Kwenzeka njani ukuba ube yi-narcissistic kunye ne-manipulative?

Unokuba yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic njani? Ukuba yi-PN kaninzi kungenxa yamava athile awothusayo kwasebuntwaneni bakho. Ezi ziziphumo zentsapho engasebenzi kakuhle. Phakathi kobundlobongela, ukuxhatshazwa kunye nengxaki yeemvakalelo, yonke into icebisa ukuba kukho izinto ezibangela ukuba umntu abe ngumdlali we-narcissistic manipulator, nokuba uyazi okanye engazi.

Ngaba umntu unokuzalwa eyi-narcissistic manipulator?

Kwinyani, akukho mntu uzalwa eyi-narcissistic manipulator. Siba njalo ngamandla eemeko, ngakumbi indawo ohlala kuyo. I-Narcissistic perversion ayingobhubhani okanye i-pathology edluliselwa ngomlamli.

Inene, ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kukuphazamiseka kobuntu okwenzeka kwasebuntwaneni okanye ebuntwaneni. Nali inqaku lethu elichaza i oonobangela bokukhohlisa benarcissistic. Ezinye iingcali ngezengqondo zabantwana zibeka eli xesha lobuntwana obuphakathi kwe-2 kunye ne-6 yeminyaka ubudala. Abantwana abakhohlisayo sele bethwele ngaphakathi kubo imbewu yokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic.

Uba sisibhengezo-qhinga se-narcissistic njani? I-

Nazi izizathu ezahlukeneyo kunye neemeko:

1. Iimpembelelo zokusingqongileyo nezenkcubeko

• Unokuba yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic njani? Uphononongo oluninzi lubonisa ukuba ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kuphezulu kakhulu kwiinkcubeko zabantu okanye kuluntu. Olu luntu lubeka ugxininiso olukhethekileyo kumalungelo omntu ngamnye ukonakalisa inkcubeko ehlangeneyo. Iminqweno yeqela ayihoywa kwaye ubuntu buphakanyiswe.
• Ukongeza kwinkcubeko, indawo yokuhlala esondeleyo ichaphazela ukuziphatha komntwana. Amava abuhlungu ngexesha lobuncinci ngamanye amaxesha anoxanduva lokubonakala kweempawu ze-narcissistic kubantu abadala abakhohlisayo. Ukungabi naluthando, ukuchaswa, ukuphathwa kakubi, ukugxeka ngokugqithiseleyo okanye indumiso, njl.
• Ugqweso lweNarcissistic luhlala lujongwa kwiinkcubeko zomntu ngamnye, kugxininisa amalungelo omntu ukonakalisa okulungileyo ngokubambisana.
• Imeko-bume ekufutshane, ephawulwe ngamava abuhlungu obuntwana, inokuba negalelo kuphuhliso lweempawu ze-narcissistic kubantu abadala.

2. Amava obomi bokuqala kunye neqhina lomzali nomntwana

Umntwana ozelwe aze akhule e usapho lwenarcissistic manipulative ukulungele ngakumbi ukuphuhlisa iimpawu ze-narcissistic, ngcono kodwa ukuphazamiseka kobuntu.

• Imiba ethile yabazali, njengobundlobongela, ukukhuselwa, ukuxhatshazwa, impembelelo ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu ze-narcissistic kubantwana.
• Amava obomi baselula, kuquka ugonyamelo lwengqondo nokungabikho kwemida yabazali, anokuba nendima ebalulekileyo.

Ewe, izinto ezithile zabazali zihlala zinoxanduva lwamanqanaba ahlukeneyo e-narcissism ebantwaneni. Phakathi kwezi meko zabazali, unayo:

• Ubundlobongela bengqondo kunye nokwenzakala
• Oko kubizwa ngokuba “ngumzali webhere” (ukukhuselwa ngokugqithisileyo komntwana)
• Ukuxhatshazwa kunye nokuphathwa kakubi
• Ukuzonwabisa okugqithisileyo okanye ukungabikho kwemida okanye imida
• Ukunqongophala kobubele babazali
• Ukuxabisa ngokugqithisileyo okanye indumiso esekelwe kwiingcinga ezingeyonyani okanye ethanda ukugqibelela, ubukhulu, njl.

3. Imfuzo

Abanye abaphandi bafumene ikhonkco elomeleleyo phakathi kokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kunye neempawu ezithile zobuntu ezisuka kumzali ziye kumntwana. Ngokwengxelo yovavanyo, i-genetics inokucacisa ukubonakala kweempawu ezigqwethekileyo ze-narcissistic kubantwana ekuzalweni.

• I-Grandiosity yi-23% yelifa kwisibini apho omnye wabazali abonisa olu phawu
• Imvakalelo yokungafezeki okanye ukuhlala ulungile ngama-35 ekhulwini ngalinye

Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba xa uzuza ubungangamsha, iimpawu ze-narcissistic oya kuziphuhlisa xa umdala zezi: ukuzingca ngokuzingca, ukongamela okanye ukuziphatha okubalaseleyo.

Kutheni sisiba ngamaqhinga nje?

Izizathu zininzi, kodwa siba ngabaqhubi be-narcissistic ukuze sikwazi ukuzikhusela kwihlabathi elisingqongileyo. Enyanisweni, ukugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kuphuma kwi- indlela yokuzikhusela iphuhliswe kwasebuntwaneni. Le ndlela yokukhusela idla ngokuzingca nokuzicingela.

