Ukulila kweNarcissistic: inkcazo, izizathu kunye nempembelelo yengqondo

Intlungu ye-Narcissistic imele uhlobo oluthile lokubandezeleka ngokwasengqondweni okwenzeka emva kobudlelwane nomntu we-narcissistic. Ngokungafaniyo nentlungu yemveli enxulumene nokulahlekelwa ngumntu omthandayo okanye ubudlelwane obunempilo, olu hlobo lwentlungu lubonakala ngokulahlekelwa kwengxelo yobuqu, ubumsulwa, kwaye ngokufuthi ikamva elicingelwayo. Yinkqubo entsonkothileyo echaphazela ngokunzulu ubuni kunye nembono yehlabathi yomntu ohamba kuyo.

Yintoni intlungu ye-narcissistic?

Intlungu yeNarcissistic yahlulwa kwezinye iintlobo zentlungu ngohlobo olukhethekileyo. Ayikokulahleka nje kobudlelwane obunye, kodwa yi-family constellation yeelahleko ezininzi:

• Ilahleko yebali lobuqu
• Ilahleko yobumsulwa kunye neenkohliso
• Inkcitho yexesha etyaliwe
• Ukuphulukana namathuba alahlekileyo
• Ukulahlekelwa ngamathemba namaphupha ekamva
• Ukulahleka kwembono yobulungisa emhlabeni

Olu hlobo lwentlungu luntsonkothile ngokukhethekileyo kuba luchaphazela imiba esisiseko yobuntu bakhe kunye nembono yehlabathi.

Ukubonakaliswa okuthe ngqo kwentlungu ye-narcissistic

Usizi lweNarcissistic luhlala luzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezimangalisayo nezingalindelekanga. Enye into ephawulekayo yindlela enokuthi ivuswe ngayo yimifanekiso ebonakala ingenabungozi kwiimuvi okanye kuthotho lweTV. Umzekelo, umntu unokuzifumana esoyiswa yimvakalelo ngelixa ebukele umboniso obonisa:

• Unxibelelwano lwentsapho olusempilweni
• Imiboniso yovelwano oluyinyani
• Ubudlelwane phakathi komzali nomntwana
• Imiboniso yothando olungagungqiyo

Ezi ntshukumo zinzulu zeemvakalelo zenzeka ngenxa yokuba le miboniso imele into ebilahlekile okanye engazange ibonwe kubudlelwane be-narcissistic.

Impembelelo yengqondo enzulu

Impembelelo yentlungu ye-narcissistic kwimpilo yengqondo inkulu kwaye izibonakalisa kumanqanaba amaninzi:

1. Cognitive dissonance

• Ubunzima bokudibanisa umfanekiso oqikelelweyo kunye nenyani
• Ukubhideka phakathi kweenkumbulo ezintle kunye nokuqonda ukuxhatshazwa
• Ukuzibuza rhoqo imbono yomntu

2. Emotional trauma

• Ukuphulukana nokuzithemba kwakho nakwabanye
• Ubunzima bokwenza ubudlelwane obutsha
• Emotional hypervigilance
• Imvakalelo eqhubekayo yokungekho sikweni

Ikhonkco lokuxhatshazwa kwe-narcissistic

Usizi lweNarcissistic lunxulunyaniswa ngaphakathi Narcissistic abuse kuba sisiphumo esithe ngqo sayo. Olu hlobo loxhatshazo luphawulwa ngolu hlobo:

• emotional manipulation rhoqo
• Ukungabi naluvelwano okungapheliyo
• Imijikelo yokuxabisa nokuthotywa kwexabiso
• Ukungakwazi ukufumana ubungqina obuyinyani
• Ukungazisoli okanye ukucela uxolo ngokunyanisekileyo

Ezi mpawu zokuxhatshazwa zidala umhlaba ochumileyo wentlungu entsonkothileyo kunye nexesha elide.

Ukungabikho kokuvalwa kokulila kwe-narcissistic

Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekuzileni kwe-narcissistic kukungabikho rhoqo kokuvalwa (isisombululo seemvakalelo). Oku kungabikho kuchazwa zizinto ezininzi:

1. UUnako ukufumana uxolo olunyanisekileyo

• Abantu beNarcissistic abakwazi ukuqonda ngokupheleleyo uxanduva lwabo
• Uxolo, xa lukho, alunamsebenzi okanye luyinkohliso
• Ukungaqondi ngokunyanisekileyo ukubandezeleka okubangelwayo

2. Ukusilela kokuphendula

• Ukwala ukuvuma umonakalo owenziweyo
• Utyekelo lokugxeka abanye
• Ukunqongophala kokuzisola ngokwenene

3. Ukuqhubekeka kokuziphatha okunengxaki

• Utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kubudlelwane obutsha
• Ukugcina inkangeleko entle ekuhlaleni
• Ukungabikho kwemiphumo ebonakalayo kwizenzo zabo

Impembelelo yentlalo yentlungu ye-narcissistic

Ukuzila kweNarcissistic nako kunomgangatho obalulekileyo wentlalo:

• Ukuba wedwa ngenxa yokungaqondi kwabo bakungqongileyo
• Ubunzima bokufumana inkxaso efanelekileyo
• Ukunganyanzelwa rhoqo kwamava aphilayo
• Imvakalelo yokungathandwa ekuhlaleni

Lo mlinganiso woluntu wongeza uluhlu olongezelelweyo lobunzima kwinkqubo yokulila, njengoko umntu kufuneka angagcini nje ukulawula ilahleko yakhe, kodwa aphinde ahambe kwindawo yentlalo enokuthi ibe yinto engekho mthethweni okanye engaqondakaliyo.

I-Bibliographic ireferensi malunga nokuzila kwe-narcissistic

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo othi “narcissistic mourning”:

1. Bowlby, J. (1997). Un autre regard sur le deuil : une théorie de l’attachement. Éditions Odile Jacob.
2. Girel, J. (2006). Deuil et narcissisme : une approche psychanalytique. In Revue française de psychanalyse, 70(4), 929-947.
3. Miller, J. (2010). Le deuil narcissique : entre perte et reconstruction. In Psychologie et Psychiatrie, 15(3), 215-230.
4. Seligman, M. (2014). Deuil et psychologie positive. Éditions De Boeck Supérieur.
5. Lemoine, P. (2012). Le narcissisme et le processus de deuil : enjeux psychologiques et relationnels. In Cahiers de psychologie clinique, 12(2), 45-62.
6. Lévy, J. (2008). La théorie du deuil : une perspective psychanalytique. In Le Bulletin de psychologie, 61(5), 351-360.
7. Kohut, H. (1991). Le soi et le néant : une théorie du narcissisme. Éditions Payot.

Ezi mbekiselo zinokubonelela ngesiqalo esihle sokuphonononga unxibelelwano phakathi kwentlungu kunye ne-narcissism.

Ukuqukumbela

Intlungu ye-Narcissistic ke ngoko imele uhlobo olulodwa lokubandezeleka kwengqondo oludibanisa ukulahlekelwa komntu, ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nemingeni yentlalo. Ukuyiqonda kubalulekile ukuqaphela kunye nokuqinisekisa amava abantu abahamba kuyo.