Ngahlangana nomqambimanga: Ungazivikela kanjani kulokhu kuhlanekezela kwe-narcissistic?

Ubudlelwano nomuntu ohlukumezayo ozithanda ngokweqile bungaba buhlungu kakhulu. abantu abanobuthi Bahamba phambili kwezobuciko bokukhohlisa nokukhohlisa, bavame ukushiya izisulu zabo zididekile futhi zigcwele ukungabaza. Uma uzizwa sengathi ubhekene nomqambimanga ophoqelelayo, kubalulekile ukuqonda izindlela ezisetshenziswayo futhi ufunde ukuthi ungazivikela kanjani. Lesi sihloko sizokusiza wazi ukuthi yini okufanele uyenze uma uhlangana nomqambimanga futhi uqonde ukuziphatha komhlukumezi oqhoshayo.

Ukuqamba amanga, isikhali esiyintandokazi somphendukezeli we-narcissistic

Ukuqamba amanga kungenye yamathuluzi ayintandokazi ephenduki le-narcissistic. Uyisebenzisa ngendlela ehlelekile futhi ngaphandle kokungabaza nokuncane ukukhohlisa labo abamzungezile. Ngokungafani nabantu abaningi abaqamba amanga ngezikhathi ezithile, i-narcissist iqamba amanga nge-pathologically futhi ngokuphoqelela.

Kuye, ukuqamba amanga kuyindlela yokuphila aqala ngayo kusukela ebuntwaneni. Ebhekene nesimo somkhaya esingasebenzi kahle, wafunda kusenesikhathi ukuqamba amanga ukuze azivikele, athole ukunakwa noma agweme isijeziso. Njengomuntu omdala, ukuqamba amanga kuye kwaba indlela yokucabanga egxilile ebuntwini bakhe.

I-narcissistic pervert iqamba amanga ngakho konke: okwedlule, amakhono akhe, imizwa yakhe, izenzo zakhe. Uqamba izindaba kusukela ekuqaleni noma uhlanekezela iqiniso ukuze azuze. Umgomo wayo uwukukugcina ungabaza futhi udidekile ukuze ugcine ukulawula phezu kwakho.

Izimpawu ezingaqambi amanga: kanjani ukubona umqambimanga oyimpoqo?

Izinkomba ezithile zingaphakamisa izinsolo zakho uma ubhekene ne- umqambimanga we-pathological :

• Ukungezwani njalo enkulumeni yakhe
• Izindaba ezishintshayo noma ezikhula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi
• Ukuthambekela kokwenza ihaba noma ukuhlobisa iqiniso
• Izaba ezingenakwenzeka zokuthethelela izenzo zakhe
• Ithalente lokuphambukisa ingxoxo uma ubhekene
• Indlela yokusola abanye
• Ukungabi nokuzisola ngokuphelele lapho ebanjwe oqotsheni amanga

Funda ukuthemba intuition yakho. Uma kukhona okubonakala kufiphele mayelana nokuziphatha komlingani wakho, kungenzeka ukuthi kunjalo.

I-art of manipulation: amasu e-narcissistic pervert

I-narcissistic pervert iyingcweti kwezobuciko bokukhohlisa. Usebenzisa amasu ahlukene ukuze akwenze ungabaze futhi uhlale ulawula:

Ukukhanyisa igesi: okwenza ungabaze umbono wakho weqiniso

Le nqubo esabekayo iqukethe ukuphika okuhlelekile noma ukuhlanekezela iqiniso ukuze ukwenze ungabaze ukwahlulela kwakho. Umuntu ohlanekezela u-narcissistic ubhala kabusha umlando ngendlela yakhe, enze sengathi izenzakalo ezithile azizange zenzeke noma awuwaqondanga kahle amazwi akhe. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ugcina ungasawethembi owakho umbono.

Ukuqagela: ukukusola ngokwehluleka kwakho

I-narcissistic pervert ijwayele ukukusola ngamaphutha akhe. Uma engathembekile, uzokubeka icala ngokumkhohlisa. Uma ehlala eqamba amanga, uzothi ungumqambimanga. Le nqubo imenza akwazi ukuphambukisa ukunaka emaphutheni akhe.

Ukuhlukunyezwa: ukuzenza umfel’ ukholo ukuze uvuse ububele bakho

Uma ifakwe ekhoneni, i-narcissistic pervert ayingabazi ukudlala ikhadi lesisulu. Usungula izinkinga zempilo, izinkinga zezezimali noma zomndeni ukuze athambise labo abaseduze kwakhe futhi athethelele ukuziphatha kwakhe.

Uthando lokuqhunyiswa kwamabhomu: ukukukhathaza kakhulu ukukukhohlisa kangcono

Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, i-narcissistic pervert ikunikeza uthando nokunaka. Ubonakala ethandeka, enakisisa, enothando. Lokhu kuhlasela okungokomzwelo kuhlose ukukwenza uncike ngokomzwelo futhi kukuphuphuthekise ukuthi ungabuboni ubunjalo bakho bangempela.

