Kwihlabathi elintsonkothileyo lobudlelwane bentsapho, iprofayili yomzali owahlukanisayo yinto echaphazela abafazi abaninzi abangamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulators. Esi senzo siyityhefu sinokuba nemiphumo ebuhlungu ebantwaneni nakumnye umzali. Ukuqonda iindlela zokungafunwa kwabazali kubalulekile ekukhuseleni impilo-ntle yakho neyabantwana bakho. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga nzulu iprofayili yomzali owahlukanisayo kunye nezicwangciso zokujongana nayo.
Iimpawu ezixelayo zomzali owahlukileyo
Umzali owahlukanisileyo uhlala ebonakalisa iimpawu zobuntu ezinarcissistic kunye ne-manipulative. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezinokukunceda ukuba uchonge:
- Ukunyeliswa rhoqo komnye umzali phambi kwabantwana
- Iinzame zokudala umanyano olukhethekileyo nomntwana
- Uthintelo lonxibelelwano phakathi komntwana kunye nomnye umzali
- Emotional manipulation yomntwana
- Ukwala ukuqonda ukubaluleka komnye umzali kubomi bomntwana
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zijolise ekutshabalaliseni ubudlelwane phakathi komntwana kunye nomnye umzali, ukudala usapho olungenampilo nolungalungelelananga.
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Amaqhinga aLawulayo oMzali owahlukanisayo
Umzali owahlukanisayo usebenzisa amaqhinga ahlukeneyo ukuphumeza injongo yakhe. Phakathi kwezona zixhaphakileyo zezi:
- Ukuhlanjululwa kwengqondo okufihlakeleyo
- Ukusekwa kwemeko yoloyiko okanye yokungathembani komnye umzali
- Umvuzo wokuziphatha okugatya omnye umzali
- Ukugqwethwa kokwenyani kunye nokubhalwa ngokutsha kwembali yosapho
- Ukusetyenziswa komntwana njengentlola okanye umthunywa
La maqhinga anobuqili kwaye kunzima ukuwabhaqa, ngakumbi kumntwana obanjwe phakathi kongquzulwano.
Impembelelo yengqondo kubantwana abangamaxhoba okuhlukaniswa kwabazali
Abantwana abavezwe kukungakhathali kwabazali banokuba neziphumo ezibi ngokwasengqondweni:
- Ukudideka ngokweemvakalelo kunye netyala
- Ixhala kunye nokudakumba
- Imiba yokuzithemba
- Ubunzima bobudlelwane bexesha elide
- Iziphazamiso zokuncamathela
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ezi mpawu kubantwana bakho kwaye wenze ngokukhawuleza ukunciphisa umonakalo.
Ubakhusela njani abantwana bakho kumzali ongafuniyo?
Njengomzali ojongene nokwahlukaniswa, unokuthatha amanyathelo okukhusela abantwana bakho:
- Gcina unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo nabantwana bakho
- Kuphephe ukuthetha kakubi ngomnye umzali, nokuba kunzima
- Khuthaza ubudlelwane obunempilo phakathi kwabantwana bakho kunye nomnye umzali
- Funa inkxaso yobuchwephesha ukwenzela wena nabantwana bakho
- Uxwebhu lweziganeko zokushiywa kwabazali
Indima yakho kukuhlala uyintsika ezinzileyo nenothando kubomi babantwana bakho, nangona kukho ubunzima.
Amayeza asemthethweni okugxothwa kwabazali
Kukho iindlela ezisemthethweni zokulwa nokungavunyelwa kwabazali:
- Ulamlo lwentsapho
- Unyango lweSapho oluyalelwe yiNkundla
- Ukutshintsha amalungiselelo okugcinwa
- Imiyalelo yokhuseleko xa kukho imfuneko
- Ukuqeshwa kwegqwetha lomntwana
Ungalibazisi ukudibana negqwetha losapho ukuze liphonononge olu khetho.
Ukuzinyamekela ebusweni bomzali owahlukanisayo
Ukujongana nomzali owahlukileyo kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba uzikhathalele:
- Funa inkxaso yengqondo
- Joyina amaQela eNkxaso kubazali abalahlwayo
- Ziqhelanise ne-self-mfesane
- Gcina imida esempilweni kunye nomzali owahlukanisayo
- Gxininisa ekukhuleni kwakho
Impilo-ntle yakho ibalulekile ukuze ukwazi ukubaxhasa ngokufanelekileyo abantwana bakho.
Ukwakha kwakhona ubudlelwane nabantwana bakho emva kokuhlukana
Ukuba abantwana bakho bahlukanisiwe, ukwakha ubudlelwane kwakhona kunokuba yinkqubo ende kunye nethambileyo:
- Yiba nomonde nokuqonda
- Musa ukunyanzela uxolelwaniso
- Funa uncedo kwingcali yosapho
- Dala iinkumbulo ezintsha ezintle kunye
- Bonisa uthando olungagungqiyo, naxa ulahliwe
Ukuphilisa kunokwenzeka ngexesha, umonde kunye nothando.
Fundisa abo bakungqongileyo malunga nokwahluka kwabazali
Ukwahluka kwabazali kudla ngokuqondwa phosakeleyo. Ukufundisa abo bakungqongileyo kunokukunceda ufumane inkxaso engakumbi:
- Yabelana ngezibonelelo ezithembekileyo kulo mbandela
- Cacisa imiphumo ehlala ixesha elide ebantwaneni
- Khuthaza uvelwano kuwo onke amaqela achaphazelekayo
- Yilwa neentsomi kunye neengcamango esele zikho malunga nokuhlukaniswa kwabazali
- Khuthaza ukubaluleka kobudlelwane obusempilweni
Okukhona abantu besazi, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukulwa nalo mkhwa.
Ukuthintela Ukwahlukaniswa Kwabazali kuBudlelwane bexesha elizayo
Ukuba uye wanamava e-Ukwahlukaniswa kwabazali, kubalulekile ukuthatha amanyathelo ukunqanda ukuphinda ezi pateni:
- Sebenza kumanxeba akho eemvakalelo
- Funda ukuqaphela iimpawu zokuqala zokukhohlisa
- Misela imida ecacileyo kubudlelwane bakho
- Khuthaza unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo nolunyanisekileyo
- Khetha amaqabane ahloniphayo ukubaluleka kokuba ngumzali omnye
Ngokuqhawula umjikelo, unokudala ikamva elinempilo kuwe nakubantwana bakho.
Isiphelo: Ngokubhekiselele kubuzali obulungileyo nobulungelelanisiweyo
Ukujongana nomzali owahlukanisileyo yenye yezona ngxaki zinzima umzali anokujamelana nazo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokunyamezela, inkxaso kunye nezicwangciso ezifanelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukukhusela abantwana bakho kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabo. Khumbula ukuba uthando lwakho kunye nobukho bakho rhoqo yeyona nto ilungileyo yokuchasa ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali. Ngokuhlala womelele yaye unikel’ ingqalelo kwimpilo-ntle yabantwana bakho, unokuyoyisa le ngxaki uze wakhe ikamva lentsapho elikhuthazayo nelilungeleleneyo ngakumbi.
Hlala ukhumbula ukuba akuwedwa kule meko. Uninzi lwezixhobo kunye neengcali zikhona ukukuxhasa kuhambo lwakho. Qhubeka ulwela abantwana bakho kunye nelungelo lakho lokuba ngumzali onothando nokhoyo ebomini babo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha kunye nokuzimisela, ukuphilisa kunye nokwakhiwa kwakhona kunokwenzeka.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.