Ingxaki yesazisi samadoda kunye nendima ye-archetypes
Sikwingxaki enkulu yobuntu obudoda, nto leyo ebonakaliswa kukuwohloka kolwakhiwo losapho lwesithethe. Kodwa yintoni unobangela?
Kwi-King, iQhawe, uMlingo, uMthandi: Ukufumana kwakhona i-Archetypes ye-Mature Masculine, uRobert Moore kunye noDouglas Gillette bachonga izinto ezimbini eziphambili: ukungabikho kwezithethe ezinentsingiselo kunye nohlobo lwe-patriarchy.
Ukubaluleka kwezithethe zokwaluka
Kwizizwe ngezizwe, izithethe zaziphawula inguqulelo ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ekubeni ngumntu omkhulu. Olu qalo, luhlala lusenziwa kwiindawo ezingcwele nezikwanti, lufaka amakhwenkwe kwiingxaki ezinzima ngokwasenyameni nasengqondweni. Ukukhokelwa ngu-shaman okanye umdala (i-archetype ye-Sage), bafunda ukujamelana nobunzima bobomi kunye nokufikelela kubulumko obufihliweyo. Olu tshintsho lwalubandakanya ukufa okufuziselayo kunye nokuzalwa kwakhona: i-ego endala yenkwenkwe kwafuneka “ife” ukuze ivule indlela yendoda eqolileyo. Le nkqubo inokuhlala iminyaka eliqela kwaye ifanekisela inguqu ukusuka kwimeko esezantsi yengqondo ukuya kwinqanaba eliphezulu, ukusuka kubuntu obuqhekekayo ukuya kubuntu obumanyeneyo.
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Nangona kunjalo, eNtshona, ezi zithethe ziye zehla zaba “zii-pseudo-initiations”: amasiko okuhamba kwimigulukudu, amaqela alwela amalungelo, iyunivesithi okanye ihazing yasemkhosini. Ngaphandle kokuqalwa kokwenyani, amadoda ahlala etshixiwe kwinto abafowunela ngayo uMoore noGilletteisayikholoji yenkwenkwe– ubudoda obungekakhuli, obusoloko buphawulwa bubundlobongela nokungabinamdla, nto leyo eqhubela phambili imijikelo yempatho-gadalala kunye nobuthathaka. Nangona ukuqaliswa komkhosi kunokubonakala kungaqhelekanga, izithethe ezininzi zanamhlanje zivelisa ubudoda obugqwethekileyo nobungaphelelanga obuyingozi kuye nakwabanye.
Amadoda amaninzi awahlali ekhulile ngokuzikhethela, kodwa ngenxa yokuba akukho mntu ubabonise indlela yokukhula.
Ubudoda: ubudoda obungekavuthwa
Umba wesibini kule ngxaki yi-patriarchy, igama elithetha ukuba ulawulo lukatata. Ukususela ubuncinane kwi-2000 BC. BC, yabumba uluntu lwaseNtshona kunye nezinye iinkcubeko ezininzi. Iifeminists ziyayigxeka indalo yayo yengcinezelo kunye nokuthambekela kwayo ukutyumza iimpawu zobufazi. Kodwa uMoore noGillette bahamba phambili: ngokutsho kwabo, i-patriarchy yimbonakaliso yobudoda obungavuthiweyo, obutshabalalisa kuphela ubufazi kodwa kunye nobuntu obudala kunye nokulinganisela.
Kwinkqubo yoosolusapho, abo banegunya bafuna ukongamela kungekuphela nje abafazi, kodwa namanye amadoda ngokunjalo. I-Patriarchy isekelwe kuloyiko – ukwesaba ibhinqa, kodwa kunye namadoda aqolileyo. boys (amadoda angekakhuli) boyika abafazi kunye namadoda okwenyani.
Iintshukumo zanamhlanje ezifanaIpilisi eBomvu, Amadoda Ahamba Ngeyawo Indlelaokanye iI-Incelsbonakalisa okuisayikholoji yenkwenkwe. Ukuphendula, i-radical feminism ithi ubudoda ngokwabo buyityhefu kwaye uthando, ubudlelwane kunye nokuthamba (okunxulunyaniswa noEros) ngabasetyhini kuphela. Le mbono iyimpazamo. Ubudoda obunzulu, obulungeleleneyo abuxhaphazi.
