I-Blackmail Yabazali – Amathiphu angu-5 Okuyiphatha

I-Blackmail Yabazali: Lena yindlela abazali abaningi abayisebenzisayo ukuze izingane zabo zibalalele futhi zenze lokho ezikucelayo. Kulesi sihloko, uzobona ukuthi ungayiphatha kanjani, imiphumela yayo ezinganeni, amathiphu okuvimbela izingane, njll.  

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I-Blackmail Engokomzwelo – Kuyini?

Un ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ubugebengu obusetshenziswa abazali ngokumelene nezingane zabo ngokusebenzisa imizwa yabo ukuze lezi zingane zenze lokho ezikucelayo. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali batshela izingane zabo ukuthi ngeke zithole ukugonwa kusihlwa uma zingawaxubhi amazinyo. Lokhu vele kuwukungathembeki ngokomzwelo.

Isikhathi esiningi, abazali bakhetha lelisu ukuze balawule ukuziphatha okubi kwezingane zabo. Kodwa, futhi bayisebenzisela ukuzuza uthando oluncane kubantwana. Laba bamuva bazizwa benesibopho sokusabela ezicelweni zabazali babo ukuze bagweme ukubabona bedabukile.

Ungayiphatha Kanjani I-Blackmail Engokomzwelo yabazali?

• Khombisa izingane – Esikhundleni sokubasongela ngokuthi benze okuthile, kungcono ukubabonisa ukuthi bakwenze. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kufanele usebenzise imisho: “emva kwalokho sizoba nesikhathi sokudlala imidlalo, njll”.
• Yenza isimiso – Ngokubavumela ukuthi bajwayelane nemikhuba, bazokwazi kakade ukuthi yini okufanele bayenze nsuku zonke ngaphandle kokungenelela kwakho.
• Chazela izingane izizathu zesicelo sakho – Izingane zamukela kalula lokho abazali abacela kuzo uma bezazi izinzuzo zokwenza kanjalo. Isibonelo, udinga ukulala ngalesi sikhathi ukuze ube nempilo.
• Bonisa uzwela – Zibeke ezicathulweni zezingane ukuze uziqonde. Uma abazali bekwazi ukuthi bazizwa kanjani, bazinikela kalula.
• Nikeza izingane ukukhetha – Lapho izingane zithola ithuba lokukhetha, zibambisana kangcono. Ngalokhu, bangazizwa bebalulekile ngoba imibono yabo ibalulekile.

I-Blackmail Yabazali Engokomzwelo – Iyini Imiphumela Ezinganeni?

• I-blackmail yemizwa ye abazali abakhohlakele abazikhukhumezayo (unina ou ubaba) kubangela ukungavikeleki ezinganeni.
• Bayoba nengcindezi kakhulu phakathi nokuphila kwabo.
• Izingane zenza kuphela lokho abazali bazo abazicela ukuba zikwenze ukuze nje zithole ukunakwa nothando lwazo.
• Abasoze bakuqonda ukubaluleka kokwenza imisebenzi efana nokuqoqa amagumbi abo, amathoyizi, njll.
• Lapho izingane ziboshwe ngokomzwelo, zizoyisebenzisa nabanye.
• Izingane zizoba nezinkinga zokukhathazeka kanye ukungazethembi kamuva.
• Bazithoba kulokho okulindelwe abanye futhi abalokothi babeke imingcele.

Kungani I-Blackmail Yabazali Ingenamsebenzi?

Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kwabazali, abasekhweni nogogo nomkhulu akusizi ngalutho. Izinsongo ngeke zenzeke esikhathini esifushane, esimaphakathi noma eside. Abazali bazoqhubeka nokuthanda, ukugona, ukuqabula izingane zabo ngisho noma bengawahlanzi amagumbi abo, amathoyizi abo njengesibonelo.. Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi i- i-narcissistic pervert futhi isebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo nezisulu zayo.

Uma abazali besebenzisa lolu hlobo lwe-blackmail, izingane ngeke ziqonde izinzuzo zokuba namagumbi ahlanzekile, ukuxubha amazinyo nsuku zonke, ukungalali sekwephuzile, njll. Ngakho, eminyakeni embalwa, ngeke besakwazi ukwenza le misebenzi ehlukene njengoba beyokhula futhi bengasalufuni uthando kubazali babo.

Okokugcina, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo akuyona indlela yokufundisa izingane, kusiza kuphela ukuphuma enkingeni.

Kungani Abazali Besebenzisa I-Blackmail Engokomzwelo?

Uma abazali besebenzisa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo ngokumelene nezingane zabo, kumane nje ukuze uzuze uthando ezinganeni zakho noma ukuba zenze imisebenzi yazo yasekhaya. Lokhu kunjalo futhi izisulu zama-narcissistic perverts. Kuyaqinisekiswa ukuthi abazali ngeke bazilahle izingane zabo uma zingakwenzi ezikucelayo. I-Blackmail ihlale isekelwe emangeni ngaphandle kokucabangela lokho okungadala ezinganeni esikhathini esizayo.

Ngokusongelwa ebuntwaneni, lezi zingane ngokungangabazeki ziyokwenza okufanayo kubantwana bazo besikhathi esizayo ngisho nakubazali bazo. Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi umndeni onabazali abaphendukela ekuziphatheni kabi ngokomzwelo uvame ukuba nezinkinga zabazali futhi nabazali bangahlukana. Ukwengeza, ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo kubangela abazali ukuba babe nobuthi.

Amathiphu Okuvimbela Ukuhlukumeza Ngokomzwelo Ezinganeni

Ezikhathini eziningi, izingane ezinabazali abenza izenzo zokungathembeki ngokomzwelo nazo ziba abantu abadala lapho sezikhulile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lingafika kubo ngokuzenzakalelayo. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokubalekela iwukuba nokuxhumana okungapheli kanye nokwabelana nezingane.

Nazi izimpawu zokuthi wena noma izingane zakho niphathwa kabi ngokomzwelo:

• Umuntu uhlale edinga imvume yabanye ngaphambi kokwenza okuthile.
• Usesaba kabi ukucasula abantu abaseduze kwakhe.
• Uhlale efuna ukuqinisekiswa lapho ezithola esesimweni esinzima.

Okokugcina, ukuze sivimbele izingane ekusebenziseni ubugebengu obungokomzwelo, kufanele sikhuthaze ukuguqulwa phakathi kwabazali nezingane.