Ukulimaza abanye – unya lomuntu ozicabangela yena futhi okhohlisa abanye

Ubuhlanya buyinkinga ye- ubuntu obunobuthi Lokhu kushukumisela umuntu ukuba afune ukulimaza nokulawula abanye ukuze ababhubhise. Ukubhekana nokuziphatha okunjalo akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi imiphumela ingaba yingozi kakhulu kulabo abaseduze nalaba bantu. Uma unomuntu empilweni yakho ojabulela ukulimaza abanye, lesi sihloko singase sikuthakazelise.

The sadist: othanda ukuzwisa abanye ubuhlungu

I-sadist ngumuntu onenkinga yengqondo enobuthi futhi elimazayo ojabulela ukulimaza abanye. Uthatha imikhuba ehloselwe ukwehlisa isithunzi nokubusa abanye. Ngokuvamile, umuntu onosizi uthola injabulo nokwaneliseka ngokuzwisa abanye ubuhlungu obungokwengqondo noma obungokomzimba. Uyathanda ukubona abaseduze kwakhe bemesaba futhi bezithoba kuye.

Noma ukudabuka kungathinta wonke umuntu, kuvame ukuvela kubafana nasesikhathini sokuthomba. Ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha okudabukisayo kuvame ukuhambisana ne-narcissism noma i-anti-socialism. Ngempela, ngaphezu kokuthanda ukulimaza abanye, i-sadist ingaba yi-narcissistic pervert. Uvame ukufuna ukulawula isisulu sakhe futhi asebenzise amandla amakhulu okubusa phezu kwabo kuwo wonke amazinga obudlelwane.

Izimpawu ze-sadism: Ungamqaphela kanjani umuntu othanda ukulimaza abanye?

Kunezimpawu ezimbalwa ezikusiza ukuthi uzibone:

• Umuntu uvame ukusebenzisa ubudlova obungokomzimba nonya lokubusa isisulu sakhe
• Uthola injabulo ngokulimaza abantu phambi kwabanye
• Ujezisa ngokweqile labo abangaphansi kwegunya lakhe
• Akanqeni ukuqamba amanga ukuze alimaze futhi enze abanye bahlupheke.
• Usebenzisa ukwesaba ukuphoqa abanye ukuba benze intando yakhe.
• I-sadist ithanda ukukhawulela inkululeko yalabo abasondelene naye (umlingani noma ingane)
• Umuntu onomunyu uthanda udlame nakho konke okuhlobene nalo njengezikhali, ukuhlukunyezwa, ubuciko bokulwa…

Umuntu onosizi akalubeki usizi lwakhe kumuntu othize njengowakwakhe noma ingane yakhe, angaba muncu kuwo wonke umuntu, ngisho nakubantu angabazi.

I-Sadism in the narcissistic personality: isinyathelo esibheke kwalasha

Isitayela sobuntu esivelele sabelana ngezici ne-narcissism kanye ne-psychopathy, kodwa siya phambili nakakhulu. Laba bantu bathola ukwaneliseka okuthile ekuthotshisweni kwabanye. Cabanga ngomuntu ophendukezela inzondo ongagcini ngokufuna ukukubusa, kodwa ojabulela ngempela ukukuhlupha.

Izimpawu ezichazayo ze-narcissistic pervert enonya

Nazi ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha ezingase zibonise ukuthi ubhekene nomuntu ohlanekezelekayo onokuthambekela kokudabukisa:

• Unya lwamabomu
• Isidingo esikhulu sokubusa
• Izenzo zokwesabisa njalo
• Ukuthotshiswa okuphindaphindiwe
• Ukuvinjelwa kwenkululeko yakho

Umehluko phakathi kwe-narcissism kanye ne-sadism

Ngokungafani ne-narcissist “yakudala” efuna ukunxephezela ukungazethembi kwakhe, umgadli odabukisayo ubonakala enganakile kunoma yiluphi uzwelo lomuntu. Kufana nokuthi kunekhefu eliphelele kulokho okusenza sikhathalele abantu.

Umthelela omubi kuzisulu

Ukuchayeka ku-narcissist odabukisayo kungabangela ukuhlukumezeka okujulile okungokwengqondo. Izisulu zivame ukuchaza umuzwa wokuba khona kobubi obuphelele. Ukushaqeka kungaba kukhulu kangangokuthi imiphumela engemihle ingase iqhubeke iminyaka uma ingelashwa ngendlela efanele.

Ukwelashwa: inselele enkulu

Ngeshwa, njenge-psychopathy, kunobufakazi obuncane bokusebenza kokwelashwa kwesitayela sobuntu esidabukisayo. Isithiyo esikhulu wukungaqapheli ngokuphelele inkinga yabo phakathi kwalaba bantu.

Kungani i-PN ithanda ukulimaza abanye?

Njengomuntu onosizi, i-PN iyakujabulela ukulimaza abanye. Kuyamjabulisa ukubona isisulu sakhe sihlupheka futhi enza ngokuvumelana naso. Kuyindlela yokuthi i-PN inqobe ukwesaba kwabo ukulahlwa futhi ilawule izisulu zabo. Ukulimaza abanye kuyindlela yokuthi i-PN izondle, ngoba idla ukwesaba, ukukhathazeka namandla ewasebenzisayo phezu kwabanye.

Ngisho noma eziveza njengomuntu oqinile nongenandaba, i-PN iyahlupheka Uhlushwa isifo esimphoqelela ukuthi azivikele futhi alindele ukulimala ngokusebenzisa ubudlova kuqala ukuze agweme ukulimala. Kuwuhlobo lokuziphindiselela akwenzayo ukuze asuse ukwesaba kwakhe nokungazethembi kwakhe.

• Ubumnandi obungenampilo bomphendukezeli we-narcissistic

Ngokungafani neningi lethu, umuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic uthola injabulo ezimweni esizithola zishaqisa noma ezinonya. Lokhu kuziphatha kufana nohlobo lwe-sadomasochism yemizwa, lapho ukuhlupheka kwakho kuba umthombo wabo wokuzijabulisa.

• Ukuthotshiswa komphakathi: isigcawu abasithandayo

Elinye lamaqhinga ayintandokazi yomdukisi ukukuhlazisa esidlangalaleni. Bathanda ukukubeka phansi phambi kwabanye, baveze ubuthakathaka bakho namaphutha akho. Lokhu kusebenza kubenza bazizwe benamandla futhi bephakeme, kuyilapho kwehlisa ukuzethemba kwakho.

• Inhlebo nolwazi olunganembile: indlela yabo yokuchitha isizungu abayintandokazi

Umdukisi we-narcissistic uthanda ukusabalalisa inhlebo nokusabalalisa ulwazi olungamanga ngawe. Lokhu kuziphatha kubanika umuzwa wokulawula isithombe sakho futhi kuphakela i-ego yabo ekhuphukile. Ngeshwa, lokhu kungalimaza kakhulu isithunzi sakho nobudlelwano.

• Ukudideka ngamabomu: umdlalo ononya

Olunye uhlobo lwe-sadomasochism engokomzwelo lubandakanya ukuzidida ngamabomu. I-narcissistic pervert ithatha injabulo ephambene ekwenzeni ungabaze wena kanye nombono wakho weqiniso. Lokhu kukhohlisa kuhlose ukukwenza ube sengozini yethonya labo.

• Ukubhuqa ngonya: isikhali esesabekayo

Amahlaya anonya nokubhuqa kuyinsakavukela umchilo wesidwaba. Baqondise ukungazethembi kwakho kanye nokuba sengozini, bajabulele ukukubona uhlupheka. Lokhu kuziphatha kungathinta kakhulu ukuzethemba kwakho.

• Ubumnandi ebusweni bobuhlungu bakho: ukuphakama kwe-sadism

Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, abanye abahlanekezeli be-narcissistic bangase bathole ukwaneliseka ebuhlungu obungokomzimba noma ukungaphatheki kahle. Lokhu kuntuleka okuphelele kozwela kuyashaqisa ikakhulukazi futhi kungase kuhlukumeze kakhulu izisulu.

Izinkomba ze-Bibliographic mayelana ne-sadism ye-narcissistic pervert

Nakhu okukhethiwe kwezinkomba zesayensi ngesi-French endikimbeni ye-sadism ku-narcissistic pervert:

1. Chabert, C. (2006). Izinhlangano ezimbi. e Ijenali Yezazi Zengqondo, No. 8, amakhasi 20-25 .
2. Bergeret, J., & Houser, M. (2002). I-Sadism… ngalokho okungeyikho. e Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychoanalysis, indiza. 66, No. 4, amakhasi 1269-1284.
3. U-Eiguer, A. (2003). Ukuthukuthela kobumfihlo. e Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychoanalysis, indiza. 67, No. 3, amakhasi 873-893.
4. Sirota, A. (2017). I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda, uhlakaniphe, unqobe. Izinguqulo Le Manuscrit.
5. Althaus, V., & Cintas, C. (2018). Ukubuyekezwa komsebenzi I-Narcissistic perverts: qonda, uhlakaniphe, unqobe ngu-André Sirota. Ku Ijenali entsha ye-psychosociology, No. 26, amakhasi 215-218 .
6. I-Babonneau, M. (2003). I-Ad-mirror enezihlalo ezimbili. e Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychoanalysis, indiza. 67, No. 3, amakhasi 897-909.
7. Chabert, C. (2003). Ngibheke!. e Ijenali yesiFulentshi yePsychoanalysis, indiza. 67, No. 3, amakhasi 911-923.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza umbono ojulile mayelana nezici ezidabukisayo nezikhohlisayo zabantu abahlanekezelekile be-narcissistic, ezigqamisa izindlela zabo zengqondo nezokuziphatha.

Isiphetho

I-Sadism, ikakhulukazi uma ihlotshaniswa ne-narcissism, yembula ukuguquguquka kwengqondo okuyinkimbinkimbi nokulimazayo, lapho ukuhlupheka kwabanye kuba umthombo wokwaneliseka kwalaba bantu abanobuthi. Ukuqonda lezi zindlela, ngokusebenzisa ukuhlaziya kwesayensi nokwelashwa okutholakalayo, kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukuhlonza izimpawu zalokhu kuziphatha kanye nokweseka kangcono izisulu. Kodwa-ke, inselele isalokhu inkulu, mayelana nokuvimbela nokwelashwa, ngoba lezi zinkinga zivame ukuhambisana nokungakwazi ukuzazi kubantu abathintekayo.