Umphumela wokuthula ku-manipulator: Ingabe iyasebenza?

Ukuthula kungaba nomthelela onamandla ku-manipulatorUkuhlala uthule phambi… i-narcissistic manipulator kuyinketho okufanele icatshangelwe. Umphumela ophazamisayo ongaba nawo engqondweni yomkhohlisi ufakazela ukuthi kuyisikhali esinamandla kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, kungenziwa kanjani kusebenze ngempela?
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Uyini umphumela wokuthula ku-manipulator?

Amagama angamathuluzi asebenza kahle kakhulu e-manipulator. Ngakho-ke kujwayelekile ukuthi ukuthula komsakazo kumenze angalawuleki. Impela uma umkhulumeli wakhe ethatha isinqumo sokuthula uzophazamiseka. Ukuze wazi ukuthi isu lakho liyasebenza yini, udinga ukwenza kanjaloI-narcissistic pervert ithola impendulo angakwazi ukuyihlaziya kumuntu ohlukunyeziwe. Ukuthula kuyoba njengodonga olungangeneki lomkhohlisi.

Kuyisihlangu esisebenzayo esikhawulela umthelela we i-narcissistic manipulator ehlanekezelwe. Owakamuva akasakwazi ukuqoqa ulwazi lokuthi isisulu sakhe sizizwa kanjani. Eqinisweni, isisulu kubonakala sengathi izenzo ze-PN azizange zimthintile.

Isebenza kanjani indlela yokuthula ku-manipulator?

Umqondo wokulwa ne-pn ngokuthula ukushaya nge-antithesis yesikhali sayo.

• Ungaphenduli. Ezimweni eziningi, i-manipulator izohlale ifuna ukuxhumana. Ngokukhetha ukuthula, uvimba indlela ehlelwe umkhohlisi.
• Ungadlali umdlalo wokuphendukezela i-narcissistic. Uma ungakwamukeli ukuthi i-PN ikhuluma nawe noma ungamniki impendulo, uzokhungatheka. Ungabe usumphushela emkhawulweni, uzozama ukukukhuthaza ukuthi uphendule, kodwa ziqukathe ngangokunokwenzeka.
• kuziba. Uma ubheka ukwazi ukuthi ungaba namandla kangakanani kune-manipulator. Kuthuleke kunganaki ubukhona bayo okuyizimpendulo. Ngokukuziba, uhlwanyela ukungabaza engqondweni ye-manipulator. Uzozwa ukuthi uyamnyonyobela ngaleso sikhathi.

Ingabe ukuthula kuyisikhali esisebenzayo ngokumelene ne-narcissistic pervert?

Akungabazeki ukuthi iyisikhali esisebenza kahle kakhulu ngokumelene ne-narcissistic pervert. Lesi sakamuva sizosebenzisa inkulumo engacacile, engahlangani futhi engaqondakali. Ngeke ayeke ukuqamba amanga, ngoba ungumqambimanga oyimpoqo. Kuyithuluzi alithanda kakhulu. Umgomo wayo uwukuhlwanyela ukungabaza, usizi nokukhathazeka kulowo ohlukunyeziwe. Lokhu akunakwenzeka uma isisulu sihlala singanyakaziswa nguye. Yingakho ukuthula kuphumelela kakhulu ngokumelene ne-manipulator.

Ngokuyeka ukuxhumana, uzokwazi ukumnqamula emthonjeni wakhe ongcono kakhulu wokuhlaziya. Kungokuxhumana nesisulu sakhe lapho umkhohlisi angalungisa isu lakhe. Ngaphandle kwalokhu ngeke esakwazi ukwenza ngempumelelo. Nokho, lokhu kungenzeka kuphela uma isisulu siqine ngokwanele ngokwengqondo. Ubukhona buka a ukungazethembi ingase ithinte uhlelo lwakho.

Lapho ukuthula komsakazo kusetshenziswa i-PN 

Ukuthula kwe-narcissistic pervert kulandela ukuhlukana akulona uphawu lokuthi konke sekuphelile. Ngokubona kwakho, i-manipulator ibaleka nini? Ingabe kuphela lapho ecabanga ukuthi ulahlekile? Ukuthula komsakazo okuvame ukusetshenziswa umgibi ngesinye isikhali azosisebenzisa. Uma i-PN ingasazikhiphi izindaba, kumelwe sihlale siphapheme.

