Ubundlobongela ngokwasenyameni-Isisombululo kubundlobongela

Ubundlobongela bomzimba bekusoloko kuyingxaki yoluntu. Umfanekiso wobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni njengoko uqulunqwe yikhowudi yezohlwayo wahlukile kwinto ebesiyibonile ngaphambili. Ukurhweba ngabantu kunye nobukhoboka bufaniswa noku. Eneneni zibandakanya uhlaselo lomzimba oluqatha ngakumbi emntwini. Ukuze kupheliswe le ngxaki, kuye kwamiselwa iindlela ezininzi zokunceda amaxhoba ahlangabezane nale meko yoyikekayo.

Yintoni ugonyamelo lwasemzimbeni?

Ubundlobongela bomzimba sisenzo okanye isenzo esijonge ukubangela intlungu okanye ukwenzakala komnye umntu. Kwenziwa ngabom. Ngokuphathelele oku, inqaku leBhunga laseYurophu elithetha ngogonyamelo lwasemzimbeni likhankanya ezi zenzo zilandelayo: ukubetha, ukutshisa, ukukhaba, ukuluma, ukusika amalungu omzimba, ukubulala, ukusebenzisa izinto okanye izixhobo.

Ubundlobongela obenziwa ukuba yi- yokunyanzela kuthetha ukucinezela i-victim ngokwengqondo nasemzimbeni. Ngokwenene, umenzi wobubi uya kufuna ukwenza ixhoba liqonde ukuba lingaphezulu kwakhe. Yaye ukubonisa oku ngokusebenzisa amandla yeyona nto ayigqala njengeyona ilungileyo. Kumthuthumbisi osoloko efuna igunya isaci esithi “kulunge ngakumbi ukoyikwa kunokuhlonelwa” sikhuthaza ukusetyenziswa kogonyamelo nengcinezelo.

Umthetho onxamnye nobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni

Ikhowudi yezohlwayo yaseFransi, nangona inomhlathi opheleleyo wobundlobongela, ayinikezi ngcaciso echanekileyo yobundlobongela obusenyameni kuphela. Iphuma kwingokuthe ngqo ngakumbi ngokuvuselela iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobundlobongela kumanqaku 222-7 ukuya ku-222-16-3. Inkxalabo yowiso-mthetho ivela kwindima yakhe njengesibane sobulungisa.

Umthetho usebenza njengesikhokelo sokumisela ukuba sikweyiphi na imeko xa kukho ubundlobongela. Oku kusenokubonakala kungenasidingo, kuba umntu unokuthi nabani na angathetha ukuba yintoni na ugonyamelo. Ukuhlonelwa komthetho kusesichengeni. Wonke umntu umele awuhloniphe umthetho, yaye ukuze uhlonelwe, kufuneka ucace kwaye uchaneke.

Esi sizathu sokuba kutheni ukuchaneka okuninzi kubonelelwe ngamalungiselelo abekwe ngumgaqo wezohlwayo kwimiba yobundlobongela. Izohlwayo ezahlukeneyo ezisetyenziselwa ukucinezela uhlaselo nazo ziya kwahluka ngokuxhomekeke kubunzulu bezenzo zomcinezeli.

Ukuqhagamshelana: ALALawyer ngokuchasene ne-narcissistic pervert

Urhulumente waseFransi uwakhusela njani amaxhoba amaqabane anobundlobongela?

Ukuqinisekisa ngokugqibeleleyo ukukhuselwa kwezi zamva, urhulumente wenze iinguqu ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, sinokubona ukuba oku kusekude kakhulu. Amatyala okuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kwabasetyhini emakhayeni asahleli kakhulu. Ukwenzela oku, amatyathanga oncedo oluntu awahlukeneyo asekwe nguRhulumente. Ukongeza kumaphulo ohlukeneyo okukhuthaza ukulwa nobundlobongela nokuba bunjani na.

Ubundlobongela be-narcissistic manipulator sele bukhona kwisibini sakhe ngaphandle kokwazi

Kwizibini ezithile, ubundlobongela be-ngokwengqondo kunye nomzimba we- bukhona ngaphandle kokuba omnye uyazi. Ngamanye amaxesha isizathu sokuba kungabikho sikhalazo malunga nalo kukuba umntu ulixhoba. Enyanisweni, iqabane linokuxhatshazwa lingaqondanga. Ngaba asithi “uthando luyimfama“, ngenxa yeemvakalelo azivayo kumlingane wakhe, akayiqondi imeko yangempela.

Eneneni, loo mntu uya kutyekela ekuxoleleni okanye ayibethe ngoyaba impatho yogonyamelo ayenzileyo. I-manipulator ye-narcissistic iya kuthatha ithuba loku ukuqinisa ulawulo lwakhe kwixhoba lakhe. Kokugqibela ityala lidla ngokuba lelakhe, usenokude eze kumthethelela umcinezeli ngokuthi lityala lakhe. Uza kugqiba ngelithi yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye uyakuphika ubunyani.

Ngaba i-narcissistic manipulator ingaqhubela phambili kubundlobongela bomzimba?

Ubundlobongela bomzimba kunye ne-Ubundlobongela obuphathelele ukuziphatha zezona ndlela zilungileyo zokwaphula umntu. Kwaye i-narcissistic manipulator iyayiqonda kakuhle le nto. Okukhona umntu esiba buthathaka ngokwasengqondweni nasemzimbeni, kokukhona esetyenziswa lula.

