Ubuqhophololo beNarcissistic: Awunondivuyela?

Ngaba ujonge ulwazi malunga nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo kwemihla ngemihla? Elinye lawona mabinzana achazayo asetyenziswa ngabantu be-narcissistic “Kutheni ungandonwabeli nje?” Lo mbuzo olula ngokwenene ufihla indlela enzima yokulawula kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo. Makhe siphonononge kunye iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha okuyityhefu.

“Kutheni ungandonwabeli mna?” : Intsingiselo

Ibinzana elithi “Kutheni ungandonwabeli mna?” ibonakala njengesicelo sovelwano nenkxaso. Nangona kunjalo, ityhila iinkalo ezininzi ze-narcissism:

• Imvakalelo enzulu yokuba unelungelo kulonwabo lwabanye
• Ukungakwazi ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa kunye nokuqwalaselwa
• Utyekelo lokuguqula nayiphi na imeko ibe ngumthombo wonikezelo lwe-narcissistic

Oku kukhohlisa kuzibonakalisa ngakumbi kumaxesha xa umntu othanda ukunyathela efumana into ayifunayo, nokuba oko kuyingozi kwabanye.

Imixholo ebangela olu qheliso

Eli binzana livela kwiimeko ezithile ezahlukeneyo:

Kkwimeko yosapho:

• Xa usenza izigqibo zemali eziyingozi ezichaphazela usapho lonke
• Ngexesha lotshintsho olukhulu oluchaphazela abantwana
• Kwiimeko zokwabiwa ngokulinganayo kobutyebi phakathi kwabazalwana noodade

Kkwimeko yobuchwephesha:

• Ngexesha lokunyuswa okanye impumelelo ifunyenwe ngenxa yonxibelelwano olunelungelo
• Sijongene nempumelelo engalinganiyo nemigudu eyenziweyo
• Kwiimeko zokhuphiswano olungafanelekanga

Kubudlelwane basemva koqhawulo-mtshato:

• Ngexesha lezaziso zokuphinda batshate ngokukhawuleza
• Ujongene notshintsho olukhulu oluchaphazela abantwana
• Kwiimeko ezikhawulezayo zokuphinda usapho

Impembelelo yengqondo kumaxhoba

Olu qheliso luvelisa iziphumo ezininzi ezinobungozi kumaxhoba:

K Kwinqanaba leemvakalelo:

• Ukubhideka malunga neemvakalelo zabo
• Ubutyala ngenxa yokungaziva iimvakalelo “ezilungileyo”
• Amathandabuzo ngokukwazi kwabo ukuba novelwano
• Ukuziva ungaqhelekanga okanye unengxaki

Akwinqanaba lokuziphatha:

• Utyekelo lokucinezela iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani
• Ukuphuhliswa kweendlela zokukhusela
• Ukwamkela uvuyo lobuxoki ukuphepha ungquzulwano
• Ilahleko eqhubelekayo ye-authenticity kubudlelwane.

Iindlela ezisisiseko ze-narcissism

Le Qiniso isekwe kwiimpawu ezininzi ezisisiseko ze-narcissism:

Ukungabikho kovelwano:

• Ukungakwazi ukuqonda ukubandezeleka kwabanye
• Ugxininiso olukhethekileyo kwiimfuno zabo kunye neemfuno zabo
• Ukuchaswa kweziphumo zezenzo zabo kwabanye

Uluvo lwelungelo:

• Ukukholelwa ukuba yonke into ibangelwa ngabo
• Ukulindela inkxaso engenamiqathango
• Imfuneko yokuqinisekiswa rhoqo

Umgangatho ophindwe kabini:

• Ukulindela inkxaso abangaze bayinike njengembuyekezo
• Ukungakwazi ukubhiyozela impumelelo yabanye
• Ukuguqulwa kweempumelelo zabanye abantu zibe zizoyikiso zobuqu.

Iingcambu ezinzulu ebuntwaneni

Olu tshintsho luhlala lufumana imvelaphi ebuntwaneni:

K kwiintsapho ze-narcissistic:

• Abantwana baba yimithombo yokondla ngokweemvakalelo
• Iimfuno zabantwana azihoywa ngokucwangcisiweyo
• Inzondelelo enyanzelwayo iba sisicwangciso sokusinda

Iziphumo zexesha elide:

• Ubunzima bokuchonga iimvakalelo zomntu
• Utyekelo lokunciphisa iimfuno zomntu
• Ukuveliswa okunokwenzeka kweepateni eziyityhefu.

Umba wenkqubo ye-narcissistic manipulation

Le emotional manipulation yinxalenye yenkqubo ebanzi kwinqanaba lobudlelwane:

• Ukudala ulawulo lweemvakalelo
• Ukumisela ulawulo kwindlela abasabela ngayo abanye
• Ukugcina ukungalingani kobudlelwane rhoqo

Kwinqanaba lentlalontle:

• Ukomeleza amandla okutshintsha
• Ukuqhubekeka kwemijikelo yokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo
• Ukuqheleka kokuziphatha okunetyhefu.

Unxulumano nezinye iindlela zokuxhatshazwa

Olu lawulo luhlala lunxulunyaniswa nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha kakubi:

The gaslighting:

• Ukubuza ubunyani bexhoba
• Ukungasebenzi kweemvakalelo ezisemthethweni
• Indalo yokuthandabuza rhoqo

Triangulation:

• Ukusebenzisa abanye abantu ukuqinisekisa imbono yabo
• Ukudala iyantlukwano kubudlelwane
• Ukukhohlisa abo bakungqongileyo ukuze ufumane inkxaso.

I-Bibliographic reference yokuqonda ukukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhilografi kumxholo wokukhohlisa i-narcissistic:

1. Miller, J. (2017). Le Narcissisme : Une maladie de l’âme. Paris : Éditions de l’Observatoire.
2. Lemaire, A. (2018). Narcissisme et manipulation : Comprendre les comportements toxiques. Lyon : Éditions Chronique Sociale.
3. Borch, F. (2015). Le narcissisme à l’ère numérique : Une analyse des interactions sur les réseaux sociaux. Revue de Psychologie Sociale, 20(2), 123-138.
4. Caron, P. (2016). Manipulation et narcissisme : Les mécanismes psychologiques en jeu. Paris : Éditions Odile Jacob.
5. Cohen, J. (2019). La personnalité narcissique : Diagnostic et enjeux cliniques. Revue Française de Psychiatrie, 42(3), 205-217.
6. Friedman, R. (2018). Les relations toxiques : Comprendre le narcissisme et la manipulation émotionnelle. Bordeaux : Éditions Érès.
7. Gautier, C. (2020). Narcissisme et relations de pouvoir : Une perspective sociologique. Paris : Presses Universitaires de France.

Ezi zingqinisiso zibonelela ngesishwankathelo esilungileyo semiba yengqondo, yezentlalo neyonyango enxulumene nokukhohlisa i-narcissistic.

Ukuqukumbela

Olu hlalutyo olunzulu lwebinzana elithi “Kutheni ungandivuyi?” ityhila ukuntsokotha kweendlela zokuxhaphaza i-narcissistic. Iqaqambisa ukubaluleka kokuqonda ezi ntshukumo ukuze zichonge ngcono iindlela zokuziphatha eziyityhefu kubudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu.