Isiphumo sokuthula kwi-manipulator: Ngaba iyasebenza?

Ukuthula kunokuba nempembelelo enamandla kwi-manipulator.  Ehlale ethe cwaka ebusweni be i-narcissistic manipulator lukhetho lokuqwalaselwa. Impembelelo ephazamisayo oku kunokuba nayo kwingqondo ye-manipulator bubungqina bokuba sisixhobo esinamandla ngokufanelekileyo. Noko ke, oku kunokuba luncedo njani ngokwenene?

Uyintoni umphumo wokuthula kwi-manipulator?

Amagama zezona zixhobo zisebenzayo kwi-manipulator. Ke iqhelekile into yokuba ukuthula koonomathotholo kumenze angazinzi. Inene, ukuba umntu othetha naye ugqibe kwelokuba athule uya kungazinzi. Ukwazi ukuba isicwangciso sakho siyasebenza, kufuneka wenze njaloI-narcissistic manipulator ifumana ingxelo anokuyihlalutya kwixhoba lakhe. Ukuthi cwaka kuya kuba njengodonga olungangeneki kumenzi-maqhinga.

Likhaka elisebenzayo elithintela impembelelo ye i-narcissistic manipulator. Owokugqibela akakwazi ukuqokelela ulwazi malunga nokuba ixhoba lakhe livakalelwa njani. Enyanisweni, ixhoba libonakala ngathi izenzo ze-PN azizange zichaphazeleke.

Isebenza njani indlela yokuthulisa i-manipulator?

Ingcamango yokulwa ne-pn ngokuthula kukubetha kunye ne-antithesis yesixhobo sayo.

• Musa ukuphendula. Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-manipulator iya kuhlala ifuna ukunxibelelana. Ngokukhetha ukuthula, uvimba indlela ecwangcisiweyo yi-manipulator.
• Musa ukudlala umdlalo we-narcissistic pervert. Xa ungayamkeli into yokuba i-PN ithetha nawe okanye ungamniki nayiphi na ingxelo, uya kuphazamiseka. Emva koko unokumtyhala kumda, uya kuzama ukukukhuthaza ukuba uphendule, kodwa ziqulathe kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
• Ignore. Ukuba ujonge ukwazi ukuba unamandla kangakanani kune-manipulator. Kukuthula kwaye kukungahoyi ubukho bayo ezizimpendulo. Ngokungayinaki, i- uhlwayela amathandabuzo engqondweni ye-manipulator. Uya kuziva ngathi uyamtyibilika kuye ngelo xesha.

Is uthulisa isixhobo esisebenzayo ngokuchasene ne-narcissistic manipulator?

Ngokungathandabuzekiyo sesona sixhobo sisebenzayo ngokuchasene ne-narcissistic manipulator. Le yokugqibela iya kusebenzisa intetho engacacanga, engadityaniswanga kunye nentetho entsonkothileyo. Akayi kuyeka ukuxoka, kuba ulixoki elinyanzelekileyo. Sisixhobo asithanda kakhulu. Injongo yayo kukuhlwayela ukuthandabuza, unxunguphalo kunye nokuxhalaba kwixhoba layo. Oku akunakwenzeka ukuba ixhoba lihlala lingashukunyiswa nguye. Yiyo loo nto ukuthula kusebenza kakhulu ngokuchasene ne-manipulator.

Ngokuyeka unxibelelwano, uya kukwazi ukumnqumla kumthombo wakhe ongcono wokuhlalutya. Kungokunxibelelana nexhoba lakhe apho umxhasi angakwazi ukulungelelanisa isicwangciso sakhe. Ngaphandle koku akakwazi ukwenza ngokufanelekileyo. Noko ke, oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba ixhoba lomelele ngokwaneleyo ngokwasengqondweni. Ubukho be-a ukungazithembi inokuchaphazela isicwangciso sakho.

Xa ukuthuliswa kwerediyo kusetyenziswa yi-manipulator ye-narcissistic

Ukuthula kwe-narcissistic manipulator emva kokwahlukana akusoloko kubonisa ukuba yonke into iphelile.. Ngokombono wakho, i-manipulator ibaleka nini? Ngaba kuphela xa ecinga ukuba ulahlekile? Ukuthula kukanomathotholo adla ngokusetyenziswa ngumgibi sesinye isixhobo aya kusisebenzisa. Xa i-PN ingasaniki naziphi na iindaba, simele sihlale siphaphile.

