Uphumelele enkantolo ngokumelene ne-PN? Kungenzeka yini?

Abangase babe izisulu zobuhlobo obunobuthi bazithola bebambeke emshadweni. Ngokwemvelo sifuna indlela yokuphunyuka lapho sibhekene nokukhohlisa okuqhubekayo. Kodwa kubonakala sengathi izinyathelo ziyinkimbinkimbi uma usebenzelana ne-narcissist, ingabe izophumelela? Uzokwenzenjani? Ngokuvamile, kuyenzeka ukuthi ufake isikhalazo kunoma ubani owephula ilungelo noma umuntu.

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Kungenzeka yini ukufaka isikhalazo ngokumelene nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic?

Okokuqala, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi ubhekene ne-manipulator, ekwazi ukusonta iwashi ukuze ivune yena. Ukushada nomuntu ohlanekezelwe yi-narcissistic kudala ezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza. Lapho ubudlova obungokomzimba kanye nezengqondo yizona ezisabalele kakhulu, ulaka kanye nesihluku samazwi.

Kumelwe ulungele ukudumazeka, ukuthi isikhalazo sakho singaphendukela ekulimazeni kwakho, ngoba ngokushesha, umuntu ohlanekezelwe uzokwazi ukuthatha indawo yesisulu, emnene futhi alinyazwe umlingani wakhe. 

Ngakho-ke, uma ukwazi ukufakazela lobu bubi, uyakwazi ukufaka isikhalazo ngomlingani wakho onama-narcissistic. Uma unezingane, kufanele ujwayele umqondo wokuzifaka ekwakhiweni kwamacala amelene nalo mlingani onobuthi.

Izinyathelo okufanele uzilandele ngaphambi kokubhekana ne-PN enkantolo

Okokuqala, ukuze ungalahleki kule vortex ye-narcissistic kanye nezinqubo zayo zomthetho zesikhathi eside, lezi zinyathelo zizokusiza ukuthi ubhekane ne-narcissistic pervert uma uhlela ukuya enkantolo.

1. Nquma inhloso yesikhalazo sakho sangempela:

Khona ukuqaphela okwenzekayo kuwe. Inkinga ngalaba bantu ukuthi izisulu zabo ziyalwa nokubhekana namaqiniso ngemva kokugezwa ingqondo isikhathi eside. Qonda ukuthi uhlala ulawulwa, ukuthi umlingani wakho usebenzisa wena ngezindlela ezinonya. ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzweloUbudlova kanye nolaka ngamazwi kuyisinkwa sakho sansuku zonke.

2. Zizungeze ngabaxhumanisi:

Xhumana nochwepheshe kanye nabelaphi ukuze basuse ijoka lokukhohlisa. Zizungeze nabathandekayo bakho, uchithe isikhathi eside nabo. Lokhu kungase kukusize ubone izinto ngokucacile.

3. Zilungiselele ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba:

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzilungiselela ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Umgomo wangaphambilini we-narcissistic pervert bekuwukugeza wonke amandla namandla. Dweba lokhu ebudlelwaneni bakho, iziphazamiso zakho (ezemidlalo, ukugibela amahhashi, i-spa kanye ne-massage, njll.). Inqubo izokhathala kakhulu kuwe.

Ungayisa kanjani i-PN enkantolo?

Ukumela kuhlukile emacaleni edivosi avamile kanye namacala odlame lwasekhaya.

    1. Gwema ukuphikisana naye ngokuqondile:

Lokhu bekuyogwema ukuguquguquka kwezimo. Mnikeze inkululeko yokuzikhethela ukuthi akuhlasele ngemva kokwazi ngezinqubo zesehlukaniso.

    2. Memezela isehlukaniso ngaphambi nje kwenqubo :

Umkhohlisi kufanele amangale lapho isehlukaniso siqala. Udume ngamasu akhe nokujikajika ukuze agweme ukuba yisigebengu. 

