Ukuhla kwe-narcissist: Uhlalutyo lokuziphatha

I-Pathological narcissism imele enye yezona zinto ziphazamisayo zobuntu kubudlelwane babantu. Olu hlalutyo luphonononga iindlela kunye nokubonakaliswa kokuhla kobuntu be-narcissistic, into engenakuphepheka eyenzeka ngexesha.

Iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuhla kwe-narcissistic

Ukwehla kobuntu be-narcissistic ngokuqhelekileyo kuqala ngokuzithemba ngokugqithiseleyo. Oku kuzithemba ngokugqithisileyo kubatyhalela ekubeni benze iimpazamo zobuchule kubudlelwane babo. Baye bangakuphaphelanga ukugcina i-facade yabo yentlalo. Imvakalelo yabo yokuba namandla onke ibakhokelela ekubeni babujongele phantsi ubukrelekrele babo babangqongileyo.

I-Narcissists yandisa ukuziphatha okuyingozi kubudlelwane babo. Baqokelela ukukhohlisa ngaphandle kokuthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko. Oku kunyuka kokungakhathali kutyhila ngokuthe ngcembe ubume babo bokwenyani kwisangqa sabo sentlalo.

Ukwahlula okuqhubelekayo njengesalathisi

Ukwahlukaniswa yenye yeempawu zokuqala ezibonakalayo zokuhla. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu abajikeleze i-narcissist baqala ukuchonga iipatheni zokuziphatha eziyityhefu. Ubuhlobo obuhlala buhleli buyaphela. Ubudlelwane bomsebenzi buba nzima.

Olu lwazi ludibeneyo lukhokelela kwisiphumo se-domino. Imithombo “yokubonelela” (ingqalelo kunye nokuqinisekiswa) iyoma ngokuthe ngcembe. I-narcissist ilahlekelwa yinkxaso yenethiwekhi yesiqhelo. Le meko iyamnyanzela ukuba ajonge iithagethi ezintsha, kodwa ngempumelelo ehlayo.

Ukonakala kweendlela zolawulo

Iindlela zokukhohlisa ze-narcissist ziphulukana nokusebenza kwazo ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ukukwazi kwabo ukugcina ubudlelwane obukhohlisayo abaninzi ngaxeshanye bubuthathaka. Ukungahambelani kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo kucaca ngakumbi.

I-narcissist ifumana ubunzima obuninzi:

• Gcina umfanekiso omhle wentlalo
• Fihla i-toxic ukuziphatha
• Lawula imithombo yonikezelo oluninzi ngexesha elinye
• Ukuphepha ukungqubana nabantu ababengamaxhoba

Impembelelo yobudala ekuziphatheni kwe-narcissistic

Ukukhula kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ekunciphiseni. Narcissists abaguga balahlekelwa zii-asethi ezithile eziququzelele ukukhohlisa kwabo kwangaphambili. Umtsalane wabo wendalo uyaphela. Amandla abo okuhenda amaxhoba amatsha ayancipha.

Amandla afunekayo ukugcina ii-facade ezininzi zentlalo ayancipha. Ama-narcissists amadala ayasokola ukugcina isantya esinamandla sobuqhetseba obuphawule ulutsha lwabo.

Uphinda-phindo lweentsilelo zobudlelwane

Ukungaphumeleli kobudlelwane kuyanda ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ubudlelwane obutshatyalaliswayo bushiya umkhondo kwindawo yabo yentlalo. Amaxhoba angaphambili abelana ngamava abo. Udumo lwalo mculi luya luwohloka ngokuthe ngcembe.

Oku kuqokelelwa kokusilela kubangela:

• Ukunciphisa isangqa sentlalo
• Ukwanda kokungathembani kwabo bakungqongileyo
• Ubunzima bokuseka ubudlelwane obutsha obuhlala buhleli
• Ukungazinzi okukhulayo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi

Iinzame zembuyekezo

Ejongene noku kwehla, i-narcissist iphuhlisa ukuziphatha okuhlawulelayo. Usenokuqinisa kwimisebenzi yakhe kwiiwebhsayithi zokuncokola. Ufuna ukubonisa umfanekiso wempumelelo kunye nolonwabo olugqibeleleyo.

Ezi nzame zembuyekezo zihlala ziquka:

• Umboniso wezinto eziphathekayo
• Uphinda-phindo lobudlelwane obuphezulu
• Ukuzibaxa iimpumelelo zabo zobuqu
• Ukukhangela rhoqo ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle

Ukukhula ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo

Ukwehla kukhatshwa kukukhula kozinziso lweemvakalelo. Amaxesha okuba wedwa aba rhoqo. I-narcissist itshintshana phakathi kwezigaba zokurhoxa ngokupheleleyo kunye nemizamo enqwenelayo yokugcina ulawulo.