Kwimeko apho nguwe obangela ukwahlukana, ukuthula kwakhe kuya kujolisa ukwenza ukuthandabuza nokudala ukunqongophala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu olixhoba le-narcissistic manipulator unengxaki ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo. Ngoko ke ukuthula nokungabikho kunokoyisa le mithambo-luvo kunye nengqondo yakhe.

Kutheni ukuthi cwaka kusebenza njani?

Ukuba ukuthula kuyasebenza kakhulu ngokuchasene ne-pn kungenxa yobume bomntu. Unikezwe ukuba umntu ngendalo ngumntu ohlalisanayo, akanako ukuzimela yedwa. Kungenxa yoko le nto i-manipulator ingenako ukuthula. Ngokufanayo, i i-introverted narcissistic manipulator ukuthi cwaka rhoqo kuya kuba kubi kakhulu kuwe.

Ukuthula kunqumla ngokupheleleyo ikhonkco phakathi kwe-manipulator kunye nexhoba lakhe. Yaye kwenzeka njani ukuba abaqhankqalazi baphele bengenamaxhoba abo? Ewe, ziyabuna. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukuthula kuyeyona mpendulo ilungileyo ngokuchasene ne-pn kunye ne-manipulator.

Ukusebenzisa njani ukuthula ngokuchasene ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic ukumophula?

Ukuqhawula i-pn ngokuthula kwakho, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo ahlukeneyo.

• Hlala uzimisele kwaye uphephe ukuxengaxenga. Kuya kufuneka uhlale ugxile kwinjongo yakho yokutshabalalisa i-narcissistic manipulator. Kuya kufuneka siyilwele loo nto. Umntu ogqwethekileyo akayi kukuyeka ngokulula.
• Musa ukudlala kumdlalo wakhe. I-manipulator iya kukusa kwindawo yakhe. Uya kuhlala ekucaphukisa ukuze usabele kwaye uphule ukuthula kwakho. Khumbula ukuba i-narcissistic manipulator yinto engenanto, uyondla ixhoba lakhe. Kwaye ukuqhubeka unxibelelana naye kuya kuhlala kukwinkoliseko yakhe.
• Ngokungqongqo ukusika izibophelelo. Ngokuhlala nobuntu obuyityhefu, uzitshabalalisa ngokucothayo. Isazi ngengqondo siya kukucebisa ngamandla ukuba usike amaqhina kunye nomthombo weengxaki zakho, kule meko i-narcissist ekhohlisayo ekukhathazayo. Kuphela makuyeke ukugada kwakho xa umqhatha ehamba kakuhle.

Iingqinisekiso zeBhayibhiliyografi malunga nefuthe lokuthula kwi-manipulator

Nantsi eminye imisebenzi yesiFrentshi enokuba nomdla kuwe:

1. “Abenzi benkohliso baphakathi kwethu” ngu-Isabelle Nazare-Aga.
2. “Ukuphathwa kakubi ngokweemvakalelo kwizibini: Ukujongana ne-manipulator ye-narcissistic” nguPascale Chapaux-Morelli kunye noPascal Couderc.
3. “Ukuxhatshazwa ngokuziphatha: Ubundlobongela obugqwesileyo imihla ngemihla” nguMarie-France Hirigoyen.
4. I- “Incwadana encinci malunga nokukhwabanisa ukuze kusetyenziswe abantu abathembekileyo” nguRobert-Vincent Joule kunye noJean-Léon Beauvois.
5. “Unxibelelwano olungenabugorha kuBomi bemihla ngemihla” nguMarshall B. Rosenberg.
6. “Ii-Narcissistic manipulators” nguJean-Charles Bouchoux.
7. “Ayifezekanga, ikhululekile kwaye yonwabile: Iindlela zokuzixabisa” nguChristophe André.

Ezi ncwadi kufuneka zikunike isiseko esiluqilima sokuqonda ukuguquguquka kobuqhetseba kunye neempendulo ezifanelekileyo, kubandakanya nokusetyenziswa kokuthula.

Conclusion

Ukuqukumbela, ukuthula kungqina ukuba sisicwangciso esisebenzayo sokuchasana ne-manipulator, ngakumbi i-narcissistic manipulator. Ngokuphula ikhonkco lonxibelelwano, kunciphisa amandla omntu osebenzisa ulawulo lwakhe kunye nokulungelelanisa izicwangciso zakhe. Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela idinga amandla amakhulu engqondo kunye nokuzimisela rhoqo ukuba isebenze ngokwenene. Ukuthula, xa kusetyenziswe kakuhle, kunokuba ngumqobo wokwenene wokukhusela kubantu abanetyhefu.