Ukususela kwiminyaka emi-4 ukuya kweyesi-5, umntwana wenza inkqubo yokuzikhusela ekhubekisayo esebenza ngesiseko sobuqhophololo. Ngaphaya koko, le ndlela yokuzikhusela ilikhaka ngokuchasene ne-psychosis kunye ne-schizophrenia.

Ingaba umqhathi uyazi ukuba usiba sisiqhatha-qhatha?

Kumbuzo wokuba ingaba i-narcissistic manipulator iyazi ukuba uyi-manipulator ye-narcissistic, i-behaviorists iphendula ngokungalunganga. Ngokwenene, i-narcissist ayiyazi ngokwenene ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator.

Uhlala kwihlabathi elintsonkothileyo elilawulwa kukukhanyela, uvelwano kunye nokukhohlisa. Ngenxa yokuba engayazi i-pathology yakhe, kwaye eswele enye, ngoko ke akunakwenzeka ukuba adibane nochwepheshe. Kwelinye icala, bathanda ukwenza ububi yaye bayiqonda kakuhle impembelelo izenzo zabo ezibachaphazelayo abanye.

Iimpawu ze-5 zokuqaphela i-narcissistic manipulator

Nazi iimpawu ezi-5 zokubona i-manipulator:

1. Une-ego enkulu: ucinga ukuba usembindini wehlabathi, uphakamisa izakhono zakhe, uhlala ezixabisa kwaye uthoba abanye ngelona thuba lincinci.
2. Uthatha i-posture yexhoba elisisigxina: akaziboni iimpazamo zakhe, uhlala ekholelwa ukuba akukho mntu ufanele ukuba ngumhlobo wakhe, uzijongela phantsi iimpazamo zakhe.
3. Akanaluvelwano, inkathalo kunye nengqalelo: akanakuze abe novelwano ngeshwangusha labanye, usoloko ebonakala ebanda yaye akanakuze abuqonde ubunzima, intlungu okanye ukubandezeleka kwabanye.
4. Nguye manipulator kwaye ulixoki ngaxeshanye: ukongeza ekubeni ngumlukuhli olungileyo, i-narcissistic manipulator inolwimi lwefolokhwe. Unobugcisa bokulawula kwaye uyakuvuyela ukudala inkungu yengqondo ejikeleze kuye. Uxoka ngayo yonke into.
5. Akazange azibone iimpazamo zakhe kwaye uyabuphika bonke ubungqina : umntu okhohlisayo uhlala ekhanyela ngokupheleleyo, akakwazi ukuqaphela ukuba unengxaki yobuntu bakhe. Akakwazi ukujongana nenyaniso kwaye usoloko ebeka abanye ekungaqiniseki.

Narcissistic pervert: Ngaba sinokumguqula okanye simtshintshe abe ngumntu oqhelekileyo?

Akukho unyango lwe-narcissistic manipulator. Ngamanye amazwi, akunakwenzeka ukuguqula i-manipulator ye-narcissistic ibe ngumntu oqhelekileyo. Inyaniso kukuba akanakuze azibuze. Kuphantse ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba wenze i-narcissistic manipulator ithandane. Ukongeza, indlela yokuzivavanya ayikho kuye kwaye ke, kunzima ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator ibuyele kwiimvakalelo ezingcono. Ngoko ke nguye kuphela obambe izitshixo zokutshintsha.

Nangona kunjalo, i-narcissistic manipulator inokuguqula iimpawu ezithile zobuntu bakhe. Ngoko ke kufuneka ajongane naye ukuze akwazi ukungonwabi nokubandezeleka kwakhe. Lo mbuzo unokwenzeka ukuba kwaye kuphela ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator ayinaxhoba. Kuyenzeka ke ngoko ukubona imiyalezo efana nale “Ndingumbhexeshi we-narcissistic, kufuneka ndenze ntoni?” »kwiiforam ezithile, oku xa umxhasi we-narcissistic eqala ukuqonda ukungonwabi kwakhe.

Qinisa ireferensi yebhayibhiliyografi yokuba “siyenza njani i-narcissistic kunye ne-manipulative?”

Nazi izingqinisiso ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi ezijongene nophuhliso lokugqwetheka kwe-narcissistic kunye nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Les perversions narcissiques. Paris : Éditions Payot.
2. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Le harcèlement moral : la violence perverse au quotidien. Paris : Éditions Syros.
3. Tisseron, S. (2013). Les secrets de famille : psychanalyse transgénérationnelle. Paris : Éditions PUF.
4. Cyrulnik, B. (2001). Un merveilleux malheur. Paris : Éditions Odile Jacob.
5. Meloy, J.R. (2002). The Psychopathic Mind: Origins, Dynamics, and Treatment. Paris : Éditions PUF.
6. Bergeret, J. (2004). La personnalité normale et pathologique. Paris : Éditions Dunod.
7. Anzieu, D. (1985). Le Moi-peau. Paris : Éditions Dunod.

Le misebenzi inika ukuqonda okunzulu kweemeko zengqondo nezendalo ezinegalelo ekuphuhliseni ukuguqulwa kwe-narcissistic kunye nokuziphatha okukhohlisayo.

Ukuqukumbela:

Ugqweso lwe-Narcissistic luhlala luvela kwixesha elidlulileyo elibuhlungu, likhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kwendlela yokuzikhusela enobudlova. Ukuqonda le mvelaphi kunokubonelela ngeendlela zokuvavanya amathuba okutshintsha, kodwa isitshixo kwinkqubo silele kwingqondo kunye nentando ye-narcissistic manipulator ngokwakhe.