I-Narcissistic amnesia: indlela edidayo kubudlelwane obuyityhefu

I-Amnesia yinto engaqhelekanga kwaye ephazamisayo enokuthi yenzeke kubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Olu hlobo lukhethekileyo lokulibala ngokukhethayo ludlala indima engundoqo kumandla okuxhatshazwa kobu budlelwane. Ukuqonda iindlela kunye neempembelelo zale amnesia ye-narcissistic kubalulekile kubasetyhini abajongene nolu hlobo lokuziphatha okuyityhefu. Makhe sihlolisise ngokweenkcukacha le nto intsonkothileyo kunye neenkalo zayo ezininzi.

Yintoni i-narcissistic amnesia?

I-Narcissistic amnesia, ekwabizwa ngokuba yi-selective amnesia okanye i-amnesia yokuxhatshazwa, ibonakala ngokutyekela komqhekezi we-narcissistic ukukhetha “ukulibala” iziganeko ezithile, kuquka ukuziphatha kakubi okanye ingxaki. Oku asikokulahlekelwa yinkumbulo yokwenyani kwingqiqo yezonyango, kodwa kukukhusela ngokwasengqondweni kunye nendlela yokulawula.

Olu hlobo lwe-amnesia luzibonakalisa ngoku:

• Ukulibala okubonakalayo kweziganeko ezimbi apho i-narcissist inoxanduva
• Inkumbulo egqithisileyo yezenzo ezilungileyo ezinqabileyo awayekwazi ukuzifeza
• Ukukhanyela okanye ukunciphisa iinkumbulo ezingathandekiyo kuye
• Ukungakwazi ukuqaphela iimpazamo ezidlulileyo.

Iingcambu zezizathu zalo mcimbi

I-Narcissistic amnesia ineengcambu zayo kwiindlela ezininzi zengqondo:

• A uethe-ethe kwaye umkhulu self-image: I-narcissist kufuneka igcine umfanekiso ofanelekileyo kunye nobukhulu bakhe. Nayiphi na inkumbulo ephikisana nalo mfanekiso icinezelwa ngokungazi okanye yaliwe.
• Un Indlela yokuzikhusela ngokwasengqondweni: Ukulibala okukhethayo kukhusela umxhaphazi ekubeni netyala, ihlazo, okanye ukuthelekelela okwesibini okuya kubangela ukuqaphela izenzo zakhe eziyingxaki.
• I-UA imfuneko yokulawula kunye nokukhohlisa: Ngokukhanyela ubunyani bexesha elidlulileyo, i-narcissist ifuna ukunyanzelisa inguqu yakhe yeenyani kunye nokugcina ulawulo kubudlelwane kunye neqabane lakhe.
• UA ukungakwazi ukuzijonga: Ukungabi naluvelwano kunye nokuqonda kwe-narcissist kumthintela ekudibaniseni ngokwenene kunye nokuthatha ububanzi bezenzo zakhe zangaphambili.

Ukubonakaliswa okubonakalayo kwe-narcissistic amnesia

Le amnesia ekhethiweyo izibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kubudlelwane:

1. Ukulibala izithembiso kunye nezibophelelo: I-narcissist ihlala “ilibala” izithembiso ezenziweyo, izibophelelo ezenziweyo okanye izivumelwano ezenziweyo, ngakumbi ukuba azisamthandi.
2. Ukuchasana neziganeko zokuxhatshazwa: Iziqendu zogonyamelo lwamazwi, olungokweemvakalelo okanye lomzimba ziyacinywa kwinkumbulo yakhe, ngokungathi azizange zibekho.
3. Ukubhala kwakhona imbali eqhelekileyo: Ixesha elidlulileyo lihlala litolikwa ngokutsha kwaye litshintshwa ukuze lilingane nenguqulelo ye-narcissist, ifihla imiba engalunganga.
4. Ukunciphisa iimpembelelo zezenzo zakhe: Naxa ejongene nobungqina, umntu obhuqayo uye anciphise ubuzaza okanye ukubaluleka kwezehlo athe “azilibele”.

