Umoya ogqwethekileyo uyathandeka kwaye ukhathazeke kwangaxeshanye. Le nto yengqondo iphakamisa imibuzo emininzi malunga nobume bomntu kunye neendlela zengqondo ezinokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okukhathazayo. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zengqondo engendawo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo, imvelaphi enokwenzeka kunye nefuthe layo kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu kunye noluntu.
Yintoni umoya ongendawo?
Ingqondo engendawo ibonakala ngokuba neengcinga, iminqweno, okanye indlela yokuziphatha egqalwa njengetenxileyo okanye eyenzakalisayo. Ngokufuthi kubandakanya ukutyekela ekulawuleni, ukukhohlisa, okanye ukuxhaphaza abanye ukuze kungenelwe bona okanye ukuzonwabisa. Umoya ongendawo unokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ukusuka ekulawuleni kwengqondo ukuya kwizenzo ezinzulu.
Abantu abanengqondo engendawo bahlala bebonisa:
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- Ukungabi naluvelwano kwabanye
- Utyekelo lokuxoka kunye nokukhohlisa
- Isidingo solawulo kunye ne-ulawulo lwe-narcissistic pervert
- Ubunzima bokuhlonipha imilinganiselo yentlalontle neyokuziphatha
- Utyekelo lokufumana ukwaneliseka ekubandezelekeni kwabanye
Imvelaphi yengqondo engendawo
Kubalulekile ukuhlola imvelaphi yalo moya. Nazi iingcambu ezinzulu:
Imiba yezengqondo
Iingcamango ezininzi zizama ukuchaza imvelaphi yomoya ongendawo. Ezinye izazi ngengqondo zicebisa ukuba amava abuhlungu obuntwana anokuba negalelo. Ukungaphumeleli ngokweemvakalelo, ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukukhuliswa ngendlela engafanelekanga kunokufak’ isandla ekukhuleni kweengcinga ezigqwethekileyo neendlela zokuziphatha.
Ezinye iingcali zigxininisa imiba yemithambo-luvo. Izinto ezingaqhelekanga kwiindawo ezithile zobuchopho, ngakumbi ezo zinxulumene novelwano kunye nolawulo lwempembelelo, zinokubandakanyeka ekwenziweni kwengqondo engendawo.
Iimpembelelo zezentlalo
Imeko yentlalo nenkcubeko nayo inokuphembelela ukukhula kwengqondo engendawo. Uluntu oluwaxabisa kakhulu amandla, ulawulo, okanye ukuqhatha linokukhuthaza olu hlobo lwengqondo. Ngokunjalo, ukuvezwa kwiimodeli ezigqwethekileyo kumajelo eendaba okanye kwindawo ekufutshane kunokwenza ezi ziphatho zibe zesiqhelo.
Iimbonakalo zomoya ongendawo
Imiboniso yengqondo engendawo izibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha kunye nezimo zengqondo.
Kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu
Umoya ongendawo uhlala uzibonakalisa kubudlelwane bomntu. Abantu abachaphazelekayo banako:
- Lawula abantu obathandayo ukuze bafumane oko bakufunayo
- Ukuxoka ngokunyanzelekileyo nangaphandle kwesizathu
- Ukufuna ukuhlwayela ukungavisisani phakathi kwabantu
- Ukonwabela ukuhlazisa okanye ukujongela phantsi abanye
- Ukusebenzisa i-blackmail yeemvakalelo
Kwimeko yobungcali
Emsebenzini, ingqondo egqwethekileyo inokubangela:
- Amaqhinga okonakalisa umsebenzi wabalingane
- Ukulungelelaniswa kwezimvo okanye ukufaneleka kwabanye
- Ukudala indawo enetyhefu ukugcina ulawulo
- Ukusebenzisa i-Flattery egqithisileyo ukuLawula abaPhathi
Impembelelo yengqondo embi kuluntu
Impembelelo yengqondo engendawo kuluntu izibonakalisa kwiimpembelelo ezinzulu kwaye zihlala ziphazamisa kwiziseko zentlalo kunye nabantu.
Iziphumo zomntu ngamnye
Amaxhoba abantu abakhohlakeleyo anokuba neziphumo ezibi ngokwasengqondweni:
- Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba
- Anxiety kunye ne-depression
- Ubunzima bokuthemba abanye
- post-traumatic stress syndrome kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu
Ezi mpembelelo zinokuhlala ixesha elide emva kokuba ubudlelwane nomntu okhohlakeleyo buphelile, oko kuchaphazela amandla exhoba okuphila ubomi obanelisayo.
