Narcissistic Perversion – imadziwonetsera bwanji?

Mawu akuti narcissistic pervert akhala akugwiritsidwa ntchito mosasankha m’zaka zaposachedwa. Kuti mumveketse bwino zikhulupiriro zabodza zokhudza kupotozedwa kwachipongwe, pezani m’nkhani ino mafotokozedwe onse okhudza khalidwe lowonongali, zizindikiro zozindikira kupotozedwa kwachipongwe komanso njira zopulumukira kuti mutuluke muubwenzi ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza.  

Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic – ndichiyani?

Un narcissistic wopotoza ndi munthu amene ali ndi vuto la psychological of vulnerability zomwe zimamukakamiza kutsitsa ena kuti adzimve kukhala ofunika. Wopotozedwa chifukwa chakuti akhoza kukhala wankhanza, wopanda chifundo ndipo amapeza chikhutiro m’kuvutika kwa ena. Narcissistic, chifukwa ali ndi kudzidalira kwambiri ndipo ali ndi khalidwe lodzikuza kwambiri. Kuti atseke chosowa m’kati mwake, ayenera kukondedwa, kukondedwa komanso kukhala pakati pa dziko lapansi.

Poyamba, munthu wodzikonda kwambiri ndi munthu wokopa kwambiri, wokongola, komanso wosamala. Adzapanga ubale wa kudalirana pakati pa iye ndi wozunzidwayo. Pambuyo pake, chigoba chikagwa, adzasintha usiku wonse ndikukhala wokonda zinthu monyanyira komanso wosaganizira ena.  Kupotoza kwa narcissistic kumakhudza amuna nthawi zambiri kuposa akazi. Ichi ndichifukwa chake timalankhula kwambiri za anthu opotoza a narcissistic. Komabe, a mkazi wokhotakhota wa narcissistic atha kukhalanso munthu woyipa wokhala ndi umunthu woyipa kwambiri.

Kupotoza mu narcissistic wopotoza

Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic kumadziwonetsera m’njira zosiyanasiyana kuchokera kwa munthu kupita kwa wina. Ngati munthu wina wopotoza wankhanza akusonyeza khalidwe lachiwawa ndi nsanje yopambanitsa, wina akhoza kutenga mbali ya munthu wodekha ndi wodekha. Kuti mudziwe zambiri zamakhalidwe omwe amawulula kupotoza kwa narcissistic, pezani mikhalidwe yodziwika bwino apa:

1. Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic – Kupatula wozunzidwayo

Wopotoza wankhanza amapeza chisangalalo popatula wozunzidwayo. Kaya ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, mwana wake kapena bwenzi, amakonda kukhulupirira kuti wozunzidwayo amangolumikizidwa ndi iye yekha ndipo sakhalanso ndi ubale ndi banja lake, abwenzi ake ndi omwe ali pafupi naye. Kupatula munthu amene wazunzidwayo kumam’patsanso mphamvu zowalamulira mpaka kalekale ndiponso kuonetsetsa kuti sakupeza thandizo kapena maganizo kwa aliyense. 

2. Kupotoza Kwa Narcissistic – Nkhope Ziwiri

Wopotoza narcissistic ali ndi nkhope ziwiri. Pamaso pa anthu, iye ndi munthu wosiyana kwambiri, koma kwa wozunzidwayo ndi wonyansa komanso wankhanza. Choncho, ngati wozunzidwayo ayesa kuulula zakukhosi kwake kapena kuuza anthu omwe ali pafupi naye zomwe akukumana nazo, palibe amene angamukhulupirire. Ichi ndichifukwa chake zimachitika kuti wozunzidwayo amagwera muchinyengo ndikudzikayikira yekha, ndipo nthawi zambiri timawona izi m’mafilimu opotoka achinyengo. 

3. Kupotoza kwa Narcissistic – PN imadzizunza kuti ilimbikitse chikoka chake

Kuti munthu amene waphedwayo asamavutike, munthu wankhanzayo amaseŵera munthu amene waphedwayo kuti adzimve kuti ndi wolakwa. Adzayesa kupangitsa wozunzidwayo amvetsetse kuti ngati ubale wawo sukuyenda bwino ndiye kuti ndi vuto lake. Popeza kuti satha kukhala ndi udindo, nthawi zonse amayesa kuimba mlandu munthu wina. Amasewera wozunzidwayo mwangwiro pamaso pa aliyense ndipo amayesa kunyengerera nyama yake kuti ikhale pafupi nthawi zonse komanso osamumasula.

Ndani akudwala Narcissistic Perversion?