Kungani kunzima kangaka ukuveza umuntu onamanga?

Naphezu kwazo zonke lezi zimpawu, akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukubona umqambimanga oyimpoqo, ikakhulukazi uma uhileleke ngokomzwelo. Izizathu eziningi zichaza lobu bunzima:

I-charisma namandla okuyenga we-narcissistic pervert

Abahlanekezeli beNarcissistic bavame ukuba ngabantu abathakazelayo abakwazi ukuthandeka lapho kudingeka. Ukuzethemba kwabo kanye nethalente labo lokukhuluma kubenza bathembeke emehlweni abantu abaningi.

Ukuthambekela kwethu okungokwemvelo kokuthembela

Abaningi bethu bavame ukukukholelwa lokho esikutshelwayo, ikakhulukazi uma kuvela kothile esisondelene naye. Kunzima ukucabanga ukuthi umuntu angaqamba amanga aluhlaza futhi ahlelekile.

Ukwesaba iqiniso

Kwesinye isikhathi sikhetha ukungaqapheli ukuqamba amanga kunokubhekana neqiniso elibuhlungu. Ukuvuma ukuthi ukhohlisiwe kungaba nzima kakhulu.

Ukubamba ngokomzwelo

Uma singaphansi kwethonya le-narcissistic pervert, ukwahlulela kwethu kuyaphazamiseka. Sivame ukunciphisa noma ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwethu okuyinkinga.

Ungazivikela kanjani kumqambimanga oyimpoqo?

Uma ubhekene ne-narcissistic pervert, kubalulekile ukufunda ukuzivikela:

1. Themba intuition yakho: Ungakuzibi ukungakhululeki okuncane okuzwayo lapho ubhekene nokuziphatha okuthile. I-intuition yakho ivame ukuba ngumtshina wamanga ongcono kakhulu.
2. Gxila emaqinisweni, hhayi amagama: Qaphela izenzo ezibambekayo zomlingani wakho kunezithembiso zakhe ezinhle. Amaqiniso awaqambi amanga.
3. Gcina ijenali: Qaphela noma yikuphi ukungahambisani namanga owabonayo. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi ubone ngokucacile futhi ungazingabazi.
4. Qinisa imingcele yakho: Funda ukwenqaba futhi ubeke imingcele ecacile. Ungavumeli i-narcissistic pervert ihlasele indawo yakho yomuntu siqu neyomzwelo.
5. Zizungeze nabantu obathembayo: Hlakulela ubungane bakho obunempilo kanye nobudlelwano bomndeni. Indawo enakekelayo izokusiza ukuthi ugcine izinyawo zakho phansi.
6. Xhumana nochwepheshe uma kudingeka: Ungangabazi ukubonana nodokotela wezengqondo noma owelapha ukuze akusize ubone ngokucacile esimweni sakho.

Ukuzakha kabusha ngemva kobudlelwane obunobuthi

Ukushiya ubudlelwano nomuntu ophendukezela i-narcissistic ngokuvamile kushiya imiphumela ebalulekile. Kuvamile ukuzizwa ulahlekile, ukhashelwe futhi uthukuthele. Nawa amanye amathiphu angakusiza ukuthi wakhe kabusha:

• Zinike isikhathi

Ukwelapha kuthatha isikhathi. Yiba nesineke futhi ube nomusa kuwe.

• Funda ukuzethemba futhi

I-narcissistic pervert ibukele phansi ukuzethemba kwakho. Sebenzela ukulakha kabusha kancane kancane.

• Zixolele

Ungazishayeli “ukuwa ngenxa yalokho.” Ama-Narcissistic perverts angamaqhinga asabekayo abamba ngisho nabantu abayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.

• Funda kulokhu okuhlangenwe nakho

Hlaziya ukuthi yini ekwenze waba sengozini kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi ukuze ugweme ukuphinda iphethini efanayo.

• Gxila ekuthuthukisweni kwakho siqu

Sebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukuze ugxile kuwena, izifiso zakho namaphrojekthi akho.

Isiphetho: thola kabusha amandla phezu kwempilo yakho

Ukuwela izindlela nge umqambimanga we-pathological kuyinto ebuhlungu kodwa futhi engaba umthombo wokufunda. Ngokuqonda izindlela zokukhohlisa, uba namandla futhi uhlomele kangcono ikusasa.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi khumbula ukuthi ufanelwe ubudlelwano obunempilo obusekelwe ekwethembeni nasekuhlonipheni. Ungavumeli muntu akwenze ungabaze ukubaluleka kwakho. Unamandla okulawula impilo yakho futhi wakhe ikusasa elinokuthula, kude namanga nokukhohlisa.