Esimeni lapho uwena obangela ukuhlukana, ukuthula kwakhe kuzohlose ukukwenza ungabaze futhi udale ukuntula. Ngokuvamile, umuntu oyisisulu se-narcissistic pervert uhlushwa ukuncika okuthintekayo. Ngakho ukuthula nokungabikho kunganqoba lezi zinzwa nengqondo yakhe.

Kungani ukuthula kuphumelela kangaka?

Uma ukuthula kuphumelela kangaka ngokumelene ne-pn kungenxa yemvelo yomuntu. Kulokho umuntu ngokwemvelo ungumuntu onobudlelwane, akakwazi ukuma yedwa. Yingakho umkhohlisi engakwazi ukuma athule. Ngokufanayo, i- introvert narcissistic pervert ukuthula okuqhubekayo kuzoba kubi kakhulu kuwe.

Ukuthula kusike ngokuphelele isixhumanisi phakathi komkhohlisi nesisulu sakhe. Futhi kwenzeka kanjani ukuba abakhohlisayo bagcine bengenazo izisulu zabo? Nokho, ziyabuna. Yingakho ukuthula kuyimpendulo engcono kakhulu ngokumelene ne-pn kanye ne-manipulator.

Ungayisebenzisa kanjani ukuthula ngokumelene ne-PN ukuze uyiphule?

Ukuze uphule i-pn ngokuthula kwakho, kufanele uthathe izinyathelo ezihlukene.

• Hlala uzimisele futhi ugweme ukuntengantenga. Kufanele uhlale ugxile enjongweni yakho yokucekela phansi i-narcissistic pervert. Kuzofanele sikulwele lokho. Ophambene ngeke akuyeke kalula.
• Ungadlali umdlalo wakhe. Umkhohlisi uzokusa endaweni yakhe. Uyolokhu ekucasula ukuze usabele futhi uphule ukuthula kwakho. Khumbula ukuthi i-narcissistic pervert ungumuntu ongenalutho, udla isisulu sakhe. Futhi ukuqhubeka nokusebenzelana naye kuyohlale kusemseni wakhe.
• Sika izibopho. Ngokuhlala nobuntu obunobuthi, uzibhubhisa kancane kancane. Udokotela wezengqondo uzokweluleka ngokuqinile ukuthi unqamule ubuhlobo nomthombo wezinkinga zakho, kulokhu umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic okhohlisayo okuhluphayo. Yehlisa ukuqapha kwakho kuphela lapho i-manipulator ihamba ngokuqinisekile.

Izinkomba ze-bibliographic emthelela wokuthula ku-manipulator

Nayi eminye imisebenzi ngesi-French ongase ube nentshisekelo kuyo:

1. “Abakhohlisayo baphakathi kwethu” by Isabelle Nazare-Aga.
2. “Ukuxhaphaza imizwa kumbhangqwana: Ukusebenzelana nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic” nguPascale Chapaux-Morelli noPascal Couderc.
3. “Ukuhlukunyezwa: Ubudlova obuhlanekezelwe ekuphileni kwansuku zonke” nguMarie-France Hirigoyen.
4. “Incwadi emfushane yokukhohlisa abantu abathembekile” nguRobert-Vincent Joule noJean-Léon Beauvois.
5. “Ukuxhumana okungenabudlova empilweni yansuku zonke” nguMarshall B. Rosenberg.
6. “Ama-narcissistic perverts” nguJean-Charles Bouchoux.
7. “Akuphelele, Kukhululekile Futhi Kujabulile: Imikhuba Yokuzihlonipha” nguChristophe André.

Lezi zincwadi kufanele zikunikeze isisekelo esiqinile sokuqonda ukuguquguquka kokukhohlisa nezimpendulo ezifanele, okuhlanganisa nokusetshenziswa kokuthula.

Isiphetho

Sengiphetha, ukuthula kufakazela ukuthi kuyisu elisebenzayo lokulwisana nomkhohlisi, ikakhulukazi ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Ngokuphula isixhumanisi sokuxhumana, kunciphisa ikhono lomkhohlisi ukusebenzisa ukulawula kwakhe nokulungisa amasu akhe. Nokho, le ndlela idinga amandla amakhulu engqondo nokuzimisela njalo ukuze isebenze ngempela. Ukuthula, lapho kusetshenziswa kahle, kungaba isithiyo sangempela sokuzivikela kubantu abanobuthi.