Munthu woyipa woyipa samadziwika nthawi zonse. Koma pali zizindikiro zomwe zimatha kuzindikira vuto la m’maganizo ndi m’maganizo: 

• Ndani ayenera kunyozetsa ena kuti adzimve kukhala ofunika?
• Amene sangathe kuzindikira zolakwa zawo ndipo nthawi zonse amafuna kuimba mlandu ena
• Yemwe amafunikira nthawi zonse kuyamikiridwa, kuzindikiridwa, kukondedwa ndikukhala pakati pa dziko lapansi
• Amene sangathe kumverera chikondi ndi chifundo kwa iwo omwe ali nawo pafupi

Kusiyana pakati pa kupotoza kwa narcissistic ndi bipolarity

Ngati a munthu bipolar Ngakhale munthu wodzikonda kwambiri amadziwa za vuto lake, sangathe kuzindikira momwe akumvera. Zoonadi, akatuluka muvuto la bipolarityMunthu wosinthasintha maganizo amatha kulamulira maganizo ake ndipo amakhala munthu wabwinobwino wopanda vuto lililonse la maganizo. Kuchita zinthu mopitirira muyeso komanso mosasamala kumachitika pokhapokha panthawi ya misala.

Kumbali inayi, narcissistic wopotoza sangathe kuzindikira khalidwe lake ndipo sasiya kudzikuza kwake. Amaganiza kuti aliyense ayenera kumulemekeza ndi kumusirira, chifukwa amadziona kuti ndi wapamwamba kuposa aliyense. 

Zolakwika zogonana komanso zachipongwe

Ngati mitundu iwiriyi yamavuto am’maganizo ili yofanana m’njira zingapo, kusiyana kuli mumchitidwe wachiwawa komanso chizolowezi chogonana. THE narcissistic wopotoza amadziona kuti ndi wofunika kwambiri moti amafuna kuti anthu amene amamuzungulira aziwakonda kwambiri, makamaka amene amamuzunza. Kwa iye, a chiwerewere amakhala ndi kufunikira kosalekeza kokhutiritsa zilakolako zake zakugonana. Saganizira zofuna za ena kapena za mnzake, amangofuna kuthetsa ludzu lake ndipo zina zilibe kanthu kwa iye. 

Kodi tingatuluke mu ubale wa Narcissistic Perversion?

Ndizotheka kwathunthu kudzimasula nokha ku ubale wachinyengo chosokoneza. Njira yoyamba yochiritsira idzakhala kuzindikira mkhalidwewo. Cholinga apa ndikuzindikira magwero a kupotoza kwa narcissistic. Ubwana wopweteka komanso wosakhazikika m’maganizo ukhoza kukhala chifukwa cha kupotoza kwa narcissistic. Kenako, muyenera kuyamba kudzipatula ndikuthetsa ubalewo. Kuchiza kupotoza kwa narcissistic, muyenera kulandira chithandizo champhamvu ndikuchita ntchito zambiri nokha. Chifukwa chake, musazengereze kupeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa katswiri wazamisala wodziwa kupotoza kwa narcissistic.

Maupangiri a m’mabuku okhudza kupotoza kwa narcissistic

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’mabuku achi French pamutu wa kupotoza kwa narcissistic:

1. Hirigoyen, M.-F. (1998). Kuzunza: Kuchitira nkhanza tsiku ndi tsiku. Zosindikizidwa za La Découverte & Syros.
2. Racamier, P.-C. (1992). Zosokoneza za Narcissistic. Payot.
3. Tisseron, S. (2013). Chinsinsi cha zopotoza. Zolemba za Albin Michel.
4. Cori, J.-J. (2000). Onyenga ali pakati pathu: Ndi ndani? Kodi akufuna chiyani? Momwe mungadzitetezere motsutsa izo?. Zolemba za l’Homme.
5. Coutanceau, R., & Gabel, C. (2005). Chiwawa choyipa tsiku ndi tsiku. Dunod.
6. Caldwell, L. (2005). Kupotoza ndi narcissism, mu Caldwell, L. (Mkonzi.), Kupotoza: Psychoanalysis ndi chipatala ( masamba 45-60 ). Presses Universitaires de France.
7. Meloy, J.R. (2002). Narcissistic ndi antisocial umunthu, mu Meloy, J.R. (Mkonzi.), Zovuta umunthu: matenda ndi mankhwala ( tsamba 75-98 ). Masson.

Ntchitozi zimapereka chidziwitso chakuya pa kupotoza kwa narcissistic, pofotokoza zonse zamaganizo ndi zachipatala za phunzirolo.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, kumvetsetsa kupotoza kwa narcissistic kumatithandiza kuzindikira bwino khalidwe lowonongali ndikudziteteza ku ilo. Nkhaniyi ikupereka mikhalidwe yayikulu ya opotoza a narcissistic, njira zawo zosinthira ndi njira zotulutsira ubale wotero. Ngati mukukumana ndi izi, musazengereze kukaonana ndi katswiri kuti mupindule ndi chithandizo choyenera.

Kufunsira:

• Chithandizo cha Narcissist Chopotozedwa
• Kodi mungalange bwanji PN?
• Kodi Narcissistic Pervert Ndi Wosangalala M’moyo?