Iziphumo kwilaphu lentlalontle
Kwinqanaba elikhulu, ubukho bemimoya emdaka kuluntu bunokuba neziphumo ezibi:
- Ukukhula kokuthembana phakathi kwabantu
- Ukwanda kokugxeka kunye nokungathembani ngokubanzi
- Ukuqhelaniswa kokuziphatha okukhohlisayo okanye okuxhaphazayo
- Ukuwohloka kwentlalo-ntle edibeneyo kunye nobumbano loluntu
Ikhonkco phakathi kwengqondo egqwethekileyo kunye nobuntu be-narcissistic
Kuhlala kukho ukudibana phakathi kwengqondo egqwethekileyo kunye nokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic. Zombini zabelana ngeempawu ezithile ezifana nezi:
- Ukungabi naluvelwano
- Isidingo solawulo kunye nokongamela
- Utyekelo lokuxhaphaza abanye
Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke ii-narcisists ezinengqondo engendawo, kwaye ngokuphambene. Ingqondo engendawo inokuzibonakalisa kubantu abaneentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuphazamiseka kobuntu, okanye nakubantu abangenalo uxilongo oluthile lwengqondo.
Imingeni yokuchongwa kunye nonyango
Imingeni yokuchonga kunye nokujongana nengqondo engendawo inika imiqobo ebalulekileyo.
Ubunzima bokuxilongwa
Ukuchonga umoya ongendawo kunokuba nzima. Abantu ababandakanyekayo badla ngobuchule ekufihleni iinjongo zabo zokwenyani kwaye banokubonakala benomtsalane kumphandle. Ngapha koko, umgca phakathi kokuziphatha okuzingcayo nokugqwethekileyo ngokwenene akusoloko kulula ukuwuchaza.
Imiba yonyango
Ukunyamekela abantu abanengqondo egqwethekileyo kubangela iingxaki ezininzi:
- Ukungaqondwa kwengxaki ngumntu ngokwakhe
- Ukuchasa utshintsho kunye nonyango
- Umngcipheko wokuxhaphazwa konyango
- Ubunzima bokuphuhlisa uvelwano lokwenene
Iindlela zonyango lwesintu zinokubonakala zingasebenzi, zifuna amacebo athile kunye nokuphaphela okukhulu kwicala labasebenzi bezempilo yengqondo.
Ingqondo egqwethekileyo kwixesha ledijithali
Ingqondo engendawo kwi-digital age izibonakalisa ngeendlela ezintsha, ezichatshazelwa yimpawu ezizodwa zeendawo ze-intanethi kunye nokusebenzisana okubonakalayo.
Iindlela ezintsha zokuthetha
I-Intanethi kunye neenethiwekhi zentlalo zibonelele ngeendawo ezintsha zokubonisa iingqondo ezigqwethekileyo:
- I-Cyberharassment kunye ne-trolling
- Ukwenziwa kweeprofayili zomgunyathi ukuze zisetyenziswe
- Ukusasazwa okukhulu kwee-disinformation
- Ukusetyenziswa kobuthathaka kwi-intanethi
Ezi zixhobo zenza kube lula ukufikelela kwinani elikhulu lamaxhoba anokubakho ngelixa libonelela ngemvakalelo yokungaziwa kunye nokungohlwaywa.
Imingeni kuluntu lwedijithali
Ukujongana noku kubonakaliswa okutsha, uluntu kufuneka luziqhelanise:
- Ukuphuhliswa komthetho olungisiweyo
- Ukwazisa ngomngcipheko kwi-Intanethi
- Ukudala izixhobo zokubona kunye nokukhusela
- Ukubonakaliswa kwemigaqo yokuziphatha yedijithali
Iimbono zexesha elizayo kunye neendlela zophando
Ukuqonda ingqondo engendawo kuyaqhubeka ukuvela. Abaphandi baphonononga iindlela ezintsha:
- Izifundo malunga nemiba yemfuza enokubakho
- Uphando lweNeuroscience ukuqonda ngcono iindlela zobuchopho ezibandakanyekayo
- Ukuphuhliswa kweendlela ezintsha zonyango
- Uhlahlelo lwezentlalo kwimpembelelo yeendaba kunye nenkcubeko
Lo msebenzi unokuthi ekugqibeleni wenze uthintelo olungcono kunye nolawulo lwale nto inzima.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, ingqondo engendawo imele umngeni omkhulu wengqondo, ingqondo kunye noluntu luphela. Imvelaphi yayo enezinto ezininzi, ukubonakaliswa kwayo okwahlukeneyo, kunye nempembelelo enzulu ebantwini nakuluntu kuyenza ibe ngumxholo onomdla kwaye obalulekileyo wokufunda. Ukuqonda le nto kubalulekile ekuphuhliseni iindlela ezisebenzayo zokukhusela, ukukhuselwa kunye nonyango, ngenjongo yokwakha uluntu olunempilo kunye nenkathalo.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.