Ukunaka kuyisici esibalulekile ebudlelwaneni babantu, kodwa kuthatha isici esikhethekile kwabanye abantu. Izimpawu zokunakwa zingaba uhlobo lwemali lwangempela, ikakhulukazi kubantu abanezici ze-narcissistic. Lesi sihloko sihlola ukuthi izimpawu zokunakwa zinethonya kanjani ekuziphatheni nasebudlelwaneni babantu be-narcissistic.
Ukufuna ukunakwa njengesidingo esiyisisekelo
Kubantu abaningi abanezici ze-narcissistic, ukunaka akuyona nje into enhle – kubalulekile. Lesi sidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqashelwa nokuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle silolonga ngokujulile ukuxhumana kwabo komphakathi nokukhetha ukuphila. Ngokungafani nabantu abaningi abajabulela ukunakwa ngezikhathi ezithile, ama-narcissists akwenza kube yinto eza kuqala.
Lokhu kufuna ukunakwa kungazibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene:
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
- Ihlala ifuna ukunconywa nokudumisa
- Kudingeka ukuba phakathi kwazo zonke izingxoxo
- Ukuthambekela kokuphatha ukunakwa emaqenjini
- Ukuzwela okwedlulele ekugxekweni noma ekuntula intshisekelo
Kulaba bantu, ukungatholi ukunakwa ngokwanele kungabangela ukungakhululeki kwangempela ngokwengqondo. Ukunaka bese kuba uhlobo lokufutheka kwemizwelo ebalulekile ekulinganiseni kwabo.
Ukunakwa njengendlela yokuqinisekisa kwangaphandle
Lezi ubuntu be-narcissistic ngokuvamile babe nesithombe somuntu siqu esibuthakathaka esidinga ukuqinisekiswa okuqhubekayo okuvela ngaphandle. Izimpawu zokunakwa zibe sezisebenza njengesibuko esikhulisayo, esibabuyisela emuva isithombe esikhulu abafuna ukusigcina. Ukuncoma ngakunye, uphawu ngalunye lokuthakasela luyondla futhi luqinise ukuzethemba kwabo okungazinzile.
Lokhu kwethembela ekuqinisekisweni kwangaphandle kuchaza ukuthi kungani laba bantu kwesinye isikhathi bengazibandakanya ekuziphatheni okweqisayo ukuze bathole ukunakwa:
- Ihaba lezimpumelelo zabo kanye namakhono
- Ukudlala izimpilo zabo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana
- Ukucasulwa kanye ukucinga izingxabano
- Ukushintsha njalo kwezingubo noma isitayela somzimba
Ukunaka bese kuba uhlobo lobufakazi bokubaluleka nokubaluleka kwazo emehlweni omhlaba.
Isidingo esishintshashintshayo sokunakwa
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi isidingo sokunakwa kwabantu be-narcissistic asihlali njalo. Njengoba umxoxi wombhalo owumthombo, ozichaza njenge-narcissist etholakele, echaza, lesi sidingo singashintshashintsha kakhulu:
“Angifuni ukunakwa nokunconywa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kwesinye isikhathi akusho lutho kimina. Ngezinye izinsuku ngiyavuka futhi anginandaba nakancane. Kodwa uma ngiyifuna, ngiyayifuna ngempela. »
Lokhu kwehluka kokuqina kwesidingo sokunakwa kungachazwa ngezinto ezimbalwa:
- Isimo samanje
- Izinga lokucindezeleka nomaukukhathazeka
- Imicimbi yakamuva (impumelelo noma ukwehluleka)
- Ingqikithi yezenhlalo
Lokhu kuguquguquka kungenza ukuziphatha kwama-narcissists kube nzima kulabo abaseduze kwabo ukubikezela nokuqonda.
Ukunakwa njengohlobo lwemali
Esinye sezingathekiso ezihlaba umxhwele kakhulu esisetshenziswe kumbhalo owumthombo yileso sokunaka njengokuthi “imali.” Kuma-narcisists amaningi, izimpawu zokunaka empeleni zinenani eliqhathaniswa nelemali ekuxhumaneni kwabo komphakathi.
