Kugwirizana pakati pa kusadzidalira ndi kuvutika maganizo

Kusadzidalira ndi kuvutika maganizo ndi zochitika zamaganizo zomwe zimavutitsa kwambiri anthu. Akhoza kufooketsa kwambiri maganizo a munthu, kuwasonkhezera monyanyira nthaŵi zina. Ndiye tingagonjetse bwanji izi?

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Kugwirizana pakati pa kusadzidalira ndi kuvutika maganizo

Le kusadzidalira zomwe zimabweretsa kukayikira za kufunikira kwake kumakhala ndi chiyanjano choyambitsa ndi kuvutika maganizo. Zowonadi, kupanda chidaliro kumeneku ndi chizoloŵezi champhamvu chodzichepetsera nokha kungawononge kwambiri malingaliro anu. Izi zitha kuipiraipira mosavuta m’malo okhumudwitsa kwambiri pazovuta zamunthu. Kusadzidalira kwakukulu, m’pamenenso mwayi wogwera m’maganizo umakulirakulira.

Kudziona Bwino Kochepa – Chifukwa Chakuvutika Maganizo?

M’malo mokhala choyambitsa chachikulu cha kuvutika maganizo, kafukufuku akusonyeza mbali yaikulu imene kusadzidalira kumeneku kumachititsa. Mfundo yakuti munthuyo amadzikayikira kwambiri, kuti amadziona kuti ndi wotsika poyerekeza ndi ena amamufooketsa m’maganizo. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, n’zachionekere kuti iye sapirira zododometsa za m’maganizo. Kupanda chidaliro kumeneku kumakhudza kwambiri malingaliro ofooka omwe amatha kugwa mosavuta ndikuyambitsa Psychological kugwira.

Kodi zizindikiro za kudzikayikira ndi ziti?

Pali zoyambitsa zosiyanasiyana zomwe zingayambitse kutaya chidaliro. Ndithudi, kusadzidalira kungabwere chifukwa cha kupwetekedwa mtima kapena chifukwa cha makolo. Ngakhale kuti zoyambitsa izi zingakhale zosiyana, pali zizindikiro zodziwika bwino zozindikiritsa kusadzidalira kwa munthu.

• Kukhala ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro osamvetsetseka
• Kumva kusayanjanitsika ndi ena
• Kudziona ngati wosafunika kwa ena
• Kukhalapo kwa malingaliro amphamvu a liwongo pa kusasuntha kwanu
• Kukhala ndi mantha pamaso pa ena
• Opani kwambiri kutsutsidwa

Kodi zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo ndi zotani?

Zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo chifukwa cholephera kudzidalira zikhoza kugawidwa m’magulu awiri.

Zizindikiro za thupi

• Munthuyo angamve kutopa kwambiri
• Mphamvu zochepa kwambiri komanso kusakhazikika
• Kusokonezeka kwa tulo, munthuyo akhoza kugona kwambiri kapena osakwanira
• Kuchepetsa kapena kuwonjezereka kwamphamvu kwa njala
• Mkangano wokhudzana ndi kugonana
• Kutuluka kwa zovuta zosiyanasiyana monga kupweteka kwa mutu ndi kupweteka kwina kumbuyo kapena m’mimba

Zizindikiro zamaganizo

• Munthuyo adzamva chisoni kwambiri
• Munthuyo adzataya chidwi ndi ntchito zaukatswiri, zachikhalidwe komanso zabanja
• Adzakhala ndi mantha aakulu a kulephera.
• Iwo ali kudzilemekeza idzachepa pang’onopang’ono
• Adzaona kukhala kovuta kuika maganizo ake pa chinachake
• Kupanga zisankho kumakhala kovuta kwambiri
• Maganizo ofuna kudzipha angayambe kumuvutitsa

Momwe mungakhalire ndi kudzidalira – Chitetezo cha mkati?

Njira yabwino yothetsera kusadzidalira ndiyo kupeza chitetezo chamkati. Ndiye mungatani kuti muyambenso kudzidalira pambuyo povutika maganizo? Nazi njira zosiyanasiyana zopezera mtendere wamumtima.

• Pezani chikwa chotetezeka. Ndi malo omwe mungawonjezerenso mabatire anu. Cholinga chake chachikulu chiyenera kukhala kukutonthozani ndikukulolani kuti mukhale otetezeka. Malo awa akhoza kukhala paki, chipinda chanu chogona, posambira kwanu. Chofunikira ndichakuti ziyenera kukhala zodekha kwa inu.
• Kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Masewera ndi njira yabwino kuti mubwererenso m’thupi komanso m’maganizo. Zochita zamasewera zimamanga malingaliro amphamvu kwambiri.
• Khalani atazunguliridwa. Muyenera kulitsa moyo wanu wamagulu kuti musagwere kudalira kwachikondi. Kucheza ndi kusunga maubwenzi anu ndi omwe ali pafupi nanu kungakulitse chidaliro chanu. Izi zikuthandizaninso kuchepetsa nkhawa zanu pakuwona ndi kuweruza kwa ena.

