Kodi mungakhale bwanji Wopotoza Narcissistic komanso wonyenga?

Kodi mungakhale bwanji munthu wopotoza wankhanza? Kukhala PN nthawi zambiri kumachitika chifukwa cha zovuta zina kuyambira ubwana wanu. Izi ndi zotsatira za banja losayenda bwino. Pakati pa chiwawa, nkhanza ndi mavuto a maganizo, chirichonse chimasonyeza kuti pali zinthu zomwe zimapangitsa munthu kukhala PN, kaya mwachidziwitso kapena mosadziwa.

Kodi mungabadwe Wopotoza Narcissistic?

Zowonadi, palibe amene anabadwa PN. Timakhala choncho chifukwa cha mmene zinthu zilili, makamaka kumene mukukhala. Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic si mliri kapena matenda omwe amafalitsidwa kudzera mwa mkhalapakati.

Zowonadi, kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndi vuto la umunthu lomwe limayamba ubwana kapena ubwana. Nayi nkhani yathu yomwe ikufotokoza za zosokoneza za narcissistic. Akatswiri ena a zamaganizo a ana amaika nthawi ya ubwana wake pakati pa zaka ziwiri ndi zisanu ndi chimodzi. Ana ochenjeretsa ali kale ndi mbewu zachipongwe.

Kodi mungakhale bwanji munthu wopotoza wankhanza? 

Nazi zifukwa ndi zifukwa zosiyanasiyana:

1. Zokhudza chilengedwe ndi chikhalidwe

• Kodi mungakhale bwanji munthu wopotoza wankhanza? Kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti kupotoza kwa narcissistic kumachuluka kwambiri m’zikhalidwe kapena magulu a anthu. Maguluwa amatsindika kwambiri za ufulu wa munthu payekha kuwononga chikhalidwe cha anthu onse. Zokhumba zamagulu zimanyalanyazidwa ndipo kudzikonda kumakwezedwa.
• Kuwonjezera pa chikhalidwe, malo omwe amakhalapo nthawi yomweyo amakhudza khalidwe la mwanayo. Zokumana nazo zoopsa ali mwana nthawi zina zimachititsa kuti anthu achikulire opupuluma awonekere. Kupanda chikondi, kukanidwa, kuchitiridwa nkhanza, kudzudzula kwambiri kapena kutamandidwa, ndi zina zotero, kungayambitse kupotoza kwachipongwe.
• Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic nthawi zambiri kumawonedwa m’zikhalidwe zaumwini, kugogomezera ufulu wa munthu aliyense kuti awononge ubwino wamagulu.
• Malo omwe ali pafupi, omwe amadziwika ndi zowawa zomwe adakumana nazo paubwana, angathandize kukulitsa mikhalidwe yachipongwe mwa akuluakulu.

2. Zokumana nazo zaubwana ndi mgwirizano wa kholo ndi mwana

Mwana wobadwa ndikukula mu a narcissistic wopotoza banja ndi wokhoza kukulitsa mikhalidwe ya narcissistic, yabwinoko koma kusokonezeka kwa umunthu.

• Zifukwa zina za makolo, monga chiwawa, kutetezedwa mopitirira muyeso, nkhanza, zimakhudza kukula kwa mikhalidwe yosokoneza ana.
• Zochitika zaubwana, kuphatikizapo nkhanza za m’maganizo ndi kusowa malire a makolo, zingakhale zothandiza kwambiri.

Zowonadi, zinthu zina za makolo nthawi zambiri zimakhala ndi udindo pamagulu osiyanasiyana a narcissism mwa ana. Pakati pazifukwa za makolo, muli:

• Chiwawa cha Psychosomatic ndi zoopsa
• Zomwe zimatchedwa “mama bear” kulera (kuteteza mwana mopitirira muyeso)
• Kuzunzidwa ndi kuzunzidwa
• Kuchita mopambanitsa kapena kusakhalapo kwa malire kapena malire
• Kupanda chikondi cha makolo
• Kuchulukitsa kapena kutamandidwa kutengera malingaliro osatheka kapena omwe amakonda ungwiro, ukulu, ndi zina.

3. Genetics

Ofufuza ena apeza kuti pali kugwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndi makhalidwe ena oipa omwe amapatsirana kuchokera kwa kholo kupita kwa mwana. Malinga ndi lipoti la zoyesererazo, majini amatha kufotokoza mawonekedwe a mikhalidwe yopotoka ya narcissistic mwa ana pakubadwa.

• Grandiosity ndi 23% yobadwa mwa banja lomwe m’modzi mwa makolo ali ndi khalidweli
• Kumverera kosalephera kapena kukhala wolondola nthawi zonse ndi 35% yobadwa nayo

Kuyenera kukumbukiridwa kuti mukalandira cholowa cha ukulu, mikhalidwe yachipongwe yomwe mudzakulitsa mukadzakula ndi: kudzikuza, kulamulira kapena kulamulira.

N’cifukwa ciani timakhala opotoka mwa narcissistic?

Zifukwa zake ndi zambiri, koma munthu amakhala wodzikonda kwambiri kuti adziteteze ku dziko lotizungulira. Zoona zake n’zakuti, kusadzikonda kwambiri kumachokera ku njira yachitetezo Njira yodzitetezera imeneyi imayamba chifukwa cha kudzikonda komanso kudzikuza.