Ukujonga ubudoda obuqolileyo
UMoore noGillette baphikisa ngelithi ingxaki yobudoda eqolileyo iyinyani. Ngenxa yokungabikho kwezithethe zokwenyani zokwaluka kunye namadoda amadala akwaziyo ukusebenza njengemizekelo, izikhokelo zomoya ziye zanqabile. Amadoda anamhlanje aziva exhalabile, engenakuzinceda, edanekile, engathandwa yaye engaqatshelwa, kwanehlazo lokuba yindoda.
Isisombululo asikokunciphisa amandla endoda, njengoko abanye besitsho. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, siyafunaKaninziyobudoda – kodwa bobudoda obuqolileyo, le bayibizayoisayikholoji yabantu, ekhuthazayo nenomvuzo, ngokuchaseneyo nentshabalaloisayikholoji yenkwenkwe.
Abafundi beentsomi kunye neengqondo zeJungian bafumana ithemba apha: iintsilelo zangaphandle (ukungabi natata, imizekelo ekhulileyo, izithethe ezingabalulekanga, ukungabikho kwezikhokelo) kunokuhlawulwa ngokuhlola i-archetypes yamadoda kwi-collective unconscious. Nokuba ilizwe langaphandle alibonakalisi ezi ngcamango, i-archetypes ikhona ngaphakathi kwethu kwaye isinika imodeli yolwakhiwo.
I-Archetypes yimifanekiso yokuqala kunye nendalo yonke eyenza ukuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo zethu. Azinyamalala, kodwa zisebenza njengesalathiso sokuqonda indaleko yethu yengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, siyathanda ukubhida abazali bethu bokwenyani ngale mizekelo yangaphakathi. Ukuba sinabazali “abalunge ngokwaneleyo,” sinokufikelela kubo ngendlela eyakhayo. Kodwa uninzi lwethu aluzange lufumane le nkxaso, kwaye sihlala silinganisa ubuzwilakhe kunye nobundlobongela kunye nesinyanzelo, ngelixa ngokwenene zityhila ubuthathaka benkwenkwe eyenzakeleyo.
Ii-archetypes ezingagqibelelanga
Ngaphambi kokuphonononga i-archetypes yobudoda obudala (uKumkani, iQhawe, uMlingo kunye noMthandi), kubalulekile ukuvavanya iifom zabo ezingekabikho, ezo zilawula ubuntwana kunye nokufikisa.
Ii-archetypes ezine eziphambili zenkwenkwe zezi:
- The Divine Child → uba King
- Umntwana Osisilumko Kwangoko → uba Magician
- Umntwana we-Oedipal → iba Alover
- The Hero → iba Warrior
Indaleko ekufikeleleni ekukhuleni ayithethi ukuphelisa ezi archetypes zingekavuthwa, kodwa zigqithise ngokuzidibanisa kuphuhliso lwethu lobuqu. Akufuneki sichonge nge-archetype ethile, kodwa siqonde ukuba amandla angekho zingqondweni akhona ngaphakathi kwethu kwaye ayasichaphazela.
Ukufikelela ngokupheleleyo kwi-archetype, kufuneka sizibuze imibuzo emibini ebalulekileyo:
- Iinkalo zayo ezimbi zibonakala njani kubomi bam? Undoqo ekuqoleni kukuthobeka, ukuqonda ukusikelwa kwethu umda namandla ethu okucela uncedo.
- Ndiyihlonipha okanye ndingayihoyi njani le archetype? Ukuba asiziva ubukho bayo kubomi bethu bobuqu okanye bomsebenzi, kufuneka sizibuze ukuba yintoni na esithintelayo.
Umntwana oNgcwele kunye nezithunzi zakhe
I-Divine Child yi-archetype yokuqala yobudoda obungekavuthwa. Lufuzisela amandla angenasiphelo kunye nokuba sesichengeni okugqithisileyo, njengamava okwenene eentsana. Kwiintsomi ezininzi, umntwana oyinkosi ujongene nezisongelo kwasekuzalweni kwakhe: uYesu noHerode, uMoses noFaro, uKrishna noKamsa…
Le archetype imele ubuchule bokudala kunye nobumsulwa kuthi ngamnye wethu, ibhengeza isigaba esitsha sobomi. Kodwa oku kuhlaziywa ngokuqinisekileyo kutsala amandla anobutshaba, ngaphakathi nangaphandle.
