Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator bunokuba buhlungu. Aba bantu be-XQ banetyhefu bagqwese kubugcisa bobuqhetseba kunye nobuxoki, bahlala beshiya amaxhoba abo edidekile kwaye egcwele amathandabuzo. Ukuba uziva ngathi ujongene nexoki elinyanzelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda iindlela zokusebenza kwaye ufunde indlela yokuzikhusela. Eli nqaku liza kukunceda wazi into omawuyenze xa udibana nexoki kwaye uchaze indlela yokuziphatha ye-narcissistic manipulator.
Ubuxoki, isixhobo esithandwayo se-narcissistic manipulator
Ukuxoka sesinye sezona zixhobo zithandwayo ngumxhaphazi we-narcissistic. Uyisebenzisa ngokucwangcisiweyo kwaye ngaphandle kobugwenxa obuncinci ukukhohlisa abo bamngqongileyo. Ngokungafaniyo nabantu abaninzi abaxokayo ngamaxesha athile, i-narcissistic manipulator ilele nge-pathologically kunye nokunyanzeliswa.
Kuye, ukuxoka kuyindlela yokuphila ukususela ebuntwaneni. Ejongene nemekobume yentsapho engasebenzi kakuhle, wafunda kwangoko kakhulu ukuxoka ukuze azikhusele, afumane ingqalelo okanye aphephe isohlwayo. Njengomntu okhulileyo, ukuxoka kuye kwaba ngumbono ondele nzulu kubuntu bakhe.
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I-manipulator ye-narcissistic ilala ngayo yonke into: ixesha elidlulileyo, izakhono zakhe, iimvakalelo zakhe, izenzo zakhe. Uyila amabali ukusuka ekuqaleni okanye ugqwetha inyaniso ukuze kungenelwe yena. Injongo yayo kukugcina ungathandabuzeki kunye nokudideka ukugcina ulawulo phezu kwakho.
Iimpawu ezingaxokiyo: njani ukubona ixoki elinyanzelekileyo?
Imikhondo ethile inokukulumkisa nge-pathological liar:
- Ukungahambelani rhoqo kwintetho yakhe
- Amabali atshintshayo okanye akhula ngokuhamba kwexesha
- Utyekelo lokubaxa okanye ukuhombisa ubunyani
- Izizathu ezivakalayo zokuthethelela izenzo zakhe
- Italente yokuphambukisa incoko xa ujongene
- Indlela yokugxeka abanye
- Ukungabikho kokuzisola xa ubanjwe kwisenzo se-lies
Funda ukuthemba intuition yakho. Ukuba kukho into ebonakala iyintlanzi malunga nokuziphatha kweqabane lakho, mhlawumbi kunjalo.
Ubugcisa bobuqhetseba: ubuchule bobuchule bokukhohlisa
I-manipulator ye-narcissistic yinkosi kubugcisa bokukhohlisa. Usebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokukwenza uzithandabuze kwaye uhlale ulawula:
gaslighting: ukwenza ukuba uyithandabuze imbono yakho ngobunyani
Obu buchwephesha boyikekayo bubandakanya ukukhanyela ngokucwangcisiweyo okanye ukugqwetha ubunyani ukwenza ukuba uthandabuze ugwebo lwakho. I-narcissistic manipulator iphinda ibhale imbali ngendlela yayo, yenza ngathi iziganeko ezithile azizange zenzeke okanye awuwaqondanga amazwi akhe. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ugqiba ekubeni ungasayithembi imbono yakho.
Uqikelelo: ukutyhola wena ngeentsilelo zakho
I-narcissistic manipulator idla ngokukugxeka ngeziphoso zakhe. Ukuba uthe akathembeka, uya kukumangalela ngokumqhatha. Ukuba uhlala exoka, uya kuthi ulixoki. Obu buchule bumvumela ukuba aphambukise ingqalelo kwiimpazamo zakhe.
Ukuxhatshazwa: ukuzenza umfeli-nkolo ukuvuselela uvelwano lwakho
Xa ikona, i-narcissistic manipulator ayilibazisi ukudlala ikhadi lexhoba. Uyila iingxaki zempilo, iingxaki zemali okanye usapho ukuze athambise abo bamngqongileyo kwaye athethelele ukuziphatha kwakhe.
Uthando lokuqhubhisa ibhombu: kukucinezela ngengqalelo yokukukhohlisa ngcono
Kwangoko kubudlelwane, i-narcissistic manipulator ikuhlamba ngothando kunye nengqalelo. Ubonakala enomtsalane, enomdla, enomdla. Oku kubhobhoza kweemvakalelo kujolise ekukwenzeni uxhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo kwaye kukumfamekise kwindalo yayo yokwenyani.
Kutheni kunzima kangaka ukubhenca ixoki?
