Ingqalelo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kulwalamano lwabantu, kodwa ithatha indawo ekhethekileyo kwabanye abantu. Iimpawu zengqwalasela inokuba yimali yokwenyani, ngakumbi kubantu abaneempawu ze-narcissistic. Eli nqaku liphonononga indlela iimpawu zengqwalasela eziyichaphazela ngayo indlela yokuziphatha kunye nobudlelwane bobuntu be-narcissistic.
Ukufuna ingqalelo njengemfuno esisiseko
Kubantu abaninzi abaneempawu ze-narcissistic, ingqwalasela ayikho nje intle – ibalulekile. Le mfuno eqhubekayo yokuqatshelwa kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle ibumba ngokunzulu intsebenziswano yabo yentlalo kunye nokukhetha ubomi. Ngokungafaniyo nabantu abaninzi abathanda ukuhoywa amaxesha ngamaxesha, ii-narcisists zidla ngokuyenza ibe yeyona nto iphambili.
Oku kufuna ingqalelo kunokuzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo:
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- Uhlala efuna ukunconywa kunye nendumiso
- Kufuneka ube sembindini wazo zonke iincoko
- Utyekelo lokulawula ingqalelo kumaqela
- Uvakalelo olugqithisileyo lokugxekwa okanye ukungabi namdla
Kwaba bantu, ukungafumani ngqalelo ngokwaneleyo kunokubangela ukungonwabi ngokwenyani ngokwasengqondweni. Ingqalelo ke iye ibe luhlobo lwesibaso seemvakalelo esiyimfuneko kwibhalansi yabo.
Ingqwalasela njengendlela yokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle
narcissistic personalities zihlala zinomfanekiso obuthathaka ofuna ukuqinisekiswa rhoqo ngaphandle. Iimpawu zengqwalasela zisebenza njengesipili esandisiweyo, zibuyela kubo umfanekiso omkhulu abafuna ukuwugcina. Ukuncoma ngalunye, uphawu ngalunye lomdla luyondla kwaye luqinise ukuzithemba kwabo okungazinzanga.
Oku kuthembela kuqinisekiso lwangaphandle kucacisa ukuba kutheni aba bantu ngamanye amaxesha banokubandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okugqithisileyo ukufumana ingqalelo:
- Ukubaxa izinto abazifezileyo kunye neetalente zabo
- Ukubeka ubomi babo kwiintanethi zentlalo
- Ukuxhokonxa kunye nokukhangela iingxabano
- Ukutshintsha rhoqo kwimpahla okanye kwisimbo somzimba
Ingqalelo ke iba luhlobo lobungqina bexabiso nokubaluleka kwazo emehlweni ehlabathi.
Imfuno eguquguqukayo yokuqwalaselwa
Okubangel ‘umdla kukuba, imfuno yokuhoywa kwabantu abakhohlakeleyo ayitshintshi. Njengoko umbalisi wesicatshulwa somthombo, ozichaza njenge-narcissist efunyenweyo, echaza, le mfuno inokuguquguquka kakhulu:
“Andisoloko ndifuna ukuhoywa kunye nendumiso, ngamanye amaxesha ayithethi nto kum. Ezinye iintsuku ndivuka kwaye andikhathali. Kodwa xa ndifuna, ndiyifuna ngokwenene. “
Olu lwahluko kubuzaza bemfuno yoqwalaselo lunokuchazwa ngezinto ezininzi:
- Imo yelo xesha
- Inqanaba loxinzelelo okanye anxiety
- Iziganeko zakutsha nje (impumelelo okanye ukusilela)
- Umxholo wentlalo
Oku kuguquguquka kunokwenza ukuba ukuziphatha kwee-narcisists kube nzima kwabo babangqongileyo ukuqikelela nokuqonda.
Ingqalelo njengemali
Esinye sezafobe ezimangalisayo ezisetyenziswe kwisicatshulwa somthombo seso sokuqwalaselwa njenge “mali”. Kwiinarcisists ezininzi, iimpawu zengqwalasela ngokwenene zinexabiso elithelekisekayo kwimali kunxibelelwano lwabo lwentlalo.