Izithunzi zoMntwana oNgcwele zibipolar:
- Umtyholi kuSihlalo oPhakamileyo (i-pole esebenzayo): unekratshi, u-capricious, ukholelwa ukuba ihlabathi lijikeleza kuye. Ufuna imfezeko engenakwenzeka kwaye uhlala ehla kwi-pathological narcissism.
- I-I-Princess engenamandla (i-pali ye-passive): ixhoba elingunaphakade, uyayilawula ngesikhalazo kunye nokungabi nanto, eqinisekisa abo bamjikelezileyo ngobuthathaka bakhe.
Ezi nkalo zimbini ziyatshintshana: inkwenkwe enobuzwilakhe ingawela ngokukhawuleza kudandatheko kunye nokungasebenzi.
I-Positive Divine Child izisa ubuchule, ukumangalisa kunye nokuvuleleka kwihlabathi. Iyasikhusela ekukruqukeni kwaye isinceda siqonde ubutyebi bamandla omntu.
Eyokuqala Nezithunzi zayo
Umntwana Omdala: Umthombo weGenius kunye noBulumko
I-Precocious Child ikwimvelaphi yemimangaliso yobuntwana. Nangona esazi, uziva efuna ngamandla ukunceda abanye ngolwazi lwakhe. Abahlobo bakhe beza kuye befuna amacebiso. Le modeli yondla umdla wethu, ivuselela ubukrelekrele kwaye isikhokelele kuMlingo oqolileyo.
Isithunzi Esisebenzayo: IQhinga eliQhelekileyo
I-Trickster, isithunzi esisebenzayo se-Precocious, iyakhohlisa kwaye iyakhohlisa. Udala iinkohliso, ufumana ukuthenjwa kunye nokungcatsha ukuzonwabisa kwakhe. Unekratshi nokuba ndlongondlongo, uyakuvuyela ukubajongela phantsi abanye. Ukanti ikwanako nokubhenca ubuxoki nokutshabalalisa iinkohliso. Xa ingalawulwa, iba yityhefu, ivalela ubuchule kunye nokukhanyela amandla omntu.
Isithunzi sePassive: I-Naïve Ignorant
Umntwana oPrecocious unokutshona kwisithunzi seDummy, umntu ongakhathaliyo, ongenabuchule bokuyila kwaye uhlala ejongelwa phantsi. Ngasemva koku kudlula ngamanye amaxesha kufihla imfihlo yolongamo oluntsonkothileyo, ngokufana neTrickster.
Umntwana we-Oedipal kunye nezithunzi zakhe
Umntwana we-Oedipal: Ukufuna uMama Omkhulu
Le archetype ilangazelela unxibelelwano olunzulu kunye nendalo iphela kunye nabanye, ifuna umama onenkathalo engapheliyo. Nangona kunjalo, kuba umama wokwenyani engakwazi ukuzalisekisa oku kulindelekileyo, kufuneka enze le njongo ibhekiselele kumgaqo omkhulu wokomoya, ngaloo ndlela eququzelela ukukhula kwakhe ngokwasengqondweni.
Isithunzi Esisebenzayo: Inkwenkwe kaMama
UMama’s Boy uphupha ngokutshata nomama wakhe, ngakumbi xa engekho utata owomeleleyo. Ubaleka uxanduva kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo, ehlala efuna ibhinqa eligqibeleleyo nelingenangqondo. Lo mzekelo ukhokelela kwi-Don Juan syndrome kunye nokungakhuli ngokweemvakalelo.
Isithunzi Esingenasiphelo: Umphuphi Okwanti
Umphuphi uhlala kwifantasy engapheliyo, enqanyuliwe kwizinto eziyinyani kunye nobudlelwane babantu. Ngaphantsi kokuthanda kwakhe kukho umnqweno omkhulu wokuba nonina we-archetypal, okhokelela ekubeni abe nesithukuthezi kunye nokungasebenzi.
Iqhawe kunye nezithunzi zakhe
Iqhawe: I-Apogee yokufikisa
I-archetype ye-Hero imele ukutshintshela ukuzimela. Uzikhusela kwimikhosi engazi nto yowesifazane kwaye ujongene nemingeni yobudala. Nangona kunjalo, eli nqanaba lihlala lingekavuthwa kwaye kufuneka ligqithiselwe ukufikelela ekuvuthweni kokwenyani.
