I-Narcissistic amnesia: indlela edidayo ebudlelwaneni obunobuthi

I-Amnesia yinto exakile futhi ephazamisayo engenzeka ebudlelwaneni nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Lolu hlobo oluthile lokukhohlwa ngokukhetha ludlala indima ebalulekile ekuguquguqukeni okuhlukumezayo kwalobu budlelwano. Ukuqonda izindlela kanye nomthelela wale amnesia ye-narcissistic kubalulekile kwabesifazane ababhekene nalolu hlobo lokuziphatha okunobuthi. Ake sihlole ngokuningiliziwe lesi senzakalo esiyinkimbinkimbi nezici zayo eziningi.

Iyini i-narcissistic amnesia?

I-Narcissistic amnesia, ephinde ibizwe ngokuthi i-selective amnesia noma i-amnesia yokuhlukunyezwa, ibonakala ngokuthambekela komgudli we-narcissistic “ekukhohlweni” izehlakalo ezithile, okuhlanganisa nokuziphatha kwakhe okuhlukumezayo noma okuyinkinga. Lokhu akukhona ukulahlekelwa inkumbulo kweqiniso ngomqondo wezokwelapha, kodwa kunalokho ukuzivikela kwengqondo kanye nendlela yokukhohlisa.

Lolu hlobo lwe-amnesia ngokuvamile luzibonakalisa ngokuthi:

• Ukukhohlwa okusobala kwezigameko ezingezinhle ezibhekene nomqaphi
• Inkumbulo eyihaba yezenzo ezinhle ezingavamile akwazi ukuzifeza
• Ukuphika noma ukunciphisa izinkumbulo ezingajabulisi kuye
• Ukungakwazi ukubona amaphutha esikhathi esidlule.

Imbangela yalesi simo

I-Narcissistic amnesia inezimpande zayo ezindleleni ezimbalwa ezingokwengqondo:

• a isithombe sakho ibuthakathaka futhi iyamangalisa: I-narcissist idinga ukugcina isithombe sakhe esihle nesinhle kakhulu. Noma iyiphi inkumbulo ephikisana nalesi sithombe icindezelwa ngokungazi noma inqatshelwe.
• Un indlela yokuzivikela kwengqondo: Ukukhohlwa okukhethekile kuvikela umgadli ekubeni necala, ehlazweni, noma ekuqageleni okungavela ekuboneni izenzo zabo eziyinkinga.
• Isidingo sokulawula nokukhohlisa: Ngokuphika iqiniso elidlule, i-narcissist ifuna ukuphoqelela inguqulo yakhe yamaqiniso futhi igcine ukulawula ubuhlobo nomlingani wakhe.
• Ukungakwazi ukuzicabangela: Ukungabi nozwelo kanye nokuhlolisisa kwe-narcissist kumvimbela ekuhlanganiseni ngempela kanye nokuthatha ububanzi bezenzo zakhe zesikhathi esidlule.

Ukubonakaliswa okubonakalayo kwe-narcissistic amnesia

Le amnesia ekhethiwe izibonakalisa ngezindlela ezahlukene ebudlelwaneni:

1. Ukukhohlwa izithembiso nezibopho: I-narcissist ivame “ukukhohlwa” izithembiso ezenziwe, izibopho ezenziwe noma izivumelwano eziphethwe, ikakhulukazi uma zingasenamusa kuye.
2. Ukuphikiswa kwezigameko zokuhlukumeza: Iziqephu zodlame lwamazwi, olungokomzwelo noma olungokomzimba ziyasulwa enkumbulweni yakhe, njengokungathi azikaze zibe khona.
3. Ukubhala kabusha umlando ovamile: Okwedlule kuhlale kuhunyushwa kabusha futhi kushintshwe ukuze kulingane nenguqulo ye-narcissist, kusitha izici ezingezinhle.
4. Ukunciphisa imithelela yezenzo zomuntu: Ngisho nalapho ebhekene nobufakazi, i-narcissist ivame ukunciphisa ubucayi noma ukubaluleka kwezigameko “azikhohliwe.”