Kusadzidalira komanso kukhumudwa: Imposter syndrome

Le impostor syndrome chomwe ndi vuto lomwe limakhala ndi zotsatira zopangitsa munthu kukana kupambana kwake. Nthawi zambiri, munthu amene akudwala matendawa ndi munthu amene amadziona kuti ndi wosafunika. Adzakhala ndi nkhawa ndipo adzadzikakamiza kwambiri, izi zidzatsogolera ku kuvutika maganizo. Mikhalidwe yosiyanasiyana yamalingaliro awa ndi yolumikizana. Izi zikusonyeza kufunika kwa kudzidalira kwa munthu.

Narcissism motsutsana ndi kudzidalira

Tinganene kuti narcissism ndi kudzidalira ndizofanana kwambiri. Komabe, pali kusiyana kwakukulu, ngakhale ubale wosiyana. Inde, mwachitsanzo, kusadzidalira mwa okwatirana kungakomere kusandulika kwa mmodzi wa awiriwo kukhala wopotoza wankhanza.. Zotsatira za kusadzidalira zingasinthe kwambiri munthu amene mumamudziwa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuchiza matendawa mwachangu ndi katswiri.

Momwe mungadzichepetsere kudzidalira pambuyo pa kukhumudwa?

Kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira, ndi bwino kusankha mankhwala osakaniza. Izi akulimbikitsidwa pamene chisokonezo ndithu virulent wodwalayo. Izi zimakhala choncho makamaka pamene womalizayo angasonyeze zikhumbo zodzipha.

• Chithandizo ndi psychologist kapena psychotherapist. Mfundo yakuti izi zikugwirizana ndi khalidwe zimafuna phindu la kukhalapo kwa munthu. Kukhalapo kwa katswiri sikuyenera kuchepetsedwa. Izi zidzakuthandizani kudzimanganso nokha ndipo koposa zonse, zidzatheka kuti mumange umunthu wamphamvu pakapita nthawi. Makamaka popeza ndi mlangizi wa narcissistic wopotoza ndi chithandizo chake.
• Mankhwala mankhwala tikulimbikitsidwa kwambiri milandu. Zowonadi, ngati njira zosavuta monga kukambirana, kumvetsera komanso kugodomalitsa sizigwira ntchito kuti zichepetse nkhawa. Ma antidepressants angagwiritsidwe ntchito kuthandiza wodwalayo.

Momwe mungayambitsirenso kudzidalira pambuyo pa kukhumudwa?

Kuti muyambenso kudzidalira pambuyo pa kupsinjika maganizo, nazi njira zomwe muyenera kudutsamo.

1. Landirani mfundo zamakono ndi zakale. N’kutheka kuti kuvutika maganizo kumene munakumana nako kudachitika chifukwa cha zoopsa. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti zomwe zidachitika zidachitika. Palibe chomwe mungachite kuti musinthe izi, ndiye lekani kuzunza malingaliro anu ndi izi.
2. Chotsani ndikumenyana. Muyenera kupita patsogolo, kukumbatira mipata yatsopano yomwe ikupezeka kwa inu. Chitanipo kanthu m’zochita zokhutiritsa maganizo anu.
3. Moyo!!! Osati kuti muyenera kukhala osasamala, koma kutenga zoopsa! Vomerezani mfundo yakuti si zonse zomwe mumachita zomwe zimalamulirika. Nthawi zonse padzakhala kusintha kosayembekezereka kotero musadandaule nazo. Kuti muthane ndi vutoli, mutha kupeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa katswiri.

Maumboni a m’Baibulo

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m’Baibulo pamutu wa kusadzidalira ndi kupsinjika maganizo:

1. Fanget, F. (2003). DARE: Chithandizo chodzidalira. Paris: Odile Jacob.
2. Guédeney, N. (2011). Mizu ya kudzidalira: zopereka za chiphunzitso cha attachment. kukhala, 23 (2), 129-144.
3. Ehrenberg, A. (1998). Watopa ndi kukhala wekha: kukhumudwa ndi gulu. Paris: Odile Jacob.
4. Naudet, M. (2017). Kudzitsimikizira, kudzidalira, kudzidalira… Kumvetsa mfundo.
5. Yunivesite ya Sherbrooke. (2021). Kudzidalira.
6. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Paris 7. (nd). Kulumikizana pakati pa kukhumudwa ndi kudzidalira.
7. Noblat, R. (2018). Zotsatira za Art therapy pakudzidalira kwa achikulire omwe ali ndi vuto la kukhumudwa pang’ono mpaka pang’ono: zotsatira za kuchitapo kanthu mwaluso. François Rabelais University.

Maumboniwa amapereka malingaliro ozama pa ubale womwe ulipo pakati pa kudzidalira ndi kukhumudwa.