Kuyambira ali ndi zaka 4-5, mwanayo amamanga chitetezo chodzitetezera chomwe chimagwira ntchito pamaziko achinyengo. Kuphatikiza apo, njira yodzitchinjiriza iyi ndi chitetezo ku psychosis ndi schizophrenia.

Kodi wonyengayo akudziwa kuti akukhala wonyenga?

Pa funso lakuti kodi Kodi PN ikudziwa? Asayansi a za khalidwe la munthu sagwirizana kuti iye ndi munthu wodzikonda kwambiri. Ndipotu, munthu wamatsenga samadziwa kwenikweni kuti iye ndi wopotoza wamatsenga.

Amakhala m’dziko lovuta lolamulidwa ndi kukana, chifundo komanso kuwongolera. Chifukwa sadziwa za matenda ake, ndipo alibe zina, choncho sizingatheke kuti apite kwa katswiri. Kumbali ina, amakonda kuchita zoipa ndipo amadziŵa bwino mmene zochita zawo zimakhudzira ena.

5 zizindikiro kuzindikira narcissistic manipulator

Nazi zizindikiro 5 kuti muzindikire chowongolera:

1. Ali ndi kudzikuza kwakukulu : akuganiza kuti ali pakati pa dziko lapansi, amakweza luso lake, amadziona kuti ndi ofunika komanso amanyoza ena pa mwayi wochepa.
2. Iye amatenga kaimidwe kosatha : samazindikira zolakwa zake, nthawi zonse amakhulupirira kuti palibe amene ayenera kukhala naye paubwenzi, amapangira ena zolakwa zake.
3. Iye alibe chifundo, chisamaliro ndi chisamaliro : sangamve chisoni ndi tsoka la ena, nthawi zonse amawoneka wozizira ndipo sangamvetsetse zovuta, zowawa kapena kuzunzika kwa ena.
4. Iye ali woyendetsa ndi wabodza nthawi yomweyo : kuwonjezera pa kukhala wonyengerera bwino, PN ili ndi lilime la mphanda. Ali ndi luso losokoneza ndipo amasangalala kupanga chifunga chamaganizo mozungulira iye. Amanama pa chilichonse.
5. Savomereza zolakwa zake ndipo amakana umboni wonse : wopotoza wa narcissistic amakhala mokana kwathunthu, sangathe kuzindikira kuti ali ndi vuto la umunthu. Sangakumane ndi zenizeni ndipo nthawi zonse amaika ena m’mavuto.

Wopotoza Narcissistic: Kodi tingamusinthe kapena kumusintha kukhala munthu wamba?

kulibe chithandizo cha narcissistic wopotoza. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, sizingatheke kusintha PN kukhala munthu wamba. Zoona zake n’zakuti sangadzifunse yekha. Ndikosatheka kuti mupangitse munthu wopotoza wankhanza kugwa m’chikondi. Kuonjezera apo, njira yodziwonetsera yokha palibe kwa iye ndipo kotero, n’zovuta kuti PN abwerere kukumverera bwino. Choncho ndiye yekha amene ali ndi makiyi kuti asinthe.

Koma, PN imatha kusintha mikhalidwe ina ya umunthu wake. Choncho ayenera kudziyang’ana yekha kuti azindikire kusapeza bwino kwake ndi kuvutika kwake. Vutoli litha kuchitika pokhapokha ngati NP ilibe nyama. Chifukwa chake ndizotheka kuwona mauthenga monga “Ndine wopotoza wankhanza, ndichite chiyani?” » m’mabwalo ena, izi pamene PN ikuyamba kuzindikira kusapeza kwake.

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Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabuku okhudzana ndi chitukuko cha kupotoza ndi khalidwe lachinyengo:

1. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Zosokoneza za Narcissistic. Paris: Zosintha za Payot.
2. Hirigoyen, M.-F. Kuvutitsa Makhalidwe: chiwawa chopotoka tsiku ndi tsiku. Paris: Éditions Syros.
3. Tisseron, S. (2013). Zinsinsi zabanja: transgenerational psychoanalysis. Paris: Zosintha za PUF.
4. Cyrulnik, B. (2001). Tsoka lodabwitsa. Paris: Éditions Odile Jacob.
5. Meloy, J.R. (2002). Malingaliro a Psychopathic: Zoyambira, Mphamvu, ndi Chithandizo. Paris: Zosintha za PUF.
6. Bergeret, J. (2004). Normal ndi pathological umunthu. Paris: Éditions Dunod.
7. Anzieu, D. (1985). Khungu lokha. Paris: Éditions Dunod.

Ntchitozi zimapereka chidziwitso chozama chamalingaliro ndi chilengedwe zomwe zimathandizira kukulitsa kupotoza kwachipongwe komanso machitidwe owongolera.

Kutsiliza:

Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic nthawi zambiri kumachokera ku zochitika zakale zomvetsa chisoni, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti pakhale njira yodzitetezera mwaukali. Kumvetsetsa zoyambira izi kungapereke njira zowunikira mwayi wosintha, koma chinsinsi cha njirayi chili mu chidziwitso ndi chifuniro cha wopotoza wa narcissistic.