongo yesikhalazo sakho:

Ukwazi ukuqaphela okwenzekayo kuwe. Ingxaki ngolu hlobo lomntu kukuba ixhoba linengxaki yokujongana nenyani emva kwexesha elide lokuhlanjululwa kwengqondo. Yifake entlokweni yakho ukuba uphantsi kokuphathwa kakubi, ukuba iqabane lakho likusebenzisa kuphela ngeendlela ezikhohlakeleyo. Pha ubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweniYehova, ugonyamelo nokuthuka kusisonka semihla ngemihla.

2. Zijikeleze ngabafowunelwa:

Qhagamshelana neengcali kunye neengcali zonyango ukuze zisuse idyokhwe yokukhwabanisa. Zijikeleze nabantu obathandayo, uchithe ixesha elide kunye nabo. Oku kunokukunceda ubone izinto ngokucacileyo.

3. Zilungiselele ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni:

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuzilungiselela ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni. Injongo yangaphambili ye-narcissistic manipulator ibikukuhlambulula onke amandla kunye namandla. Zoba oku kubudlelwane bakho, iziphazamiso zakho (ezemidlalo, ukukhwela ihashe, i-spa kunye ne-massage, njl.). Inkqubo iya kuba nzima kakhulu kuwe.

Umthatha njani umntu okhohlisayo enkundleni?

Uthethelelo lwahlukile kuqhawulo-mtshato oluqhelekileyo kunye namatyala obundlobongela basekhaya.

1. Kuphephe ukumchasa ngokuthe ngqo:

Oku bekuya kuthintela ukuguquguquka kweemeko. Mnike ukhetho olukhululekileyo lokukuhlasela emva kokwazi malunga nenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato.

2. Yazisa kuphela uqhawulo-mtshato kwakamsinyane phambi kwenkqubo:

Umkhohlisi kufuneka amangaliswe xa uqhawulo-mtshato luqala. Udume ngamaqhinga akhe namajiko-jiko ukuze aphephe ukuba ngunobangela. 

3. Hlanganisa ubungqina:

Awukwazi ukufaka isikhalazo ngaphandle kobungqina enkundleni. Uya kuthi kunzima, ukuba akunakwenzeka, ukufumana ubungqina obungabonakaliyo bobundlobongela obungokwengqondo. Ingxelo yesayikholoji yakho ingakunceda ukuba wakhe ubungqina bokubakho kolu hlobo loxhatshazo.

4. Dibana namagqwetha afanelekileyo:

Ukuze amelwe ligqwetha, eli gqwetha limele ligxile kumatyala obudlelwane obuyityhefu. Isizathu sisebunzimeni bobungqina, kwaye ixhoba lizifumana likwityala elintsonkothileyo kunamaqabane esintu.

Ukuphumelela enkundleni ngokuchasene nomgibi we-narcissistic-Indima yeGqwetha

Ngamaxesha athile, ukuphumelela enkundleni ukujongana ne-narcissistic manipulator yi-utopian. Ubungqina bokwakha “kuvumelekile” ngumtshutshisi uhlala engumngeni omkhulu kwixhoba kunye negqwetha lakhe.

Ke, igqwetha lifaka esi sibongozo sokuqhawula umtshato phambi kwe-TGI yesixeko sexhoba. Uya kuba ngumcebisi kunye nomphumi-mkhosi oya kuthi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ahambe nexhoba lakhe kude kube sekupheleni kwetyala. Ngoko ke kuya kufuneka udibane A igqwetha elichasene ne-narcissistic manipulator kunye neengcali kwezi meko zodwa.

Kuba i-narcissistic manipulator iya kwenza nantoni na ukuphumelela ngokuchasene nexhoba lakhe, igqwetha kuya kufuneka liseke bonke ubungqina obuchasene nalo mva. Ubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweni abakhe bangahoywa ngoku baphathwa ngendlela efanayo nogonyamelo lwasemzimbeni. Zifakwe kumthetho omtsha kaJulayi 2010, zithatha ubundlobongela obunjalo njengetyala. (Umzekelo. izithuko kwimiyalezo, amatyala angahlawulwanga, iishifti zomsebenzi ezingahlonitshwanga ukuba unabantwana, njl.njl.)

Kutheni umqhathi we-narcissistic engafuni ukuqhawula umtshato?

Impendulo ilula kakhulu kuba sonke siyayazi le indlela yokusebenza ye-narcissistic manipulator. Akayi kukwamkela kwangoko ukoyiswa kwakhe.

Ukulangazelela ulawulo, kwe amandla kunye ne ukuphatha, i-narcissist ayiyi kukwazi ukukhupha ixhoba layo ngokulula. Ukuba ulwalamano olwenziwa ngumtshato lwenzeka, izizathu zokungawuqhawuli komtshato zikwandiswa kalishumi.

Uya kuqaphela ukuba nangexesha lezilingo, uya kuhlala efuna ukunyanzelisa i-veto yakhe, eqinisa indima yakhe njengomntu omkhulu we-pathological.

Ungamelana njani emva koqhawulo-mtshato kumntu okhohlisayo?

Ukuba uyaphumelela kwiinkqubo ezinde zoqhawulo-mtshato ngokuchasene nomxhaphazi we-narcissistic, kungenxa yokuba sele uphumelele yonke into. Ukuba inani elikhulu labantu lidibana namatyala achithwa ngumtshutshisi, ikomiti encinci inokuzibona inethamsanqa emva koko.

• Clear:

Kubalulekile ukuba ucoce ingqondo yakho. Kwisicwangciso ngokwasengqondweni, ngokomoya kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke i-spatio-temporal. Bona i-therapist kwaye uyeke bonke ubunzima obunzima kuwe. Ungaya ekhefini okanye uye kwesinye isixeko okanye kwelinye ilizwe?  

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