Lo mzekeliso uzibonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi:
- Abona bantu banikela ingqalelo engakumbi ngabona baxatyiswayo
- Ingqalelo “ingachithwa” ukufumana inkoliseko okanye impembelelo
- Ukungabikho kwengqwalasela kubonwa njengendlela “yetyala” eliza kugcwaliswa
Lo mbono wentengiselwano wobudlelwane unokuchaza ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezimangalisayo, njengokukopela iqabane lakho nomntu ongathandekiyo, ngenxa yokuba loo mntu unikela ingqalelo ngakumbi.
Impembelelo kubudlelwane bothando
Amandla okuqwalasela adlala indima ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane bothando obubandakanya ubuntu be-narcissistic. Isicatshulwa somthombo sigxininisa ukuba “oyena mntu uhlawula ingqalelo kakhulu uyaphumelela”, nto leyo inokudala iimeko ezinzima kunye nezibuhlungu kumaqabane.
Iipateni ezininzi zobudlelwane eziyingxaki zinokuvela:
- Ukhuphiswano oluthe gqolo lwengqalelo ye-narcissist
- Ikhefu ngokukhawuleza xa umthombo omtsha wokuqwalaselwa uvela
- Iimfuno ezigqithisileyo malunga nokufumaneka kunye nokubonakaliswa kweemvakalelo
- Ukungathembeki okukhuthazwa kukukhangela imithombo emitsha yengqwalasela
Ezi ntshukumo zinokurhafisa kakhulu kumaqabane, azibhaqa ekumzamo ongapheliyo wokwanelisa imfuno ye-narcissist yokuhoywa.
Inethiwekhi yoluntu: ibala elitsha lokudlala
Kwixesha ledijithali, iinethiwekhi zentlalo zibonelela ngamathuba amatsha abantu abafuna ingqalelo rhoqo. La maqonga avumela:
- Ukuqinisekiswa ngoko nangoko ngendlela yokuthanda kunye nezimvo
- Ukuba nokwenzeka kokufikelela kubaphulaphuli abaninzi
- Ukwenziwa kwe- yokuzenzela umfanekiso-ngqondweni we-.
Umbalisi wombhalo ukwakhankanya ubukho bakhe obubalulekileyo kumaqonga ahlukeneyo, kunye namakhulu amawaka ababhalisile. Oku kuvezwa kukhulu kunokuba macala amabini: umthombo ongaphelelwayo wokuqwalaselwa, kodwa unokuba namandla.
Ingqwalasela engalunganga: i-paradox enomdla
Umba onomdla kakhulu wobudlelwane be-narcissists kwingqalelo kukukwazi kwabo ukuxhamla nakwingqwalasela engalunganga. Isicatshulwa somthombo sixoxa ngetyala lomntu okwi-intanethi owathi, emva kokubanjwa ngenxa yokungahoywa komntwana wakhe, wajika olu lwazi lubi lube lithuba lokwandisa udumo lwakhe.
Lo mcimbi unokuchazwa ngezinto ezininzi:
- Inkolelo yokuba naluphi na upapasho kulungile ukuthabatha
- Ukukwazi ukuyila kwakhona amabali amabi ukuze kuxhamle wena
- Ulonwabo olufumaneka kwingxabano kunye neengxabano
Obu buchule bokuphumelela naphantsi kokugxekwa bubonisa indlela imfuno yokuhoywa enokuthi ithathe indawo yokuqala kuzo zonke ezinye iingqalelo zobuntu abathile be-narcissistic.
Isiphelo: qonda ngaphandle kokuthethelela
Uphononongo lweempawu zengqwalasela kumxholo wobuntu be-narcissistic isinika ukuqonda okunomdla kubunzima bobudlelwane babantu. Ukuba le mfuno iphakamileyo yoqwalaselo inokuchazwa ngeendlela ezinzulu zengqondo, kubalulekile ukugxininisa ukuba akukho ndlela ethethelelayo.ukuziphatha okuyityhefuokanye ukuxhaphaza okunokubangelwa kuko.
Ukuqonda ezi ntshukumo kunokunceda ekuqhubeni ngcono unxibelelwano nabantu be-narcissistic, nokuba kukwimeko yobuqu okanye yobungcali. Kwakhona kusivumela ukuba siqaphele iimfuno zethu zokuqwalasela kunye nokuqinisekiswa, ukuphuhlisa ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nokulinganisela ngakumbi.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.