I-emotional intelligence ibe sisihloko esinomdla kakhulu kwingqondo kunye nophuhliso lomntu. Uvavanyo lobukrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo sisixhobo sokuvavanya obu buchule bubalulekileyo. Eli nqaku liphonononga nzulu ukuba yintoni uvavanyo lwengqondo yeemvakalelo, lusebenza njani, kunye nokubaluleka kwalo ekuqondeni kwethu iimvakalelo kunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu.
Yintoni ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo?
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo bumele ukukwazi ukuqaphela, ukuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo zomntu, kunye nokuqonda kunye nokuphembelela iimvakalelo zabanye. Le ngcinga, eyaziswa nguDaniel Goleman ngeminyaka yoo-1990, ibandakanya izakhono ezininzi ezibalulekileyo:
- Ukuzazi ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuzilawula ngokweemvakalelo
- Inkuthazo yangaphakathi
- Uvelwano
- Izakhono zentlalo
Ezi zakhono zidlala indima ebalulekileyo kubomi bethu bobuqu kunye nobungcali, zichaphazela impilo-ntle yethu, ubudlelwane bethu kunye nempumelelo yethu.
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Amacandelo ahlolwe luvavanyo lwengqondo yeemvakalelo
Uvavanyo lwengqondo yeemvakalelo lujolise ekulinganiseni iinkalo ezahlukeneyo zesi buchule sinzima. Imiba ephambili evavanyiweyo yile:
- I-Imbono yeemvakalelo: ukukwazi ukuchonga iimvakalelo kuwe nakwabanye
- Ukuqonda ngokweemvakalelo: ukukwazi ukuhlalutya oonobangela kunye neziphumo zeemvakalelo
- Ulawulo lweemvakalelo: ukukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nezabanye
- Ukusetyenziswa kweemvakalelo: ukukwazi ukusebenzisa iimvakalelo ukuququzelela ingcinga kunye nesenzo
La macandelo enza isiseko sovavanyo oluninzi lwengqondo yeemvakalelo, evumela uhlolo olupheleleyo lwesi buchule.
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Kukho iindlela ezininzi zokulinganisa ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo:
- Uvavanyo lokuzivavanya: umthathi-nxaxheba uphendula imibuzo emalunga nokuziphatha kwakhe kunye nokuphendula ngokweemvakalelo.
- Uvavanyo lokusebenza: umxholo ujongene neemeko ezibambekayo zokuvavanya izakhono zabo zeemvakalelo
- Iimvavanyo ze-360-degree: indibaniselwano yokuzivavanya kunye nempendulo evela kwabanye (oogxa, abahlobo, usapho)
Uhlobo ngalunye lovavanyo luneenzuzo kunye nemida yalo, lubonelela ngeembono ezahlukeneyo kubukrelekrele beemvakalelo zomntu.
Ukubaluleka kobukrelekrele beemvakalelo kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo buchaphazela iinkalo ezininzi zobomi bethu:
- Ubudlelwane bomntu: ikhuthaza intsebenziswano ngakumbi kunye novelwano
- Umsebenzi wobuNgcali: inegalelo kubunkokeli obusebenzayo kunye nentsebenziswano
- Impilo yengqondo: ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo elungileyo kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo
- Education: iphucula ukufunda nokusebenza kwezemfundo
Ukuqonda kunye nokuphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bakho ngokweemvakalelo kunokuba neziphumo eziluncedo kwiindawo ezininzi.
Unyino kunye nezigxeko zovavanyo lwengqondo yeemvakalelo
Ngaphandle kokuthandwa kwabo, iimvavanyo zengqondo zengqondo ziphantsi kokugxekwa:
- Umxholo: iimpendulo zinokuphenjelelwa kukunqweneleka ekuhlaleni.
- Qiniso: abanye abaphandi bayathandabuza ukuchaneka kwezi mvavanyo
- Umxholo: ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo bunokwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko
- Cultural bias: iimvavanyo zingafanelanga zonke iinkcubeko
Le mida ibalaselisa ukubaluleka kokutolika iziphumo zovavanyo ngononophelo kwaye uzithathele ingqalelo njengesixhobo esinye phakathi kwezinye sokuvavanya ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo.
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunye nobuntu be-narcissistic
Uphononongo lobukrelekrele beemvakalelo lutyhila amakhonkco anomdla kunye neempawu ezithile zobuntu, ngakumbi i-narcissism. Abantu abanotyekelo lwe-narcissistic bahlala bebonisa izinto ezingaqhelekanga kwingqondo yabo yeemvakalelo:
- Umbono ophakamileyo weemvakalelo: basenokuba nobuchule bokubona iimvakalelo zabanye
- Uvelwano oluphantsi: ngaphandle kolu luvo, bayasokola ukuba novelwano.