    3. Hlanganisa ubufakazi:

Awukwazi ukufaka isikhalazo ngaphandle kobufakazi enkantolo. Uzothi kunzima, noma kungenzeki, ukuthola ubufakazi obungaphatheki bodlame olungokwengqondo olungenzeka. Umbiko wakho wesayikholoji ungakusiza ukwakha ubufakazi bokuba khona kwalolu hlobo lokuhlukumeza.

    4. Thintana nabameli abafanelekile :

Ukuze amelwe ummeli, ummeli kufanele agxile emacaleni obudlelwano obunobuthi. Isizathu sisebunzimeni bobufakazi, nokuthi isisulu sizithola sisodabeni oluyinkimbinkimbi kunomshado wendabuko.

Ukuphumelela enkantolo ngokumelene ne-PN – Indima Yommeli

ngezinye izikhathi ukunqoba enkantolo Ukubhekana nomhlukumezi ozikhukhumezayo kuyiphupho nje. Ukuqoqa ubufakazi kuyiphupho nje. “kuvumelekile” Umshushisi useyinselelo enkulu kulowo ohlukunyeziwe kanye nommeli wakhe.

Ngakho-ke, ummeli ufaka lesi sicelo sesehlukaniso phambi kwe-TGI yedolobha lesisulu. Uzoba ngumeluleki kanye neqhawe ngokungangabazeki elizophelezela isisulu sakhe kuze kube sekupheleni kwecala. Ngakho-ke uzodinga ukubonisana un ummeli ngokumelene ne-narcissistic pervert et specialisé kulezi zimo ezingazodwa.

Njengoba umqili we-narcissistic ezokwenza noma yini ukuze anqobe isisulu sakhe, ummeli kuzofanele athole bonke ubufakazi obumelene nesisulu sakhe. Udlame olungokwengqondo ababekade benganakiwe manje sebephathwa ngendlela efanayo nobudlova obungokomzimba. Zifakwe emthethweni omusha kaJulayi 2010, ubheka ubudlova obunjalo njengecala. (Isib. inhlamba emilayezweni, izikweletu ezingakhokhiwe, amashifu omsebenzi angahlonishwa uma unezingane, njll.)

Kungani i-PN ingafuni ukuhlukanisa?

Impendulo ilula kakhulu ngoba sonke siyazi modus operandi we-narcissistic pervert. Ngeke akwamukele ukuhlulwa kwakhe ngokushesha.

Emagange nokubuswa, of amandla futhi ukuxhaphaza, i-narcissist ngeke ikwazi ukukhipha isisulu sakhe kalula. Uma ubuhlobo obenzeka emshadweni senzeka, izizathu zokungahlukani nazo zanda ngokuphindwe kashumi.

Uzoqaphela ukuthi ngisho nangesikhathi sovivinyo, uyohlale efuna ukuphoqelela i-veto yakhe, eqinisa indima yakhe njengomuntu omkhulu we-pathological.

Ungabhekana kanjani nesehlukaniso nge-PN?

Uma uphumelela ezinqubweni zesehlukaniso eside ngokumelene nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic, kungenxa yokuthi usuwine konke. Uma isibalo esihle sabantu sihlangabezana namacala achithwa umshushisi, ikomidi elincane lingazibona linenhlanhla ngemva kwalokho.

• Zithulule:

Kubalulekile ukuthi uhlanze ingqondo yakho. Ohlelweni ngokwengqondo, ngokomoya futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke i-spatio-temporal. Bonana nomelaphi futhi udedele sonke isisindo esikusindayo. Ungakwazi futhi ukuya eholidini noma ukuthuthela kwelinye idolobha noma kwelinye izwe?  

• Qhubeka:

Ukuziphilisa ungumlingani ongcono kakhulu. Hamba uye phambili ungabheki emuva, ngisho noma uthatha izinyathelo ezincane kuphela. Kubeke ekhanda lakho ukuthi kungabikho muntu ozoba namandla phezu kwakho, ukuthi manje usungakwazi ukuphila ngokukhululeka.