I-cognitive dissonance: Umgibe wama-narcissists

Ngaba wakha waziva ngathi kukho into engalunganga kubudlelwane bakho, kodwa awukwazanga ukubeka umnwe wakho kuyo? I-cognitive dissonance ingaba ngundoqo ekuqondeni le nto ikhathazayo. Makhe siphonononge kunye le ngcamango yengqondo kunye nefuthe layo kubudlelwane nabantu be-narcissistic.

Yintoni i-cognitive dissonance?

I-cognitive dissonance yimeko yoxinzelelo lwengqondo eyenzeka xa iinkolelo zethu, ukuziphatha kunye nolwazi esilufumanayo aluhambelani. Ukunciphisa le ntlupheko ingakhululekiyo, sikholisa ukuguqula enye yezi zinto, amaxesha amaninzi singekho zingqondweni.

I-cognitive dissonance yinto ebangela ukuba siqinisekise ukuziphatha okuchaseneyo ukugcina induduzo yethu yengqondo. Kubudlelwane obuyityhefu, oku kunokuguqulela kwiingcinga ezinje, “Wayethandeka kule mpelaveki, umsindo wakhe awumbi kangako emva koko.” Yindlela yokuzikhusela yendalo, kodwa leyo inokusigcina sikwiimeko eziyingozi.

I-cognitive dissonance: umgibe wengqondo

I-cognitive dissonance yimpixano yangaphakathi esiyivayo xa iinkolelo zethu zingahambelani nenyani. Xa sithandana nomntu osisinhanha, sisenokuba nzima ukuyamkela into yokuba umntu esimthandayo uyasikhathaza. Oku kuphikisana kudala ukungonwabi ngokwasengqondweni esifuna ukukucombulula, ngamanye amaxesha ngokuhlala kubudlelwane nangona kukho ubunzima.

Isidingo sokuqiniseka: umqobo wokutshintsha

Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuqiniseka nge-100% phambi kokuba wenze isigqibo esibalulekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, le mfuno yokuqinisekisa inokusenza sihlale kwindawo enetyhefu ixesha elide. Siyaqhubeka sikhangela ubungqina, sinethemba lokutshintsha, xa iimpawu sele zikhona.

Imiphumo yokulinda ixesha elide

Ngelishwa, okukhona sihlala ixesha elide kubudlelwane obuyityhefu, kokukhona umonakalo omkhulu kukuzithemba kwethu kunye nentlalontle unokuba mkhulu. Nazi ezinye iziphumo ezinokubakho:

• Amathandabuzo aqhubekayo malunga nomgwebo wethu
• Ubunzima bokuthembela
• Ukwehlisa ukuzithemba
• Utyekelo lokuhlala uzibuza

Kutheni sihlala kubudlelwane obuyityhefu kunye ne-narcissist?

Usenokuzibuza ukuba kutheni uhlala kubudlelwane obunzima kunye ne-narcissist, ngaphandle kwazo zonke iimpawu ezilumkisayo. I-cognitive dissonance ihlala idlala indima ebalulekileyo kule meko. Masiphonononge lo mcimbi kunye kwaye sifumanise ukuba ungalubuyisela njani ulawulo kubomi bakho.

I-cognitive dissonance ibonakala njani kubudlelwane obuyityhefu?

Kubudlelwane kunye neqabane le-narcissistic, i-cognitive dissonance ingabonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi:

1. Ukuthethelela ukuziphatha kakubi
2. Ukunciphisa imiba emibi yobudlelwane
3. Idealization egqithisileyo yeqabane
4. Ukukhanyela ubunyani obungathandekiyo

Kutheni sihlala kwi-reflation eyityhefu?

I-cognitive dissonance idlala indima enkulu kumkhwa wethu wokuhlalaubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Nazi ezinye izizathu:

• Ukoyika into engaziwayo kunye notshintsho
• Ndiyathemba ukuba iqabane liya kutshintsha
• Ukuncamathela ngokweemvakalelo kunye ne-ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
• Ukuzijongela phantsi

Indlela yokuqonda i-cognitive dissonance ebomini bakho?

Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba une-cognitive dissonance:

• Uzifumana usenza izizathu zokuziphatha kweqabane lakho
• Uzijongela phantsi iingxaki kubudlelwane bakho
• Ugxila kuphela kumaxesha amnandi kwaye ungawahoyi amabi
• Unobunzima bokuvuma ukuba ubudlelwane bakho abufanelanga njengoko ubungathanda

Indlela yokoyisa i-cognitive dissonance?

Ukoyisa i-cognitive dissonance akukho lula, kodwa linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuphuma kubudlelwane obuyityhefu. Nanga amanye amacebiso:

1. Ziqaphele iingcinga neemvakalelo zakho
2. Qaphela ukuziphatha okuyingxaki kweqabane lakho
3. Thetha nabantu obathembileyo
4. Qhagamshelana nengcali yempilo yengqondo
5. Funda ukuthemba intuition yakho

Ukubaluleka kokuqinisekiswa kwinkqubo yokuphilisa

Ukuqinisekisa amava akho kunye neemvakalelo kubalulekile ukoyisa i-cognitive dissonance. Ungalibazisi ukufuna inkxaso kubathandekayo bakho okanye kugqirha onokukunceda ukuba ubone imeko ngokucacileyo.

Ukuqukumbela, ukuqonda indima ye-cognitive dissonance kubudlelwane obuyityhefu linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokuphiliswa kunye nokukhula komntu. Khumbula ukuba ufanele ube nolwalamano oluphilileyo nolulungeleleneyo, nokuba inyaniso, enoba kunzima kangakanani na ukuyamkela, isitshixo senkululeko yakho.

Iimpawu zobudlelwane be-narcissistic

Nantsi imikhondo enokukulumkisa:

• Ukutshintsha kwemo engalindelekanga
• Amaxesha okuthamba alandelwa ngamaxesha okubanda
• Ukugxeka rhoqo kunye nokungabi novelwano
• Ukulawula iimvakalelo ezifihlakeleyo

Ukuba uyazazi kwezi meko, kubalulekile ukuba ungazinciphisi ezi ndlela zokuziphatha.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic kwi-cognitive dissonance

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo we-cognitive dissonance:

1. Festinger, L. (1957). La théorie de la dissonance cognitive. Presses Universitaires de France.
2. Beauvois, J.-L., & Joule, R.-V. (1996). La soumission librement consentie : Comment amener les gens à faire librement ce qu’ils doivent faire. Presses Universitaires de France.
3. Joule, R.-V., & Beauvois, J.-L. (1998). La dissonance cognitive : Quand les actions entrent en contradiction avec les croyances. Dans Traité de psychologie sociale (pp. 201-225). Presses Universitaires de Grenoble.
4. Monteil, J.-M. (1989). La dissonance cognitive et ses implications en éducation. Revue Française de Pédagogie, 89, 45-56.
5. Moscovici, S. (1984). Psychologie sociale. Presses Universitaires de France.
6. Beauvois, J.-L. (2001). La dissonance cognitive : Une théorie toujours actuelle. L’Année Psychologique, 101(1), 123-165.
7. Joule, R.-V. (2004). La dissonance cognitive et la rationalisation des comportements. Dans Les illusions de la rationalité (pp. 75-92). Éditions Odile Jacob.

Ezi ncwadi kunye namanqaku anika imbono enzulu kwi-cognitive dissonance theory kunye nokusetyenziswa kwayo kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo.

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