- Ulawulo oluguquguqukayo lweemvakalelo: abanye abantu abasebenzisa iinarcissists bagqwesile ekulawuleni iimvakalelo zabo, abanye kunzima ukuzilawula.
- Ukusetyenziswa kweemvakalelo ngobuchule: banokusebenzisa iimvakalelo ukuze bafezekise iinjongo zabo
Ezi mpawu zibalaselisa ukuntsonkotha kobukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunye nokusebenzisana kwabo nobuntu.
Ukuvela kobukrelekrele beemvakalelo ngexesha lokuphila
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo ayisosakhono esizinzileyo; iyavela kubo bonke ubomi:
- Ubuntwana: uphuhliso lweziseko zokuqaphela kunye nokuvakalisa iimvakalelo
- Adolescence: ixesha elibalulekileyo lokufunda ukulawulwa ngokweemvakalelo
- Abadala: Ukuphuculwa kwezakhono zovakalelo ngamava obomi
- I-Old yobudala: enokubakho uphuculo kwiinkalo ezithile ezinjengokulawula iimvakalelo ezingalunganga
Olu phuhliso lubalaselisa ukubaluleka kokuvavanya rhoqo ubukrelekrele bomntu ngokweemvakalelo kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo obomi.
Impembelelo ye-Neurological of intelligence emotional
Uphando lwe-Neuroscience lukhanyise kwiziseko zobuchopho zobukrelekrele beemvakalelo:
- Amygdala: idlala indima ephambili ekuboneni nasekuqhubeni iimvakalelo.
- I-Prefrontal cortex: ibandakanyeka kulawulo lweemvakalelo kunye nokwenza izigqibo
- I-Insula: inegalelo ekudityanisweni kolwazi lweemvakalelo kunye nomzimba.
- I- i-Limbic circuit: ithatha inxaxheba ekuveliseni nasekuqhubeni iimvakalelo
Ezi zinto zifunyanisiweyo zibonelela ngolwazi olungcono lweendlela eziphantsi kobukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunye nemibono evulekileyo yophuhliso lwayo.
Ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunye nobukrelekrele jikelele
Ubudlelwane phakathi kobukrelekrele beemvakalelo kunye nobukrelekrele ngokubanzi (IQ) ngumxholo wengxoxo:
- Ukuncedisana: bamele imiba eyahlukileyo kodwa eyongezelelweyo yobukrelekrele
- Ukuzimela okuhambelanayo: umntu unokuba ne-IQ ephezulu kunye nobukrelekrele beemvakalelo obuphantsi, okanye ngokuchaseneyo.
- Synergy: kwiimeko ezithile, ezi ndlela zimbini zobukrelekrele zinokomelezana.
Olu nxibelelwano luntsonkothileyo luqaqambisa ukubaluleka kokuqwalasela ubukrelekrele ngokupheleleyo, ngaphaya kwesakhono esilula sokuqonda.
Ukusetyenziswa okusebenzayo kovavanyo lwengqondo yeemvakalelo
Uvavanyo lobukrelekrele beemvakalelo lufumana izicelo kwiinkalo ezahlukeneyo:
- Recruitment: ukuvavanya izakhono zokusebenzisana phakathi kwabaviwa
- Uphuhliso lomntu: njengesixhobo sokuzazi kunye nokukhula
- Therapy: ukuchonga iindawo ezinovakalelo onokuthi usebenze kuzo
- Imfundo: ukuphuhlisa izakhono zabafundi zentlalo-ntle
Ezi zicelo zibonisa ukusetyenziswa okusebenzayo kokuvavanya ubukrelekrele beemvakalelo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuqukumbela, uvavanyo lobukrelekrele beemvakalelo lumele isixhobo esinomdla sokuhlola amandla ethu okuqonda nokulawula iimvakalelo. Nangona inemida ethile, inika ukuqonda okubalulekileyo kwizakhono zethu zeemvakalelo kunye nefuthe labo kubomi bethu. Ngokuqhubeka sifunda kwaye siphuhlisa ubukrelekrele bethu ngokweemvakalelo, sinokuphucula impilo-ntle yethu yobuqu kunye nolwalamano lwethu nabanye, sibe negalelo kuluntu olunovelwano ngakumbi nemvisiswano.
👇 Ukuya phambili:
- Narcissistic Manipulative Causes-Uphononongo olunzulu
- Amacala amabini obulumko bomntu: ukuqonda kunye neemvakalelo
- Emotional-manipulation: Ukuqonda kunye nokuzikhulula kwimpembelelo ye-PN
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.