Imiphumo emibi kwixhoba

I-Narcissistic amnesia ineempembelelo ezinzulu nezihlala zihleli kowasetyhini olixhoba lawo:

• Amathandabuzo ngawe kunye nenkumbulo yakhe: Ngokujongana “nokulibala” kweqabane labo, ixhoba liphetha lithandabuza iinkumbulo kunye nemibono yalo.
• Iimvakalelo zokungavumeleki kunye nokuba wedwa: Amava exhoba ayanqatshelwa kwaye awavumelekanga, kudala imvakalelo enzulu yobulolo kunye nokungaqondi.
• Ukubhideka kunye nokungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo: Umsantsa phakathi kokwenyani ofunyenweyo kunye noko kuboniswa yi-narcissist kudala ukubhideka okukhulu kwengqondo kunye neemvakalelo.
• Ubunzima bokuthembela kwisigwebo sikabani: Kwixesha elide, amandla exhoba okuthemba imbono yakhe kunye nesigwebo sakhe anokonakala kakhulu.

Ikhonkco kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ze-narcissistic manipulator

I-Narcissistic amnesia yinxalenye yeseti ebanzi yokuziphatha okuyityhefu kunye nokukhohlisayo:

1. A gaslighting isixhobo: Ngokukhanyela ubunyani bexesha elidlulileyo, i-narcissist inceda ukwenza ukuba ixhoba lithandabuze imbono yakhe ngeziganeko.
2. UA indlela yokuphepha uxanduva: Ukulibala okukhethiweyo kuvumela i-narcissist ukuba iphephe uxanduva lwezenzo zabo eziyingxaki.
3. Umqobo ekuguqukeni kobudlelwane: “Ngokulibala” iziganeko ezidlulileyo, i-narcissist inqanda nakuphi na ukufunda okanye ukuguquka okuhle kobudlelwane obuguqukayo.
4. UA uhlobo lokulawula iimvakalelo: Narcissistic amnesia igcina ixhoba kwimeko yokudideka kunye nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo.

Iinkqubo zengqondo ezidlalwayo

Iinkqubo ezininzi zengqondo ezintsonkothileyo zisekela le nto ye-narcissistic amnesia:

• Ukuphika njengendlela yokuzikhusela: I-narcissist ngokungazi isebenzisa ukukhanyela ukukhusela i-ego yayo ebuthathaka kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo.
• I-dissonance yokuqonda: Umsantsa phakathi komfanekiso ogqibeleleyo wenarcissist kunye nobunyani bezenzo zakhe udala ukungavisisani athi akusombulule ngokulibala ngokukhetha.
• Uqikelelo lwengqondo: Umnyangi unokuveza iziphoso okanye iimpazamo zakhe kwiqabane lakhe, emtyhola ngento anetyala layo yena ngokwakhe.
• Isidingo sokungaguquguquki kwangaphakathi: Amnesia ivumela i-narcissist ukuba igcine umfanekiso ohambelanayo wayo, ngokususa izinto eziphikisana nayo.

Ukuqukumbela

I-Narcissistic amnesia yinto entsonkothileyo kunye ne-multidimensional edlala indima esembindini kwi-dynamics eyityhefu yobudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator. Kwabasetyhini abangamaxhoba, ukuqonda le ndlela linyathelo elibalulekileyo lokubuyisela ukuzithemba kwimbono yabo yokwenyani kunye nokuzikhulula kwindalo.impembelelo yengqondokwiqabane labo elixhaphazayo. Nangona iimpembelelo zale amnesia ekhethiweyo zinokuba nzulu kwaye zihlala ixesha elide, ukuqaphela le nto linyathelo lokuqala elibhekiselele ekuphiliseni nasekuzakheni ngokutsha.