Umona we-Narcissistic Manipulator-Ubuqhophololo obunobungozi!

Pha umona wabenzi be-narcissistic kuxhomekeke kwindlela abaziva ngayo ngeziqu zabo. Kunzima kwaye ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ukuba i-narcissist ithembe nabani na ongomnye. Enyanisweni, okukhona ulwalamano lwenu lusondela ngakumbi, kokukhona engayi kukuthemba ngakumbi. Narcissists boyika nabuphi na ubuhlobo bokwenyani okanye sesichengeni kuba boyika ukuba uya kubona ukungafezeki kwabo kwaye bagwebe okanye babalahle.

Kutheni i-narcissistic manipulator inomona?

Utyekelo lwamaNarcissists lokuba nomona lunokuxhomekeka kakhulu kwimeko yabo yeemvakalelo.

Ngelishwa, njengoko usenokuba uqaphele, imeko yeemvakalelo ye-narcissist yinto eguqukayo. Abantu abanengxaki a ukuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic basenokuthi bagxeke ngezinto ebezingajoliswanga ukubavisa kabuhlungu – ngokuqhelekileyo xa umsantsa ophakathi kobuso ababunxibileyo nobuntu babo bokwenyani bubhencwa.

Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-a ukwenzakala kwe-narcissistic, ebeka emngciphekweni ukushiya i-narcissist kwimeko yokungazithembi. Emva kokulimala kwe-narcissistic, ngoko ke sinokulindela ukuba ii-narcissists zibe nomona ngakumbi.

Ungamqaphela njani umntu onomona onomona?

Nazi ezinye iimpawu zokuqaphela umona we-narcissistic manipulator:

1. Banomona ngento yonke

Akukho xabiso lokuqinisekiswa libonakala lisenza umahluko, kuba ii-narcissistic manipulators zikuthiyile ngokunzulu kwaye ziyakwala okwazo iintsilelo ezilihlazo.

Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators abakhe babonakale beluthemba uthando lwabanye kwaye bahlala bekuvavanya ngokuziphatha okubi nangakumbi ukuzama ukufumana indawo yakho yokwaphuka.

Ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba kusentliziyweni ye-narcissism. Oku kungabikho kokuzixabisa ngokwemvelo kubavumela ukuba babe nomona ngokulula, umona kakhulu. Kwaye hayi nje kuye nabani na onokuba nomdla wothando kuwe, kodwa kuye nabani na okanye nantoni na enokutsalela ingqalelo kude kuye. Lo mona uya kubangela ukuvutha komsindo kunye nokuziphatha okuyingxaki.

2. Imidlalo yee-manipulators ze-narcissistic

Ukuba ukhe waneqabane elidlala ngothando phambi kwakho, lincokole nabantu ongabaziyo abanomtsalane, lizama ukwenza ukuba uzive ngathi awufanelekanga, usenokuba uthandana nothile.

Kwaye mhlawumbi babeyenza ngabom. Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba abantu ababonisa amanqanaba aphezulu eempawu ze-narcissistic ngobuchule babangela umona kumaqabane abo ukuze bafezekise iinjongo ezithile: Ukulawula, kwezinye iimeko, okanye ukunyuka kokuzithemba.

Imiba yomona we-narcissistic manipulator

Izizathu zale midlalo yentloko yothando ziyahluka, nangona kunjalo, kuxhomekeke kuhlobo lwe-narcissism. I-Grandiose narcissists ibike ukuba ikhuthazwa ngumnqweno wabo wokufumana amandla kunye nokulawula kubudlelwane. Ama-narcisists asesichengeni, kwelinye icala, azama ukuvuselela umona ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi.

Ulawulo lunye, njengokuvavanya amandla obudlelwane, ukufuna ukhuseleko kubudlelwane, ukubuyisela ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kunye nokuziphindezela oko bakubonayo njengokuziphatha okubi kweqabane labo. Oku kunokuqwalaselwa njenge umona ogulayo.

Kutheni le nto i-narcissistic manipulator ifuna ukwenza umlingane wakhe abe nomona?

Kwimeko yama-manipulative narcissists, olu hlobo lokuziphatha komona ngokuqhelekileyo lwenzelwe ukwenza ukholelwe ukuba banomdla komnye umntu.

Uya kuchitha ixesha kunye nomhlobo wakhe omtsha, phambi kwakho okanye akunjalo, kwaye uya kuthetha ngaye ngokufudumeleyo kunye nokuncoma. Iziphumo zabonisa umahluko phakathi kwezi ntlobo zimbini zeenarcisists. I-Grandiose narcissists yenza amaqabane abo abe nomona ukuba abe namandla ngakumbi kunye nokulawula phezu kwabo.