Isithunzi Esisebenzayo: UTyhosha onekratshi
I-Grandstander Bully ifuna ukunyanzeliswa kwaye ingenakoyiswa. Ukungakhuseleki kwakhe ukubuyekezelwa ngamazwi nangokwasemzimbeni. Ukungaphumeleli kwakhe kulele ekungakwazini kwakhe ukuqonda imida yakhe kunye nokudibanisa i-anima yakhe, i-feminine yangaphakathi.
Isithunzi Esingenamsebenzi: Igwala Elibalekayo
IGwarha liyayiphepha nayiphi na ingxabano kwaye liyathotywa. Kodwa xa unxunguphalo lwakhe lufikelela kwinqanaba elinzima, ugqabhuka abe kwizenzo zogonyamelo ngequbuliso nezingalinganiyo, etyhila uMkhulu owayecinezelwe uBully.
Ukuya Ekukhuleni: IiArchetypes zaMasculine aBaqolileyo
Uxanduva loMntu ngamnye
Asinaxanduva ngamanxeba obuntwana bethu, kodwa sinoxanduva lokugqitha kuwo. Inkululeko imalunga nokukhetha indlela esisabela ngayo kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo. Ukwahluka kukuvumela ukuba ube ngumntu ofezekileyo, ngokuhambelana nobunzulu bakho obunzulu.
UKumkani: Ulungelelwaniso kunye nokuNzala
IKumkani yeyona archetype engundoqo yokuvuthwa kwamadoda. Yakha i-psyche kwaye iquka umyalelo ovela kwisiphithiphithi. Ngokwezithethe, ukumkani ophumelelayo wayeqinisekisa impumelelo nemvisiswano kubukumkani bakhe. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, ukumkani othile owaba phantsi okanye owayengekho wayefake abantu bakhe kwisiphithiphithi.
Ukungabikho kobawo owomeleleyo entsatsheni kudla ngokukhokelela ekunqongopheleni kwesakhiwo kunye nokungazinzi okunzulu. Ukukhula kobudoda kubandakanya ukuhlanganiswa kwamandla kaKumkani, iQhawe, uMlumbi kunye noMthandi, okuvumela ubomi obulungeleleneyo nobufezekisiweyo.
Indlela yeGorha kunye neMasculine Archetypes
Ibutho leMvakalo loMlo
Ukulandela umendo weQhawe kufuna ukuzimela ngokweemvakalelo. Uqeqesho lwamaSamurai lwaluquka umthambo wengqondo: endaweni yokuthi “ndiyoyika” okanye “ndiphelelwe lithemba”, kufuneka uthi “Kukho umntu owoyikayo” okanye “Kukho umntu ophelelwa lithemba. Yintoni anokuyenza?” Olu qheliselo lukunceda ukuba uthathe inyathelo umva, ufumane imbono kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba ukhubazeke ziimvakalelo, ngaloo ndlela ikuvumela ukuba wenze ngokufanelekileyo.
Xa iQhawe lisebenza lodwa, ngaphandle kokudityaniswa kwezinye ii-archetypes, iziphumo zinokuba yingozi. Ngendlela ecocekileyo, ukhululekile ngokomzwelo, onokuhlukanisa abo basondeleyo kuye, abaziva benqatshelwe kwaye bekhuphisana “nothando lwakhe lokwenene”: umsebenzi wakhe.
Isithunzi seGorha: iSadist kunye neMasochist
Ipali esebenzayo yesithunzi seQhawe yi Ulusizi, oyoliswa kukwenza iintlungu. Ngelixa i-detachment ingekho mbi ngokwendalo, inokukhokelela kwinkohlakalo, okanye ngaphandle kokuthanda. Ababulali beenkampu babezibona “njengabalindi,” abaqeqeshelwe inkohlakalo. Ngokufuthi siba yile nto siyithiyileyo: abavukeli bezolo elinye baba ngoozwilakhe bangomso.
Ipali yokwenziwa kwesithunzi seQhawe ngu I-Masochistic, ozibandakanya kukuziphatha okuzohlwaya kunye neeprojekthi Amandla eQhawe kwabanye, azive engenamandla. Uthwele ngaphakathi kuye ubugwala bobuntwana. Abo baphantsi kwempembelelo yawo banyamezela ukuxhatshazwa ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba baqhume kugonyamelo olulusizi.
