Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni luhlobo olufihlakeleyo lobundlobongela olushiya amanxeba angabonakaliyo kodwa anzulu. Ngokufuthi ingaqondwa okanye ijongelwe phantsi, inokuba nemiphumo eyingozi kwimpilo yengqondo nakwintlalontle yamaxhoba. Eli nqaku liphonononga iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zale nto inzima, izizathu zayo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo kunye nemiphumo yayo yexesha elide.
Inkcazo kunye neempawu zokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Ukuxhatshazwa kwengqondo kubonakala ngokuziphatha okuphindaphindiweyo okujoliswe ekulawuleni, ukuthoba okanye ukuthoba umntu. Inokuthatha iindlela ezahlukeneyo:
- Ukugxekwa rhoqo nokungekho sikweni
- Ukuthotywa kunye nezithuko
- Ukwaliwa okusebenzayo
- Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokweemvakalelo
- Kunyanzeliswa ukuba ube wedwa ekuhlaleni
- Ulawulo olugqithisileyo
- Ukuguqulwa kwengqondo
Ngokungafaniyo ne-Ubundlobongela obusemzimbeni, ayishiyi imikhondo ebonakalayo. Oku kwenza kube nzima ngakumbi ukuchonga kunye nokungqina. Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kudla ngokukhula ngokuthe ngcembe kubudlelwane, nto leyo eyenza kube nzima ukuba ixhoba lizibonele ngokwalo.
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Iimeko ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kunokwenzeka kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane:
- Ngaphakathi kwesi sibini
- Kwintsapho (abazali kubantwana okanye ngokuphambeneyo)
- Kwimekobume yobungcali (moral harassment)
- Kumaziko (ezikolo, kumakhaya abantu abadla umhlala-phantsi, njl.njl.)
- Phakathi kwabahlobo okanye abantu obaqhelileyo
Umxholo ngamnye ubonisa amandla kunye nemingeni. Ngokomzekelo, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kwabazali kunokuba nemiphumo enzulu ngokukodwa ekukhuleni komntwana.
Iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Ukuchonga ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni akusoloko kulula. Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezinokukulumkisa:
- Ukuphulukana ne- ukuzithemba
- Ixhala kunye nokudakumba
- Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu
- Utshintsho ekuziphatheni olungachazwanga
- Uloyiko okanye uxinzelelo olujikeleze abantu abathile
- Ubunzima bokwenza izigqibo
- Ukuziva unetyala ngokugqithiseleyo
Le miqondiso ayingqalanga kwaye inokuba nezinye izizathu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqokelela kunye nokuzingisa kwabo kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo.
Iinkqubo zengqondo emsebenzini
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kusekwe kwiindlela ezintsonkothileyo:
- Ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo
- gaslighting (ukwenza ixhoba lithandabuze imbono yalo yobunyani)
- Ukutshintshana phakathi kwamaxesha obundlobongela noxolelwaniso
- Ukudalwa kwemozulu yoloyiko nokungakhuseleki
- Ukuthotywa kwexabiso ngokwenkqubo
Ezi ndlela zobuchule zijolise ekuphazamiseni ixhoba kunye nokugcina ulawulo lomxhaphazi. Benza ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokulahlekelwa kweebheringi kumntu ojoliswe kuyo.
Impembelelo yokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kwimpilo yengqondo
Iziphumo zokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni zinokuba nzulu kwaye zihlala ixesha elide:
- Ukuxhalaba kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo
- I-post-traumatic stress syndrome
- Ukulala kunye nokuphazamiseka kokutya
- Ubukhoboka
- Iingcinga zokuzibulala
Le miba yempilo yengqondo inokuqhubeka ixesha elide emva kokuba ubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo buphelile. Bahlala befuna ukhathalelo oluthile lonyango.