Oku kuzinziseka kwe-Emotional kuzibonakalisa ngoku:

• Ukucaphuka rhoqo
• Amaxesha okudakumba
• Ukwandisa i-anxiety
• Ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga.

Impembelelo kwimekobume yobungcali

Inqanaba lobuchwephesha alikhuselekanga ekuhleni. Oogxa kunye nabaphathi ngokuthe ngcembe bachonga iipateni eziyityhefu. Udumo lomsebenzi luya lusiba mbi. Amathuba omsebenzi aya ecutheka.

I-narcissist ifumana ubunzima obuninzi:

• Gcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo bomsebenzi
• Gcina umsebenzi ixesha elide
• Ukulawula impixano emsebenzini
• Gcina intembeko yakho yobungcali.

Inyani emva kwenkangeleko

Nangona ngamanye amaxesha imbonakalo yangaphandle ekhohlisayo, ukuhla kwe-narcissist kuyinyani kwaye kunzulu. Umfanekiso oqikelelweyo wempumelelo ufihla ubunyani obumnyama. I-narcissist ihlala kwimeko yokunganeliseki kunye nokuxhalaba rhoqo.

Le nyaniso ibonakala ngoku:

• Ubulolo obukhulayo
• Iingxaki zemali rhoqo
• Ukungazinzi kwendawo yokuhlala
• Ilahleko eqhubekayo yolawulo kwindawo yabo.

Iimbonakalo zokwehla kwetheminali

Inqanaba lokugqibela lokuncipha liphawulwa ngokuzibekela bucala. I-narcissist ilahlekelwa amandla akhe okugcina ubudlelwane obunentsingiselo. Inethiwekhi yakhe yoluntu iyancitshiswa kubudlelwane obuphezulu kakhulu.

Esi sigaba setheminali sisoloko sikhatshwa yile:

• Ukurhoxiswa okuphawulweyo ekuhlaleni
• Ukulahlekelwa yiwonga ekuhlaleni
• Ukuwohloka ngokubanzi komgangatho wobomi
• Ukungakwazi ukugcina imbonakalo.

I-Bibliographic reference ekunciphiseni kwe-narcissist

Nazi izingqinisiso ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo wokuhla kwe-narcissist, ethetha ngemiba yezengqondo, yezentlalo neyenkcubeko:

1. Lasch, C. (1979). La culture du narcissisme : la vie américaine à l’âge du déclin. Éditions de l’Olivier.
2. Miller, J. (2012). Le déclin du narcissisme : nouvelles perspectives sur la psychologie du moi. Presses Universitaires de France.
3. Cohen, A. (2014). Le narcissisme à l’ère des réseaux sociaux. Éditions L’Harmattan.
4. Gaucher, M. (2018). Le narcissisme à l’épreuve de la réalité : entre mythe et réalité sociale. Éditions Eyrolles.
5. Ménard, J. (2016). Narcissisme et société : une étude des mécanismes de déclin. Éditions des Presses Universitaires de Louvain.
6. Bourdieu, P. (1998). La domination masculine. Éditions du Seuil.
7. Draï, M. (2017). Narcissisme et déclin des valeurs : réflexions sociologiques. Éditions La Découverte.

Ezi zikhombisi kufuneka zikunike isiseko esiluqilima sokuphonononga isihloko sokuhla kwe-narcissism ukusuka kwii-engile ezahlukeneyo.

Ukuqukumbela

Ukuhla kwe-narcissist kubonisa inkqubo engenakuphepheka, ephawulwe ngokuwohloka okuqhubekayo kweendlela zakhe zokulawula kunye nokusetyenziswa. Nangona i-narcissist ihlala igcina i-facade yempumelelo, inyani esisiseko ityhila ukonakaliswa okucwangcisiweyo kobudlelwane bakhe kunye nempembelelo yentlalo. Le nkqubo yokwehla, nangona iguquguquka kwixesha layo kunye nokuqina, ilandela indlela eqikelelwayo yokwanda kokuzihlukanisa kunye nokulahleka kolawulo. Ukuqokelelwa kokungaphumeleli kobudlelwane kunye nokunciphisa imithombo yokuqinisekisa ekugqibeleni kudala isangqa esibi apho i-narcissist ingenako ukubaleka.