Lesi sifaniso sizibonakalisa ngezindlela eziningana:
- Abantu abanaka kakhulu ngokuvamile yibona abaziswa kakhulu
- Ukunaka “kungachithwa” ukuze kuzuze ukuthandwa noma ukuthonya
- Ukuntula ukunaka kubonakala njengendlela “yesikweletu” okufanele sikhokhelwe
Lo mbono wokuthengiselana wobudlelwano ungachaza ukuziphatha okuthile okumangazayo, njengokukopela umlingani wakho nomuntu ongathandeki, ngoba nje lowo muntu unikeza ukunaka okwengeziwe.
Umthelela ebuhlotsheni bothando
Amandla wokunaka adlala indima ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni bezothando obuhlanganisa abantu abanganaki. Umbhalo womthombo ugcizelela ukuthi “onaka kakhulu uyawina,” okungadala izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi nezibuhlungu kubalingani.
Amaphethini wobudlelwano amaningana ayinkinga angavela:
- Ukuncintisana okuqhubekayo kokunaka kwe-narcissist
- Amakhefu angazelelwe lapho kuvela umthombo omusha wokunaka
- Izimfuno ezeqile mayelana nokutholakala kanye nokuboniswa kwemizwa
- Ukungathembeki okugqugquzelwa ukufuna imithombo emisha yokunaka
Lezi zinguquko zingakhokhisa kakhulu ozakwethu, abazithola besemzamweni ongapheli wokwanelisa isidingo sokunakwa se-narcissist.
Amanethiwekhi omphakathi: inkundla entsha yokudlala
Esikhathini sedijithali, izinkundla zokuxhumana zinikeza amathuba amasha abantu abafuna ukunakwa njalo. Lezi zinkundla zivumela:
- Ukuqinisekisa okusheshayo ngendlela yokuthandwayo namazwana
- Amathuba okufinyelela izethameli eziningi
- Ukwenziwa kwe- isithombe sakho okulungiselelwe futhi okulawulwayo
Umxoxi wombhalo uphinde akhulume ngobukhona bakhe obubalulekile ezinkundleni ezihlukahlukene, namakhulu ezinkulungwane zababhalisile. Lokhu kuvezwa okukhulu kungaba nhlangothi zombili: umthombo ongashi wokunaka, kodwa futhi okungase kube namandla.
Ukunaka okungalungile: indida ethakazelisayo
Isici esithakazelisayo ikakhulukazi sobudlelwane bama-narcissists ekunakweni yikhono labo lokuzuza ngisho nokunaka okungalungile. Umthombo uxoxa ngodaba lomuntu ose-inthanethi okwathi ngemuva kokuboshelwa ukunganaki ingane yakhe, waphendula lokhu kukhulunywa kabi kwaba yithuba lokwandisa udumo lwakhe.
Lesi simo singachazwa ngezinto ezimbalwa:
- Inkolelo yokuthi noma yikuphi ukukhangisa kuhle ukuthatha
- Ikhono lokubumba kabusha ukulandisa okungalungile ukuze kuzuze
- Ubumnandi obutholakala ekucasukeni nasekuxabaneni
Leli khono lokuchuma ngisho nangaphansi kokugxekwa libonisa ukuthi isidingo sokunakwa singafika kuqala kanjani ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye okucatshangelwayo kwabanye abantu abanganaki.
Isiphetho: qonda ngaphandle kokuthethelela
Ucwaningo lokuziphatha okufuna ukunaka kumongo wobuntu obuzithanda ngokweqile lunikeza ukuqonda okuthakazelisayo ngobunkimbinkimbi bobudlelwano babantu. Nakuba lesi sidingo esikhulu sokunaka singachazwa ngezindlela ezijulile zengqondo, kubalulekile ukugcizelela ukuthi asikuvumeli nhlobo ukuziphatha okunobuthi noma ukuhlukunyezwa okungase kuvele kukho.
Ukuqonda lezi zinguquko kungasiza nokho ukuzulazula kangcono ekusebenzelaneni nabantu be-narcissistic, kungaba sesimweni somuntu siqu noma sochwepheshe. Kuphinde kusivumele ukuthi siqaphele izidingo zethu zokunakwa nokuqinisekiswa, ukuthuthukisa ubudlelwano obunempilo nobulinganiselayo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.