Zotsatira za chete pa manipulator: Kodi ndizothandiza?

Kukhala chete kumatha kukhala ndi zotsatira zamphamvu pa manipulatorKukhala chete pamaso pa… narcissistic manipulator Ndi njira yoyenera kuganizira. Zotsatira zake zosokoneza maganizo a munthu wogwiritsa ntchito njira imeneyi zimasonyeza kuti ndi chida champhamvu kwambiri. Komabe, kodi chingagwiritsidwe ntchito bwanji?
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Kodi kungokhala chete kumakhudza bwanji munthu wonyenga?

Mawu ndi zida zogwira mtima kwambiri pa manipulator. Chifukwa chake ndizachilendo kuti chete pawailesi kumamusokoneza. Zowonadi, ngati womufunsayo asankha kukhala chete, asokonekera. Kuti mudziwe ngati njira yanu ikugwira ntchito, muyenera kuteroWopotoza wa narcissistic amalandira ndemanga zomwe angathe kuzisanthula kuchokera kwa wozunzidwayo. Kukhala chete kudzakhala ngati khoma losadukidwa kwa wonyenga.

Ndi chishango chogwira ntchito chomwe chimachepetsa chikoka cha narcissistic wopotoza manipulator. Womalizayo sangathenso kusonkhanitsa zambiri za zomwe wozunzidwayo akumva. Ndipotu, wozunzidwayo akuwoneka ngati kuti zochita za PN sizinamukhudze.

Kodi njira ya chete imagwira ntchito bwanji pa manipulator?

Lingaliro lolimbana ndi pn mwakachetechete ndikumenya ndi kutsutsa kwa chida chake.

• Osayankha. Nthawi zambiri, wonyenga nthawi zonse amafuna kulankhulana. Mwa kusankha kukhala chete, mumatsekereza njira yokonzedwa ndi wowongolera.
• Osachita masewera a narcissistic pervert. Mukapanda kuvomereza kuti PN amalankhula nanu kapena simukumupatsa mayankho, adzakhumudwa. Mutha kumukankhira mpaka malire, ayesetsa kukulimbikitsani kuti muyankhe, koma khalani nokha momwe mungathere.
• kunyalanyaza izo. Ngati mukufuna kudziwa kukhala wamphamvu kuposa manipulator. Ndikukhala chete ndikunyalanyaza kupezeka kwake komwe ndi mayankho. Ponyalanyaza, umabzala chikaiko m’maganizo mwa wonyenga. Adzaona kuti mukumuthawa panthawiyo.

Kodi kukhala chete ndi chida chothandiza polimbana ndi anthu opondereza?

Mosakayikira ndicho chida champhamvu kwambiri cholimbana ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic. Omaliza adzagwiritsa ntchito mawu osamveka bwino, osalumikizana komanso osamveka bwino. Sadzasiya kunama, chifukwa ndi wabodza wokakamiza. Ndi chida chomwe amachikonda kwambiri. Cholinga chake ndi kubzala kukayikira, zowawa ndi nkhawa mwa wozunzidwayo. Izi sizingatheke ngati wozunzidwayo akukhalabe wosasunthika ndi iye. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kukhala chete kumakhala kothandiza kwambiri motsutsana ndi manipulator.

Mwa kusiya kulankhulana, mudzatha kumuchotsa pa gwero lake labwino kwambiri la kusanthula. Ndi mwa kulankhulana ndi wogwiriridwayo kuti wonyengayo angasinthe njira yake. Popanda izi sangathenso kuchita bwino. Komabe, izi zimatheka kokha ngati wozunzidwayo ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira m’maganizo. Kukhalapo kwa a kusadzidalira zingakhudze dongosolo lanu.

Pamene chete wailesi ikugwiritsidwa ntchito ndi PN 

Kukhala chete kwa munthu wopotoza wopondereza wotsatira kutha si nthawi zonse chizindikiro chakuti zonse zatha. M’malingaliro anu, wonyenga amathawa liti? Kodi ndi pamene akuganiza kuti watayika? Phokoso lawayilesi lomwe wonyenga amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zambiri ndi chida china chomwe angagwiritse ntchito. Pamene PN saperekanso nkhani iliyonse, tiyenera kukhala tcheru.