Ubuntu obunyanzelekileyo busengozini ngakumbi kuMthunzi weQhawe. Abantu abasebenzisa i-workaholics banyamezela intlungu kwaye baphumelela kakhulu, kodwa ukungayekeleli kwabo kuvela kukukhathazeka okunzulu. Ukuba uyayityeshela impilo-ntle yakho yengqondo neyomzimba, mhlawumbi uphantsi kwempembelelo yayo.
Inkcazo epheleleyo yeGorha
Umlo ophumeleleyo uzimele kwaye ufudumele, unovelwano kunye nesisa. Uzinyamekela yena kunye nabanye, esilwa amadabi obulungisa ukwenza ihlabathi libe yindawo engcono.
Ubugqi kunye nolwazi lwe-Esoteric
THE Umlingo ngumqali wolwazi olufihlakeleyo. Kwiintlanga zezizwe, udlala indima ye-shaman, isikhokelo somoya kunye nomphilisi. Utyhila inyaniso aze enze ngokuqonda. Ngamaxesha ookumkani, uMlingo wayengumcebisi wezengqondo, encedisa umlawuli ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe.
Kunyango, ugqirha ongaqeqeshwanga kakuhle unokuvusa iimvakalelo angenakukwazi ukuzibamba, ezibangela intlekele. Esi siganeko siboniswa kwincwadi kaGoethe ethi “UmFundi womthakathi”.
Isithunzi sobugqi: Umqhathi kunye nomsulwa
THE I-Manipulator, isibonda esisebenzayo sesithunzi, usebenzisa ulwazi lwakhe ukulawula abanye. Ngamanye amaxesha abanyangi babamba ulwazi oluyimfuneko, bedala ukuxhomekeka okungenampilo kwizigulana zabo.
THE Naive, i-pali ye-passive, ifuna amandla oMlingo ngaphandle kokuthatha uxanduva. Woyika ukutyhilwa kwaye uswele amandla.
Inkcazo epheleleyo yoMlingo
I-Magician ephumeleleyo ibamba amandla akrwada kwaye iwasasaze ukuze iguqulwe. Ufikelela kwingcwele ngokukhokela abanye kwindaleko yabo.
Umthandi kunye nomnqweno woBomi
L’Umthandi ngumthombo wothando kunye nokunxibelelana nehlabathi. Luquka zonke iintlobo zothando: i-agape (uthando lokuzincama), iphilia (ubuhlobo), i-storgé (uthando losapho) kunye ne-eros (uthando lothando). UJung wajonga i-libido njengamandla obomi ngowona mbono ubanzi.
Amagcisa ahlala esondele kumandla okudala akrwada, kodwa ahlawule ixabiso eliphezulu ngalo mlilo kaThixo.
Isithunzi soMthandi: Umlutha kunye nongenaMandla
L’Lover Addict ufuna ulwaneliseko olungenasiphelo, egatya yonke imiqobo. Uvaleleke kumjikelezo wolonwabo neentlungu. L’Umthandi ongenakuzinceda, ngokuchaseneyo, ulahlekelwa yiyo yonke inkanuko kunye nokukhuthaza, ukucwila ekudakaleni.
Ukubonakaliswa okupheleleyo koMthandi
Umthandi olungeleleneyo uziva ephila, exhunyiwe kwaye enomdla. Igcina ezinye ii-archetypes zisekelwe kuthando kunye nentsingiselo.
Ukudityaniswa kwe-Archetypes yaMasculine
Iindlela ezintathu zokwenza ukuba kube lula ukudibanisa ezi archetypes:
- Intelekelelo esebenzayo: Thetha incoko namanani akho angaphakathi ukuqonda iimfuno zabo.
- Invocation: Biza ezi archetypes kwiifom zazo ezilungileyo.
- Incarnation: Bamkele okwethutyana indlela yokuziphatha ukuze badibanise iimpawu zabo.
Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ukungakhuli kwendoda nebhinqa kuyongamela. Uluntu luthanda ubutyebi bomntu ngaphezu kokuqola. Nangona kunjalo, sidinga amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abadibeneyo, abakwaziyo ukukhokela uluntu ngobubele boKumkani, isibindi soMkhosi, ubulumko boMlingo kunye nothando loMthandi.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.