Ubulumko bomntu yingcamango entsonkothileyo eye yabangela umdla kubaphandi kangangamashumi eminyaka. Embindini wale mbono kukho imiba emibini esisiseko: ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo. Ezi ndlela zimbini zobukrelekrele zidlala indima ebalulekileyo ekukwazini kwethu ukuqonda ihlabathi elisingqongileyo kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye. Kweli nqaku, siza kuphonononga ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye neemvakalelo nzulu, sivavanya ifuthe labo kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla.
Inkcazo yobukrelekrele bengqondo
Ubukrelekrele bengqondo, obudla ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-IQ (Intelligence Quotient), bubhekisa kubuchule bethu bokuqiqa, ukusombulula iingxaki, ukufunda nokugcina ulwazi. Iquka izakhono ezininzi zengqondo, kuquka:
- Inkumbulo
- Ingqiqo
- Ukuqiqa okungabonakaliyo
- Ukuqonda ngomlomo
- Ukusetyenzwa kolwazi olubonakalayo nolwendawo
Olu hlobo lobukrelekrele lulinganiswa ngokubanzi ngovavanyo olusemgangathweni oluvavanya ezi zakhono zahlukeneyo. Abantu abanengqondo ephezulu yengqondo bahlala begqwesa kwiinkalo zemfundo kunye nezobuchwephesha ezifuna ukucinga okucazululayo kunye nengqiqo.
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Iimpawu zobukrelekrele beemvakalelo
Emotional intelligence, kwelinye icala, ichaphazela ukukwazi kwethu ukuqaphela, ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zethu, kunye nokuqonda kunye nokuphembelela iimvakalelo zabanye. Ibandakanya amacandelo amaninzi aphambili:
- Ukuzazi: ukukwazi ukuchonga nokuqonda iimvakalelo zomntu
- Ukuzilawula: ukukwazi ukulawula kunye ukulawula iimvakalelo zomntu ngokufanelekileyo
- Inkuthazo: ukukwazi ukusebenzisa iimvakalelo zakho ukufezekisa iinjongo zakho
- Uvelwano: Uvelwano: ukukwazi ukuqonda nokuva iimvakalelo zabanye
- Izakhono zentlalo: ukukwazi ukusebenzisana ngokufanelekileyo nabanye kunye nokulawula ubudlelwane
Ngokungafaniyo nobukrelekrele bokuqonda, ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunzima kakhulu ukulinganisa ngokuchanekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, idlala indima ebalulekileyo ngokulinganayo kwimpumelelo yethu yobuqu kunye nobungcali.
Ukubaluleka kokulungelelanisa ingqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo
Nangona ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo zahlukile, ziyahambelana kwaye zibalulekile ekusebenzeni kwethu ngokubanzi. Umntu onengqondo ephezulu yokuqonda kodwa ingqondo ephantsi yeemvakalelo unokufumana ubunzima kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu okanye ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo. Kwelinye icala, umntu onengqondo eyomeleleyo ngokweemvakalelo kodwa ingqondo engaphuhliswanga kangako unokusokola ukusombulula iingxaki ezintsonkothileyo okanye agqwese kwiindawo ezithile zemfundo.
Ukulungelelanisa ezi ntlobo zimbini zobukrelekrele kubalulekile ekuqhubeni ngempumelelo ilizwe lethu elintsonkothileyo nelisoloko litshintsha.
Impembelelo yobukrelekrele bengqondo kunye neemvakalelo kuphuhliso lomntu
Zombini ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo zidlala indima ebalulekileyo kuphuhliso lwethu lobuqu. Nantsi indlela eziphembelela ngayo iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu:
- Ezemfundo kunye nempumelelo yobuchwephesha
Ubukrelekrele bengqondo buhlala bunxulunyaniswa nokusebenza ngcono kwezemfundo kunye nempumelelo enkulu kwimisebenzi efuna izakhono zokuhlalutya. Nangona kunjalo, ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo buya kwamkelwa njengento ephambili kwimpumelelo yobuchwephesha, ngakumbi kwiindima zobunkokeli kunye neengcali ezibandakanya ukusebenzisana rhoqo kwabantu.
- Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo budlala indima ebalulekileyo kumgangatho wobudlelwane bethu. Abantu abakrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo empathy banxibelelana ngcono kwaye bayakwazi ukujongana nengxabano ngokufanelekileyo. Oku kunokukhokelela kulwalamano olwanelisayo noluhlala luhleli, kokubini ngokobuqu nasemsebenzini.
- Ukuguquguquka kunye nokuqina
Indibaniselwano yengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo inegalelo ekukwazini kwethu ukuziqhelanisa nemingeni yobomi. Ubukrelekrele bengqondo businceda ukuba sihlalutye iimeko kwaye sifumane izisombululo ezinengqiqo, ngelixa ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo buvumela ukuba silawule uxinzelelo, sihlale sikhuthazekile kwaye sibuyele umva xa sijamelene nobunzima.
Izinto eziphembelela uphuhliso lwengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo
Ziliqela izinto ezinegalelo ekuphuhlisweni kwezi ntlobo zimbini zobuntlola:
- Genetic factor
Uphando lucebisa ukuba kukho icandelo lemfuzo kubukrelekrele bengqondo. Abanye abantu banokuba nokuthambekela kwendalo kubuchule obuthile bokuqonda. Nangona kunjalo, okusingqongileyo kukwadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekubonakalisweni kwesi senzo.
- Indalo esingqongileyo kunye nemfundo
Ummandla apho umntu akhulela khona kunye nemfundo ayifumanayo inempembelelo enkulu ekuphuhliseni ingqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo. Indawo ekhuthazayo, etyebileyo kumathuba okufunda kunye nonxibelelwano oluhle loluntu, inokukhuthaza uphuhliso lweentlobo zombini zobukrelekrele.
- amava obomi
Amava obomi, nokuba alungile okanye angalunganga, anegalelo ekuphuhliseni ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo. Imingeni, iintsilelo kunye nempumelelo zisifundisa ukuba siqonde ngcono kwaye silawule iimvakalelo zethu, kunye nokusebenzisana ngokufanelekileyo nabanye.
Unxibelelwano phakathi kwengqondo, ingqondo yeemvakalelo kunye nempilo yengqondo
Ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye neemvakalelo bunxibelelene ngokusondeleyo nempilo yethu yengqondo kunye nempilo yonke. Nalu unxibelelwano olubalulekileyo:
- Stress ulawulo
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo obuphezulu bunxulunyaniswa nolawulo olungcono loxinzelelo. Abantu abakwaziyo ukuqaphela nokulawula iimvakalelo zabo ngokuqhelekileyo baxhotyiswe ngcono ukujongana noxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla kunye neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo.
- Uthintelo lokudakumba kunye nexhala anxiety
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo bunokudlala indima ekhuselayo kwiziphazamiso ezithile zempilo yengqondo. Ukukwazi ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunokunceda ukukhusela okanye ukunciphisa iimpawu zokudakumba kunye nokuxhalaba.
- Ingxaki zokulungisa kunye nokulungelelanisa
Ingqondo yokuqonda isinceda sihlalutye iingxaki kwaye sifumane izisombululo ezinengqiqo, ezinokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba okunxulumene neemeko ezinzima. Idityaniswe nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo, isenza sikwazi ukuziqhelanisa ngokunempumelelo ngakumbi nemingeni yobomi.
Ukuqukumbela
Ubukrelekrele bengqondo kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo yimiba emibini esisiseko yokusebenza kwethu kwengqondo nentlalontle. Nangona zahlukile, ziyahambelana kwaye zibalulekile kwimpumelelo yethu kunye nempilo yonke. Ukuqonda ezi ntlobo zimbini zobukrelekrele kusivumela ukuba sikuqonde ngcono ukuntsonkotha kwengqondo yomntu kunye nokubaluleka kokuhlakulela izakhono zethu zobukrelekrele nezeemvakalelo. Ngokuqaphela indima ebalulekileyo edlalwa bubulumko kubomi bethu, sinokusebenzela ukuziphuhlisa ngendlela elungeleleneyo, ngaloo ndlela sikhuthaza ukukhula kwethu buqu kunye nokukwazi kwethu ukuhambahamba kwihlabathi eliya lintsokotha neliqhakamshelanayo.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.