Imiphumela ebuhlungu kulowo ohlukunyeziwe

I-Narcissistic amnesia inemithelela ejulile nehlala njalo kowesifazane oyisisulu sayo:

• Ukuzingabaza kanye nenkumbulo yomuntu siqu: Ngokubhekana “nokukhohlwa” komlingani wakhe, isisulu sigcina singabaza izinkumbulo nemibono yaso.
• Imizwa yokungasebenzi kanye nokuhlukaniswa: Okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu oyisisulu kuyanqatshelwa futhi akuvumelekile, kudala umuzwa ojulile wesizungu nokungaqondi.
• Ukudideka kanye nokunciphisa imizwa: Igebe phakathi kwamaqiniso atholakalayo kanye nalelo elethulwa i-narcissist lidala ukudideka okukhulu ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo.
• Ubunzima bokwethemba ukwahlulela komuntu: Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ikhono lesisulu lokwethemba umbono waso nokwahlulela lingase liphazamiseke kakhulu.

Isixhumanisi nokunye ukuziphatha kwe-narcissistic pervert

I-Narcissistic amnesia iyingxenye yesethi ebanzi yokuziphatha okunobuthi nokukhohlisayo:

1. Ithuluzi for ukukhanyisa igesi : Ngokuphika iqiniso elidlule, i-narcissist isiza ukwenza isisulu sakhe singabaze umbono waso wezenzakalo.
2. Indlela eyodwa yokugwema isikweletu: Ukukhohlwa okukhethekile kuvumela i-narcissist ukuthi igweme umthwalo wezenzo zabo eziyinkinga.
3. Isithiyo ekuthuthukeni kobudlelwano: “Ngokukhohlwa” izehlakalo ezedlule, i-narcissist ivimbela noma yikuphi ukufunda noma ukuvela okuhle kobudlelwane obunamandla.
4. Indlela yokulawula imizwa: I-Narcissistic amnesia igcina isisulu sisesimweni sokudideka nokuncika ngokomzwelo.

Izinqubo zengqondo ezidlalwayo

Izinqubo eziningana zengqondo eziyinkimbinkimbi zisekela lesi simo se-narcissistic amnesia:

• Ukuphika njengendlela yokuzivikela: I-narcissist ngokungazi isebenzisa ukuphika ukuvikela i-ego yayo ebuthakathaka kunoma yikuphi ukubuza.
• I-cognitive dissonance: Igebe eliphakathi kwesithombe esinqunyiwe somgadli kanye neqiniso lezenzo zakhe lidala ukungaboni ngaso linye alixazululayo ngokukhohlwa okukhethekile.
• Ukuqagela ngokwengqondo: I-narcissist ingaveza amaphutha akhe noma amaphutha kumlingani wakhe, amsole ngalokho yena ngokwakhe anecala ngakho.
• Isidingo sokungaguquguquki kwangaphakathi: I-Amnesia ivumela i-narcissist ukuthi igcine isithombe sakhe esihambisanayo, ngokususa izakhi eziphikisana nayo.

Isiphetho

I-Narcissistic amnesia iyinto eyinkimbinkimbi futhi enezinhlangothi eziningi edlala indima ebalulekile ekuguquguqukeni okunobuthi kobudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic. Kwabesifazane abayizisulu, ukuqonda le nqubo kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile ekubuyiseni ukuzethemba embonweni wabo weqiniso kanye nokuzikhulula ebuchosheni.ukubamba ngokwengqondo kumlingani wabo ohlukumezayo. Nakuba umthelela walokhu kukhohlwa okukhethekile ungase ube mkhulu futhi uhlale isikhathi eside, ukwazi lesi simo kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokuphulukisa kanye nokuzakha kabusha.