I-Narcissistic Manipulation: Awungijabuleli?

Ingabe ufuna ulwazi mayelana nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic kanye nokubonakaliswa kwayo kwansuku zonke? Omunye wemishwana ekhuluma kakhulu osetshenziswa abantu abakhuluma i-narcissistic uthi “Kungani ungangijabuleli?” “. Lo mbuzo olula empeleni ufihla indlela eyinkimbinkimbi yokukhohlisa nokulawula imizwelo. Ake sihlole ndawonye izici ezihlukene zalokhu kuziphatha okunobuthi.

“Kungani ungajabuli ngami?” ” : Incazelo

Inkulumo ethi “Kungani ungangijabuleli?” » ibonakala njengesicelo sokuzwelana nokusekelwa. Kodwa-ke, yembula izici eziningana ze-narcissism:

• Umuzwa ojulile wokuba nelungelo lenjabulo yabanye
• Ukungakwazi ukubona imizwa yabanye
• Isidingo esiqhubekayo sokuqinisekiswa nokunakwa
• Ukuthambekela kokuguqula noma yisiphi isimo sibe umthombo wokuhlinzekwa kwe-narcissistic

Lokhu kukhohlisa kuzibonakalisa ikakhulukazi ezikhathini lapho umuntu we-narcissistic ethola lokho akufunayo, noma ngabe kulimaza abanye.

Okuqukethwe okubangela lokhu kukhohlisa

Lesi sisho sivela ezimeni ezithile ezihlukile:

Emkhakheni womndeni :

• Lapho kuthathwa izinqumo zezezimali eziyingozi ezithinta wonke umndeni
• Phakathi nezinguquko ezinkulu ezithinta izingane
• Ezimweni zokwabiwa okungalingani kwezinsiza phakathi kwabafowethu nodadewethu

Esimeni sochwepheshe :

• Ngesikhathi sokukhushulwa noma impumelelo itholwe ngenxa yokuxhumana okunelungelo
• Sibhekene nempumelelo engalingani nemizamo eyenziwe
• Ezimeni zokuncintisana okungafanele

Ebudlelwaneni bangemva kwesehlukaniso :

• Phakathi nezimemezelo zokushada kabusha okusheshayo
• Ibhekene nezinguquko ezinkulu ezithinta izingane
• Ezimweni zokuphindaphinda komndeni ngokushesha

Umthelela ongokwengqondo kwabahlukumezekile

Lokhu kukhohlisa kudala imiphumela eminingana eyingozi kuzisulu:

Ezingeni lomzwelo :

• Ukudideka ngemizwa yabo siqu
• Icala ngokungawuzwa umzwelo “olungile”
• Ukungabaza ngekhono labo lokuzwelana
• Ukuzizwa ungavamile noma unenkinga

Ezingeni lokuziphatha :

• Ukuthambekela ukucindezela imizwelo yabo yangempela
• Ukuthuthukiswa kwezindlela zokuvikela
• Ukwamukela injabulo yamanga ukuze ugweme ukungqubuzana
• Ukulahlekelwa okuqhubekayoubuqiniso ebudlelwaneni.

Izindlela eziyisisekelo ze-narcissism

lokhu ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo isekelwe ezicini eziningana ezibalulekile ze-narcissism:

Ukungabi nozwelo :

• Ukungakwazi ukubona ukuhlupheka kwabanye
• Ukugxila okukhethekile kokufunwa yibo kanye nezidingo zabo
• Ukuphikiswa kwemiphumela yezenzo zabo kwabanye

Umuzwa welungelo :

• Ukuqiniseka ukuthi konke kungenxa yabo
• Ukulindela ukwesekwa okungenamibandela
• Isidingo sokuqinisekisa njalo

I-double standard :

• Ukulindela ukwesekwa abangasoze bakunikeze njengembuyiselo
• Ukungakwazi ukugubha impumelelo yabanye
• Ukuguqulwa kwempumelelo yabanye abantu kube izinsongo zomuntu siqu.

