Ubuhlakani bomuntu buwumqondo oyinkimbinkimbi osekungamashumi eminyaka uhlaba umxhwele abacwaningi. Enhliziyweni yalo mbono kunezici ezimbili eziyisisekelo: ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo nobuhlakani bomzwelo. Lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlakani zidlala indima ebalulekile ekhonweni lethu lokuqonda umhlaba osizungezile kanye nokuxhumana nabanye. Kulesi sihloko, sizohlola ubuhlakani bengqondo nemizwa ngokujula, sihlole umthelela wabo empilweni yethu yansuku zonke.
Incazelo yokuhlakanipha kwengqondo
I-cognitive intelligence, evame ukubizwa nge-IQ (Intelligence Quotient), ibhekisela ekhonweni lethu lokucabanga, ukuxazulula izinkinga, ukufunda nokugcina ulwazi. Kuhlanganisa amakhono engqondo amaningana, okuhlanganisa:
- Inkumbulo
- Umqondo
- Ukucabanga okungabonakali
- Ukuqonda ngamazwi
- Ukucutshungulwa kolwazi olubonakalayo nolwendawo
Lolu hlobo lobuhlakani ngokuvamile lukalwa ngokuhlolwa okujwayelekile okuhlola lawa makhono ahlukene. Abantu abanobuhlakani obuphezulu bengqondo bavame ukwenza kahle emikhakheni yezemfundo neyochwepheshe edinga ukucabanga kokuhlaziya nokunengqondo.
UCristina unikeza iseshini yomuntu ngamunye ukukusiza uphume ekulawulweni okuhlukumezayo futhi wakhe impilo yakho kabusha.
Izici zobuhlakani bemizwa
Theubuhlakani bemizwa, futhi, kuthinta ikhono lethu lokubona, ukuqonda nokulawula imizwa yethu siqu, kanye nokubona nokuthonya imizwelo yabanye. Ihlanganisa izingxenye ezimbalwa ezibalulekile:
- Ukuzazi: ikhono lokuhlonza nokuqonda imizwa yomuntu
- Ukuzilawula: ikhono lokulawula kanye lawula imizwa yakho ngendlela efanele
- Ukugqugquzela: ikhono lokusebenzisa imizwa yakho ukufeza izinhloso zakho
- Uzwela: ikhono lokuqonda nokuzwa imizwa yabanye
- Amakhono okuxhumana nabantu: ikhono lokuxhumana ngempumelelo nabanye nokuphatha ubudlelwano
Ngokungafani nobuhlakani bokuqonda, ubuhlakani bomzwelo bunzima kakhulu ukukukala ngokunembile. Kodwa-ke, idlala indima ebalulekile ngokulinganayo empumelelweni yethu yomuntu siqu neyomsebenzi.
Ukubaluleka kokulinganisa ubuhlakani bengqondo nemizwa
Nakuba ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo nokuhlakanipha kwemizwa kuhlukile, kuyaphelelisana futhi kubalulekile ekusebenzeni kwethu kukonke. Umuntu onobuhlakani obuphezulu kodwa ohlakaniphe kakhulu ngokomzwelo angaba nobunzima ebudlelwaneni babantu noma ekulawuleni imizwa yakhe. Ngokuphambene, umuntu onobuhlakani obuqinile bomzwelo kodwa ohlakaniphe kancane angase athwale kanzima ukuxazulula izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi noma aphumelele ezindaweni ezithile zezemfundo.
Ukulinganisa lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlakani kubalulekile ukuze uzulazule ngempumelelo emhlabeni wethu oyinkimbinkimbi futhi oshintsha njalo.
Umthelela wobuhlakani bengqondo nemizwa ekukhuleni komuntu siqu
Kokubili ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo nobuhlakani bemizwa kudlala indima ebalulekile ekukhuleni kwethu komuntu siqu. Nansi indlela abathonya ngayo izici ezihlukene zempilo yethu:
- Impumelelo yezemfundo neyomsebenzi
Ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokusebenza okungcono kwezemfundo kanye nempumelelo enkulu emisebenzini edinga amakhono okuhlaziya. Kodwa-ke, ubuhlakani bomzwelo buqashelwa ngokwandayo njengesici esibalulekile empumelelweni yobungcweti, ikakhulukazi ezindimeni zobuholi nemisebenzi ebandakanya ukuxhumana kwabantu njalo.
- Ubuhlobo bomphakathi
Ubuhlakani bemizwa budlala indima ebalulekile kwikhwalithi yobudlelwano bethu. Abantu abanobuhlakani obukhulu ngokomzwelo babeuzwela kanye nabakhulumisana kangcono futhi abakwazi ukulawula ukungqubuzana ngempumelelo. Lokhu kungaholela ebuhlotsheni obanelisayo nobuhlala njalo, kokubili ngokomuntu siqu nangokomsebenzi.
- Ukuzivumelanisa nezimo nokuqina
Inhlanganisela yobuhlakani bengqondo nemizwa inikela ekhonweni lethu lokuzivumelanisa nezinselele zempilo. Ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo kusisiza ukuba sihlaziye izimo futhi sithole izixazululo ezinengqondo, kuyilapho ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo kusivumela ukuba silawule ingcindezi, sihlale sikhuthazekile futhi sibuye sibuyele emuva lapho sibhekene nobunzima.
Izinto ezinomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kobuhlakani bokusebenza kwengqondo nemizwa
Kunezici ezimbalwa ezinomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kwalezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlakani:
- Izici zofuzo
Ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi kunengxenye yofuzo ekuhlakanipheni kwengqondo. Abanye abantu bangase babe nokuthambekela okungokwemvelo emakhonweni athile okuqonda. Kodwa-ke, imvelo nayo idlala indima ebalulekile ekuvezeni la mandla.
- Imvelo kanye nemfundo
Imvelo umuntu akhulela kuyo kanye nemfundo ayitholayo inomthelela omkhulu ekuthuthukisweni kobuhlakani bokusebenza kwengqondo nemizwa. Indawo evuselelayo, ecebile ngamathuba okufunda kanye nokuxhumana okuhle komphakathi, ingakhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwazo zombili izinhlobo zobuhlakani.
- Okuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuhle noma kubi, kunomthelela ekuthuthukisweni kobuhlakani bomzwelo. Izinselele, ukwehluleka kanye nempumelelo kusifundisa ukuqonda nokuphatha kangcono imizwa yethu, kanye nokusebenzelana ngempumelelo nabanye.
Izixhumanisi phakathi kwengqondo, ubuhlakani bemizwa kanye nempilo yengqondo
Ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo kanye nemizwa kuxhumene kakhulu nempilo yethu yengqondo kanye nempilo yonke. Nazi ezinye izixhumanisi ezibalulekile:
- Ukulawula ingcindezi
Ukuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo okuphezulu kuhlotshaniswa nokulawula ukucindezeleka okungcono. Abantu abakwazi ukubona nokulawula imizwa yabo ngokuvamile bakuhlomele kangcono ukubhekana nezingcindezi zansuku zonke nezimo ezicindezelayo.
- Ukuvimbela ukucindezeleka kanyeukukhathazeka
Ukuhlakanipha kwemizwa kungase kudlale indima yokuvikela ezinkingeni ezithile zempilo yengqondo. Ikhono lokuqonda nokuphatha imizwa yakho lingasiza ekuvimbeleni noma ekudambiseni izimpawu zokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka.
- Ukuxazulula izinkinga nokuzivumelanisa nezimo
Ukuhlakanipha kwengqondo kusisiza ukuba sihlaziye izinkinga futhi sithole izixazululo ezinengqondo, ezinganciphisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okuhlobene nezimo eziyinkimbinkimbi. Kuhlanganiswe nokuhlakanipha okungokomzwelo, kusivumela ukuba sizivumelanise ngokuphumelelayo nezinselele zokuphila.
Isiphetho
Ubuhlakani bengqondo kanye nobuhlakani bemizwa yizici ezimbili ezibalulekile zokusebenza kwethu kwengqondo nezenhlalo. Nakuba ehlukile, ayaphelelisana futhi abalulekile empumelelweni yethu nasenhlalakahleni yethu iyonke. Ukuqonda lezi zinhlobo ezimbili zobuhlakani kusivumela ukuba sikwazise kangcono ubunkimbinkimbi bomqondo womuntu kanye nokubaluleka kokuhlakulela kokubili amakhono ethu obuhlakani nawomzwelo. Ngokubona indima ebalulekile edlalwa yilezi zihlakaniphi ezimpilweni zethu, singasebenza ukuze sizithuthukise ngendlela elinganiselayo, ngaleyo ndlela sithuthukise ukukhula kwethu komuntu siqu kanye nekhono lethu lokuzulazula ezweni eliyinkimbinkimbi nelixhumene.
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