Ukuba ngokusisiseko i-narcissistic manipulator inakosizithintele kusetyenziso lweukuphathangengqondokwaye kuphelaubundlobongela ngokwasengqondweni imeko inokuvela. Umjibilizi makagcine indlela yakhe ekhohlisayoayiyi kubonisa ukusetyenziswa kobundlobongela bomzimba ngaphandle kwe-alibi elungileyo. Enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo idla ngokuba butywala. Uya kukwazi ukuyisebenzisa njengesizathu sokuzithethelela ezi ngxaki zobundlobongela. Ngale ndlela, unokusebenzisa isoyikiso sogonyamelo lwasemzimbeni ngaphandle kokuvezwa ekuhleni.

Xa ugonyamelo lwangaphakathi lungasenelanga?

Okwangoku xa ubundlobongela bokuziphatha bungasenakwanele ukuqinisa ukubamba kwakhe, kulapho umthuthumbisi anokuthi eze ngokubetha. Ukuwela lo mda kubonisa ukuba umntu uba yingozi ngokwenene. Ngokwenene, ukuba nesibindi sokuphakamisa isandla emntwini kubonisa ukuba imvakalelo yengcinezelo ikhona phakathi kobudlelwane. Okukhona le mvakalelo ikhula, kokukhona umntu olixhoba echanabeka kweyona ntlekele inkulu.

Kwezinye archaic iingcinga, utata wentsapho une-monopoly yobundlobongela obusemthethweni bomzimba. Oku kuyinyani kwiinkcubeko ezininzi. Xa izithuko namagama engasekho ngokwaneleyo, ingqindi liyavaleka lithathe indawo.

Ungalufumana njani uncedo kwimeko yokwenzakala eMzimbeni? SOS

Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo eziphunyezwayo ukunceda abantu abasesichengeni sokwenzakala emzimbeni:

• Sondela kumaziko oncedo ahlukeneyo ukufumana uncedo oluyimfuneko. La maziko anokukunceda nawe ngokukunika indawo ekhuselekileyo kude nomxhaphazi lowo wakho. Kodwa neengcebiso zokukukhupha kwimeko yakho.

• Ungawathandabuzi amazwi akho . Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba oku akuqhelekanga kuwe, yenza ngokukhawuleza kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngoko ke sukuzivumela ukuba ubanjelwe kubudlelwane apho ubethwe khona.

• Musa ukwenza umonakalo kwisiqheloenokunxitywa emzimbeni wakho. Iqabane lakho alinakukwenzakalisa ngokuthoba isidima sakho ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Naluphi na uhlobo lobundlobongela obujoliswe kuwe lubekekile.

• Ungafumana uncedo ngeentambo ezahlukeneyo ezingahlawulelwayo njenge 147 okanye 122.

Yeyiphi eyona imbi kakhulu: Indoda enobundlobongela okanye iNarcissistic Manipulator?

Obu bubi bubini butshabalalisa kakhulu kodwa ngamnye ngendlela yakhe. Indoda enobundlobongela eneneni inokwenza ngendlela ethe ngqo ngakumbi ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezikhohlakeleyo ukuze iphumeze iinjongo zayo. Nangona kunjalo, ilula ngenxa yokuba iya kohlwaywa ngokukhawuleza eluntwini. Ngokomzekelo, uzibeka esichengeni sokugxothwa ngenxa yogonyamelo emsebenzini.

I-narcissistic manipulator iya kwenza ngobuqhophololo ngakumbi. Uninzi lweendlela azisebenzisayo zezengqondo. Oku akukhupheli ngaphandle ukusetyenziswa kobundlobongela. Noko ke, impembelelo enokuba nayo kwixhoba layo inzulu ngakumbi. Kuba ukuba umntu onogonyamelo unokulibhala inxeba enyameni, umgibi we-narcissistic uya kwenza enyameni nasengqondweni.

Ireferensi yebhayibhili ngobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni

Nazi iireferensi ezisixhenxe zebhayibhili kumxholo wobundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni:

1. Galtung, Johan (1996). La violence : Analyse et perspectives. Éditions L’Harmattan.
2. Bourdieu, Pierre (1998). La domination masculine. Éditions Seuil.
3. Friedman, Linda (2010). Violence à l’égard des femmes : Comprendre et prévenir. Éditions In press.
4. Lévy, Pierre (2015). Violence et société. Éditions PUF.
5. Cohen, Albert (2012). Le comportement agressif : Éléments de psychologie. Éditions De Boeck Supérieur.
6. Farge, Arlette (2014). La violence à travers les âges : Une histoire sociale. Éditions Albin Michel.
7. Hirsch, Pierre (2009). Les violences du quotidien : Enquête sur la violence physique et psychologique dans la vie quotidienne. Éditions Autrement.

Ezi mbekiselo ziya kukunika isiseko esiluqilima sokuphonononga isihloko sobundlobongela obusemzimbeni ngokweembono ezahlukeneyo.

Ukuze uchache kwiziphumo zolu hlobo lobundlobongela, kubalulekile ukufumana uncedo lwesazi sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango zinokukunceda uziphinde wakhe kwaye ujongane nemiphumo yokwenzakala ngokwasengqondweni.