Izimpande ezijulile ebuntwaneni

Lokhu kuguquguquka kuvame ukuthola umsuka wako ebuntwaneni:

Emindenini yama-narcissistic :

• Izingane ziba imithombo yokondliwa ngokomzwelo
• Izidingo zezingane azinakwa ngendlela ehlelekile
• Intshiseko ephoqelelwe iba isu lokusinda

Imiphumela yesikhathi eside :

• Ubunzima bokubona imizwa yomuntu siqu
• Ukuthambekela kokunciphisa izidingo zomuntu siqu
• Ukuzala okungenzeka kwamaphethini anobuthi.

Ingxenye yesistimu yokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic

lokhu ukuxhashazwa ngokomzwelo iyingxenye yesistimu ebanzi ezingeni lobudlelwano:

• Ukudala isigaba semizwa
• Ukusungula ukulawula ukusabela kwabanye
• Ukugcina ukungalingani kobudlelwane njalo

Ezingeni lomphakathi:

• Ukuqinisa amandla dynamics
• Ukuqhubekela phambili kwemijikelezo yokuhlukumeza ngokomzwelo
• Ukujwayela kokuziphatha okunobuthi.

Izixhumanisi kwezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza

Lokhu kukhohlisa kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokunye ukuziphatha okuhlukumezayo:

Le ukukhanyisa igesi :

• Ukubuza ngeqiniso lomuntu ohlukunyeziwe
• Ukungavumelekile kwemizwa esemthethweni
• Ukudala ukungabaza njalo

Unxantathu :

• Ukusebenzisa abanye abantu ukuqinisekisa umbono wabo
• Ukudala ukuhlukana ebudlelwaneni
• Ukukhwabanisa kwalabo abaseduze kwakho ukuze uthole ukwesekwa.

Ireferensi ye-bibliographic yokuqonda ukukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic

Nazi izikhombo eziyisikhombisa zebhayibheli endikimbeni ye-narcissistic manipulation:

1. Miller, J. (2017). I-Narcissism: Isifo somphefumulo. I-Paris: Editions de l’Observatoire.
2. U-Lemaire, A. (2018). I-Narcissism kanye nokukhohlisa: Ukuqonda ukuziphatha okunobuthi. I-Lyon: I-Éditions Chronique Sociale.
3. Borch, F. (2015). I-Narcissism enkathini yedijithali: Ukuhlaziywa kokusebenzelana kwezokuxhumana. Ijenali yeSocial Psychology, 20(2), 123-138.
4. Caron, P. (2016). Ukukhohlisa kanye ne-narcissism: Izindlela zengqondo ezidlalwayo. EParis: Editions Odile Jacob.
5. Cohen, J. (2019). Ubuntu be-Narcissistic: Ukuxilongwa kanye nezinkinga zomtholampilo. I-French Journal of Psychiatry, 42(3), 205-217.
6. U-Friedman, R. (2018). Ubudlelwano obunobuthi: Ukuqonda i-Narcissism kanye Nokuphathwa Kwemizwa. Bordeaux: Éditions Érès.
7. I-Gautier, C. (2020). I-Narcissism kanye nobudlelwano bamandla: umbono wezenhlalo. Paris: Presses Universitaires de France.

Lezi zithenjwa zinikeza ukubuka konke okuhle kwezinkinga ezingokwengqondo, zezenhlalo nezomtholampilo ezihlobene nokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic.

Isiphetho

Lokhu kuhlaziya okujulile kwebinzana elithi “Kungani ungangijabuleli?” » kuveza ubunkimbinkimbi bezinqubo zokukhohlisa kwe-narcissistic. Igqamisa ukubaluleka kokuqonda lezi zinguquko ukuze ubone kangcono ukuziphatha okunobuthi ebudlelwaneni bethu nabanye abantu.