Pankhani yomwe ndiwe amene wayambitsa kutha, kukhala chete kwake kudzafuna kukupangitsani kukayikira ndikupangitsa kusowa. M’malo mwake, munthu amene wakhudzidwa ndi vuto la nkhanza amavutika kudalira kwachikondi. Kotero kukhala chete ndi kusakhalapo kungagonjetse mitsempha iyi ndi malingaliro ake.

N’chifukwa chiyani kukhala chete n’kothandiza kwambiri?

Ngati kukhala chete kuli kothandiza kwambiri polimbana ndi pn ndi chifukwa cha chikhalidwe cha munthu. Mutauzidwa kuti munthu mwachibadwa ndi munthu wokonda kucheza naye, sangalole kukhala yekha. Ichi ndichifukwa chake wonyenga sangathe kukhala chete. Mofananamo, a introvert narcissistic pervert kukhala chete kosalekeza kudzakhala koyipa kwambiri kwa inu.

Kukhala chete kumadula kugwirizana pakati pa wonyengayo ndi nyama yake. Ndipo anthu onyenga amatha bwanji popanda ozunzidwa? Chabwino, iwo amafota. Ichi ndichifukwa chake chete ndiye yankho labwino kwambiri motsutsana ndi pn ndi manipulator.

Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito chete motsutsana ndi PN kuti muswe?

Kuti muthyole pn ndikukhala chete kwanu, muyenera kutenga njira zosiyanasiyana.

• Khalani otsimikiza ndipo pewani kugwedezeka. Muyenera kuyang’anitsitsa cholinga chanu chowononga wopotoza wa narcissistic. Tiyenera kumenyera nkhondo. Wopotoza sangakusiyeni mosavuta.
• Osasewera masewera ake. Wonyengayo adzakutengerani kudera lake. Adzakukwiyitsani nthawi zonse kuti muyankhe ndi kuthetsa chete. Kumbukirani kuti wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi munthu wopanda kanthu, amadyetsa wozunzidwayo. Ndipo kupitiriza kucheza naye nthawi zonse kumamukomera mtima.
• Kudula maubwenzi. Pokhala ndi umunthu wapoizoni, mukungodziwononga nokha pang’onopang’ono. Katswiri wa zamaganizo adzakulangizani mwamphamvu kuti muchepetse maubwenzi ndi gwero la zovuta zanu, pamenepa wopotoza wonyenga yemwe amakuvutitsani. Ingosiyani tcheru pamene manipulator amachoka motsimikizika.

Maupangiri a m’mabukhu okhudza momwe kukhalira chete pa manipulator

Nazi zina mu French zomwe zingakusangalatseni:

1. “Onyenga ali pakati pathu” by Isabelle Nazare-Aga.
2. “Kusokoneza maganizo mwa anthu okwatirana: Kuchita ndi munthu wosokoneza maganizo” by Pascale Chapaux-Morelli and Pascal Couderc.
3. “Kuvutitsidwa ndi Makhalidwe: Chiwawa choipitsitsa pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku” ndi Marie-France Hirigoyen.
4. “Nkhani yachidule yokhudza kusokoneza anthu owona mtima” ndi Robert-Vincent Joule ndi Jean-Léon Beauvois.
5. “Kulankhulana mopanda chiwawa m’moyo watsiku ndi tsiku” ndi Marshall B. Rosenberg.
6. “Opotoza a narcissistic” ndi Jean-Charles Bouchoux.
7. “Wopanda Ungwiro, Waufulu ndi Wachimwemwe: Makhalidwe Odzilemekeza” ndi Christophe André.

Mabuku awa ayenera kukupatsirani maziko olimba kuti mumvetsetse kusintha kwakusintha ndi mayankho oyenera, kuphatikiza kugwiritsa ntchito chete.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kukhala chete ndi njira yabwino yothanirana ndi munthu wonyenga, makamaka wopotoza wankhanza. Pophwanya ulalo wolumikizirana, zimalepheretsa wowongolera kuti azitha kuwongolera ndikusintha njira zake. Komabe, njirayi imafuna mphamvu zazikulu zamaganizo ndi kutsimikiza mtima kosalekeza kuti ikhale yogwira mtima. Kukhala chete, kukagwiritsidwa ntchito bwino, kumatha kukhala chotchinga chenicheni kwa anthu oopsa.