Abenzi be-Narcissistic manipulators nabo bayayenza ukuze bafumane amandla kunye nolawulo, kodwa banezinye iinjongo:

• Impindezelo: Ukuba kukho into oyenzileyo ukubacaphukisa (enokuba lula ukuyenza), banokuzama ukwenza ukuba ube nomona njengendlela yokuziphindezela.
• Ukuzithemba: ukuba unomona ngomntu, kufuneka abaluleke kuwe ngandlela thile. Ke ikhwele lakho libanika ukonyusa kancinci ukuzithemba kwabo.
• Ukuvavanya ubudlelwane: Kuba iinarcissists zihlala zingenaluvelwano, kunzima kubo ukwazi ukuba uziva njani. Ukufumana oku kuqonda, banokufuna ukubangela ukusabela okucacileyo kuwe.
• Security: usenokuba uzama ukukuqinisekisa malunga nokuqina kobudlelwane bakho. Kufana nokungena eludongeni ukuze ubone ukuba imoto yakho ikhuselekile na. Kodwa izenzo zoochuku ngokufuthi zingokweemvakalelo kunokuba ziqiqwe ngokuzolileyo.

Umahluko phakathi kwe-narcissistic manipulator kunye nomntu ogulayo onomona

A I-narcissistic manipulator ngumntu one-ego ephakanyisiweyo kunye nengqiqo engeyiyo yokubaluleka kwayo.. Unokubangela isiphithiphithi kubudlelwane bakhe ngenxa yomnqweno wakhe wokubonakalisa amandla akhe okanye ukongama phezu kweqabane lakhe kunye nokungakhathali kwakhe iimvakalelo okanye impilo-ntle yakhe. I-Narcissism ngokwenene inxulunyaniswe nayo ubundlobongela ngokwasemzimbeni kunye/okanye ngokwasengqondweni kubudlelwane, oko kukuthi, kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinjengokulawula iqabane lakho, ukuzihlukanisa, ukugxeka kunye nezinye iintlobo zokuziphatha kakubi ezinokubangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokwasengqondweni.

Konke oku kunokukwenza ucinge ukuba kulula ngokwenene okanye kucacile ukuba kude kubaphathi be-narcissistic kubudlelwane, kodwa ayingabo bonke abakhohlisayo ababonisa ukuziphatha kwabo ngokukhohlisayo ngokucacileyo, ngakumbi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.

Ukuxhatshazwa kunye nomona we-narcissistic manipulator

Pha umona ye i-narcissistic manipulator idla ngokunxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo nendlela ubani aziphethe ngayoukuxhatshazwa. Olu hlobo lobuntu luyakhula kwisidingo esiqhubekayo sokulawula kunye nokulawula abo bakungqongileyo. Umona ke uba yindlela yokusebenzisa olu lawulo, ngakumbi xa ebona isoyikiso kwimvakalelo yakhe yokuphakama okanye ukunyaniseka kweqabane lakhe.

Ngokungafaniyo nomona oqhelekileyo, lowo we-narcissistic manipulator ugqithise kwaye awunangqondo. Izibonakalisa kwizityholo ezingenasihlahla, kwiindlela zokuziphatha zokubekw’ esweni kunye neenzame eziphindaphindiweyo zokuzahlula abanye. Ezi zimo zengqondo zidla ngokukhokelela ekuxhatshazweni ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, okujoliswe ekumiseleni kwakhona ulawulo olupheleleyo kwixhoba. Ukuxhatshazwa ke ngoko kuba yimpendulo ngokuthe ngqo kwikhwele le-narcissist, ongenakukwazi ukuthwala ingcamango yokulahlekelwa kolawulo lwakhe.

Iimbekiselo zeBibliographic malunga nomona we-narcissistic manipulator

1. Miller, A. (1983). Le drame de l’enfant doué. Paris : PUF.
2. Kernberg, O. (1975). Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism. New York : Aronson.
3. Vaknin, S. (2001). Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited. Prague & Skopje: Narcissus Publications.
4. Akhtar, S. (2009). Comprehensive Dictionary of Psychoanalysis. London : Karnac Books.
5. Grilo, C. M., & McGlashan, T. H. (2001). “Stability and course of personality disorders: The need to consider symptom stability.” Journal of Personality Disorders, 15(4), 300–312.

Isiphelo – Ngaba umbhexeshi we-narcissistic uthembekile?

I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ayikabi ngokungathembeki kodwa basadlala umdlalo apho kufuneka abonakale engcono kuneqabane lakhe. Woyise umona kunokuba nzima ngendlela efanayo kwi-narcissistic manipulator. Khumbula ukuba i-narcissists idinga indawo yokugcina ingqalelo kunye nokuncoma ukugcina ukuzithemba kwabo, yiyo loo nto benomona kakhulu.

Bahlala bejonga ubudlelwane ngokwembono yentengiselwano, oko kukuthi, malunga noko banokukufumana kubo.

Ke ngoko, ukuba bakubudlelwane nawe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba kungenxa yokuba basatsala izixhobo zabo zokuzonwabisa kuwe. Ukuba uyawushiya, uyawunqumla loo mthombo. Kwaye ukuqonda le meko, i-narcissistic manipulator ayikwazi ukuthembeka kuba kuye lukhuphiswano.