Phezu kwayo yonke le miqondiso, akusoloko kulula ukubona ixoki elinyanzelekileyo, ngakumbi xa ubandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo. Zininzi izizathu ezichaza obu bunzima:
I-charisma kunye namandla okulukuhla kwe-narcissistic manipulator
Abaqhubi be-Narcissistic badla ngokuba ngabantu abanomdla abakwaziyo ukuba nomtsalane xa kuyimfuneko. Ukuzithemba kwabo kunye netalente yokuthetha kubenza bathembeke emehlweni abantu abaninzi.
Utyekelo lwethu lwendalo lokuthembana
Uninzi lwethu lutyekele ekuyikholelweni into esiyixelelwayo, ngakumbi xa iphuma kumntu osondeleyo kuthi. Kunzima ukucinga ukuba umntu unokuxoka ngokuphandle nangokucwangcisiweyo.
Ukoyika inyaniso
Ngamanye amaxesha ngokungazi sikhetha ukuphosa iliso kubuxoki kunokujongana nenyaniso ebuhlungu. Ukuvuma ukuba uqhathiwe kunokuba nzima kakhulu.
Ukubamba ngokweemvakalelo
Xa siphantsi kweempembelelo ze-narcissistic manipulator, isigwebo sethu siyaphazamiseka. Sidla ngokucutha okanye silungelelanise indlela esiziphatha ngayo eyingxaki.
Indlela yokuzikhusela kwixoki elinyanzelekileyo?
Ukuba ujongene ne-narcissistic manipulator, kubalulekile ukufunda indlela yokuzikhusela:
- Thembela intuition yakho: Ungakuhoyi ukungonwabi okuncinci ozivayo xa ujongene nokuziphatha okuthile. I-intuition yakho ihlala isesona sixhobo sobuxoki singcono.
- Gxila kwiinyani, hayi amagama: OQwalasela izenzo ezibambekayo zeqabane lakho kunezithembiso zabo eziphakamileyo. Izibakala azixoki.
- Gcina ijenali: Bhala phantsi nakuphi na ukungangqinelani kunye nobuxoki obubonileyo. Oku kuya kukunceda ubone ngokucacileyo kwaye ungathandabuzi.
- Qinisa imida yakho:Funda ukuthi hayi kwaye ubeke imida ecacileyo. Ungavumeli i-narcissistic manipulator ihlasele indawo yakho yobuqu kunye neemvakalelo.
- Zingqonge nabantu obathembileyo: Hlakulela ubuhlobo bakho obunempilo kunye nobudlelwane bosapho. Indawo enenkathalo iya kukunceda ugcine iinyawo zakho emhlabeni.
- Qhagamshelana nengcali ukuba kukho imfuneko: Ungalibazisi ukudibana nogqirha wengqondo okanye ingcaphephe ukuze akuncede ubone ngokucacileyo kwimeko yakho.
Ukuzakha kwakhona emva kobudlelwane obuyityhefu
Ukushiya ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissistic manipulator kudla ngokushiya iziphumo ezibalulekileyo. Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva ulahlekile, ungcatshiwe kwaye unomsindo. Nanga amanye amacebiso okukunceda wakhe kwakhona:
- Zinike ixesha
Ukuphilisa kuthatha ixesha. Yiba nomonde kwaye ube nobubele kuwe.
- Funda ukuzithemba kwakhona
I-narcissistic manipulator ikujongele phantsi ukuzithemba kwakho. Sebenzela ukuphinda uyakhe kancinci kancinci.
- Zixolele
Musa ukuzibetha ngenxa “yokuwa ngenxa yayo.” Ii-Narcissistic manipulators ngabenzi bobuqhetseba aboyikekayo ababambisa kwabona bantu bantsonkothileyo.
- Funda kula mava
Hlalutya ukuba yintoni ekwenze ukuba ube sesichengeni sobudlelwane obuyityhefu ukunqanda ukuphinda ipatheni efanayo.
- Gxininisa kuphuhliso lwakho lomntu
Thatha eli thuba ukuze ujonge kuwe, iminqweno yakho kunye neeprojekthi zakho.
Isiphelo: phinda ufumane amandla phezu kobomi bakho
Ukuba uwele iindlela nge-pathological liar ngamava abuhlungu kodwa anokuba ngumthombo wokufunda. Ngokuqonda iindlela zokukhohlisa, uyomelela kwaye uxhobele ngakumbi ikamva.
Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba ufanelwe kubudlelwane obunempilo obusekelwe ekuthembekeni nasekuhlonelaneni. Ungavumeli nabani na akwenze uthandabuze ukubaluleka kwakho. Unamandla okuphinda ulawule ubomi bakho kwaye wakhe ikamva elinoxolo, kude nobuxoki kunye nokukhohlisa.
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Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.
Want to break free from this hold?
The Complete Narcissism Release (PDF book) and the Musc essential oil guide you step by step – at your own pace, at home.