Emotional Blackmail Abazali: Obu bubuchule obusetyenziswa ngabazali abaninzi ukuze abantwana babo babaphulaphule baze benze oko bakucelayo. Kweli nqaku, uya kubona indlela yokulawula, iziphumo zayo ebantwaneni, iingcebiso zokuyithintela ebantwaneni, njl.
I-Emotional Blackmail-Yintoni?
A utyekelo lweemvakalelobubugxwayiba obusetyenziswa ngabazali nxamnye nabantwana babo ngokusebenzisa iimvakalelo zabo ukuze abantwana benze oko bakucelayo. Maxa wambi abazali baye baxelele abantwana babo ukuba abayi kuncwaswa ngokuhlwa ukuba abawahlambi amazinyo. Le sele ikukunganyaniseki ngokweemvakalelo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, abazali bakhetha esi sicwangciso ukuze balawule ukuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana babo. Kodwa, bayisebenzisela ukufumana uthando oluncinci kubantwana. Aba mva baziva benyanzelekile ukuba baphendule kwizicelo zabazali babo ukuze baphephe ukubabona belusizi.
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UyiLawula Njani i-Emotional Blackmail yabazali?
- Qinisekisa abantwana – Endaweni yokubagrogrisa ukuba benze into ethile, kungcono ukubacenga ukuba bayenze. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka usebenzise izivakalisi: “emva koko siya kuba nexesha lokudlala imidlalo, njl.”.
- Ukwenza iinkqubo – Ngokubavumela ukuba baqhelane neendlela, baya kuba sele beyazi into ekufuneka bayenze yonke imihla ngaphandle kokungenelela kwakho.
- Chazela abantwana ngezizathu zesicelo sakho – Abantwana bakwamkela ngokulula oko abazali bababuza kona ukuba bebeyazi ingenelo yokwenjenjalo. Umzekelo, kufuneka ulale ngeli xesha ukuze ube sempilweni.
- Bonisa uvelwano-Zibeke kwizihlangu zabantwana ukuze uziqonde. Ukuba abazali bayayazi indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, banikezela ngokulula ngakumbi.
- Ukunika abantwana ukhetho – Xa abantwana benethuba lokwenza ukhetho, basebenzisane ngcono. Ngale nto, banokuziva bebalulekile kuba izimvo zabo zibaliwe.
Ukutyholwa ngokweemvakalelo kwabazali- zeziphi iziphumo ebantwaneni?
- Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokweemvakalelo kwe-iphendulwe ngabazali benarcissistic (mother okanye father) kubangela ukungakhuseleki kubantwana.
- Baya kuba noxinzelelo kakhulu ngexesha lobomi babo.
- Abantwana benza kuphela oko abazali babo babacela ukuba bakwenze ukuze bafumane ingqalelo kunye nothando lwabo.
- Abasoze bakuqonde ukubaluleka kokwenza imisebenzi efana nokuqoqosha amagumbi abo, izinto zokudlala, njl.
- Xa abantwana becinezelwe ngokweemvakalelo, baya kuyisebenzisa nabanye.
- Abantwana baya kuba neengxaki zokuxhalaba kunye ne-ukungabikho kokuzithemba kamva.
- Bazithoba kwizinto ezilindelwe ngabanye kwaye abaze babeke imida.
Kutheni le nto i-Parental Emotional Blackmail ingenamsebenzi?
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kwabazali, abasebukhweni noomakhulu nootatomkhulu akuncedi nto. Izoyikiso aziyi kuphunyezwa kwixesha elifutshane, eliphakathi okanye elide. Abazali baya kuqhubeka bebathanda, bebanga, bencamisa abantwana babo nokuba abalicoci igumbi labo, izinto zabo zokudlala umzekelo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba i-narcissistic pervert ikwasebenzisa i-blackmail yeemvakalelo kunye nexhoba lakhe.
Ukuba abazali basebenzisa olu hlobo lwe-blackmail, abantwana abayi kuziqonda iingenelo zokuba namagumbi acocekileyo, ukuxukuxa amazinyo yonke imihla, ukungalali kade, njl.
Okokugqibela, ukutyhola ngokweemvakalelo akuyondlela yokufundisa abantwana, kubanceda kuphela ukuba baphume engxakini.
Kutheni abazali besebenzisa i-Emotional Blackmail?
Xa abazali begxeka abantwana babo ngokweemvakalelo, kulungileukuze uzuze uthando ngabantwana bakho okanye ukuba benze imisebenzi yabo yasekhaya. Oku kunjalo kwakhonaamaxhoba e-narcissistic manipulator. Ngokuqinisekileyo abazali abayi kubalahla abantwana babo ukuba abakwenzi oko bakucelayo. IBlackmail isoloko isekwe kubuxoki ngaphandle kokuthathela ingqalelo into enokudala yona ebantwaneni kwixesha elizayo.
Ngokusongelwa ebuntwaneni, aba bantwana ngokungathandabuzekiyo baya kwenza okufanayo kubantwana babo bexesha elizayo nakubazali babo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba usapho olunabazali ababhenela kwityala elingokweemvakalelo lidla ngokufumana iingxaki zabazali kwaye nabazali banokwahlukana. Ukongezelela, ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kubangela ukuba abazali babe yityhefu.
Iingcebiso zokuThintela i-Emotional Blackmail kuBantwana
Amaxesha amaninzi, abantwana abanabazali abenza i- emotional blackmail nabo baba ngabantu abadala xa sele bebadala. Kwelinye icala, inokuza kubo ngokwethuku. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokusaba kuyo kukuba nonxibelelwano olusisigxina kunye nokwabelana nabantwana.
Nazi iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba wena okanye abantwana bakho niphethwe kakubi ngokwasemoyeni:
- Umntu usoloko efuna imvume yabanye ngaphambi kokuba enze into.
- Woyika kakhulu ukucaphukisa abantu abamngqongileyo.
- Ngalo lonke ixesha efuna ukuqinisekiswa xa ezifumana ekwimeko enzima.
Okokugqibela, ukuthintela abantwana ekusebenziseni ukutyhola ngokweemvakalelo, kufuneka sikhuthaze inguquko phakathi kwabazali nabantwana.
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The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.