Iziphumo zexesha elide kwindlela yokuziphatha kunye nobudlelwane
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kunokuba neziphumo ezingapheliyo kubomi bexhoba:
- Ubunzima bokuthembela
- Imiba yokuncamathisela
- Ukutyekela ekuveliseni iipateni zobudlelwane obuyityhefu
- Ubunzima bomsebenzi
- Ukubekwa wedwa koluntu
Le miphumo inokuchaphazela umgangatho wobomi bomntu iminyaka emininzi okanye amashumi eminyaka.
Ikhonkco phakathi kokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kunye nobuntu be-narcissistic
Kuhlala kukho ikhonkco phakathi kokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kunye nokuphazamiseka kobuntu, ngakumbi ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic. Abantu beNarcissistic badla ngoku:
- Balawule abo babangqongileyo
- Ukungabi naluvelwano
- Zama ukulawula abanye
- Ukuba nesidingo esigqithisileyo sokunconywa
Ezi mpawu zobuntu zingabakhokelela ekusebenziseni uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kwabo basondeleyo kubo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba asingabo bonke abaxhaphazi abangabaxhaphazi, kwaye asingabo bonke abaxhaphazi abangabaxhaphazi.
Imiba yomngcipheko wokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Izinto ezithile zinokunyusa umngcipheko wokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni:
- Imbali yokuxhatshazwa kwabantwana
- Iziphazamiso zobuntu
- Ubukhoboka
- Uxinzelelo kunye nobunzima bezentlalo noqoqosho
- Izithethe zenkcubeko zikhetha ukongamela
- Ukunqongophala kwemfundo yeemvakalelo
Ezi zinto azikuthetheleli nangayiphi na indlela ukuphathwa kakubi, kodwa ukuziqonda kunokunceda ekuthinteleni.
Impembelelo yoluntu yokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kuneziphumo ezihamba ngaphaya komntu:
- Iindleko kwinkqubo yezempilo
- Ukulahleka kwemveliso yezoqoqosho
- Ukusasazwa kwezizukulwana ngezizukulwana zokuxhatshazwa
- Ukuqhelaniswa kokuziphatha kwe-toxic kuluntu
Yiyo loo nto ukulwa nalo mcimbi kungumba obalulekileyo wezempilo yoluntu.
Imingeni yokwamkelwa ngokusemthethweni nentlalontle
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni kuhlala kunzima ukungqina nokohlwaya:
- Ukunqongophala kobungqina obuphathekayo
- Ukunqongophala kolwazi lokwenzeka koluntu ngokubanzi
- Ubunzima ekuchazeni ngokusemthethweni ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni
- Izithiyo ezizingisileyo kunye nokucalula
Le miqobo yenza nzima ukukhathalelwa kwamaxhoba kunye nokuthintelwa kolu hlobo lobundlobongela.
Ukubaluleka kokwazisa kunye nemfundo
Ukulwa ngempumelelo nokuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni, kubalulekile ukuba:
- Yazisa uluntu ngokubanzi malunga nokubonakaliswa kwayo kunye nemiphumo yayo
- Qeqesha iingcali (ezempilo, imfundo, ubulungisa) ekubhaqweni nasekunyangweni
- Dibanisa imfundo yeemvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane kwiinkqubo zesikolo
- Khuthaza iimodeli zobudlelwane obunempilo kunye nentlonipho
Uthintelo lufuna ukuqonda ngcono ngokuhlangeneyo kwesi siganeko.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni yingxaki entsonkothileyo eneziphumo ezifikelela kude. Imiphumo yako inokuba yingozi kumaxhoba kwaye ibe nempembelelo ehlala ihleli kubomi bawo. Ukuqonda iindlela zayo, ukubonakaliswa kwayo kunye nemiphumo yayo kubalulekile ukukhusela ngcono kunye nokuxhasa abantu abahluphekayo. Idabi lokulwa nesi sibetho lifuna ukuqonda ngokuhlangeneyo kunye namanyathelo alungelelanisiweyo kuwo onke amanqanaba oluntu.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.